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By *harAndBry OP Couple
over a year ago
Peterborough / Stamford |
Let's say that we were to move to a five bedroom house next week, and we're thinking of holding a party for five or six couples, maybe a few single girls. Any tips/pointers on how to make it a success? Things to avoid? |
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Hiya and we used to do "House" parties and have a good mixture of people and ages and also we found it best to do just a "Social " event but that's us !! and lay on a few nibbles and the obvious is to have and enforce zero tolerance policy to whatever you disagree with ?? and they can be lots and lots of fun but hard work and get ready for a fair few no shows so draw a list up of people who say they are attending ( give the details out on the day before or on the day)and then that helps out the fakes etc etc  |
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By *harAndBry OP Couple
over a year ago
Peterborough / Stamford |
"Hiya and we used to do "House" parties"
We figured there'd be no-shows. Roughly how many? If we arranged seven couples, would five turn up?
Nibbles, defo. Maybe "bring a bottle". No drugs, smokers outside, two bedrooms "closed door" and the rest "open door". |
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We worked on a 50% no show rate !! and we did the bring a bottle as well and deffo no drugs and we limited smoking to one area !! and good music helps a lot and agree with both of you have to be circulating to keep a eye on things !! |
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By *harAndBry OP Couple
over a year ago
Peterborough / Stamford |
"With that many people one or both hosts will probably have to remain completely sober and completely celibate for the duration."
Luckily I don't drink much anyway, and we're not a full swap couple - I generally only watch  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hello you two.
If you only get 5 or 6 couples then you might find some won't play as females feel under pressure.
Personally around 12 couples plus 2 single men and 4 single ladies make a good party. |
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By *harAndBry OP Couple
over a year ago
Peterborough / Stamford |
"Hello you two.
If you only get 5 or 6 couples then you might find some won't play as females feel under pressure.
Personally around 12 couples plus 2 single men and 4 single ladies make a good party."
That's quite a lot - bit daunting but maybe doable. |
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"Hello you two.
If you only get 5 or 6 couples then you might find some won't play as females feel under pressure.
Personally around 12 couples plus 2 single men and 4 single ladies make a good party."
This is true. We went to a party with four couples including us. I felt immense pressure which put me off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We used to hold small partys max 5 cpls for friends and friends of our friends. Used to operate on if we got along very likely their friends were libel to get along with all the guests
Always had megga successful party’s and of course you know everyone invited is genuine and you are unlikely to get no shows
If someone can’t make it you will get a mail
Hope this helps |
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By *harAndBry OP Couple
over a year ago
Peterborough / Stamford |
"We went to a party with four couples including us. I felt immense pressure which put me off. "
That is interesting and not something we'd considered. We just assumed that fewer people meant less pressure but it may well be the opposite. |
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If I were going to a largish house party (more than a few couples) ether alone or with a partner, I'd be concerned about safety (especially if you don't know all or most of the people attending pretty well).
Maybe designate a few people you do know well to act as such (either just watching on the night, or involved, just to know they are there), and let partyers know in advance that they'll be available in case any issues come up.
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"Let's say that we were to move to a five bedroom house next week, and we're thinking of holding a party for five or six couples, maybe a few single girls. Any tips/pointers on how to make it a success? Things to avoid?"
To be a successful party you defenitly need to invite me   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Waterproof mattress protectors are a must, and be prepared that if you provide pillow or duvets, they will need to be washed afterwards too.
If you have space, airbeds on the floor can be a lot of fun.
I would also suggest not allowing people to use all the bedrooms and the clean up from these type of parties can be more than you might have anticipated. |
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By *harAndBry OP Couple
over a year ago
Peterborough / Stamford |
"Waterproof mattress protectors are a must, and be prepared that if you provide pillow or duvets, they will need to be washed afterwards too.
If you have space, airbeds on the floor can be a lot of fun.
I would also suggest not allowing people to use all the bedrooms and the clean up from these type of parties can be more than you might have anticipated."
Hmmmm.....all good points actually. We do have a waterproof mattress protector for ourselves but might to invest in more. And we'd have to plan it on a day when neither of us are working next day! |
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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago
Merseyside |
"Let's say that we were to move to a five bedroom house next week, and we're thinking of holding a party for five or six couples, maybe a few single girls. Any tips/pointers on how to make it a success? Things to avoid?"
lay down the ground rules and be sure yourselves and your guests will and can stick to them. iv never had a bad experience with them personally but sometimes they can change from how you intended them to be to something ALOT wilder  |
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We use to help a guy arrange partys at his home
We always had about 4 couples...two or three select single guys and occasionally a couple of single fems
All parties where brilliant
Always good music....plenty to drink....great outfits
Big pan of chilli.....lol
Worked for us every time
Xxxxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We use to help a guy arrange partys at his home
We always had about 4 couples...two or three select single guys and occasionally a couple of single fems
All parties where brilliant
Always good music....plenty to drink....great outfits
Big pan of chilli.....lol
Worked for us every time
Xxxxx"
Sounds brilliant xx |
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By *harAndBry OP Couple
over a year ago
Peterborough / Stamford |
"I am sure mostly guys will come as me I have commitment and respect for my words "
Literally half the meets we've arranged with single guys haven't happened. We've been left waiting with no communication or apology and then generally been blocked. |
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"I am sure mostly guys will come as me I have commitment and respect for my words
Literally half the meets we've arranged with single guys haven't happened. We've been left waiting with no communication or apology and then generally been blocked."
Same here.
That is one reason the house parties that used to be held in Boston only allowed couples and single ladies. |
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By *ite -meWoman
over a year ago
my house |
"Hiya and we used to do "House" parties and have a good mixture of people and ages and also we found it best to do just a "Social " event but that's us !! and lay on a few nibbles and the obvious is to have and enforce zero tolerance policy to whatever you disagree with ?? and they can be lots and lots of fun but hard work and get ready for a fair few no shows so draw a list up of people who say they are attending ( give the details out on the day before or on the day)and then that helps out the fakes etc etc "
Same here.... very hard work to throw a party but rewarding when people DO turn up. Thrown a lot in the last 8 years and had some good times. Good luck both and don't forget to put shower curtains on the beds....  . Xx |
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We've held a good number of parties over the years and touch wood we've had a high attendance rate, no real issues, and we'd like to think everyone left having a great time.
For us it's all about the guest list, if you can get the right blend of people the party will take care of itself.
We usually have around 20 to 26 guests, some previous guests we know and new guests we've never met. The previous guests feel comfortable having visited before and engage with those we've never met.
We always stress that it's a relaxed environment, no expectations to play. In our eyes it's a social evening with the added bonus of taking things further. If people feel like it's going to be a pressured environment they're less likely to attend from our experience.
We adore parties, some of our best memories are courtesy of house parties and some amazing people we've been lucky to have as our guests.
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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago
Tralee |
Maybe for your first party only invite people you know or have meet at parties or clubs, at least tbat way you'll know who likes to play and that they are experienced at socials. Might help make the 1st night go more smoothly |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"At least double OP. After covid of course. Hopefully not next week.
Ha! Because of where we are now and personal circumstances we'll be without any furniture for a few weeks still!"
You might be waiting more than a few months at the moment to party lol. Hope the move goes well for you though. X |
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By *irty130Couple
over a year ago
Bristol Area |
Buy mattress protectors.
Don’t worry too much about food, unless you’re actually catering.
Create social areas and play areas.
Don’t be surprised if people socialise in your play areas and fuck in the kitchen.
Boxes of tissues, everywhere.
Sets the rules and leave people to it, don’t micromanage, relax.
If it’s a big enough party, somebody will be doing drugs, you can’t stop that anymore than a night club can, see the rule above.
And finally, don’t forget what we said about mattress protectors
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I attended some great party’s thrown by a lovely couple in Halifax. They put on party games to break the ice. One of the games was to get people to slowly strip off if they got a question wrong. It certainly got everyone down to lingerie and underwear. |
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Several years back we used to join a lovely couple who hosted parties (or just them on multiple occasions). For lack of a better description we where their wing-men at parties as we had built up a the trust and we all got on great. Seemed that for every 4 couples invited, 1 would not show up for whatever reason. For every 4 singles invited 2 would not show up.
Even during parties, it was not uncommon for one couple to leave and 2 singles to get called away.
Just seemed to be how it was.
To be fair, they had no issue with inviting complete newcomers to the fab at the time (which they did a lot..it was how we met them) so it could be that was just a case of curious tourists who decided it was not for them.
Anyway, it's our turn now but covid stopped us before we could start. Eitherway, we have a small house so 6 or 7 people is going to be our limit so we will probably stick to inviting people we know for the most part. |
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