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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Morning fabulous Fabber’s!
Hope you’re all still enjoying last nights antics/ looking forward to a dirty Sunday/ whatever it is you naughty lot get up to!
Just wanted some advice or feedback really. I’ve been on and off here for a little while and just seem to get messed out or very little luck.
When I speak with couples or women they all say they expect I’m taking to loads, when I’m reality that is so far from the truth!
Is there anything I can do to improve or make myself more appealing? Any help is definitely welcomed  |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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it's perfectly acceptable to be talking to a few people in this lifestyle, why would people mind if they thought you were talking to others on here?
Your profile seems fine to me, as long as you feel it gives a good representation of you and what you are looking for.
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We all have our ideas what a good profile is, for me yours is ok.
The pictures are good but not brilliant, there’s a guy on here who just shows shoes and trendy socks in his pictures (remember women are supposed to check out a guys shoes on a first date) or another who showed his holiday pictures with amusing comments on them. Those profiles stand out as different to me, brilliant thinking others maybe think they’re taking the piss 
Same as profile text, do you think yours truly reflects your personality or follows a same pattern that the majority of others in here copy.
I’ve seen poems, a profile full of jokes and one guy just writing a story. What they do is make someone go ...WHAT ! If that guy then sends a nice cryptic or an amusing message I’m sure he’ll already have an opening just for being different to the majority.
It’s all marketing in the end, we remember the commercials that stand out over the years and take the piss out of those that are dated and boring. Think Danny Baker and Daz
I’m not saying if you do the above you’ll be inundated with women messaging you (remember women do look at profiles in stealth mode) but at least you’ll know when they do look, they’ll see you’re not boring or predictable. You’re not bad looking (From what I can see of your face) with a good body, so should do ok on here with the profile you have but for me, it’s just more of the same.
Good luck Op (I do ramble on)
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
Northampton Somewhere |
You say you've been on here before and met people (or words to that effect), did you do something different then?
I think it's probably because you can't accommodate and don't explain why or offer an alternative. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your profile is fine, not a thing wrong with your pics either, you show what's on offer without shoving it in people's face lol
Just hang in there.
I'd imagine anyone giving you grief bout talking to others on here is possibly someone you'd not want to meet? It's natural to chat with different people I'd think |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thanks! And thanks for picking me up on the spelling mistake!
How can I take more seductive pics then?"
Don’t worry..Cherry spelt to wrong also...easily done  |
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Your a bloke mate. One amongst thousands that these ladies have to choose from . Sometimes better off in a club . Having said that I've met a few ladies and couples off fab . Quality over quantity and it works for me. Good luck. |
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"You say you've been on here before and met people (or words to that effect), did you do something different then?
I think it's probably because you can't accommodate and don't explain why or offer an alternative. "
Why does he need to explain why he can’t accommodate. I can’t either but I’m giving no explanation why. People should accept not everyone accommodates. |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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"What are you referring to dan?
"they all say they expect I’m taking to loads"
Why do they think you are talking to loads of others "
I wondered that too. And why would that be an issue.
Your profile looks fine to me.
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As somebody else said, your a man. Your chances of getting a meet are almost nil, though not impossible of course, so there is a tiny chance. Almost all girls on here seem to ignore or delete messages once they've looked at them. I guess you have to be some sort of super stud/model or something to get success. Whatever it is, I don't know. |
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"As somebody else said, your a man. Your chances of getting a meet are almost nil, though not impossible of course, so there is a tiny chance. Almost all girls on here seem to ignore or delete messages once they've looked at them. I guess you have to be some sort of super stud/model or something to get success. Whatever it is, I don't know. "
I chatted to guys with verifications. It's how you play the fab game. There's lots of women on fab. I know many people met from fab |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"As somebody else said, your a man. Your chances of getting a meet are almost nil, though not impossible of course, so there is a tiny chance. Almost all girls on here seem to ignore or delete messages once they've looked at them. I guess you have to be some sort of super stud/model or something to get success. Whatever it is, I don't know. "
Thanks ravedave. I normally thank people’s feedback and advice but on this occasion I am going to pass based on your profile and last verification.
Everyone else though thanks so much, I wasn’t saying I was struggling to meet just looking for some advice on how to improve and get more luck I suppose.
Have a great week ahead guys   |
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"You say you've been on here before and met people (or words to that effect), did you do something different then?
I think it's probably because you can't accommodate and don't explain why or offer an alternative.
Why does he need to explain why he can’t accommodate. I can’t either but I’m giving no explanation why. People should accept not everyone accommodates. "
Quite a few don't want to meet men who are playing away and a good way to filter them out is by whether they can accommodate or not. |
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Think I can agree with most on replies here, when they say your profile is fine.
When people message you and say you must be talking to lots of people, take it as a compliment and their round about way of saying, your nice looking.
I get it all the time with people and my reply is the same as yourself, that I'm not talking to lots of people.
I'm very picky with who I converse with because I genuinely love a great conversation and find lots on here, either dont want to or can't string a sentence together :P.
Short answer is, wording on your profile is fine, just freshen it up once in a while with different photos so people know who you are.
Also personal choice but I dont reveal face photos as public just because of of the certain pool of collectors on here.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you had been able to accommodate we would have definitely been interested
Also profile looks good to us.
- Lily "
I'll take one for the team and lend backformorefun my house as long as I get some naughty pics of your evening  |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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"You say you've been on here before and met people (or words to that effect), did you do something different then?
I think it's probably because you can't accommodate and don't explain why or offer an alternative.
Why does he need to explain why he can’t accommodate. I can’t either but I’m giving no explanation why. People should accept not everyone accommodates. "
Oh come on, you've been on here long enough to know that a lot of people would make assumptions about him not being able to accommodate.
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"You say you've been on here before and met people (or words to that effect), did you do something different then?
I think it's probably because you can't accommodate and don't explain why or offer an alternative.
Why does he need to explain why he can’t accommodate. I can’t either but I’m giving no explanation why. People should accept not everyone accommodates.
Oh come on, you've been on here long enough to know that a lot of people would make assumptions about him not being able to accommodate.
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Yes I do but it doesn’t mean someone is married because they can’t accommodate. |
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It's fine to be yourself and honest and you don't have to behave as others may expect you to.
Your time back here is mostly the covid-19 period, where people cannot meet, other than socially, belatedly.
The key advice for people is always to invest most effort in to optimising their profile, to sell them as well as possible and to target others, to get the most likely effective matches.
It is sensible to speak with many people and to assume that nothing is likely, by ensuring that you set and manage your expectations appropriately.
Learn, experiment and adapt as you go. |
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Yes I do but it doesn’t mean someone is married because they can’t accommodate. "
I don't think anyone's saying it does but the fact remains that most marrieds CAN'T accommodate so it is an easy way to filter them out. |
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on here it is always very hit and miss more so for single guys.
There is no substitute for getting out to events and clubs.
Not just to meet for hookups but to make friends and get known.
We know of a few single guys that are recommended by people who have played with them and that always starts with their friends...
Look around you when you are out and chat to people with friends. Pock somewhere you like and become known as a decent guy who will respect the ladies and chat to anyone and success will come to you. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Thanks, I can’t see where I’m going wrong other then the pics then!
Have a look in the background of your pics! Untidy, dead toilet rolls lying around, a general mess. New pics definitely!! "
Morning guys thanks gone through and there’s one empty toilet roll and just my laundry basket in general in a couple but thanks! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"on here it is always very hit and miss more so for single guys.
There is no substitute for getting out to events and clubs.
Not just to meet for hookups but to make friends and get known.
We know of a few single guys that are recommended by people who have played with them and that always starts with their friends...
Look around you when you are out and chat to people with friends. Pock somewhere you like and become known as a decent guy who will respect the ladies and chat to anyone and success will come to you."
Thank you very much that sounds like a good plan to me |
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"Thanks, I can’t see where I’m going wrong other then the pics then!
Have a look in the background of your pics! Untidy, dead toilet rolls lying around, a general mess. New pics definitely!!
Morning guys thanks gone through and there’s one empty toilet roll and just my laundry basket in general in a couple but thanks! "
Dirty laundry in the 'floordrobe' in all pics bar the dead toilet roll. Sorry but off-putting to most. You are looking for advice; right! Untidy backgrounds are not plus points. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Thanks, I can’t see where I’m going wrong other then the pics then!
Have a look in the background of your pics! Untidy, dead toilet rolls lying around, a general mess. New pics definitely!!
Morning guys thanks gone through and there’s one empty toilet roll and just my laundry basket in general in a couple but thanks!
Dirty laundry in the 'floordrobe' in all pics bar the dead toilet roll. Sorry but off-putting to most. You are looking for advice; right! Untidy backgrounds are not plus points. "
I said thanks! It was genuine |
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