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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We love ladies joining us and are fortunate enough to have had 3 ffm's. We all play together and always safely.
The experiences we have had this far have been great but I'd love Jack to fuck me and a girl alternately, where by me and the girl are on top of each other and Jack puts his cock on me and then in her.
Even with a condom on, it can't be safe to use the same condom for both ladies. This means changing in-between, which we all know interrupts the flow!!
What are people's thoughts on this? Is it just best for all to be tested before hand and go bareback?
Bella x |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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The closest we got was to start with using the condom on our friend & then whip it off & move to H. Much quicker to pull a condom off that put one on 
Swapping back & forth only really works bareback or wearing the condom for both which limits its protection to the guy really, isn’t happening with us for a one off or swinger.
We did have an exclusive friend (more Poly than swing) & after all getting to know each other & developing trust etc. we stopped using condoms, but we started again when she was seeing others which she was fine with.
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"We love ladies joining us and are fortunate enough to have had 3 ffm's. We all play together and always safely.
The experiences we have had this far have been great but I'd love Jack to fuck me and a girl alternately, where by me and the girl are on top of each other and Jack puts his cock on me and then in her.
Even with a condom on, it can't be safe to use the same condom for both ladies. This means changing in-between, which we all know interrupts the flow!!
What are people's thoughts on this? Is it just best for all to be tested before hand and go bareback?
Bella x"
Depends how important safe sex is to you I suppose! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah it does make things tricky. Tbh you have to go bareback for things to flow seamlessly. If you do want safety and protection then you'll have to stop and switch. Xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I think it's down to building a relationship a woman and making it more of a one off. As ever, it's probably all about talking these things through.
At the end of the day, I'm happy to see Jack fuck other women, doesn't have to be a porn style extravaganza! I suppose we all have things we'd love to do but the devil, as ever, is in the detail  |
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We were thinking the exact same as we really want to try that position. We decided to buy some femidoms, I think a pack of 3 was about £10. We haven't had the opportunity to try it yet, but aside from femidoms / bareback, I don't think there's any other options |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We were thinking the exact same as we really want to try that position. We decided to buy some femidoms, I think a pack of 3 was about £10. We haven't had the opportunity to try it yet, but aside from femidoms / bareback, I don't think there's any other options "
Not thought of that, could work!! |
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"dont no if you can still get them but what about femidoms least you can go bareback with both women if shes wearing one"
‘She’ might not want to wear one! I would prefer condom switch. It’s not difficult. |
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Pre rip the packs as that can be a pain with lubed fingers.
Condom off no more than a couple of seconds, off and back on in less than 10 seconds and if the two girls aren't entertaining each other in those 10 seconds I would be surprised.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Pre rip the packs as that can be a pain with lubed fingers.
Condom off no more than a couple of seconds, off and back on in less than 10 seconds and if the two girls aren't entertaining each other in those 10 seconds I would be surprised.
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An experienced male swinger knows to pre rip a few condoms packs if he will be fucking back and forth and a few women.
It takes 1 second to remove a Condom and only a few seconds really to put put another on and if you can multi-task you can put the new one on whilst everyone is manoeuvring into the new positions tbh x
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"I think tested is the way forward. That's why it needs to be more than just a one off thing, there has to be chemistry, respect and trust."
You can’t expect a woman to go along with your ideas re testing and bareback! I would not. |
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"I think tested is the way forward. That's why it needs to be more than just a one off thing, there has to be chemistry, respect and trust.
You can’t expect a woman to go along with your ideas re testing and bareback! I would not. "
That is why these things are discussed beforehand. I would not nor ever have expected somebody to do something they are uncomfortable with. That's why communication is key. |
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"I think tested is the way forward. That's why it needs to be more than just a one off thing, there has to be chemistry, respect and trust.
You can’t expect a woman to go along with your ideas re testing and bareback! I would not.
That is why these things are discussed beforehand. I would not nor ever have expected somebody to do something they are uncomfortable with. That's why communication is key."
Goodness all for the sake of not changing a condom! My fwb and I had a FFM and it wasn’t an issue at all because he was very quick at changing it. I really don’t see a problem. Testing and bareback is a big commitment just because a man doesn’t want to change condoms. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If u find someone u trust and get to know better then I don't see the issue with bareback. I bareback with regulars I trust. An no one is getting pregnant unless your silly little boy who can't pull out an pre cum isnt cum. |
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"If u find someone u trust and get to know better then I don't see the issue with bareback. I bareback with regulars I trust. An no one is getting pregnant unless your silly little boy who can't pull out an pre cum isnt cum. "
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"An no one is getting pregnant unless your silly little boy who can't pull out an pre cum isnt cum.
Google it. A woman has a 20% chance of getting pregnant using the withdrawal method. "
I have looked it up before. There is no cum in pre cum. It's a fluid that prepared the tube for the cum. The only cum found in pre cum is old cum still left in tube from last ejaculation which isn't getting anyone pregnant. |
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"An no one is getting pregnant unless your silly little boy who can't pull out an pre cum isnt cum.
Google it. A woman has a 20% chance of getting pregnant using the withdrawal method.
I have looked it up before. There is no cum in pre cum. It's a fluid that prepared the tube for the cum. The only cum found in pre cum is old cum still left in tube from last ejaculation which isn't getting anyone pregnant. "
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"An no one is getting pregnant unless your silly little boy who can't pull out an pre cum isnt cum.
Google it. A woman has a 20% chance of getting pregnant using the withdrawal method.
I have looked it up before. There is no cum in pre cum. It's a fluid that prepared the tube for the cum. The only cum found in pre cum is old cum still left in tube from last ejaculation which isn't getting anyone pregnant. "
Not sure where you looked this up but you are wrong and yes it’s possible to get a woman pregnant from pre cum, it’s slim but it can still happen. |
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"An no one is getting pregnant unless your silly little boy who can't pull out an pre cum isnt cum.
Google it. A woman has a 20% chance of getting pregnant using the withdrawal method.
I have looked it up before. There is no cum in pre cum. It's a fluid that prepared the tube for the cum. The only cum found in pre cum is old cum still left in tube from last ejaculation which isn't getting anyone pregnant.
fab forum .....just keeps on giving."
heavens above I'm really re thinking the whole "swallow or spit" having read the last statement. ...lol |
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Well we’ve been lucky to have a few FFM and loved them. I suppose with us we don’t use condoms between ourselves as we’re married and get regular tests. But condoms are used when Playing with others. It’s all part of play and never interrupts the flow or play. If you’re gonna have fun you just include the condoms. Mr J Loves going from one to another and wouldn't dream of not being protected. I can’t see the issue |
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"An no one is getting pregnant unless your silly little boy who can't pull out an pre cum isnt cum.
Google it. A woman has a 20% chance of getting pregnant using the withdrawal method.
I have looked it up before. There is no cum in pre cum. It's a fluid that prepared the tube for the cum. The only cum found in pre cum is old cum still left in tube from last ejaculation which isn't getting anyone pregnant.
Not sure where you looked this up but you are wrong and yes it’s possible to get a woman pregnant from pre cum, it’s slim but it can still happen. "
It's like a 3% chance an that's only if the guy had cum recently then went again an some of that was left in tube before. But urine clears that and most men I know need to piss after they cum so doubtful any would be in there. These things are done in test enviroments. In reality the guy is having any previous cum left in the tube. |
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"An no one is getting pregnant unless your silly little boy who can't pull out an pre cum isnt cum.
Google it. A woman has a 20% chance of getting pregnant using the withdrawal method.
I have looked it up before. There is no cum in pre cum. It's a fluid that prepared the tube for the cum. The only cum found in pre cum is old cum still left in tube from last ejaculation which isn't getting anyone pregnant.
Not sure where you looked this up but you are wrong and yes it’s possible to get a woman pregnant from pre cum, it’s slim but it can still happen.
It's like a 3% chance an that's only if the guy had cum recently then went again an some of that was left in tube before. But urine clears that and most men I know need to piss after they cum so doubtful any would be in there. These things are done in test enviroments. In reality the guy is having any previous cum left in the tube. "
It’s a 20% chance my dear, not 3% but if that’s what your brain believes then it’s still a chance of you producing a baby, so now you’ve changed from 0% to 3% but it’s risky doing bareback. I really don’t understand anyone doing bareback with a non regular partner and even with a regular partner how do we know what they are doing with others? |
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"An no one is getting pregnant unless your silly little boy who can't pull out an pre cum isnt cum.
Google it. A woman has a 20% chance of getting pregnant using the withdrawal method.
I have looked it up before. There is no cum in pre cum. It's a fluid that prepared the tube for the cum. The only cum found in pre cum is old cum still left in tube from last ejaculation which isn't getting anyone pregnant.
Not sure where you looked this up but you are wrong and yes it’s possible to get a woman pregnant from pre cum, it’s slim but it can still happen.
It's like a 3% chance an that's only if the guy had cum recently then went again an some of that was left in tube before. But urine clears that and most men I know need to piss after they cum so doubtful any would be in there. These things are done in test enviroments. In reality the guy is having any previous cum left in the tube.
It’s a 20% chance my dear, not 3% but if that’s what your brain believes then it’s still a chance of you producing a baby, so now you’ve changed from 0% to 3% but it’s risky doing bareback. I really don’t understand anyone doing bareback with a non regular partner and even with a regular partner how do we know what they are doing with others? "
Actual medical studies. Not some blog by a random with an opinion. Anyway you think what u want it make no difference to my life I was just passing on my thought to the op. Not you. |
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"An no one is getting pregnant unless your silly little boy who can't pull out an pre cum isnt cum.
Google it. A woman has a 20% chance of getting pregnant using the withdrawal method.
I have looked it up before. There is no cum in pre cum. It's a fluid that prepared the tube for the cum. The only cum found in pre cum is old cum still left in tube from last ejaculation which isn't getting anyone pregnant.
Not sure where you looked this up but you are wrong and yes it’s possible to get a woman pregnant from pre cum, it’s slim but it can still happen.
It's like a 3% chance an that's only if the guy had cum recently then went again an some of that was left in tube before. But urine clears that and most men I know need to piss after they cum so doubtful any would be in there. These things are done in test enviroments. In reality the guy is having any previous cum left in the tube.
It’s a 20% chance my dear, not 3% but if that’s what your brain believes then it’s still a chance of you producing a baby, so now you’ve changed from 0% to 3% but it’s risky doing bareback. I really don’t understand anyone doing bareback with a non regular partner and even with a regular partner how do we know what they are doing with others?
Actual medical studies. Not some blog by a random with an opinion. Anyway you think what u want it make no difference to my life I was just passing on my thought to the op. Not you. "
Excuse me! I’m entitled to contribute to this thread. You’ve commented on the thread that pre cum does not make a woman pregnant but there is a slim chance it does. It will certainly make a difference to your life my dear if you get a woman pregnant with your precious pre cum and produce another human. Goodness - thank you Fab for filters  |
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"An no one is getting pregnant unless your silly little boy who can't pull out an pre cum isnt cum.
Google it. A woman has a 20% chance of getting pregnant using the withdrawal method.
I have looked it up before. There is no cum in pre cum. It's a fluid that prepared the tube for the cum. The only cum found in pre cum is old cum still left in tube from last ejaculation which isn't getting anyone pregnant.
Not sure where you looked this up but you are wrong and yes it’s possible to get a woman pregnant from pre cum, it’s slim but it can still happen.
It's like a 3% chance an that's only if the guy had cum recently then went again an some of that was left in tube before. But urine clears that and most men I know need to piss after they cum so doubtful any would be in there. These things are done in test enviroments. In reality the guy is having any previous cum left in the tube.
It’s a 20% chance my dear, not 3% but if that’s what your brain believes then it’s still a chance of you producing a baby, so now you’ve changed from 0% to 3% but it’s risky doing bareback. I really don’t understand anyone doing bareback with a non regular partner and even with a regular partner how do we know what they are doing with others?
Actual medical studies. Not some blog by a random with an opinion. Anyway you think what u want it make no difference to my life I was just passing on my thought to the op. Not you. "
I wonder how many of the ladies on the site are considering a meet with this charmer |
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I read some of the stuff on here and just wonder what planet people are on about potential risk ... surely you want as low a risk of everything as possible?! |
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"I think tested is the way forward. That's why it needs to be more than just a one off thing, there has to be chemistry, respect and trust.
You can’t expect a woman to go along with your ideas re testing and bareback! I would not.
That is why these things are discussed beforehand. I would not nor ever have expected somebody to do something they are uncomfortable with. That's why communication is key.
Goodness all for the sake of not changing a condom! My fwb and I had a FFM and it wasn’t an issue at all because he was very quick at changing it. I really don’t see a problem. Testing and bareback is a big commitment just because a man doesn’t want to change condoms. "
You seen to have a massive chip on your shoulder about something. Stop being so judgemental. Adults are quite capable of discussing matters and working things out. Some people get tested and some use condoms. Stop talking imposing your own generalisations on everybody else. Nobody has insulted you on this thread you just seem to have taking offence to the idea of adults discussing different ways of doing things. Lose the chip on your shoulder. |
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"I read some of the stuff on here and just wonder what planet people are on about potential risk ... surely you want as low a risk of everything as possible?! "
unfortunately we cant do much about essex |
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"I read some of the stuff on here and just wonder what planet people are on about potential risk ... surely you want as low a risk of everything as possible?!
unfortunately we cant do much about essex"
We are in Essex. Problem with Essex?
As crazy as it seems, adults can decide to get tested and have sex. They can also use condoms. We are not trying to push or bully anybody into anything. Hence why we said about building a respectful and trusting relationship with a lady and discussing the options. |
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"I think tested is the way forward. That's why it needs to be more than just a one off thing, there has to be chemistry, respect and trust.
You can’t expect a woman to go along with your ideas re testing and bareback! I would not.
That is why these things are discussed beforehand. I would not nor ever have expected somebody to do something they are uncomfortable with. That's why communication is key.
Goodness all for the sake of not changing a condom! My fwb and I had a FFM and it wasn’t an issue at all because he was very quick at changing it. I really don’t see a problem. Testing and bareback is a big commitment just because a man doesn’t want to change condoms.
You seen to have a massive chip on your shoulder about something. Stop being so judgemental. Adults are quite capable of discussing matters and working things out. Some people get tested and some use condoms. Stop talking imposing your own generalisations on everybody else. Nobody has insulted you on this thread you just seem to have taking offence to the idea of adults discussing different ways of doing things. Lose the chip on your shoulder."
It’s a thread and I’m entitled to give an opinion as others are. No idea where you get the ‘chip on the shoulder’ issue, it’s baffling. |
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"I read some of the stuff on here and just wonder what planet people are on about potential risk ... surely you want as low a risk of everything as possible?!
unfortunately we cant do much about essex
We are in Essex. Problem with Essex?
As crazy as it seems, adults can decide to get tested and have sex. They can also use condoms. We are not trying to push or bully anybody into anything. Hence why we said about building a respectful and trusting relationship with a lady and discussing the options. "
no problem with the county of essex |
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"I think tested is the way forward. That's why it needs to be more than just a one off thing, there has to be chemistry, respect and trust.
You can’t expect a woman to go along with your ideas re testing and bareback! I would not.
That is why these things are discussed beforehand. I would not nor ever have expected somebody to do something they are uncomfortable with. That's why communication is key.
Goodness all for the sake of not changing a condom! My fwb and I had a FFM and it wasn’t an issue at all because he was very quick at changing it. I really don’t see a problem. Testing and bareback is a big commitment just because a man doesn’t want to change condoms.
You seen to have a massive chip on your shoulder about something. Stop being so judgemental. Adults are quite capable of discussing matters and working things out. Some people get tested and some use condoms. Stop talking imposing your own generalisations on everybody else. Nobody has insulted you on this thread you just seem to have taking offence to the idea of adults discussing different ways of doing things. Lose the chip on your shoulder.
It’s a thread and I’m entitled to give an opinion as others are. No idea where you get the ‘chip on the shoulder’ issue, it’s baffling. "
Look, nobody has said about dragging anybody to get tested or putting pressure on anybody. We were just exploring the issue.
You seem to have this idea that we are trying to put pressure on somebody to bareback, which, is quite obviously not true. Some people do actually do it after being tested, and some use condoms. What consenting adults do is up to them. |
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"I think tested is the way forward. That's why it needs to be more than just a one off thing, there has to be chemistry, respect and trust.
You can’t expect a woman to go along with your ideas re testing and bareback! I would not.
That is why these things are discussed beforehand. I would not nor ever have expected somebody to do something they are uncomfortable with. That's why communication is key.
Goodness all for the sake of not changing a condom! My fwb and I had a FFM and it wasn’t an issue at all because he was very quick at changing it. I really don’t see a problem. Testing and bareback is a big commitment just because a man doesn’t want to change condoms.
You seen to have a massive chip on your shoulder about something. Stop being so judgemental. Adults are quite capable of discussing matters and working things out. Some people get tested and some use condoms. Stop talking imposing your own generalisations on everybody else. Nobody has insulted you on this thread you just seem to have taking offence to the idea of adults discussing different ways of doing things. Lose the chip on your shoulder.
It’s a thread and I’m entitled to give an opinion as others are. No idea where you get the ‘chip on the shoulder’ issue, it’s baffling.
Look, nobody has said about dragging anybody to get tested or putting pressure on anybody. We were just exploring the issue.
You seem to have this idea that we are trying to put pressure on somebody to bareback, which, is quite obviously not true. Some people do actually do it after being tested, and some use condoms. What consenting adults do is up to them."
As I said above, I’m entitled to my opinion of this topic on this thread. It’s what the forums are about. You seem to be judgemental towards me because I’ve given my opinion. This is nit picking and dare I say it....yes I dare.....’bullying’  |
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"I think tested is the way forward. That's why it needs to be more than just a one off thing, there has to be chemistry, respect and trust.
You can’t expect a woman to go along with your ideas re testing and bareback! I would not.
That is why these things are discussed beforehand. I would not nor ever have expected somebody to do something they are uncomfortable with. That's why communication is key.
Goodness all for the sake of not changing a condom! My fwb and I had a FFM and it wasn’t an issue at all because he was very quick at changing it. I really don’t see a problem. Testing and bareback is a big commitment just because a man doesn’t want to change condoms.
You seen to have a massive chip on your shoulder about something. Stop being so judgemental. Adults are quite capable of discussing matters and working things out. Some people get tested and some use condoms. Stop talking imposing your own generalisations on everybody else. Nobody has insulted you on this thread you just seem to have taking offence to the idea of adults discussing different ways of doing things. Lose the chip on your shoulder.
It’s a thread and I’m entitled to give an opinion as others are. No idea where you get the ‘chip on the shoulder’ issue, it’s baffling.
Look, nobody has said about dragging anybody to get tested or putting pressure on anybody. We were just exploring the issue.
You seem to have this idea that we are trying to put pressure on somebody to bareback, which, is quite obviously not true. Some people do actually do it after being tested, and some use condoms. What consenting adults do is up to them.
As I said above, I’m entitled to my opinion of this topic on this thread. It’s what the forums are about. You seem to be judgemental towards me because I’ve given my opinion. This is nit picking and dare I say it....yes I dare.....’bullying’ "
Well, thanks for your opinion and I will stop 'bullying' you.....good grief!! |
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In original post you say using same condom between ladies can’t be safe. However worth throwing in the mix that female to female risk of STIs is incredibly low, so it does give you third option to consider. So either change condoms between each female partner (the safest option) or keep same condom between females (low risk of STI and pregnancy) or test and bareback (potentially high risk pregnancy and low/med STI risk- both these things have other factors to consider, so even if you test negative today for a full STI screen you could still have received a false negative, plus only holds true if no one in the 3 is having additional sexual contacts after the test). Whatever you choose is certainly a full and frank discussion with all involved |
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"In original post you say using same condom between ladies can’t be safe. However worth throwing in the mix that female to female risk of STIs is incredibly low, so it does give you third option to consider. So either change condoms between each female partner (the safest option) or keep same condom between females (low risk of STI and pregnancy) or test and bareback (potentially high risk pregnancy and low/med STI risk- both these things have other factors to consider, so even if you test negative today for a full STI screen you could still have received a false negative, plus only holds true if no one in the 3 is having additional sexual contacts after the test). Whatever you choose is certainly a full and frank discussion with all involved "
Completely. I don't think we would go down the bareback route to be honest but it is an option but only if it was an arrangement that was more exclusive.
Thanks for the non judgemental and very informative reply. Now, I have to go off and 'bully' somebody by via the medium of adult discussion!  |
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"In original post you say using same condom between ladies can’t be safe. However worth throwing in the mix that female to female risk of STIs is incredibly low, so it does give you third option to consider. So either change condoms between each female partner (the safest option) or keep same condom between females (low risk of STI and pregnancy) or test and bareback (potentially high risk pregnancy and low/med STI risk- both these things have other factors to consider, so even if you test negative today for a full STI screen you could still have received a false negative, plus only holds true if no one in the 3 is having additional sexual contacts after the test). Whatever you choose is certainly a full and frank discussion with all involved
Completely. I don't think we would go down the bareback route to be honest but it is an option but only if it was an arrangement that was more exclusive.
Thanks for the non judgemental and very informative reply. Now, I have to go off and 'bully' somebody by via the medium of adult discussion! "
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"In original post you say using same condom between ladies can’t be safe. However worth throwing in the mix that female to female risk of STIs is incredibly low, so it does give you third option to consider. So either change condoms between each female partner (the safest option) or keep same condom between females (low risk of STI and pregnancy) or test and bareback (potentially high risk pregnancy and low/med STI risk- both these things have other factors to consider, so even if you test negative today for a full STI screen you could still have received a false negative, plus only holds true if no one in the 3 is having additional sexual contacts after the test). Whatever you choose is certainly a full and frank discussion with all involved
Completely. I don't think we would go down the bareback route to be honest but it is an option but only if it was an arrangement that was more exclusive.
Thanks for the non judgemental and very informative reply. Now, I have to go off and 'bully' somebody by via the medium of adult discussion! "
So let’s break it down.
Fella too lazy to change a condom going from woman to woman!
You expect exclusivity from a woman!
Wow and this on a ‘swinging’ site.
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"In original post you say using same condom between ladies can’t be safe. However worth throwing in the mix that female to female risk of STIs is incredibly low, so it does give you third option to consider. So either change condoms between each female partner (the safest option) or keep same condom between females (low risk of STI and pregnancy) or test and bareback (potentially high risk pregnancy and low/med STI risk- both these things have other factors to consider, so even if you test negative today for a full STI screen you could still have received a false negative, plus only holds true if no one in the 3 is having additional sexual contacts after the test). Whatever you choose is certainly a full and frank discussion with all involved
Completely. I don't think we would go down the bareback route to be honest but it is an option but only if it was an arrangement that was more exclusive.
Thanks for the non judgemental and very informative reply. Now, I have to go off and 'bully' somebody by via the medium of adult discussion!
So let’s break it down.
Fella too lazy to change a condom going from woman to woman!
You expect exclusivity from a woman!
Wow and this on a ‘swinging’ site.
It’s only my opinion remember which I’m entitled to. "
Actually, it's Bella here asking. So your opinion is based on utter twaddle. |
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"In original post you say using same condom between ladies can’t be safe. However worth throwing in the mix that female to female risk of STIs is incredibly low, so it does give you third option to consider. So either change condoms between each female partner (the safest option) or keep same condom between females (low risk of STI and pregnancy) or test and bareback (potentially high risk pregnancy and low/med STI risk- both these things have other factors to consider, so even if you test negative today for a full STI screen you could still have received a false negative, plus only holds true if no one in the 3 is having additional sexual contacts after the test). Whatever you choose is certainly a full and frank discussion with all involved
Completely. I don't think we would go down the bareback route to be honest but it is an option but only if it was an arrangement that was more exclusive.
Thanks for the non judgemental and very informative reply. Now, I have to go off and 'bully' somebody by via the medium of adult discussion!
So let’s break it down.
Fella too lazy to change a condom going from woman to woman!
You expect exclusivity from a woman!
Wow and this on a ‘swinging’ site.
It’s only my opinion remember which I’m entitled to.
Actually, it's Bella here asking. So your opinion is based on utter twaddle."
My opinion is based on reading your comments on this thread. |
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"Anyway, we all know your opinion which you rather boringly keep repeating. What we do is up to us. Thanks again"
So if that’s the case then perhaps don’t start a thread about it? Threads are about all opinions being voiced, not opinions only you like. If you don’t like what someone says you get annoyed which is not fun. I wish you a good evening....ENDS! |
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"In original post you say using same condom between ladies can’t be safe. However worth throwing in the mix that female to female risk of STIs is incredibly low, so it does give you third option to consider. So either change condoms between each female partner (the safest option) or keep same condom between females (low risk of STI and pregnancy) or test and bareback (potentially high risk pregnancy and low/med STI risk- both these things have other factors to consider, so even if you test negative today for a full STI screen you could still have received a false negative, plus only holds true if no one in the 3 is having additional sexual contacts after the test). Whatever you choose is certainly a full and frank discussion with all involved
Completely. I don't think we would go down the bareback route to be honest but it is an option but only if it was an arrangement that was more exclusive.
Thanks for the non judgemental and very informative reply. Now, I have to go off and 'bully' somebody by via the medium of adult discussion!
So let’s break it down.
Fella too lazy to change a condom going from woman to woman!
You expect exclusivity from a woman!
Wow and this on a ‘swinging’ site.
It’s only my opinion remember which I’m entitled to.
Actually, it's Bella here asking. So your opinion is based on utter twaddle.
My opinion is based on reading your comments on this thread. "
I asked the initial question out of curiosity as it’s something I want Jack to do to me and another women. He has no issue with changing condoms! It’s merely a question I was unsure of. You then came flying back saying he was too lazy to change condoms. Er! That’s not what I said did I. Kindly some people have given us some sensible answers and info to the question I asked. So stop being rude to me please.
Bella
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Right people on here are getting stupid an pathetic. There is always a risk. I mean I got an STD off one of my ex gfs. Condoms can split without you knowing. But most girls today are on some sort of means to prevent pregnancy. This is also something you would discuss with the people your playing with. You can get tests done to show your all safe. The fact is this situation in hand wouldn't be a random. I'm sure the op would be doing it with someone they both got to know an gained trust with an understanding so they would all make sure they were tested an using some sort of precaution against getting pregnant. Why are people responding with such dumb stuff. As if people have no idea what their doing or how to easily prevent stuff. Takes a week to get tested an the results. Takes 2 seconds to pop the pill. Yet some of you lot going on like bareback is going to make you grow 10 eyes an die from internal explosion. No one was speaking about bare back sex with some absolute random off the street. |
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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago
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"If u find someone u trust and get to know better then I don't see the issue with bareback. I bareback with regulars I trust. An no one is getting pregnant unless your silly little boy who can't pull out an pre cum isnt cum. "
FML I just sprayed coffee via my nose reading that from a so called adult. Brilliant  just pull out, no one gets pregnant oh my days! Please say your nothing to do with education |
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"We love ladies joining us and are fortunate enough to have had 3 ffm's. We all play together and always safely.
The experiences we have had this far have been great but I'd love Jack to fuck me and a girl alternately, where by me and the girl are on top of each other and Jack puts his cock on me and then in her.
Even with a condom on, it can't be safe to use the same condom for both ladies. This means changing in-between, which we all know interrupts the flow!!
What are people's thoughts on this? Is it just best for all to be tested before hand and go bareback?
Bella x"
There’s nothing to stop you all having clear results and just using one condom is there? And if you then go on to be regular friends, then that first time you play condom-free will add an extra dimension to your shared play  |
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"If u find someone u trust and get to know better then I don't see the issue with bareback. I bareback with regulars I trust. An no one is getting pregnant unless your silly little boy who can't pull out an pre cum isnt cum.
FML I just sprayed coffee via my nose reading that from a so called adult. Brilliant just pull out, no one gets pregnant oh my days! Please say your nothing to do with education "
he is very entertaining and educational on how not to behave, act and talk on this site.
i'm just wondering when he will delete his account |
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By *ankie303Woman
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"If u find someone u trust and get to know better then I don't see the issue with bareback. I bareback with regulars I trust. An no one is getting pregnant unless your silly little boy who can't pull out an pre cum isnt cum.
FML I just sprayed coffee via my nose reading that from a so called adult. Brilliant just pull out, no one gets pregnant oh my days! Please say your nothing to do with education
he is very entertaining and educational on how not to behave, act and talk on this site.
i'm just wondering when he will delete his account"
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"An no one is getting pregnant unless your silly little boy who can't pull out an pre cum isnt cum.
Google it. A woman has a 20% chance of getting pregnant using the withdrawal method.
I have looked it up before. There is no cum in pre cum. It's a fluid that prepared the tube for the cum. The only cum found in pre cum is old cum still left in tube from last ejaculation which isn't getting anyone pregnant.
Not sure where you looked this up but you are wrong and yes it’s possible to get a woman pregnant from pre cum, it’s slim but it can still happen.
It's like a 3% chance an that's only if the guy had cum recently then went again an some of that was left in tube before. But urine clears that and most men I know need to piss after they cum so doubtful any would be in there. These things are done in test enviroments. In reality the guy is having any previous cum left in the tube. "
3%. Thats about once in every 33 sexual adventures.. or have sex once a month for 3 years with ladies not on birth control and you’s the daddy  |
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