hi all, new ish to the scene and enjoying it but here's the thing. Mr and Mrs have only ever slept together as met as teens. Neither have had sex with anyone else from the opposite sex, although f has been with women. Obviously we have had lots of sex and know what we are doing.
We both want to try full swapping but also nervous as its like loosing our virginities again and will only be our second for each of us, so in our heads we have the step of first time full swap and also first time with another person ever. We also dont want to disappoint if we decide not to or if only one of us wants to and then the other person in the couple misses out as such. It feels like if we had been with other partners previously it would be easier to take this step but that may just be us. Anyone else been in this position or similar and how did they approach it the first time. We have talked loads about it so are comfy in theory but it would be good to hear from others. |
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Our advice is don't worry about disappointing anyone. Have fun for yourselves. Make sure there is a mutual connection and attraction so neither of you take one for the team. Set your rules and stick to them and make sure that if with of you feel off about anything that is happening that everything stops, even if it's just to have a breather and re-evaluate . Also after make some time for just you 2 to reconnect. Your relationship is the most importan thing to protect and platings not worth any bad feeling. It might be the eye-opener it was for us and bring you both even closer together. And you will learn new things that you can share with eachother. If you ever need advice feel free to message us and we will help with any advice we can. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hi guys, we’re newbies too, never done the full swap yet either, bit of soft playing and oral.
Have you guy visited a club?? It’s great to just go together to get a feel for things (literally if you want to) our first venture into the lifestyle was a club visit, been a few times now, we find there’s no pressure to do anything, an the bonus is if you don’t want to play with others, you have each other or can watch/be watched.
Do what’s right for you and comfortable, and I don’t think I need to say it cos you seem to be on it, but honesty and communication with each other is the most important thing.
Good luck. |
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Thanks all for the replies and private messages. It seems we are on the right track with open and honest conversations, not just with us but with our eventual friends. The pace thing is a good shout. Sometimes it may just be that sense check that what we are thinking is right. Thanks all. Will let you knownhow it goes when we can finally do it x |
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By *host63Man
over a year ago
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I think you both need to be sure 100% that this is what you want.
The scene is wonderful and you van meet some amazing people.
But there are pitfalls too.
Discuss how you woukd both feel seeing each other having sex and if you woukd be jealous is the main one.
But hood luck and wish you all the best whatever you decide |
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"Go at your own pace , try soft swap and let things progress as and when you both want it too , "
I would have said the same thing. If you want to try a meet with just orally pleasing or taking from the couple. There's no rush we have been swinging for years now but it took a while to get to full swap (prob nearly 9months) don't rush it will be worth it for your relationship in the end.... and the biggest thing is too keep talking and being honest with each other x
Ps find yourselves a non pushy couple too u can explore with who are respectful of your debts, they ARE normal x |
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