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Hi everyone. We are looking for some advice after getting a few messages saying that we seem too picky in our profile text yet too easy/slutty because of the type and amount of verifications we have even tho not a lot are from sexual meets. We are struggling to find what appeals and are feeling a bit deflated to be honest.
Be honest with us if something is wrong. It's the only way we will k ow what people like about us and what we might need to change |
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"I am a bit puzzled by the results of the BDSM test. How can you both have exactly the same results ? When you say you can accommodate from February do you mean next year or last year ?"
We did the test together. And the house is almost ready. We were met to change that but builders let us down, then c19 hit and we totally forgot to take it off. Feb is looking like when the house might actually be finished tho lol. We can accommodate now tho |
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I don't think there's anything wrong with your profile. It seems honest and friendly.
There's quite a lot to read, which isn't necessarily a bad thing but some people probably won't take the time to read it all.
Not sure that the bdsm test results are really necessary.
K |
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"I don't think there's anything wrong with your profile. It seems honest and friendly.
There's quite a lot to read, which isn't necessarily a bad thing but some people probably won't take the time to read it all.
Not sure that the bdsm test results are really necessary.
K "
Thanks for that. We put the results up because the main club we go to is a kink heavy club even though we are very vanilla . Did it so the people there could know us a little better  |
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"You say you can accommodate and then the text says you can't. One of the two needs amending !
I agree with another poster that the BDSM test is a bit pointless and would be better removed "
Thank you all. Have made the changes advised. |
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Overall I think it is fine.
Lots of information about what you are looking for and can offer.
There are just little things I am not keen on.
I don't think that the paragraph about age us necessary as you already have age boundaries and dislike the description of hairy men as gorillas.
The request to quote words and phrases in a message bugs me a bit and can put me off. If they have read the profile and can construct a good message to show that, it is unnecessary.
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"Why do you think it is a good idea for people to message you yummi yummi ?"
It's because Rhi likes watching manga and one of the characters like saying it a lot and it's just 2 random words. Why? What did you think it ment and why's it a problem? I understood the other things you mentioned but not this |
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"Overall I think it is fine.
Lots of information about what you are looking for and can offer.
There are just little things I am not keen on.
I don't think that the paragraph about age us necessary as you already have age boundaries and dislike the description of hairy men as gorillas.
The request to quote words and phrases in a message bugs me a bit and can put me off. If they have read the profile and can construct a good message to show that, it is unnecessary.
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AHH now that makes sense . Thank you. Just thought it would stop the one who obviously didn't read it from getting mixed up with the genuine people who are interested in us and not just our pictures
Agreed about the gorrila phrasing. It could be offensive so will be removed
The age section was added because even though we have set our age preferences we still get the majority of the people who message us being considerably outside this limits and thought adding it would dissuade some. It's not really worked. |
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"You are looking for a very feminine pre op T girl which will be really difficult to find and then you also expect her to message yummi yummi. Seems a bit of an unnecessary hurdle to me. "
See your point on the word choice. We can be a bit dense at times.
We know it's a really long shot that we can find what rhiannons looking for but it is her fantasy and I'm happy to try to help her find everything good in life. We have made some amazing TV friends but for rhi it's just not the same and they have been amazingly understanding and supportive and actually some of the most beautiful people I have ever met. With huge hearts and the loving nature to be so non judgemental and supportive of others. |
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By *andR510Couple
over a year ago
St Neots/Wisbech |
From our perspective it reads as if its been written by a male and very little input from the female.
When you use use 'I and me, she and her it's kind of a one sided biography.
Other than that its fairly sound. |
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"From our perspective it reads as if its been written by a male and very little input from the female.
When you use use 'I and me, she and her it's kind of a one sided biography.
Other than that its fairly sound. "
Rhiannon prefers to talk to people face to face. She rarely even sends texts. But is really friendly in person. We wrote the profile together but I(Jason) am the one that's usually online. . Thanks for the feedback tho |
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"You will never appeal to all and you probably should not aim to.
If you are getting the meets you want then I would say why change what is working for you? "
Thanks guys. Really nice comment.
We just want to make sure that we as a couple come across. Until I started being more active on the forum's we didn't get much response or interest. It's picking up now though and we were both paranoid that our profile wasn't good enough |
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"The horror movie pic was a tad off putting. What’s that about?  "
The zombie pic? That was one rhi said showed off my quirky, geeky side. Lol. It's her face pic of me. Make it a little easier to see why she married me if she thinks I look better as an undead ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Who cares if it’s too picky?
Oh yeah, those whom it would exclude I guess, who of course would be vocal about it given half a sense of entitlement...
Your profile, your rules.
I don’t think you should ever compromise what your looking for, unless your looking for quantity over quality? |
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"Who cares if it’s too picky?
Oh yeah, those whom it would exclude I guess, who of course would be vocal about it given half a sense of entitlement...
Your profile, your rules.
I don’t think you should ever compromise what your looking for, unless your looking for quantity over quality? "
Thank you for that
We try to talk to everyone who messages even if they are not what we are looking for. Sometimes it's a good idea to reach out as preferences change over time. We understand that and like to try to be nice. We do miss out on people but try to reply as often as we can |
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Guys you think as a couple its hard to find what you want guys find it extremely hard. My point is as follows no matter what your on here as or looking for your profile will never suit everyone, the best you can do is ask people you meet or talk to on here what they liked and disliked on your profile. Atleast that way you can fine tune to the kind of people you want to attract i think this applies in every case of this profile not fullfilling criteria |
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By *_MariusMan
over a year ago
Currently Faraway |
From beginning to end, there is honestly nothing "too fussy" or "picky" in how you come across in your profile description. If somebody has told you that about THIS profile description, I don't know what they were trying to achieve...Just a real pity you've blocked single males  |
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By *EloveMan
over a year ago
Pool of Life |
"Hi everyone. We are looking for some advice after getting a few messages saying that we seem too picky in our profile text yet too easy/slutty because of the type and amount of verifications we have even tho not a lot are from sexual meets. We are struggling to find what appeals and are feeling a bit deflated to be honest.
Be honest with us if something is wrong. It's the only way we will k ow what people like about us and what we might need to change"
Nothing wrong- ignore negative text and stay genuine. |
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"Overall I think it is fine.
Lots of information about what you are looking for and can offer.
There are just little things I am not keen on.
I don't think that the paragraph about age us necessary as you already have age boundaries and dislike the description of hairy men as gorillas.
The request to quote words and phrases in a message bugs me a bit and can put me off. If they have read the profile and can construct a good message to show that, it is unnecessary.
AHH now that makes sense . Thank you. Just thought it would stop the one who obviously didn't read it from getting mixed up with the genuine people who are interested in us and not just our pictures
Agreed about the gorrila phrasing. It could be offensive so will be removed
The age section was added because even though we have set our age preferences we still get the majority of the people who message us being considerably outside this limits and thought adding it would dissuade some. It's not really worked. "
Have just read the current version of your profile text and it reads well to me.
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