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I been chatting to a guy for nearly a year on kik... we exchanged kik usernames on FAB... I asked if I could have his number to see if we could have a proper chat or webcam chat... he said "it's too soon for that".
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Ive done this OP
Ive sent my number to someone i was chatting to, told them to call me on withheld if it makes them feel better. And they did..
If there is nothing to hide i dont see the problem in exchanging numbers. If not id be a little suspicious
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"Ive done this OP
Ive sent my number to someone i was chatting to, told them to call me on withheld if it makes them feel better. And they did..
If there is nothing to hide i dont see the problem in exchanging numbers. If not id be a little suspicious
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i don't give out my number too quickly as I want to make sure they're genuine and not gona be some crazy stalker etc but a year of waiting for things to progress is abit crazy... I've been patient as he's really hot and we get on well |
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"Ive done this OP
Ive sent my number to someone i was chatting to, told them to call me on withheld if it makes them feel better. And they did..
If there is nothing to hide i dont see the problem in exchanging numbers. If not id be a little suspicious
i don't give out my number too quickly as I want to make sure they're genuine and not gona be some crazy stalker etc but a year of waiting for things to progress is abit crazy... I've been patient as he's really hot and we get on well"
After a year of talking though? Hmm if there is genuine intrest and chemistry it wouldnt be a problem..trust your gut xx |
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We never give out our number. We've had hassle in the past from a guy threatening to tell people in our local area that we're on sites like this.
Our phone number is linked to other things and gives others information about us, not a chance we'll fall for that again.
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"We never give out our number. We've had hassle in the past from a guy threatening to tell people in our local area that we're on sites like this.
Our phone number is linked to other things and gives others information about us, not a chance we'll fall for that again.
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If you're that worried, £30 for a payg 'fab' phone with a number linked to nothing personal |
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"We never give out our number. We've had hassle in the past from a guy threatening to tell people in our local area that we're on sites like this.
Our phone number is linked to other things and gives others information about us, not a chance we'll fall for that again.
If you're that worried, £30 for a payg 'fab' phone with a number linked to nothing personal"
We just message on here. No need to give out a number. |
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"We never give out our number. We've had hassle in the past from a guy threatening to tell people in our local area that we're on sites like this.
Our phone number is linked to other things and gives others information about us, not a chance we'll fall for that again.
If you're that worried, £30 for a payg 'fab' phone with a number linked to nothing personal"
i can't be dealing with two phones... but yes you're right guys... he's probably got a gf etc and he's being far too coy so he will stay my sexy fab friend on kik only
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"We never give out our number. We've had hassle in the past from a guy threatening to tell people in our local area that we're on sites like this.
Our phone number is linked to other things and gives others information about us, not a chance we'll fall for that again.
If you're that worried, £30 for a payg 'fab' phone with a number linked to nothing personal
We just message on here. No need to give out a number."
I like to have a proper chat where I can hear their voice etc |
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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago
Craggy Island |
"I been chatting to a guy for nearly a year on kik... we exchanged kik usernames on FAB... I asked if I could have his number to see if we could have a proper chat or webcam chat... he said "it's too soon for that".
How long would you wait before `throwing in the towel`? "
How long would it take before a guy gets your number?
Or maybe he hiding something? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I been chatting to a guy for nearly a year on kik... we exchanged kik usernames on FAB... I asked if I could have his number to see if we could have a proper chat or webcam chat... he said "it's too soon for that".
How long would you wait before `throwing in the towel`? "
Recently chatted to a gorgeous fit guy on here. Suggested talking on the phone said only does kik i said fine. His pics were a little too good to be true so googled and found them all over the Internet. He asked me for body pics which I replied no only when we meet. Strangely he disappeared and come off here when I mentioned the pics. If something seems too good to be true it usually is. Delete and block is my advice. |
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"I been chatting to a guy for nearly a year on kik... we exchanged kik usernames on FAB... I asked if I could have his number to see if we could have a proper chat or webcam chat... he said "it's too soon for that".
How long would you wait before `throwing in the towel`?
How long would it take before a guy gets your number?
Or maybe he hiding something?"
depends how the online conversation is going tbh and if he asks me first.... I actually asked this one for his number... forgot what a slow burner it was which probably a red flag |
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"We never give out our number. We've had hassle in the past from a guy threatening to tell people in our local area that we're on sites like this.
Our phone number is linked to other things and gives others information about us, not a chance we'll fall for that again.
If you're that worried, £30 for a payg 'fab' phone with a number linked to nothing personal
We just message on here. No need to give out a number.
I like to have a proper chat where I can hear their voice etc "
I can understand that, as you get a better sense about a person from chatting on the phone.
We don't meet people anymore though, so hence we just use the messages on here to chat. |
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"I been chatting to a guy for nearly a year on kik... we exchanged kik usernames on FAB... I asked if I could have his number to see if we could have a proper chat or webcam chat... he said "it's too soon for that".
How long would you wait before `throwing in the towel`?
Recently chatted to a gorgeous fit guy on here. Suggested talking on the phone said only does kik i said fine. His pics were a little too good to be true so googled and found them all over the Internet. He asked me for body pics which I replied no only when we meet. Strangely he disappeared and come off here when I mentioned the pics. If something seems too good to be true it usually is. Delete and block is my advice."
oh i seen Live cam videos, I know he's real as can be... think he's more likely to have gf or something and is cheating ... thats what I like about kik |
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over a year ago
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"I been chatting to a guy for nearly a year on kik... we exchanged kik usernames on FAB... I asked if I could have his number to see if we could have a proper chat or webcam chat... he said "it's too soon for that".
How long would you wait before `throwing in the towel`?
Recently chatted to a gorgeous fit guy on here. Suggested talking on the phone said only does kik i said fine. His pics were a little too good to be true so googled and found them all over the Internet. He asked me for body pics which I replied no only when we meet. Strangely he disappeared and come off here when I mentioned the pics. If something seems too good to be true it usually is. Delete and block is my advice.
oh i seen Live cam videos, I know he's real as can be... think he's more likely to have gf or something and is cheating ... thats what I like about kik"
Could be hes just being careful. Maybe had a stalker in the past so not happy to give out number. |
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By *omfilthMan
over a year ago
Gloucester |
I had someone last week who said she was keen and wanted a meet. That in its self should have rung a bell ! She wanted me to send pics ect but I wanted to FaceTime, after all she was that keen! She wouldn’t do this until I had sent some pics... everything she wanted To see is on my profile! |
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"Maybe hes not comfortable with his voice and tone. One year is a rather long time though. "
if he's not comfortable with his voice. how can he get naked in front of a woman? thought communication is fundamental when having sex? |
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"I been chatting to a guy for nearly a year on kik... we exchanged kik usernames on FAB... I asked if I could have his number to see if we could have a proper chat or webcam chat... he said "it's too soon for that".
How long would you wait before `throwing in the towel`? "
This is a joke? |
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"I had someone last week who said she was keen and wanted a meet. That in its self should have rung a bell ! She wanted me to send pics ect but I wanted to FaceTime, after all she was that keen! She wouldn’t do this until I had sent some pics... everything she wanted To see is on my profile!"
Personally i have to feel really comfortable with the person before doing facetime. |
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"I been chatting to a guy for nearly a year on kik... we exchanged kik usernames on FAB... I asked if I could have his number to see if we could have a proper chat or webcam chat... he said "it's too soon for that".
How long would you wait before `throwing in the towel`?
This is a joke? "
you got to bear in mind we been in lockdown for months but i just wanted a proper chat with him... didn't think I was asking for much |
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over a year ago
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"Ive done this OP
Ive sent my number to someone i was chatting to, told them to call me on withheld if it makes them feel better. And they did..
If there is nothing to hide i dont see the problem in exchanging numbers. If not id be a little suspicious
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This without a doubt  |
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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago
Craggy Island |
"I been chatting to a guy for nearly a year on kik... we exchanged kik usernames on FAB... I asked if I could have his number to see if we could have a proper chat or webcam chat... he said "it's too soon for that".
How long would you wait before `throwing in the towel`?
This is a joke?
you got to bear in mind we been in lockdown for months but i just wanted a proper chat with him... didn't think I was asking for much "
Try saying that if it was a single guy looking for a proper chat. |
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By *os19Man
over a year ago
Edmonton |
"I been chatting to a guy for nearly a year on kik... we exchanged kik usernames on FAB... I asked if I could have his number to see if we could have a proper chat or webcam chat... he said "it's too soon for that".
How long would you wait before `throwing in the towel`? "
. A year you have been chatting and he says too soon for that I would be worried that he is married or in a relationship. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd have block him by now. How can a year possibly be too soon. He's obviously not interested in meeting either. My number is thrown around willy nilly lol. Married and playing away. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I never cam! I give out my number but I felf self conscious about how I look on cam. I'd rather have a social and see how we get on face to face rather than cam. I wouldn't even do zoom meetings with work, I did mine on the phone  ugh can't think of anything worse.
Sounds like you guys have a good connection though, nice finding that  xxx |
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"he says skype is ok.... but makes me concern why not normal phone"
Phone numbers are linked up to a lot of social media contacts and many people have had their private accounts tracked down via their phone number that they're not even aware are linked.
You may suddenly find they're a suggested friend on Facebook, and vice versa.
It could be that he's hiding something, it could be that he has no interest in ACTUALLY meeting and just enjoys the wank fodder, or it could simply be that he's being careful. x |
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over a year ago
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Tbh Facebook have access to phone numbers and all of a sudden you’ll be seeing recommendations for friend requests. Then boom, all his family (married or not) and tbh your family if you come up in his friend requests.
Complicated stuff now lol |
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"Tbh Facebook have access to phone numbers and all of a sudden you’ll be seeing recommendations for friend requests. Then boom, all his family (married or not) and tbh your family if you come up in his friend requests.
Complicated stuff now lol"
dam makes me think i shouldn't hand out my number now  |
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"I been chatting to a guy for nearly a year on kik... we exchanged kik usernames on FAB... I asked if I could have his number to see if we could have a proper chat or webcam chat... he said "it's too soon for that".
How long would you wait before `throwing in the towel`? "
About 4 - 6 weeks.
Wrong or not if I was chatting to somebody for a year and they wouldn't swap tel numbers it would raise a red flag for me. I would rightly or wrongly assume they had a partner/wife.
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"Tbh Facebook have access to phone numbers and all of a sudden you’ll be seeing recommendations for friend requests. Then boom, all his family (married or not) and tbh your family if you come up in his friend requests.
Complicated stuff now lol
dam makes me think i shouldn't hand out my number now "
Don’t put your phone number on Facebook is the way round this one |
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"Tbh Facebook have access to phone numbers and all of a sudden you’ll be seeing recommendations for friend requests. Then boom, all his family (married or not) and tbh your family if you come up in his friend requests.
Complicated stuff now lol
dam makes me think i shouldn't hand out my number now
Don’t put your phone number on Facebook is the way round this one "
I checked my privacy settings on Facebook and they shouldn't have access to my Facebook account? |
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By *renzMan
over a year ago
Between Chichester and Havant |
"Tbh Facebook have access to phone numbers and all of a sudden you’ll be seeing recommendations for friend requests. Then boom, all his family (married or not) and tbh your family if you come up in his friend requests.
Complicated stuff now lol
dam makes me think i shouldn't hand out my number now
Don’t put your phone number on Facebook is the way round this one
I checked my privacy settings on Facebook and they shouldn't have access to my Facebook account? "
Quite simple. Don't use Facebook. Never have, never will.
As for the ops original question. After a year? Even given the current circumstances, prior to this it would have been around the six month mark, if it hadn't progressed further by then it never was. Number or no number. Unless they're the other end of the country or abroad perhaps. |
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"Tbh Facebook have access to phone numbers and all of a sudden you’ll be seeing recommendations for friend requests. Then boom, all his family (married or not) and tbh your family if you come up in his friend requests.
Complicated stuff now lol
dam makes me think i shouldn't hand out my number now
Don’t put your phone number on Facebook is the way round this one
I checked my privacy settings on Facebook and they shouldn't have access to my Facebook account?
Quite simple. Don't use Facebook. Never have, never will.
As for the ops original question. After a year? Even given the current circumstances, prior to this it would have been around the six month mark, if it hadn't progressed further by then it never was. Number or no number. Unless they're the other end of the country or abroad perhaps. "
its been really random chatting for months and doesn't live that far away. Most sexy guys seem to live in Scotland or Ireland  |
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A year, oh wow. I usually speak on the phone within a few days. Chatting is too much of a faff and if it’s too long you can end up building a false emotional connection. In studies of online dating it’s been found that it is better to switch sooner rather than later |
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"We never give out our number. We've had hassle in the past from a guy threatening to tell people in our local area that we're on sites like this.
Our phone number is linked to other things and gives others information about us, not a chance we'll fall for that again.
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Exactly this..
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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I don't really like giving out my phone number just because it's so easily traceable to my work.
I used to really like the kik video option which has now been removed, back in the day when I used to arrange meets I would have a kik video chat to see if we found each other visually appealing. |
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"after a year????
sorry youve just been wank fodder.
Lol.  this is so true "
he wants to chat on Skype so to me it looks like a security issue to him... i don't blame him but I prefer a proper conversation to just texting |
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"We have a fab only phone and only switch it on when we have arranged to speak to someone via a fab message "
Yep easy enough to get a second phone with a 10 quid sim if you don't want your real number out there.
Sounds like this guy is stringing you along for whatever reason.
I'd be wary OP. |
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"We have a fab only phone and only switch it on when we have arranged to speak to someone via a fab message
Yep easy enough to get a second phone with a 10 quid sim if you don't want your real number out there.
Sounds like this guy is stringing you along for whatever reason.
I'd be wary OP."
oh definitely... but hey plenty fish in the sea  |
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this thread just reminded us all of our security settings on social media and be wary of people who very slow at revealing themselves.... but men are very happy to share wanking videos if nothing else  |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
I think you have your answer already
Obviously something that means he cant chat to you, either not who he claims or isn't intending to meet you
I'm reluctant to give my number out, but if I'd chatted over a year with someone I would. |
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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago
Beyond the shadows. |
"this thread just reminded us all of our security settings on social media and be wary of people who very slow at revealing themselves.... but men are very happy to share wanking videos if nothing else "
Not all men |
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"this thread just reminded us all of our security settings on social media and be wary of people who very slow at revealing themselves.... but men are very happy to share wanking videos if nothing else
Not all men "
i know i met afew who share more than wanking videos with me  |
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"Sounds married or in a relationship to me ??
I just found out you and the rest of the people who said it or thought it is correct.... I met so many cheaters on here ;- "
Sorry to hear that OP.
Put it down to experience. Onwards and upwards |
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over a year ago
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"Sounds married or in a relationship to me ??
I just found out you and the rest of the people who said it or thought it is correct.... I met so many cheaters on here ;- "
Shit one, you'll find the right one someday, til then you've got us to entertain you |
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"Sounds married or in a relationship to me ??
I just found out you and the rest of the people who said it or thought it is correct.... I met so many cheaters on here ;-
Shit one, you'll find the right one someday, til then you've got us to entertain you"
Luckily I'm fab savvy and enjoy many fabbers... not just one |
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By *os19Man
over a year ago
Edmonton |
"Sounds married or in a relationship to me ??
I just found out you and the rest of the people who said it or thought it is correct.... I met so many cheaters on here ;-
Shit one, you'll find the right one someday, til then you've got us to entertain you
Luckily I'm fab savvy and enjoy many fabbers... not just one "
. Sorry to hear that sending you a virtual hug. |
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"Sounds married or in a relationship to me ??
I just found out you and the rest of the people who said it or thought it is correct.... I met so many cheaters on here ;-
Shit one, you'll find the right one someday, til then you've got us to entertain you
Luckily I'm fab savvy and enjoy many fabbers... not just one . Sorry to hear that sending you a virtual hug."
no biggie... i know some don't mind cheaters... I'm just not one of them and made it clear I'm not |
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over a year ago
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"I been chatting to a guy for nearly a year on kik... we exchanged kik usernames on FAB... I asked if I could have his number to see if we could have a proper chat or webcam chat... he said "it's too soon for that".
How long would you wait before `throwing in the towel`? "
I tend to swap numbers with people straight away. If they are freaks you can always block the caller on any normal phone so the only reason not to hand it out is to hide identity, to be honest they are likely married etc.
For me Kik and snapchat are usually a sign of a complete waste of time x |
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over a year ago
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I tended to chat on kik unless I’ve met them in person, think I once gave my WhatsApp out when I had a single profile and ended up in a relationship with mr ikc
Mrs ikc |
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"Ive done this OP
Ive sent my number to someone i was chatting to, told them to call me on withheld if it makes them feel better. And they did..
If there is nothing to hide i dont see the problem in exchanging numbers. If not id be a little suspicious
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This sounds perfectly reasonable to me. It's the sort of thing I usually offer. Really sorts out the genuine profiles? If there's any problems with modern phones you can always block a number if they turn out to be a nuisance? |
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"We never give out our number. We've had hassle in the past from a guy threatening to tell people in our local area that we're on sites like this.
Our phone number is linked to other things and gives others information about us, not a chance we'll fall for that again.
If you're that worried, £30 for a payg 'fab' phone with a number linked to nothing personal"
When I was more active I always had what was referred to as a 'naughty' phone. Cheap pay as you go model? Just an extra safe move for single girls? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Two people from fab have my number (and only one has used it) and that’s really not likely to change anytime soon.
I only gave those two people my number because I actively trust them and have no fear of them abusing that trust.
I don’t think I’d ever give out my number unless I had intention to meet or had created a solid friendship with someone. |
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I think you should move on, plenty more opportunities here.
I wzs in a similar situation with a woman chatting eyc for a year then she just left the site. So it turned out to be a waste of time really.
I think if somethi g positive doesn't happen inside 6 months its never going to happen. Especially if they are local. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Tbh honest I think you have been had.
I think he is a she. You said you seen videos of him. You sure it’s not her other half?
And I would say after 6 weeks if I had asked to talk and got a no it’s to soon I would of said goodbye |
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By *_MariusMan
over a year ago
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"I been chatting to a guy for nearly a year on kik... we exchanged kik usernames on FAB... I asked if I could have his number to see if we could have a proper chat or webcam chat... he said "it's too soon for that".
How long would you wait before `throwing in the towel`? "
It depends on the person and the situation; I have been chatting to this guy (the male half of a MF couple) for over a year now (not from this site). He and I have 'missed' quite a few opportunities to meet because he mainly wants to communicate with me via the website that we both use, whereas I told him that I am not always hooked on the xyz website, especially when my Better Half and I are on holiday in my native Greece.
The other night I nearly snapped at him and told him to fuck off because I was beginning to not trust that he wanted to meet me. I didn't do it though because he explained to me that he had given his mobile number to a single guy in the past and he and his wife started being harrassed...basically, it has taken this guy a whole year to trust me enough as to show himself to me on the webcam feature of the website, so I know that he is genuine (if I had asked him to show me his face a year ago he would have had none of it). So I guess...sometimes you need to show some understanding when somebody doesn't want to share personal details like mobile numbers, facebook profiles etc. Let's face it, anybody can be hiding behind a keyboard. |
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Having previously given out my number and ended up being stalked I now do not give out my number.
Don't like it?
Oh well not my issue!
I might get a ten quid Nokia on payg to use as a burner phone for future meets. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I been chatting to a guy for nearly a year on kik... we exchanged kik usernames on FAB... I asked if I could have his number to see if we could have a proper chat or webcam chat... he said "it's too soon for that".
How long would you wait before `throwing in the towel`?
It depends on the person and the situation; I have been chatting to this guy (the male half of a MF couple) for over a year now (not from this site). He and I have 'missed' quite a few opportunities to meet because he mainly wants to communicate with me via the website that we both use, whereas I told him that I am not always hooked on the xyz website, especially when my Better Half and I are on holiday in my native Greece.
The other night I nearly snapped at him and told him to fuck off because I was beginning to not trust that he wanted to meet me. I didn't do it though because he explained to me that he had given his mobile number to a single guy in the past and he and his wife started being harrassed...basically, it has taken this guy a whole year to trust me enough as to show himself to me on the webcam feature of the website, so I know that he is genuine (if I had asked him to show me his face a year ago he would have had none of it). So I guess...sometimes you need to show some understanding when somebody doesn't want to share personal details like mobile numbers, facebook profiles etc. Let's face it, anybody can be hiding behind a keyboard."
I think it's safe to say you won't ever get to meet |
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By *_MariusMan
over a year ago
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"I been chatting to a guy for nearly a year on kik... we exchanged kik usernames on FAB... I asked if I could have his number to see if we could have a proper chat or webcam chat... he said "it's too soon for that".
How long would you wait before `throwing in the towel`?
It depends on the person and the situation; I have been chatting to this guy (the male half of a MF couple) for over a year now (not from this site). He and I have 'missed' quite a few opportunities to meet because he mainly wants to communicate with me via the website that we both use, whereas I told him that I am not always hooked on the xyz website, especially when my Better Half and I are on holiday in my native Greece.
The other night I nearly snapped at him and told him to fuck off because I was beginning to not trust that he wanted to meet me. I didn't do it though because he explained to me that he had given his mobile number to a single guy in the past and he and his wife started being harrassed...basically, it has taken this guy a whole year to trust me enough as to show himself to me on the webcam feature of the website, so I know that he is genuine (if I had asked him to show me his face a year ago he would have had none of it). So I guess...sometimes you need to show some understanding when somebody doesn't want to share personal details like mobile numbers, facebook profiles etc. Let's face it, anybody can be hiding behind a keyboard.
I think it's safe to say you won't ever get to meet "
Lol that may be so, but the Greek cultural realities of swinging sadly dictate that what the guy was telling me was true because other Greek couples have also told me similar stories. Couples being contacted by single men, phones are exchanged, sex is had and then the single guy turns out to be a knobhead who harasses the couple for on-demand sex with the Mrs, otherwise videos will be published fuck-knows-where. Problems are compounded more if the male half of a couple is bi in a not-quite-yet liberated society as a whole. So, a part of me understands how fearful some couples can be of their privacy... |
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"I been chatting to a guy for nearly a year on kik... we exchanged kik usernames on FAB... I asked if I could have his number to see if we could have a proper chat or webcam chat... he said "it's too soon for that".
How long would you wait before `throwing in the towel`? "
Yeh probably in a relationship I would throw the towel in if he was really interested he would exchange numbers it's easy to hide behind a screen.... |
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I'd probably be ready after a year and would discuss his likely timescales for getting together, when safe to do so.
If he's unwilling to open up, explaining any personal restrictions he has, then I'd move on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had someone stalk me by using my number to find my social media accounts.
Nooooooo thank you, not risking that again.
I won't give my number out to anyone unless we become friends in real life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I never give out my number after several bad experiences in the past.
Kik works just fine and I have a naughty Skype account or Insta to video call and chat on.
My number is purely for close friend's and family.
With kik/Insta, I can choose to mute my message notifications and check them as and when I'm available to. Once someone has your number, they can text, call, WhatsApp and search for you on Facebook and other social platforms too (if your privacy settings aren't tight).
I'm not married or attached. I just like to keep Fab stuff separate from my day to day x |
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A year... in geological time scales that is nothing, in Fab time new species have evolved and left the planet.
Sounds like the Gent (if it is) has an agenda somewhere that you are probably not part of. If you are enjoying the chats then take it for what it is, and expect nothing more. |
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
harrow |
It’s about respect - I have a few fab friends on WhatsApp but I wouldn’t add them to Facebook because it’s disrespectful
Most of the time I message my friends on here or the ones that I have been given their number by tent. A couple use kik but I find it drains battery |
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"I always ask every guy I'm interested in their relationship status... I never forget important information like this.
Do you take them at their word?"
i usually back up their word with their behaviour |
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By *hav02Man
over a year ago
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I don't force it at all and almost leave it up to the woman if she wants to exchange numbers. However, I'm weary of the fakes on here.
I've exchanged numbers as soon as fine minutes chat on fab though and has been absolutely fine if you're both respectful and humanly, then i don't see any issues with exchanging numbers |
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"I don't force it at all and almost leave it up to the woman if she wants to exchange numbers. However, I'm weary of the fakes on here.
I've exchanged numbers as soon as fine minutes chat on fab though and has been absolutely fine if you're both respectful and humanly, then i don't see any issues with exchanging numbers "
he ended up being a cheater hence why he didn't want to give out his number |
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over a year ago
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"I been chatting to a guy for nearly a year on kik... we exchanged kik usernames on FAB... I asked if I could have his number to see if we could have a proper chat or webcam chat... he said "it's too soon for that".
How long would you wait before `throwing in the towel`? "
Too soon? After a year? I'd throw in the wardrobe. ?????? |
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"I don't force it at all and almost leave it up to the woman if she wants to exchange numbers. However, I'm weary of the fakes on here.
I've exchanged numbers as soon as fine minutes chat on fab though and has been absolutely fine if you're both respectful and humanly, then i don't see any issues with exchanging numbers
he ended up being a cheater hence why he didn't want to give out his number "
Lol. |
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"I been chatting to a guy for nearly a year on kik... we exchanged kik usernames on FAB... I asked if I could have his number to see if we could have a proper chat or webcam chat... he said "it's too soon for that".
How long would you wait before `throwing in the towel`? "
You could have My number anytime xx |
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"I been chatting to a guy for nearly a year on kik... we exchanged kik usernames on FAB... I asked if I could have his number to see if we could have a proper chat or webcam chat... he said "it's too soon for that".
How long would you wait before `throwing in the towel`? "
Probably a bot |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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After a year???
Obviously hiding something.
If I liked someone and wanted to meet I'd give my number quite soon.
You still dont have to meet and if they turn out to be a weirdo just block them |
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"I been chatting to a guy for nearly a year on kik... we exchanged kik usernames on FAB... I asked if I could have his number to see if we could have a proper chat or webcam chat... he said "it's too soon for that".
How long would you wait before `throwing in the towel`?
You could have My number anytime xx "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are plenty of avenues for camming that don't involve a phone number (Skype, hangouts, zoom et al).
I don't give my number out until I've met someone in the flesh, I don't think duration on Kik would affect that tbh. |
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By *EXY_PILOTMan
over a year ago
Manchester, North West, UK |
"We never give out our number. We've had hassle in the past from a guy threatening to tell people in our local area that we're on sites like this.
Our phone number is linked to other things and gives others information about us, not a chance we'll fall for that again.
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Well thought x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you use your contract phone number it can then offer you on Facebook as a potential new friend! Which as some ppl keep fab and vanilla separate can be a bit , bunny boiler potential, esp if things don’t go to plan. A lot of people use what tv cop shows call a burner phone lol aka a cheap phone with payg sim.
That route then separates wheat from chaff........ |
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It's worth getting a Dual Sim phone in future, so that you can have a PAYG SIM in it, that you just use for fab etc. Your other no will continue to work and nobody can trace you from a number that's not connected to work etc. It saves carrying 2 phones about or having to switch 2 sims about |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would never give out my phone number to someone I met on here and who I was going to meet for a casual sexual meet. We'd have kik; I'm not married and certainly not hiding anything but see no need to share any more personal info than necessary. |
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By *ooljoeMan
over a year ago
Harrogate |
Total bullshit.we're in a modern world and technology has developed.You can block unwanted calls and numbers not stored in your contact list.it doesn't matter who's got your number as you can still gain control easily .Persistent calls becomes harassment simple . |
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"Total bullshit.we're in a modern world and technology has developed.You can block unwanted calls and numbers not stored in your contact list.it doesn't matter who's got your number as you can still gain control easily .Persistent calls becomes harassment simple . "
100%..... some of the posters act like technology is a bad thing..... |
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"Total bullshit.we're in a modern world and technology has developed.You can block unwanted calls and numbers not stored in your contact list.it doesn't matter who's got your number as you can still gain control easily .Persistent calls becomes harassment simple . "
How do you block a person that keeps calling from different numbers?
Blocking people that aren't on your contact list is a huge hassle for most people. Seems easier to just use Kik? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I been chatting to a guy for nearly a year on kik... we exchanged kik usernames on FAB... I asked if I could have his number to see if we could have a proper chat or webcam chat... he said "it's too soon for that".
How long would you wait before `throwing in the towel`? "
We like to chat on here 1st if we feel a connection then we will exchange numbers also gives us a feel if the couple or f are real as had a few who said a couple but only male would try chat on whatsapp and deleted their number |
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"Total bullshit.we're in a modern world and technology has developed.You can block unwanted calls and numbers not stored in your contact list.it doesn't matter who's got your number as you can still gain control easily .Persistent calls becomes harassment simple .
100%..... some of the posters act like technology is a bad thing....."
"Technology is a bad thing" good to know that only WhatsApp and SMS count as technology and not apps like kik that protect people's privacy |
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"Total bullshit.we're in a modern world and technology has developed.You can block unwanted calls and numbers not stored in your contact list.it doesn't matter who's got your number as you can still gain control easily .Persistent calls becomes harassment simple . "
Thank you for explaining that we live in a modern world and about the advancements in technology..
For some people phone numbers are associated to other accounts, social media, LinkedIn etc. So even if you block someone, they can find other accounts to contact you. Even if that wasn't the case, if someone feels uncomfortable sharing their phone number, because they're extra cautious, perhaps because of the nature of their job or perhaps they come from a conservative family and are afraid news of their "hobbies" might get out, then just respect that. If the problem is that you want to talk to them on video, you can use other applications such as zoom, Skype etc. As you so kindly pointed out, technology has developed.
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"Total bullshit.we're in a modern world and technology has developed.You can block unwanted calls and numbers not stored in your contact list.it doesn't matter who's got your number as you can still gain control easily .Persistent calls becomes harassment simple .
100%..... some of the posters act like technology is a bad thing.....
"Technology is a bad thing" good to know that only WhatsApp and SMS count as technology and not apps like kik that protect people's privacy "
My point , that has totally gone over your head is that people act like they are planning a criminal act... when in fact they are looking to meet someone for a social that might lead to sex.......
I always have a phone/FaceTime conversation with someone before I meet them... that way I don’t waste my time or theirs.... But hey if people don’t want to use the technology available to them ... that’s their right... |
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I have a 'naughty number' thats only used for this sort of thing. I value my privacy and vet calls from numbers not saved in the phone book of my main number. With a separate number that I'm happy to give out because its not used for anything else I don't care what spam calls or texts I get on it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I been chatting to a guy for nearly a year on kik... we exchanged kik usernames on FAB... I asked if I could have his number to see if we could have a proper chat or webcam chat... he said "it's too soon for that".
How long would you wait before `throwing in the towel`? "
I would say what a silly guy. xx |
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"I been chatting to a guy for nearly a year on kik... we exchanged kik usernames on FAB... I asked if I could have his number to see if we could have a proper chat or webcam chat... he said "it's too soon for that".
How long would you wait before `throwing in the towel`? "
A year??? Something suspicious there if after that long he’s resistant. |
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"I been chatting to a guy for nearly a year on kik... we exchanged kik usernames on FAB... I asked if I could have his number to see if we could have a proper chat or webcam chat... he said "it's too soon for that".
How long would you wait before `throwing in the towel`? "
Now, that’s how I’d wait if it’s been over a year!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" This site must encourage cheaters to join. "
Ya think?
People lie about their age, body and sexuality. Relationship status is just another one on that list. |
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"oh this situation has been sorted and i know what to look out for next time. Seems alot of married men or men with girlfriends on here. This site must encourage cheaters to join. "
Some members don't understand what swinging is.
Hence the cheating, lying about body shape, age etc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dunno if this makes me out of step, but I prefer to chat first on here, exchange face pics, and/or maybe on kik. Any tingling of my spider senses and I ask for a specific pic, with every expectation of the same being asked of me.
Only if a meet is arranged and going ahead imminently would I consider giving out my number. I've had to change numbers once already due to a nutjob, it's not worth the hassle and grief. In my simple world I expect to chat, arrange a social and then turn up. I'll take the hit now and again and get caught out by a timewaster, all part of lifes rich tapestry |
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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago
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"oh this situation has been sorted and i know what to look out for next time. Seems alot of married men or men with girlfriends on here. This site must encourage cheaters to join. "
You'll find cheaters on multiple platforms not just here. You'll find cheaters pre date this site even the Internet |
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By *hrissieTV/TS
over a year ago
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I have a dual sim phone. My main number is for friends and family work etc. The 2and sim is a pay as you go and I treat it like a burner. If I get hassle from anyone. I swap it out for another one and throw that one away. Keeps things simple |
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"I been chatting to a guy for nearly a year on kik... we exchanged kik usernames on FAB... I asked if I could have his number to see if we could have a proper chat or webcam chat... he said "it's too soon for that".
How long would you wait before `throwing in the towel`? "
yep sounds married to me |
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"I been chatting to a guy for nearly a year on kik... we exchanged kik usernames on FAB... I asked if I could have his number to see if we could have a proper chat or webcam chat... he said "it's too soon for that".
How long would you wait before `throwing in the towel`? yep sounds married to me"
well in a serious relationship |
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Throw the towel in ....If he uses kik there’s a chance he 12 it’s a kids app
