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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

Hey guys been on here just over a year and so far next to no one has shown interest or replied to messages. Would appreciate some advice on improving my profile and recommendations for first messages. Appreciate all the help I can get

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By *ankie303Woman  over a year ago

Weirdsville South Coast Dorset

Your profile header says your an "experienced dom", yet like way to many other profiles you have zero evidence of anything of the sort on your profile. Exactly what makes you an experienced dom?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Fair point by Wankie and well put.

I’d scrub your profile and start again with wording and pictures.

Best of luck.

T

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"Your profile header says your an "experienced dom", yet like way to many other profiles you have zero evidence of anything of the sort on your profile. Exactly what makes you an experienced dom?"

Thanks i appreciate the feedback. I added a bit about it in my description but I'll be adding more when I have time

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"Fair point by Wankie and well put.

I’d scrub your profile and start again with wording and pictures.

Best of luck.

T"

I've considered starting new but may just try rewrite my entire profile but its hard coming up with something coherent and catching. I'll rewrite it when I get some free time today. And thank you for the feedback

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By *addyBabygirl2020Couple  over a year ago

norwich


"Your profile header says your an "experienced dom", yet like way to many other profiles you have zero evidence of anything of the sort on your profile. Exactly what makes you an experienced dom?"

I am guessing the profile has been changed since the message above but it's still totally unconvincing.

It now says A Dom, then says you have experience of being a a dom but might be shy!

Being a convincing Dom is all about state of mind, your whole way of holding yourself needs to be radiating confidence and control over the situation.

When you talk there should be no doubt in your Subs mind that you are the boss.

If you are not a natural dominate then in my honest opinion you need to experience what it means to be a sub.

If BDSM is your kink but you are inexperienced not naturally dominate, visit a professional dom and learn as a sub.

If you understand the sub/dom relationship it will shine through in your writing.

Most guys on here claim to be dom, and yes maybe they are the Alpha dom type, but very few will actually understand Sub/dom on a deeper BDSM level.

Also your photos are awful, show us nothing but your cheap River Island boxer and dull bed sheets, at least make an effort with some good underwear and a nice throw to lie on.

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By *ankie303Woman  over a year ago

Weirdsville South Coast Dorset


"Your profile header says your an "experienced dom", yet like way to many other profiles you have zero evidence of anything of the sort on your profile. Exactly what makes you an experienced dom?

I am guessing the profile has been changed since the message above but it's still totally unconvincing.

It now says A Dom, then says you have experience of being a a dom but might be shy!

Being a convincing Dom is all about state of mind, your whole way of holding yourself needs to be radiating confidence and control over the situation.

When you talk there should be no doubt in your Subs mind that you are the boss.

If you are not a natural dominate then in my honest opinion you need to experience what it means to be a sub.

If BDSM is your kink but you are inexperienced not naturally dominate, visit a professional dom and learn as a sub.

If you understand the sub/dom relationship it will shine through in your writing.

Most guys on here claim to be dom, and yes maybe they are the Alpha dom type, but very few will actually understand Sub/dom on a deeper BDSM level.

Also your photos are awful, show us nothing but your cheap River Island boxer and dull bed sheets, at least make an effort with some good underwear and a nice throw to lie on. "

^ This

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By *nnocentimesMan  over a year ago

over there by that tree

After a year with no verification at all I would bin your account and start a fresh one.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Your profile header says your an "experienced dom", yet like way to many other profiles you have zero evidence of anything of the sort on your profile. Exactly what makes you an experienced dom?

I am guessing the profile has been changed since the message above but it's still totally unconvincing.

It now says A Dom, then says you have experience of being a a dom but might be shy!

Being a convincing Dom is all about state of mind, your whole way of holding yourself needs to be radiating confidence and control over the situation.

When you talk there should be no doubt in your Subs mind that you are the boss.

If you are not a natural dominate then in my honest opinion you need to experience what it means to be a sub.

If BDSM is your kink but you are inexperienced not naturally dominate, visit a professional dom and learn as a sub.

If you understand the sub/dom relationship it will shine through in your writing.

Most guys on here claim to be dom, and yes maybe they are the Alpha dom type, but very few will actually understand Sub/dom on a deeper BDSM level.

Also your photos are awful, show us nothing but your cheap River Island boxer and dull bed sheets, at least make an effort with some good underwear and a nice throw to lie on. "

As a sub I find nothing dom about your profile especially your photos. 2 years with one woman does not experienced make.

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By *aver999Couple  over a year ago

East Mids


"Hey guys been on here just over a year and so far next to no one has shown interest or replied to messages. Would appreciate some advice on improving my profile and recommendations for first messages. Appreciate all the help I can get "

I wouldn't bother most people don't read them. It's just a fact that as a single guy it's going to be tough, even our polite and friendly messages get deleted. Some on here are so picky its hard to figure out who would get though the screening to talk to them!

We prefer to chat to find out if we are compatible, and end up talking to people that we would not necessary do so by their profile.

Your BDSM line may be narrowing your audience (unless that's the group you are targeting). As a single guy I would keep it broad, to appeal to as many as possible.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

You profile is full of typing errors, you use words like seflie and pics, having text like "get to the good stuff" It just makes you look very immature so anyone looking at your age will go no-where near you.

The text is contradictory, it says new to swinging but you have been on here over a year? That just show to me you put in zero effort to keep your profile up to date.

As said, your pics are dull and boring and I could put I am a heart surgeon on my profile but with no back up who is going to believe that?

Wipe your text, drop the cliches and start again.

Say you are of the more dominant type in the bedroom not that you are a Dom. You are not a Dom without a sub

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