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By *rKC92 OP Man
over a year ago
St Helens |
Hey everyone
I was wondering if you could give me some pointers here. Like a lot of single guys I regularly contact women on here to chat (I'm not looking for meets during COVID), and in the same vein as most single guys I get no reply.
My usual approach is to read someone's profile and if they strike my fancy and have something interesting to ask about I'll reference it in my message and ask how everything's going (seeing as we're all meant to be locked away until this blows over). My main aim is to get a conversation going and I make that clear, I don't bother with being a creep/offering money/meet now, because nobody wants that and it's pointless.
If I get deleted then it's just a fact of life and I move on. I don't bother with abuse because again, it goes nowhere and there's no need for it.
My question is how on earth do you go about trying to get conversations going on here? It feels like I'm putting more in that I get out conversation wise and profiles with no bio make drumming up conversation even harder. I wouldn't mind as much if I got a profile view/message read and they decided "sorry, not for me" but the unread delete gets a bit disheartening after a while.
As a rule of thumb I always make sure I'm in their age range and that they're looking for single guys. I also send a face pic of one of my more presentable days.
I know ladies get a lot of attention from guys and inundated with messages. It just seems like I'm fighting a losing battle.
Long story short I don't know what I'm doing wrong or if it's all down to chance. Any pointers would be a huge help! |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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It sounds like you are already doing everything that you could. Just stick at it make sure your profile represents you as you truly are and that you you feel it is the best you could make it it.
Keep going and don't lose enthusiasm. |
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By *rKC92 OP Man
over a year ago
St Helens |
"Do you send a face photo with your first message?
Your OP is a lot longer and more thought out than your profile. More effort on your profile and better pictures required. "
I see, I'll have a look at working on my profile, it still doesn't exactly get hundreds of views though.
I always send a face picture as standard because I'm pretty sure people like to see who they're speaking to. Unfortunately I'm not the best at taking photos (it's just me and at the moment I've not got any mirrors for full body shots!) |
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"Do you send a face photo with your first message?
Your OP is a lot longer and more thought out than your profile. More effort on your profile and better pictures required.
I see, I'll have a look at working on my profile, it still doesn't exactly get hundreds of views though.
I always send a face picture as standard because I'm pretty sure people like to see who they're speaking to. Unfortunately I'm not the best at taking photos (it's just me and at the moment I've not got any mirrors for full body shots!)"
If you go to a gym or somewhere like that you could take more pictures there
The fact is that most women get tons of messages
I tend to only look at the first dozen profiles at the top of the list when I decide to read messages and may not reply to any of them.
It just depends who is at the top when I feel like being chatty
It goes the other way as well. I don’t always get replies to my messages. I just delete my sent box, block those who aren’t interested in me and move on.
Having an inbox full doesn’t mean that there is anyone in there I actually want
Good luck |
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By *rKC92 OP Man
over a year ago
St Helens |
"Do you send a face photo with your first message?
Your OP is a lot longer and more thought out than your profile. More effort on your profile and better pictures required.
I see, I'll have a look at working on my profile, it still doesn't exactly get hundreds of views though.
I always send a face picture as standard because I'm pretty sure people like to see who they're speaking to. Unfortunately I'm not the best at taking photos (it's just me and at the moment I've not got any mirrors for full body shots!)
If you go to a gym or somewhere like that you could take more pictures there
The fact is that most women get tons of messages
I tend to only look at the first dozen profiles at the top of the list when I decide to read messages and may not reply to any of them.
It just depends who is at the top when I feel like being chatty
It goes the other way as well. I don’t always get replies to my messages. I just delete my sent box, block those who aren’t interested in me and move on.
Having an inbox full doesn’t mean that there is anyone in there I actually want
Good luck "
I'll definitely be going to the gym again once COVID calms down. For now I'm avoiding it.
To be honest that's something else that was present in my mind, sometimes people come to window shop and don't want to read an inbox full of "fuck me now", or that I get buried under a load of messages like that.
It's just a bit of a pain when it feels like it's that way every single time. The other thing is I don't want to be overly persistent if a woman just isn't interested so it makes it harder to tell. |
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"Do you send a face photo with your first message?
Your OP is a lot longer and more thought out than your profile. More effort on your profile and better pictures required.
I see, I'll have a look at working on my profile, it still doesn't exactly get hundreds of views though.
I always send a face picture as standard because I'm pretty sure people like to see who they're speaking to. Unfortunately I'm not the best at taking photos (it's just me and at the moment I've not got any mirrors for full body shots!)
If you go to a gym or somewhere like that you could take more pictures there
The fact is that most women get tons of messages
I tend to only look at the first dozen profiles at the top of the list when I decide to read messages and may not reply to any of them.
It just depends who is at the top when I feel like being chatty
It goes the other way as well. I don’t always get replies to my messages. I just delete my sent box, block those who aren’t interested in me and move on.
Having an inbox full doesn’t mean that there is anyone in there I actually want
Good luck
I'll definitely be going to the gym again once COVID calms down. For now I'm avoiding it.
To be honest that's something else that was present in my mind, sometimes people come to window shop and don't want to read an inbox full of "fuck me now", or that I get buried under a load of messages like that.
It's just a bit of a pain when it feels like it's that way every single time. The other thing is I don't want to be overly persistent if a woman just isn't interested so it makes it harder to tell. "
Your profile is a bit bland. It’s all very beige. Nothing wrong with it but nothing to stand out either. Even your pictures are beige.
I like colourful stuff and sometimes jokes or things in pictures make me reply.
Get some interesting pants at least and get rid of all the beige
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By *rKC92 OP Man
over a year ago
St Helens |
"Do you send a face photo with your first message?
Your OP is a lot longer and more thought out than your profile. More effort on your profile and better pictures required.
I see, I'll have a look at working on my profile, it still doesn't exactly get hundreds of views though.
I always send a face picture as standard because I'm pretty sure people like to see who they're speaking to. Unfortunately I'm not the best at taking photos (it's just me and at the moment I've not got any mirrors for full body shots!)
If you go to a gym or somewhere like that you could take more pictures there
The fact is that most women get tons of messages
I tend to only look at the first dozen profiles at the top of the list when I decide to read messages and may not reply to any of them.
It just depends who is at the top when I feel like being chatty
It goes the other way as well. I don’t always get replies to my messages. I just delete my sent box, block those who aren’t interested in me and move on.
Having an inbox full doesn’t mean that there is anyone in there I actually want
Good luck
I'll definitely be going to the gym again once COVID calms down. For now I'm avoiding it.
To be honest that's something else that was present in my mind, sometimes people come to window shop and don't want to read an inbox full of "fuck me now", or that I get buried under a load of messages like that.
It's just a bit of a pain when it feels like it's that way every single time. The other thing is I don't want to be overly persistent if a woman just isn't interested so it makes it harder to tell.
Your profile is a bit bland. It’s all very beige. Nothing wrong with it but nothing to stand out either. Even your pictures are beige.
I like colourful stuff and sometimes jokes or things in pictures make me reply.
Get some interesting pants at least and get rid of all the beige
"
I'll work on the pants side of things!
To be honest I'd like to take some better pictures but it's difficult when I'm not Stretch Armstrong and dont bother with selfie sticks! What recommendations would you make to mix them up aside from more colour? |
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"Do you send a face photo with your first message?
Your OP is a lot longer and more thought out than your profile. More effort on your profile and better pictures required.
I see, I'll have a look at working on my profile, it still doesn't exactly get hundreds of views though.
I always send a face picture as standard because I'm pretty sure people like to see who they're speaking to. Unfortunately I'm not the best at taking photos (it's just me and at the moment I've not got any mirrors for full body shots!)
If you go to a gym or somewhere like that you could take more pictures there
The fact is that most women get tons of messages
I tend to only look at the first dozen profiles at the top of the list when I decide to read messages and may not reply to any of them.
It just depends who is at the top when I feel like being chatty
It goes the other way as well. I don’t always get replies to my messages. I just delete my sent box, block those who aren’t interested in me and move on.
Having an inbox full doesn’t mean that there is anyone in there I actually want
Good luck
I'll definitely be going to the gym again once COVID calms down. For now I'm avoiding it.
To be honest that's something else that was present in my mind, sometimes people come to window shop and don't want to read an inbox full of "fuck me now", or that I get buried under a load of messages like that.
It's just a bit of a pain when it feels like it's that way every single time. The other thing is I don't want to be overly persistent if a woman just isn't interested so it makes it harder to tell.
Your profile is a bit bland. It’s all very beige. Nothing wrong with it but nothing to stand out either. Even your pictures are beige.
I like colourful stuff and sometimes jokes or things in pictures make me reply.
Get some interesting pants at least and get rid of all the beige
I'll work on the pants side of things!
To be honest I'd like to take some better pictures but it's difficult when I'm not Stretch Armstrong and dont bother with selfie sticks! What recommendations would you make to mix them up aside from more colour?"
Just practice with angles and black and white ones are always nice |
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"Do you send a face photo with your first message?
Your OP is a lot longer and more thought out than your profile. More effort on your profile and better pictures required.
I see, I'll have a look at working on my profile, it still doesn't exactly get hundreds of views though.
I always send a face picture as standard because I'm pretty sure people like to see who they're speaking to. Unfortunately I'm not the best at taking photos (it's just me and at the moment I've not got any mirrors for full body shots!)
If you go to a gym or somewhere like that you could take more pictures there
The fact is that most women get tons of messages
I tend to only look at the first dozen profiles at the top of the list when I decide to read messages and may not reply to any of them.
It just depends who is at the top when I feel like being chatty
It goes the other way as well. I don’t always get replies to my messages. I just delete my sent box, block those who aren’t interested in me and move on.
Having an inbox full doesn’t mean that there is anyone in there I actually want
Good luck
I'll definitely be going to the gym again once COVID calms down. For now I'm avoiding it.
To be honest that's something else that was present in my mind, sometimes people come to window shop and don't want to read an inbox full of "fuck me now", or that I get buried under a load of messages like that.
It's just a bit of a pain when it feels like it's that way every single time. The other thing is I don't want to be overly persistent if a woman just isn't interested so it makes it harder to tell.
Your profile is a bit bland. It’s all very beige. Nothing wrong with it but nothing to stand out either. Even your pictures are beige.
I like colourful stuff and sometimes jokes or things in pictures make me reply.
Get some interesting pants at least and get rid of all the beige
I'll work on the pants side of things!
To be honest I'd like to take some better pictures but it's difficult when I'm not Stretch Armstrong and dont bother with selfie sticks! What recommendations would you make to mix them up aside from more colour?"
At least use the timer on your phone, and outdoors pics are good, prop the phone against a tree. |
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"Do you send a face photo with your first message?
Your OP is a lot longer and more thought out than your profile. More effort on your profile and better pictures required.
I see, I'll have a look at working on my profile, it still doesn't exactly get hundreds of views though.
I always send a face picture as standard because I'm pretty sure people like to see who they're speaking to. Unfortunately I'm not the best at taking photos (it's just me and at the moment I've not got any mirrors for full body shots!)"
When you send a message most people look at your profile first. If your profile or profile pictures are not their liking you are not getting a reply no matter how good you think your message is. |
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