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By *akeyou1 OP Man
over a year ago
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Hi guys looking to get into “light bdsm” if there is such thing ! :D
I have a woman to help with this but just looking for beginners advice. No pain stuff or dog collars just “light” just to be abit kinkier outside our comfort zones like what size butt plug should she use etc?
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I think one person's light is another person's heavy. For instance any size butt plug is a hard limit for me but I'm fine with a collar.
As far as butt plugs go start small. As for the rest communicate and never do anything that isn't safe, sane or consensual and you'll be fine  |
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"I think one person's light is another person's heavy. For instance any size butt plug is a hard limit for me but I'm fine with a collar.
As far as butt plugs go start small. As for the rest communicate and never do anything that isn't safe, sane or consensual and you'll be fine "
OP, what you and your partner consider light will be different to anyone else's.
Safe, sane, and consensual are the most important things. And if you can't talk to your partner about preferences and limits, you might want to work on communicating openly first because it's so important when you're pushing limits. |
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By *akeyou1 OP Man
over a year ago
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Yeah i just want to get kinkier and naughtier so in my mind ass play is the next thing on the list as she’s quite reluctant to do it.
I have experienced it before but I want to sort of move it into normal foreplay and not just once in a blue moon if that makes sense? |
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"Yeah i just want to get kinkier and naughtier so in my mind ass play is the next thing on the list as she’s quite reluctant to do it.
I have experienced it before but I want to sort of move it into normal foreplay and not just once in a blue moon if that makes sense?"
If she's reluctant why are you trying to do it more often? |
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Ass play is, in my books, quite far from BDSM. It can be incorporated into it, but doesn't have to be integral part.
How about some sensual BDSM? One person tied up to bed (can be very soft restraints, like silk scarf etc) and blindfolded, the other one touching their body, looking for erogenous zones? You could use very light touch, barely brushing the body, you could use nails or you could try pinwheel? It looks like it could do some serious damage, but it feels amazing for me. You'd be surprised what you may discover in the way of the partner reacting where you wouldn't expect them to react.
You could also use feather (feather duster?) etc. As long as you keep open mind, a lot of everyday items can be used in sensory play.
Or maybe some erotic massage? |
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"Hi guys looking to get into “light bdsm” if there is such thing ! :D
I have a woman to help with this but just looking for beginners advice. No pain stuff or dog collars just “light” just to be abit kinkier outside our comfort zones like what size butt plug should she use etc?
Thanks in advance "
Discuss what it is you both find exciting and go from there. Discovery is the best part of starting out. Just don't try and run before you can walk. And if you are going to use any form of restraints make sure you know how to get out of them quickly, a good pair of surgical scissors are a good thing to have as they pretty much cut through anything quickly. |
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"Yeah i just want to get kinkier and naughtier so in my mind ass play is the next thing on the list as she’s quite reluctant to do it.
I have experienced it before but I want to sort of move it into normal foreplay and not just once in a blue moon if that makes sense?"
As others have asked if she's reluctant why do you want to do it more often? Have you asked her why she's reluctant? Is it something that's a soft or hard limit for her?
I love my arse being played with, I love anal and I also love pegging. It's not something we do all the time though.
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