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"I'm still an anal virgin but I have used my vibrator and now feel I'm ready to try the real thing after lock down ,, I know some like bare back sex but not sure what to do , what is your advice , thanks in advance everyone xx" Unless you are sure your partner is STI free then you really must insist on condoms. Believe you me HIV is no joke. I havn't (yet) found out about it myself but I understand Pre-Exposure Prophylaxis (PrEP) is available which apparently reduces risk of infection for HIV- people. Have fun but take care. | |||
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"I'm now an anal only girl. I absolutely adore anal sex. Also love giving oral x Plenty of good quality lube. Not the cheap stuff that goes sticky after a few thrusts x Mrs N" Mr N is living the dream x | |||
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"I'm now an anal only girl. I absolutely adore anal sex. Also love giving oral x Plenty of good quality lube. Not the cheap stuff that goes sticky after a few thrusts x Mrs N" Wow! If only I lived in Leicester xx | |||
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"We wanna try never done it before but Alisha is dying for it lol " And what's stopping you? She has an awesome looking ass... | |||
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"I'm now an anal only girl. I absolutely adore anal sex. Also love giving oral x Plenty of good quality lube. Not the cheap stuff that goes sticky after a few thrusts x Mrs N" What lube would recommend? Everything I’ve tried goes sticky | |||
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"Was never big into anal until very recently now love it ...agree on a good lube ...we use liquid silk ....laying on side ...stay relaxed and a partner you can trust and knows what they are doing ...good luck xx" haven't tried that one | |||
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"Don't trust casual hook ups. Always treat everyone as if they are hiv +. Always protect your health, some men are selfish and reckless and care nothing about you or your health and just say anything to get sex. I have thrown selfish individuals out very quickly, I recommend you do the same. Remember a lot of hiv infections don't even know they are infected!. "  | |||
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"I'm now an anal only girl. I absolutely adore anal sex. Also love giving oral x Plenty of good quality lube. Not the cheap stuff that goes sticky after a few thrusts x Mrs N Wow! If only I lived in Leicester xx" I’m sure their inbox has been busy since Mrs N posted this | |||
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"I adore anal. Lots of lube, lay on your side for the first few times. Take it slow, let it stretch and slowly push back after a few slow thrusts you'll then be able to go a bit faster. I'm not a fan of someone going at it like the clappers back there though personally haha. Ones you've done on the side and are accustomed to the feel, you could then try other positions. I always insist on protection for any vaginal or anal penetration. " Definitely some good advice hear, can recommend spooning for first times, reduces the chance of the guy getting too energetic in the heat of the moment | |||
Seriously, take you time and use lots of lube and if its not right then stop. | |||
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 ), so its felt like a very very long lockdown!
Iv done lots of reading about prepping, spooning position to start and use of lots of quality lube, but a few comments on here mention 'pushing back'....does that mean, partner staying still and I do the moving, so that I can control depth? Or to make sure whi ever is fucking me doesent get bored of me just laying there?lol | |||
"Great thread, and great advice. Im in the same boat, other than I haven't used any dildos...lockdown ended my AVL Day (anal virginity loosing day ), so its felt like a very very long lockdown!
Iv done lots of reading about prepping, spooning position to start and use of lots of quality lube, but a few comments on here mention 'pushing back'....does that mean, partner staying still and I do the moving, so that I can control depth? Or to make sure whi ever is fucking me doesent get bored of me just laying there?lol"Any responses to the 'pushing back' comment? Is it just for control? | |||
"Great thread, and great advice. Im in the same boat, other than I haven't used any dildos...lockdown ended my AVL Day (anal virginity loosing day ), so its felt like a very very long lockdown!
Iv done lots of reading about prepping, spooning position to start and use of lots of quality lube, but a few comments on here mention 'pushing back'....does that mean, partner staying still and I do the moving, so that I can control depth? Or to make sure whi ever is fucking me doesent get bored of me just laying there?lol"Pushing back can give you the control, of moving it in deeper at a pace you like. I tend to only push back in doggy as it can be a bit deeper then spooning. | |||
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"Great thread, and great advice. Im in the same boat, other than I haven't used any dildos...lockdown ended my AVL Day (anal virginity loosing day ), so its felt like a very very long lockdown!
Iv done lots of reading about prepping, spooning position to start and use of lots of quality lube, but a few comments on here mention 'pushing back'....does that mean, partner staying still and I do the moving, so that I can control depth? Or to make sure whi ever is fucking me doesent get bored of me just laying there?lol
Pushing back can give you the control, of moving it in deeper at a pace you like. I tend to only push back in doggy as it can be a bit deeper then spooning. "I thought that was the case, look forward to trying | |||
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"I'm now an anal only girl. I absolutely adore anal sex. Also love giving oral x Plenty of good quality lube. Not the cheap stuff that goes sticky after a few thrusts x Mrs N" My perfect woman ... | |||
"Just take it like a man "Or a women. | |||
"I adore anal. Lots of lube, lay on your side for the first few times. Take it slow, let it stretch and slowly push back after a few slow thrusts you'll then be able to go a bit faster. I'm not a fan of someone going at it like the clappers back there though personally haha. Ones you've done on the side and are accustomed to the feel, you could then try other positions. I always insist on protection for any vaginal or anal penetration. " Good advice here. Do all the readying you want. But at some point you just have to dive in and go for it. It migjt be good it might be bad. Also depends a lot on your partner. | |||
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"Condom on your partner lots of lube lie on your side relax push back and enjoy" Lots of lube - I stretched myself with a few plugs in preparation x | |||
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"Number one route for hiv and other sti to infections, run a mile and don't stop. " Noting like putting your own fears out there. Is there. There is just as big a risk with vanilla sex so by your logic we should all be celibate and let the human race die out. How about offering constructive advice on how to lessen the risk like, Don't do bareback with anyone you arnt totaly exclusive with and know for a fact they are clear. Use condoms Use plenty of lube to make sure to lessen risk of any pain or injury Add more lube Go slow Find someone who knows and respects it your first time and that will let you set the pace. Remember you can stop it at any time if it didn't feel right Did I mention lube Take your time and enjoy the experience. Fingers to stretch you first the go for it Make sure you have a good shit a while before, douche if you can and leave it at least 40 mins and go to loo again to make sure you get rid of all the water. Have fun That's more helpful that doom and gloom fear mongering | |||
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"Face down. Ass up. Love cock inside me. " Perfect position xx | |||
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"Face down. Ass up. Love cock inside me. " That's the way to do it | |||
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"Face down. Ass up. Love cock inside me. Perfect position xx" I feel like thats more of an advanced position....ill stick for a spooning for my first time...any takers?lol | |||
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"I'm keen to try taking for the first time. I've attempted twice but they guys have been bit pushy and I was not able to relax and fit them in. " Need breaking in gently, eh?! | |||
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"I too love 'the wanton and sterile spilling of seed in the pseudoHellenic embraces of my partner' to misquote Burgess. Buggery, in other words. I agree with the copious use of lube, and relaxing, but an important and key point has been missed. Let me explain. Physically, the anus is extremely well supplied with nerve endings. It is exquisitely sensitive. Try a gentle and unexpected touch on your partner's anus. You'll probably see it contract, as the sphincter muscles of the rectum clench. This is what can cause painful and difficult anal sex. The most important yet ignored part of preparing for it, in my opinion, is learning to resist the temptation to clench, and especially learning how to open the sphincter up. Everone can do this; each time you have a poo you 'bear down'; in addition to internal body pressure building the sphincter naturally relaxes and opens up to allow poo out. The trick with good anal is to learn how to open up at will for entry of a cock or toy rather than exit of poo. Initially, the best way is to practice on yourself with a finger. Have a good clearout poo before you start! Use some lube: push the tip of the finger into the anus. Now pretend you're trying to stop pooing and clench down hard on your finger. You'll feel the very strong sphincter muscle squeezing your finger. Now try to 'poo the finger out'..... you'll feel the sphincter opening when you're successful. Alternate squeezing it closed and opening up; after some practice you'll get the hang of it. If you're confident enough, try again with a small toy or two fingers. If you have problems opening, clench hard for 30 seconds then try opening; this tires the muscle and aids opening. So the art of good anal is to learn how to open up in this way, and to resist the very natural temptation to clench. Practising for a few days beforehand until you learn your body's behaviour really helps. Initially, when trying for real, it may be best to try to 'poo your partner's cock out' as he presses, in order to open. Or the same with a toy. But soon you can learn to just open on command. At all costs, resist the natural urge to clench your bottom closed! That's what hurts, and has put so many off anal sex. Don't be afraid to use lots of good quality lube; work it into the anus with a finger and don't forget to lube the toy or your partner's cock too. For the guys, remember your partner's enjoyment. Think less about those virile thrusts, and more about resting inside her while she relaxes. Stroke her clitoris, nibble her neck, tell her how good she feels..... The thrusting will come naturally when you're both ready. I've introduced many to anal sex this way, without failures. Unlike vaginal sex, anal doesn't come naturally and needs practice and patience, and lots of lube. But as my partner Crystal would confirm, good anal can be the most exquisite and intimate way to make love that exists. It leaves us both legless, completely fulfilled and in live with each other. Hope this helps!" Thanks for great advice x | |||
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"Use a condom. Use a fuck tonne of lube. Take your time. Communicate.
"Agreed. Communicate. 'Is this feeling good?' | |||
"I'm now an anal only girl. I absolutely adore anal sex. Also love giving oral x Plenty of good quality lube. Not the cheap stuff that goes sticky after a few thrusts x Mrs N" Mr N is a lucky guy | |||
"I too love 'the wanton and sterile spilling of seed in the pseudoHellenic embraces of my partner' to misquote Burgess. Buggery, in other words. I agree with the copious use of lube, and relaxing, but an important and key point has been missed. Let me explain. Physically, the anus is extremely well supplied with nerve endings. It is exquisitely sensitive. Try a gentle and unexpected touch on your partner's anus. You'll probably see it contract, as the sphincter muscles of the rectum clench. This is what can cause painful and difficult anal sex. The most important yet ignored part of preparing for it, in my opinion, is learning to resist the temptation to clench, and especially learning how to open the sphincter up. Everone can do this; each time you have a poo you 'bear down'; in addition to internal body pressure building the sphincter naturally relaxes and opens up to allow poo out. The trick with good anal is to learn how to open up at will for entry of a cock or toy rather than exit of poo. Initially, the best way is to practice on yourself with a finger. Have a good clearout poo before you start! Use some lube: push the tip of the finger into the anus. Now pretend you're trying to stop pooing and clench down hard on your finger. You'll feel the very strong sphincter muscle squeezing your finger. Now try to 'poo the finger out'..... you'll feel the sphincter opening when you're successful. Alternate squeezing it closed and opening up; after some practice you'll get the hang of it. If you're confident enough, try again with a small toy or two fingers. If you have problems opening, clench hard for 30 seconds then try opening; this tires the muscle and aids opening. So the art of good anal is to learn how to open up in this way, and to resist the very natural temptation to clench. Practising for a few days beforehand until you learn your body's behaviour really helps. Initially, when trying for real, it may be best to try to 'poo your partner's cock out' as he presses, in order to open. Or the same with a toy. But soon you can learn to just open on command. At all costs, resist the natural urge to clench your bottom closed! That's what hurts, and has put so many off anal sex. Don't be afraid to use lots of good quality lube; work it into the anus with a finger and don't forget to lube the toy or your partner's cock too. For the guys, remember your partner's enjoyment. Think less about those virile thrusts, and more about resting inside her while she relaxes. Stroke her clitoris, nibble her neck, tell her how good she feels..... The thrusting will come naturally when you're both ready. I've introduced many to anal sex this way, without failures. Unlike vaginal sex, anal doesn't come naturally and needs practice and patience, and lots of lube. But as my partner Crystal would confirm, good anal can be the most exquisite and intimate way to make love that exists. It leaves us both legless, completely fulfilled and in live with each other. Hope this helps!" This sounds amazing! Great advice! | |||
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"Just take it like a man "This made me LAUGH OUT LOUD !! | |||
"I'm still an anal virgin but I have used my vibrator and now feel I'm ready to try the real thing after lock down ,, I know some like bare back sex but not sure what to do , what is your advice , thanks in advance everyone xx" Protection and small moves take it slow Enjoy when the time is right  | |||
"I'm now an anal only girl. I absolutely adore anal sex. Also love giving oral x Plenty of good quality lube. Not the cheap stuff that goes sticky after a few thrusts x Mrs N" Nice to learn some one who loves anal. I love it too (giving nit taking) x | |||
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"I’d love a cock in my virgin arse only toys and fingers so far , love to meet couple with bi curious guy all have some dirty fun " This | |||
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