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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Sooo...because of lockdown, iv been doing a lot more chatting on here. Which is great. But its become apparent that theres a bit of stigma associated with being a virgin.
Iv had vanilla sex with women, but am yet to do anything else (anal and bi virgin). It seems to hamper conversations and plan making because I think people see me as a waste of time.
I had a meet planned with a couple but lockdown came 2 days before the big day  . My question is...how do I make it clear that im not a time waster, that I am inexperienced, but I do want to change that?! Or is it that I have not met the right people yet?! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'm guessing you just haven't met the right couple yet 
From our point of view submissiveness is more important than experience.
Totally agree with this.   "
Im sure everyone says this...but im as submissive as it comes  x |
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A couple may want a more experienced person to have fun with, due to the amount of time and effort it takes to find the right person they’re both attracted to and getting the time to meet. So the potential of an inexperienced person who at first, maybe willing to try but then back out if it gets too intense is much higher than an experienced person with verifications. That’s not your fault but it will be an issue.
In a club not as much, due to if you’re not willing there would be others in attendance that probably would. So you may be better off attending a bi night at a club.
I have been with inexperienced guys in the past and unfortunately they weren’t the best evenings I’ve had, but we all start somewhere.
Good luck Op xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"A couple may want a more experienced person to have fun with, due to the amount of time and effort it takes to find the right person they’re both attracted to and getting the time to meet. So the potential of an inexperienced person who at first, maybe willing to try but then back out if it gets too intense is much higher than an experienced person with verifications. That’s not your fault but it will be an issue.
In a club not as much, due to if you’re not willing there would be others in attendance that probably would. So you may be better off attending a bi night at a club.
I have been with inexperienced guys in the past and unfortunately they weren’t the best evenings I’ve had, but we all start somewhere.
Good luck Op xx"
I have been tempted to lie..but then worry that when it comes down to it...they will find out and then itll be disappointing for them/him/her.
Ill just stick at it and itll happen when it will happen i suppose |
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"Sooo...because of lockdown, iv been doing a lot more chatting on here. Which is great. But its become apparent that theres a bit of stigma associated with being a virgin.
Iv had vanilla sex with women, but am yet to do anything else (anal and bi virgin). It seems to hamper conversations and plan making because I think people see me as a waste of time.
I had a meet planned with a couple but lockdown came 2 days before the big day . My question is...how do I make it clear that im not a time waster, that I am inexperienced, but I do want to change that?! Or is it that I have not met the right people yet?!"
Far from putting me off it would entice me more |
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"Sooo...because of lockdown, iv been doing a lot more chatting on here. Which is great. But its become apparent that theres a bit of stigma associated with being a virgin.
Iv had vanilla sex with women, but am yet to do anything else (anal and bi virgin). It seems to hamper conversations and plan making because I think people see me as a waste of time.
I had a meet planned with a couple but lockdown came 2 days before the big day . My question is...how do I make it clear that im not a time waster, that I am inexperienced, but I do want to change that?! Or is it that I have not met the right people yet?!"
Hi OP. Do you only want to explore with a couple? Just thinking that for someone starting out on this you might like to focus on what you, as a bi curious man, enjoy. A bi guy who understands and is willing to go at your pace might your best bet. There are lots of amazing bi guys on Fab so choose carefully, have fun and take it from there x Jessy |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Sooo...because of lockdown, iv been doing a lot more chatting on here. Which is great. But its become apparent that theres a bit of stigma associated with being a virgin.
Iv had vanilla sex with women, but am yet to do anything else (anal and bi virgin). It seems to hamper conversations and plan making because I think people see me as a waste of time.
I had a meet planned with a couple but lockdown came 2 days before the big day . My question is...how do I make it clear that im not a time waster, that I am inexperienced, but I do want to change that?! Or is it that I have not met the right people yet?!
Hi OP. Do you only want to explore with a couple? Just thinking that for someone starting out on this you might like to focus on what you, as a bi curious man, enjoy. A bi guy who understands and is willing to go at your pace might your best bet. There are lots of amazing bi guys on Fab so choose carefully, have fun and take it from there x Jessy"
Hi, thanks for your comment. My hope is that meeting a couple will ease me into it. Whereas meeting a male 1 on 1...seems like a much bigger jump!  |
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"If no one gives inexperienced guys a chance they will never get any experience. Give us a shout if you are ever coming Norwich way OP
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Ill 100% take you up on that! |
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I’m in a very similar boat. Have chatted with a few singles and couples on here.
A lot of single guys clearly want a quick thrill (which is fine for them, but not what I am after).
I have often thought that a couple might be better for the first time as I think it will be less intimidating.
Whether a single or a couple, I want someone who totally understands and accepts my inexperience and submissiveness. Am I asking too much? |
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By *Wman15Man
over a year ago
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"Sooo...because of lockdown, iv been doing a lot more chatting on here. Which is great. But its become apparent that theres a bit of stigma associated with being a virgin.
Iv had vanilla sex with women, but am yet to do anything else (anal and bi virgin). It seems to hamper conversations and plan making because I think people see me as a waste of time.
I had a meet planned with a couple but lockdown came 2 days before the big day . My question is...how do I make it clear that im not a time waster, that I am inexperienced, but I do want to change that?! Or is it that I have not met the right people yet?!
Hi OP. Do you only want to explore with a couple? Just thinking that for someone starting out on this you might like to focus on what you, as a bi curious man, enjoy. A bi guy who understands and is willing to go at your pace might your best bet. There are lots of amazing bi guys on Fab so choose carefully, have fun and take it from there x Jessy
Hi, thanks for your comment. My hope is that meeting a couple will ease me into it. Whereas meeting a male 1 on 1...seems like a much bigger jump! "
I can understand that
However there are loads of bi guys on here who would love to meet you and would go at whatever pace you felt comfortable with
Don't forget - there is no rush to cram everything into a first meeting. Take your time, choose the right partner(s) and savour every minute   |
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