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By *eon85 OP Man
over a year ago
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So let's just say I had a fuck buddy that was a perfect package, funny, good to spend time with and both on the same wavelength. What would people suggest if 9/10 there was abit of an iffy smell down there on the female? I can understand after a night out or a long day but straight after a bath/shower? It's 100% not an sti......if I was in this situation.  |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"So let's just say I had a fuck buddy that was a perfect package, funny, good to spend time with and both on the same wavelength. What would people suggest if 9/10 there was abit of an iffy smell down there on the female? I can understand after a night out or a long day but straight after a bath/shower? It's 100% not an sti......if I was in this situation. "
Bacterial vaginosis. Tell her to get checked out as it is USUALLY easy to treat with antibiotics and then all will be roses. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"How would you broach the subject though? Would she not know or is it just me and my smell OCD? "
As we don't have a nose down there it can be hard for us to realise. When I had it my boyfriend didn't let on and it was after a smear test that it was diagnosed.
Broaching it is difficult if you don't (hypothetically) know her very well. The longer you've known her, the easier it will get, but it's tough to say 'your pussy whiffs, get thee to a doctors' to anyone really. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Has the smell always been there? or just recently
It does sound like BV and its easily sorted
If it was the other way round how would you like it mentioned to you? thats how you need go about it  |
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By *eon85 OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester |
"Has the smell always been there? or just recently
It does sound like BV and its easily sorted
If it was the other way round how would you like it mentioned to you? thats how you need go about it "
your probably asking the wrong person that because I'm extremely fussy with smells, this is the guy that has a shower after using the toilet everytime  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I watched an old embarrassing illnesses episode last night & a girl on it had the issue of a fishy smell. They did swabs that were clear and then told her to use a ph balanced wash or no soap at all as she was over washing with harsh soaps due to her paranoia and they were getting rid of the good bacteria that she needed.
Is this what BV is? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Has the smell always been there? or just recently
It does sound like BV and its easily sorted
If it was the other way round how would you like it mentioned to you? thats how you need go about it your probably asking the wrong person that because I'm extremely fussy with smells, this is the guy that has a shower after using the toilet everytime "
Oh ffs really?!!  |
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By *eon85 OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester |
"How would you broach the subject though? Would she not know or is it just me and my smell OCD?
As we don't have a nose down there it can be hard for us to realise. When I had it my boyfriend didn't let on and it was after a smear test that it was diagnosed.
Broaching it is difficult if you don't (hypothetically) know her very well. The longer you've known her, the easier it will get, but it's tough to say 'your pussy whiffs, get thee to a doctors' to anyone really."
maybe I should just use a pillow to raise her hips during sex and then make her sleep with the same one under her head. Nice and subtle |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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As others have said, it probably isn't because she hasn't showered, she could have a medical condition.
So hypothetically....if you had a medical condition on your todger that made it smell, how would you like a person to broach the subject? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Has the smell always been there? or just recently
It does sound like BV and its easily sorted
If it was the other way round how would you like it mentioned to you? thats how you need go about it your probably asking the wrong person that because I'm extremely fussy with smells, this is the guy that has a shower after using the toilet everytime "
am not quite that 'bad' but i ain't far behind you in that
and i love belvedere vodka too  |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Has the smell always been there? or just recently
It does sound like BV and its easily sorted
If it was the other way round how would you like it mentioned to you? thats how you need go about it your probably asking the wrong person that because I'm extremely fussy with smells, this is the guy that has a shower after using the toilet everytime "
Ah, in that case you might be a bit OCD and the smell is her natural 'lady' smell. I'm not sure you can resolve this without getting another guy to have a sniff.  |
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By *eon85 OP Man
over a year ago
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I think everybody guessed it wasnt hypothetical I suppose I just find it abit harsh speaking about somebody elses problems on a forum but in a round about way it's affecting me no it isn't a natural lady smell because that is expected and I personally find that a nice smell |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" maybe I should just use a pillow to raise her hips during sex and then make her sleep with the same one under her head. Nice and subtle "
Yep! All the subtlety of a flying sledgehammer! Look - if the 'relationship' is strong enough, you should be able to sit her down and tell her straight in the best way you can and make clear you are telling her cos you are concerned for HER.
In other words, grow a pair (my thanks to Mr J Kyle for that one) and tell her. Yes, she may well be upset initially 0 who really wants to be told they have a smelly fanny or cock FFS???? BUT... in the long run she will think far more of you......  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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you could always say that you went to a doctor for a problem down there, and they said it was a bacterial infection and you needed antibiotics and that she should get herself checked out as well |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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" maybe I should just use a pillow to raise her hips during sex and then make her sleep with the same one under her head. Nice and subtle
Yep! All the subtlety of a flying sledgehammer! Look - if the 'relationship' is strong enough, you should be able to sit her down and tell her straight in the best way you can and make clear you are telling her cos you are concerned for HER.
In other words, grow a pair (my thanks to Mr J Kyle for that one) and tell her. Yes, she may well be upset initially 0 who really wants to be told they have a smelly fanny or cock FFS???? BUT... in the long run she will think far more of you...... "
The OP knows the woman in question better than the rest of us. I'd want to be told, but other women might be offended. |
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This can actually come from being overclean,if you wash too much it causes the ph of the vagina to change thus causing the smell,but like everyone has pointed out It's not something you know for yourself,find a tactful way to tell her |
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By (user no longer on site)
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The OP knows the woman in question better than the rest of us. I'd want to be told, but other women might be offended."
Which is worse? Being offended or leaving it due to being ignorant of the fact/smell and it becoming something serious..??? I know which one I would go for.......  But point taken.... |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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The OP knows the woman in question better than the rest of us. I'd want to be told, but other women might be offended.
Which is worse? Being offended or leaving it due to being ignorant of the fact/smell and it becoming something serious..??? I know which one I would go for....... But point taken...."
I don't think BV turns into anything serious. It just hangs around down there, stinking the place out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think you should be really subtle and next time you have sex walk into the room with a gas mask on if you're too scared to say anything
She may get the hint then |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"you could always say that you went to a doctor for a problem down there, and they said it was a bacterial infection and you needed antibiotics and that she should get herself checked out as well"
That would be untrue and leave here thinking he had infected her. |
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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago
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Feel really awkward saying this...
Dont want to embarrass you, not sure how to say it...but sometimes when Im up close and personal your nether regions smell a bit different to what they usually do, dont mean dirty or that youve not washed or anything.....
Heard that it can sometimes be a sign of a bit of an infection or 'lady trouble' and thought youd want to know so that you can get it checked out... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Gas masks and pegs? Are we now saying this poor, suffering lady is thick as shit too????? Bloody hell! Lol!!!!!"
No I was ony joking,I gave my serious answer further up |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"Feel really awkward saying this...
Dont want to embarrass you, not sure how to say it...but sometimes when Im up close and personal your nether regions smell a bit different to what they usually do, dont mean dirty or that youve not washed or anything.....
Heard that it can sometimes be a sign of a bit of an infection or 'lady trouble' and thought youd want to know so that you can get it checked out..."
I like this one |
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By *eon85 OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester |
"Gas masks and pegs? Are we now saying this poor, suffering lady is thick as shit too????? Bloody hell! Lol!!!!!"
Let's be honest the only Way she is suffering is because I don't go down as much as I usually would which in turn is making me a rather selfish Fb  |
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By *eon85 OP Man
over a year ago
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"Feel really awkward saying this...
Dont want to embarrass you, not sure how to say it...but sometimes when Im up close and personal your nether regions smell a bit different to what they usually do, dont mean dirty or that youve not washed or anything.....
Heard that it can sometimes be a sign of a bit of an infection or 'lady trouble' and thought youd want to know so that you can get it checked out...
I like this one "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Right Danny you have your answer now and I think once you have both got over the embarrassment stage of discussing it,she'll be grateful that you thought enough of her to mention it
I hope it goes ok for you,give her a big hug and tell her you thinks shes wonderful and that talking about it was really hard as its not always easy to say the right words when you don't want to offend her |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've had this dilemma on more than one occasion, BV is not uncommon, but it has nothing to do with lack of cleanliness, in fact I'm led to believe that women who 'over clean' by 'douching' can cause it. It's a lack of good bacteria in the vagina.
I only know this because I looked into it before taking the decision to inform someone when in similar circumstances to the Op.
I recommend that you find a way to tell her, as long as you believe she's secure enough as a person to hear it from you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've had this dilemma on more than one occasion, BV is not uncommon, but it has nothing to do with lack of cleanliness, in fact I'm led to believe that women who 'over clean' by 'douching' can cause it. It's a lack of good bacteria in the vagina.
I only know this because I looked into it before taking the decision to inform someone when in similar circumstances to the Op.
I recommend that you find a way to tell her, as long as you believe she's secure enough as a person to hear it from you. "
Thats very true and theres loads of other factors that can cause it too,none of them to do with anything nasty at all
Its just an imbalance of the natural flora and fauna of the vagina |
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By *eon85 OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester |
Thanks everyone. A whole thread with no argumentative people on aswell I'm impressed. If you see a forum post of me looking for a new Fb I hope each and everyone feel slightly guilty |
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"you could always say that you went to a doctor for a problem down there, and they said it was a bacterial infection and you needed antibiotics and that she should get herself checked out as well"
I wouldn't advise this! If a FB said that to me I'd be scared he'd given me a sdi! |
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"Gas masks and pegs? Are we now saying this poor, suffering lady is thick as shit too????? Bloody hell! Lol!!!!! Let's be honest the only Way she is suffering is because I don't go down as much as I usually would which in turn is making me a rather selfish Fb "
You're coming across as a right prince! |
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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago
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"Right Danny you have your answer now and I think once you have both got over the embarrassment stage of discussing it,she'll be grateful that you thought enough of her to mention it
I hope it goes ok for you,give her a big hug and tell her you thinks shes wonderful and that talking about it was really hard as its not always easy to say the right words when you don't want to offend her"
Thats very true, so Id also add -
'I thought youd chop my balls off if you found out there might be something wrong, and I hadnt said anything to you about it... |
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By *eon85 OP Man
over a year ago
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"Gas masks and pegs? Are we now saying this poor, suffering lady is thick as shit too????? Bloody hell! Lol!!!!! Let's be honest the only Way she is suffering is because I don't go down as much as I usually would which in turn is making me a rather selfish Fb
You're coming across as a right prince!"
would this be slightly sarcastic? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Right Danny you have your answer now and I think once you have both got over the embarrassment stage of discussing it,she'll be grateful that you thought enough of her to mention it
I hope it goes ok for you,give her a big hug and tell her you thinks shes wonderful and that talking about it was really hard as its not always easy to say the right words when you don't want to offend her
Thats very true, so Id also add -
'I thought youd chop my balls off if you found out there might be something wrong, and I hadnt said anything to you about it..."
Good tac tic |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If u get on do well then tell her... Might even make you get on even better the fact she finds you do honest....
I would rather someone was honest with me esp if I shagged them regularly |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well I appreciate all the advice I genuinely do. My option now is to tell her, find a new fb or go down with a peg on my nose.  "
here is one for you then your standing in the que at the supermarket and there is 2 women standing behind you and your fb and they comment there is a funny smell coming from you fb and you already no about the smell but dont have the nuts to tell her and she over hears them how the hell would you feel then grow a set of bals and tell her before someone else does and she dumps you for not telling her in the first place |
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By (user no longer on site)
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How about? Have a 3 some and get the third party to tell her!!! Then she will be more pissed off with them and if she asks you to confirm it, you say well it's slightly smells I just thought you had BV that is easily cured with antibiotics!!! She will like you even more for being so polite in not saying anything in the first place!!!!
Next problem please  |
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By *eon85 OP Man
over a year ago
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"Well I appreciate all the advice I genuinely do. My option now is to tell her, find a new fb or go down with a peg on my nose. here is one for you then your standing in the que at the supermarket and there is 2 women standing behind you and your fb and they comment there is a funny smell coming from you fb and you already no about the smell but dont have the nuts to tell her and she over hears them how the hell would you feel then grow a set of bals and tell her before someone else does and she dumps you for not telling her in the first place"
I would wonder why their heads were close enough too smell it, it hasn't got to the stinking out a supermarket stage just yet. |
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I have neither flora nor fauna I don't think, however I also don't have a smelly minge so if you're ever over my way Danny giz a shout cos you're well fit & I'd have a go on you |
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By *eon85 OP Man
over a year ago
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"I have neither flora nor fauna I don't think, however I also don't have a smelly minge so if you're ever over my way Danny giz a shout cos you're well fit & I'd have a go on you "
I'm on my way |
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"I have neither flora nor fauna I don't think, however I also don't have a smelly minge so if you're ever over my way Danny giz a shout cos you're well fit & I'd have a go on you I'm on my way "
*Grabs coat & a fem fresh...I've pulled whoooo hooo! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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have had this bv myself, its treated with either one dose of 4 tabs or a weeks worth of tabs...... made me feel crap for about two days feeling sick etc, however sorted it.... was told as many have mentioned being too clean kills of the good bacteria. my gp has given me specific lotion which can be used on the skin but she told me to shower with it, and its lovely, she also said no females should use soaps as they can cause many infections.... !!! |
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Sounds like B V and trust me unless she has no sense of smell she will soon know.
Sometimes there can be a discharge with it, she doesn't neccessarily need antibiotics as there is a product from chemists which involes inserting a gel for about a week.
This should take care of it but it can come back and if it does she should use it as often as she wants.
Always best to go to the docs to have a test just to be safe.
She should also stop using any scented soaps and try only showering once a day.also don't use wipes after a pee.
Boots do a squeezy soap for femine hygene.
It's not contagious just an imbalance in natural bacteria.
If it becomes a persistent prob the doc can put the gel on prescription as a box is around £9 - £11 at least it used to be and I can't imagine it's gone down in price.she shouldn't worry that it happens because she doesn't wash because it's more the opposite and all the wash products can upset the balance. Could be other issues to like stress.
Just tell here because I can't believe she won't already know.
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By (user no longer on site)
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i was told by a guy i used to meet off here that i smelt a bit,was pissed off with him at first but in the long run was grateful as i now know what the smell was and how to treat it when it flares up. i get antibiotics off the doctor on repeat as well as the gel. |
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I just wanted to add that left untreated, bacterial vaginosis can lead to further complications such as pelvic inflammatory disease, which is very painful in itself and can cause irregular, heavy bleeding and in turn can lead to problems getting pregnant, higher chance of miscarriage, and it has been suggested that it potentially causes higher suseptability to getting STD's.
It isn't just a case of a 'smelly fanny' and is something that needs treating as it is also a huge whack to the confidence when it reaches the point that you KNOW you've got it and have to wait for treatment to work
Unfortunately I know as I suffer with it regularly and seem to get it after every different person I have sex with, even with using condoms. (Pretty shit when you're a swinger!)
Its embarrassing and as I said makes you feel pretty crap about yourself but i'd much rather be told if someone thought there was a problem and I didn't know....
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By (user no longer on site)
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If I s BV its from over cleaning. I have cervical cancer few years ago and became obsessed with being clean ' down there' and the more I washed the worse it was it was a vicious cycle as you instinctively wash more. I went back to docs eventually convinced my cancer was back and was told I had effectively done this to myself. Now I don't use perfumed products and have been free of it for years now |
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