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By *rhuges OP Man
over a year ago
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Is it better to put Bisexual or Bi curious in your profile?.
To me bi curious is you haven't tried it but would like to .
Loads of male profiles state bi curious and but have lots of meets with TVs or single men. |
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"I know some people don't like labels but surely if you have had sex with a guy you can't still be curious?"
Maybe they've only done a few things and are still curious to try other things. We just appreciate the guys who are honest enough to be truthful in their profile. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I know some people don't like labels but surely if you have had sex with a guy you can't still be curious?
Maybe they've only done a few things and are still curious to try other things. We just appreciate the guys who are honest enough to be truthful in their profile."
That's it exactly..  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe they were bi curious and now taken the plunge and become bi, but just haven’t updated their profile? Turning bi was best thing I ever did - double the fun!! Lol |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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I think some prefer the term bi-curious as they feel sexually attracted to men but don't want to have an actual romantic relationship with one.
I personally feel the term 'bi-playful' should be added to the choices, I feel that helps describe somebody who in the right situation is interested in the same sex intimacy.
Of course many of us don't like labels, but when you are trying to reach out to those with similar interests they can be useful tools. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think some prefer the term bi-curious as they feel sexually attracted to men but don't want to have an actual romantic relationship with one.
I personally feel the term 'bi-playful' should be added to the choices, I feel that helps describe somebody who in the right situation is interested in the same sex intimacy.
Of course many of us don't like labels, but when you are trying to reach out to those with similar interests they can be useful tools."
Bi playful; I like that term and description. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think some prefer the term bi-curious as they feel sexually attracted to men but don't want to have an actual romantic relationship with one.
I personally feel the term 'bi-playful' should be added to the choices, I feel that helps describe somebody who in the right situation is interested in the same sex intimacy.
Of course many of us don't like labels, but when you are trying to reach out to those with similar interests they can be useful tools."
Very much this  Pretty much describes me. Another one I have seen recently that I like is "hetero-flexible". |
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"Is it better to put Bisexual or Bi curious in your profile?.
To me bi curious is you haven't tried it but would like to .
Loads of male profiles state bi curious and but have lots of meets with TVs or single men. "
I suppose the answer is 'what are you trying to achieve?'
We think there's still a degree of biphobia on here - so people opt for a halfway house position, as if putting bi-curious rather than bi will signal they're still entitled to straight privileges. Sometimes it's tempting to sneer at the bi-curious label, but actually, we're very aware that being able to call ourselves queer is a kind of privilege as well..
We'd both probably prefer it if there was a queer option rather than bi, but it sometimes seems as if the categories and otions on here are still back in the Forum magazine era. There's a whole generation coming through for whom labels like gender queeer or non binary also matter, and they're not well catered for on here.
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
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If a man has any experience or curiosity to play with someone else's cock we'd like to know beforehand so we can set the ground rules, which for us is absolutely straight play only. Guy on guy is a turn off for both of us. The only negative swinging experiences we have had has been when an apparently straight guy has made a grab for my partner's cock. Play stops dead their.
In the case of women, again we like to know in advance because I am bi, and I don't want to upset the female half of a couple or a single girl by crossing her boundaries.
So despite all the negativity towards labels, they're not just useful but essential. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I class myself as hetro-flexible but as Fab doesn't have that to tick, on my profile it says bi-curious.
I wouldn't say I'm bisexual, as I believe being bisexual means you can have relationships with both sexes, and I am all about the cock. If I/we meet a couple and there's a mutual attraction between the ladies then I will 'go all the way' as it were but it's not going to happen if I don't find her attractive.
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I realised that I’m pansexual rather than bisexual, but as thats the only option I have I’ll use it.
You label yourself, you’ll have some on these forums that’ll quite happily stick one on you, but it’s down to you to decide.
You can put bi or straight but add into your profile text in the right situation, that you’d consider being orally bi etc..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you keep going back for more, are you still curious?"
I think it depends if you’ve made physical contact doesn’t it? Surely when you’ve gone past thoughts and acted upon your curiosity, it’s not curiosity anymore. |
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I'm not straight in that when in a group situation I enjoy cock play and I don't consider myself as bisexual as I have abolutely no emotional connection with men nor any physical attraction to them. That only leaves bi curious as a Fabswingers profile option. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm not straight in that when in a group situation I enjoy cock play and I don't consider myself as bisexual as I have abolutely no emotional connection with men nor any physical attraction to them. That only leaves bi curious as a Fabswingers profile option. "
I think you’re just trying to kid yourself there mate  |
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By *arl17Man
over a year ago
Central Portugal |
"I know some people don't like labels but surely if you have had sex with a guy you can't still be curious?
Maybe they've only done a few things and are still curious to try other things. We just appreciate the guys who are honest enough to be truthful in their profile."
Agree Honesty is the best policy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I know some people don't like labels but surely if you have had sex with a guy you can't still be curious?
Maybe they've only done a few things and are still curious to try other things. We just appreciate the guys who are honest enough to be truthful in their profile."
I am in this category atm and this is my reality |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think some prefer the term bi-curious as they feel sexually attracted to men but don't want to have an actual romantic relationship with one.
I personally feel the term 'bi-playful' should be added to the choices, I feel that helps describe somebody who in the right situation is interested in the same sex intimacy.
Of course many of us don't like labels, but when you are trying to reach out to those with similar interests they can be useful tools."
Bi-playful sounds much more akin to explaining someone better |
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"I'm not straight in that when in a group situation I enjoy cock play and I don't consider myself as bisexual as I have abolutely no emotional connection with men nor any physical attraction to them. That only leaves bi curious as a Fabswingers profile option.
I think you’re just trying to kid yourself there mate "
Just being truthful. I wish I was truly bisexual as I've had hundreds of opportunities to have a 1 on 1 meet with a guy. Even though I'm constantly horny I have never accepted or been tempted by such an invitation |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If a man has any experience or curiosity to play with someone else's cock we'd like to know beforehand so we can set the ground rules, which for us is absolutely straight play only. Guy on guy is a turn off for both of us. The only negative swinging experiences we have had has been when an apparently straight guy has made a grab for my partner's cock. Play stops dead their.
In the case of women, again we like to know in advance because I am bi, and I don't want to upset the female half of a couple or a single girl by crossing her boundaries.
So despite all the negativity towards labels, they're not just useful but essential."
I think this is very useful as in males who want to play with females but also do not want their partner to be excluded and in this case put bi down |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is it better to put Bisexual or Bi curious in your profile?.
To me bi curious is you haven't tried it but would like to .
Loads of male profiles state bi curious and but have lots of meets with TVs or single men. "
From my POV, some might have soft played, so haven't committed to full sex - to me that would be bi curious....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Having seen all the comments I would sum my style as ‘it’s all about the pussy and the breasts’ but if the partner also wants to play then so be it. But I ain’t sucking no cock as I am still experimenting and so we should let people get to their normal by themselves. It’s great to have this open discussion btw. |
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By *exytoo2Couple
over a year ago
Newbury |
Bi cur or bisexual works fine you have an interest in playing with the same sex, but possibly to a varied degree.
This may depend on experience or possible how far you want to go.
Bi playful what does that mean? I may, I may not play with the same sex? for us it wouldn't work as we still wouldn't really know what want or don't want and may end up offended or even offending.
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By *1bttmMan
over a year ago
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"I'm not straight in that when in a group situation I enjoy cock play and I don't consider myself as bisexual as I have abolutely no emotional connection with men nor any physical attraction to them. That only leaves bi curious as a Fabswingers profile option. "
That makes sense to me as I know alot of men who have sex with men but they neither want or are emotionally attracted to guys. The bi curiousity is just about the physical side and nothing else.
I think someone that is truly bisexual is able to have more than just a physical connection with the other person and have relationships which include an emotional attachment. I hear the term pansexual used alot to cover this aspect of their sexuality. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I used bi-curious when I was experimenting but unsure if it really was for me. I changed it to bisexual when I realised I actually was sexually attracted to some men, tvs and ts, even if I would not be interested in a romantic relationship with them. Purely a sexual thing for me. |
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"I know some people don't like labels but surely if you have had sex with a guy you can't still be curious?
Maybe they've only done a few things and are still curious to try other things. We just appreciate the guys who are honest enough to be truthful in their profile."
. ... we have the same thoughts. Nice that bi guys or bi curious guys actually say so on profile. Lost count of how many “straight on profile”. But bi in messages we’ve had to say no too as what’s on profile should truthfully reflect your interests and persuasion. |
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
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"I'm not straight in that when in a group situation I enjoy cock play and I don't consider myself as bisexual as I have abolutely no emotional connection with men nor any physical attraction to them. That only leaves bi curious as a Fabswingers profile option.
That makes sense to me as I know alot of men who have sex with men but they neither want or are emotionally attracted to guys. The bi curiousity is just about the physical side and nothing else.
I think someone that is truly bisexual is able to have more than just a physical connection with the other person and have relationships which include an emotional attachment. I hear the term pansexual used alot to cover this aspect of their sexuality."
I think you're quite wrong. Bisexual by definition implies having sex with two genders. It says nothing about romantic or emotional attachment. As this site proves it's quite common to have hetero or bi sex with people without any such attachments. |
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I think it’s better to ask what you’re interested in a profile on here when chatting you can ask what you’re interested in doing on cam or whatt app Skype meet-ups etc then you make plans for drinks club hotel etc hopefully the clubs will get back to opening sometime soon |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I used bi-curious when I was experimenting but unsure if it really was for me. I changed it to bisexual when I realised I actually was sexually attracted to some men, tvs and ts, even if I would not be interested in a romantic relationship with them. Purely a sexual thing for me."
Same here. I don’t find blokes attractive at all, unless they’re extremely feminine etc
But sexually, I find them just as exciting as females. Never been with a trans person, but that would be a pretty amazing experience I imagine. |
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Both descriptions cover such a range of preferences and desires, don’t they.
I find it best to use bi-curious, then chat with people about what I and they prefer.
Playing bi is always about shared fun for me so finding this out beforehand makes everting much more chilled. |
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"I think some prefer the term bi-curious as they feel sexually attracted to men but don't want to have an actual romantic relationship with one.
I personally feel the term 'bi-playful' should be added to the choices, I feel that helps describe somebody who in the right situation is interested in the same sex intimacy.
Of course many of us don't like labels, but when you are trying to reach out to those with similar interests they can be useful tools.
Bi playful; I like that term and description. "
Het exible, I like that, but alas it’s not in the choice of sexuality’s listed.
I think in this day and age FAB should really have more choices than Straight, Bi Sexual and Bi-curious. |
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For me personally it's about what you are comfortable with.
I am not attracted to men, adore women, nor have the desire to have a relationship with a guy.
But in a threesome I found that I appreciate a lovely hard, smooth cock too.
If all agree the atmosphere can be amazing and electric for everyone so I'm more orally bi playful I suppose.
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Curious would indicate someone who is uncertain and may have interests, with undefined expectations etc. This includes those who may have had some experiences, or may need the right context or partners to know more clearly. Someone who is more fixed in their interest and understanding could potentially define themselves as bi or straight, depending on their evaluation of their experiences etc.
No one has to put themselves into a limiting box, which defines them for all time. A label here may help you to explain yourself to others in a crude way but is still limited by the very limited and different interpretations that so many people make. |
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For me if I’m interested in a profile then it’s more about understanding the idea the person has of her/himself than imposing my own definitions on them.
I know there are a lot of ‘liars and fakers’ on here - as in any online set-up. But there are also genuine people for whom the boundaries of their sexual definition are shifting, or who don’t feel comfortable with the words on offer.
As lots of people have said, when it comes to meeting it’s vital to be clear what the parameters of who might do what with whom are - but those details generally come after getting to know someone a bit more for me. (Though I realise some people prefer a more efficient approach to sorting their sheep from the goats!) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is it better to put Bisexual or Bi curious in your profile?.
To me bi curious is you haven't tried it but would like to .
Loads of male profiles state bi curious and but have lots of meets with TVs or single men. "
Bi-curious is you might do it but don't actively seek same sex. Bisexual is get your cock down my throat, I think  |
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