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Love the swinging scene and playing with others and I also love the idea of seeing my wife with others. Thing is We have spoke about it when things have been on TV about it and she is like what’s the point no thank you. So any advice on how to try and broach subject with her as I would Khmer to join in. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Please *please* no one say "show her your profile on here".
A guy can register on a swinger site, a guy can ask questions ...it doesn't have to be deemed dodgy....or have sofa Judges chiming in.
I can't help, except to suggest watching a lot of swinger's porn with her! (which sort of normalises it over times!.
I once read somewhere that if you can get someone to persist and eat something they don't like ten times, then after the tenth time they accept it (jism?)...perhaps the same applies to swinger's porn |
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"Love the swinging scene and playing with others and I also love the idea of seeing my wife with others. Thing is We have spoke about it when things have been on TV about it and she is like what’s the point no thank you. So any advice on how to try and broach subject with her as I would Khmer to join in."
I suggest that you broach the subject b sitting down with her, telling her how much you love her and asking if she will agree to discuss fantasies with you. This might take a little time but if you communicate with a woman in an emotionally mature way you might be surprised at how she opens up. This does mean of course that you will have to give consideration to her fantasies and accept that she might not be interested in yours. Truly though, the only way that you can broach any subject is by actually talking frankly. |
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"Love the swinging scene and playing with others and I also love the idea of seeing my wife with others. Thing is We have spoke about it when things have been on TV about it and she is like what’s the point no thank you. So any advice on how to try and broach subject with her as I would Khmer to join in."
I’ve seen numerous threads on this subject. The general consensus is respect her wishes. if it’s no it’s no. I think it’s pretty shitty to try and force her otherwise.
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"Love the swinging scene and playing with others and I also love the idea of seeing my wife with others. Thing is We have spoke about it when things have been on TV about it and she is like what’s the point no thank you. So any advice on how to try and broach subject with her as I would Khmer to join in.
I suggest that you broach the subject b sitting down with her, telling her how much you love her and asking if she will agree to discuss fantasies with you. This might take a little time but if you communicate with a woman in an emotionally mature way you might be surprised at how she opens up. This does mean of course that you will have to give consideration to her fantasies and accept that she might not be interested in yours. Truly though, the only way that you can broach any subject is by actually talking frankly."
Wise words.  |
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"Love the swinging scene and playing with others and I also love the idea of seeing my wife with others. Thing is We have spoke about it when things have been on TV about it and she is like what’s the point no thank you. So any advice on how to try and broach subject with her as I would Khmer to join in.
I suggest that you broach the subject b sitting down with her, telling her how much you love her and asking if she will agree to discuss fantasies with you. This might take a little time but if you communicate with a woman in an emotionally mature way you might be surprised at how she opens up. This does mean of course that you will have to give consideration to her fantasies and accept that she might not be interested in yours. Truly though, the only way that you can broach any subject is by actually talking frankly."
I bet this is male of the couple commenting here? am I right ? |
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"Love the swinging scene and playing with others and I also love the idea of seeing my wife with others. Thing is We have spoke about it when things have been on TV about it and she is like what’s the point no thank you. So any advice on how to try and broach subject with her as I would Khmer to join in.
I suggest that you broach the subject b sitting down with her, telling her how much you love her and asking if she will agree to discuss fantasies with you. This might take a little time but if you communicate with a woman in an emotionally mature way you might be surprised at how she opens up. This does mean of course that you will have to give consideration to her fantasies and accept that she might not be interested in yours. Truly though, the only way that you can broach any subject is by actually talking frankly.
I bet this is male of the couple commenting here? am I right ?"
I hope you're not taking bets on your assumption.
But if you are I've got a fiver says you're wrong.
What odds'll you give me?  |
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"Love the swinging scene and playing with others and I also love the idea of seeing my wife with others. Thing is We have spoke about it when things have been on TV about it and she is like what’s the point no thank you. So any advice on how to try and broach subject with her as I would Khmer to join in.
I suggest that you broach the subject b sitting down with her, telling her how much you love her and asking if she will agree to discuss fantasies with you. This might take a little time but if you communicate with a woman in an emotionally mature way you might be surprised at how she opens up. This does mean of course that you will have to give consideration to her fantasies and accept that she might not be interested in yours. Truly though, the only way that you can broach any subject is by actually talking frankly.
I bet this is male of the couple commenting here? am I right ?"
Nope, I am the woman of this couple. Why did you think it was a man? |
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"Love the swinging scene and playing with others and I also love the idea of seeing my wife with others. Thing is We have spoke about it when things have been on TV about it and she is like what’s the point no thank you. So any advice on how to try and broach subject with her as I would Khmer to join in.
I suggest that you broach the subject b sitting down with her, telling her how much you love her and asking if she will agree to discuss fantasies with you. This might take a little time but if you communicate with a woman in an emotionally mature way you might be surprised at how she opens up. This does mean of course that you will have to give consideration to her fantasies and accept that she might not be interested in yours. Truly though, the only way that you can broach any subject is by actually talking frankly.
I bet this is male of the couple commenting here? am I right ?
I hope you're not taking bets on your assumption.
But if you are I've got a fiver says you're wrong.
What odds'll you give me? "
It was the pashmina gave me away, right? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Love the swinging scene and playing with others and I also love the idea of seeing my wife with others. Thing is We have spoke about it when things have been on TV about it and she is like what’s the point no thank you. So any advice on how to try and broach subject with her as I would Khmer to join in."
I'm wondering why now.. Seeing as you have already been on said swinging site for 4 years..
I personally don't think she's going to miraculously say yes let's swing.. Unless she is on here too.. Unbeknown to you..
Who knows... |
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"Love the swinging scene and playing with others and I also love the idea of seeing my wife with others. Thing is We have spoke about it when things have been on TV about it and she is like what’s the point no thank you. So any advice on how to try and broach subject with her as I would Khmer to join in.
I suggest that you broach the subject b sitting down with her, telling her how much you love her and asking if she will agree to discuss fantasies with you. This might take a little time but if you communicate with a woman in an emotionally mature way you might be surprised at how she opens up. This does mean of course that you will have to give consideration to her fantasies and accept that she might not be interested in yours. Truly though, the only way that you can broach any subject is by actually talking frankly.
I bet this is male of the couple commenting here? am I right ?
I hope you're not taking bets on your assumption.
But if you are I've got a fiver says you're wrong.
What odds'll you give me?
It was the pashmina gave me away, right? "
Every time. |
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"Love the swinging scene and playing with others and I also love the idea of seeing my wife with others. Thing is We have spoke about it when things have been on TV about it and she is like what’s the point no thank you. So any advice on how to try and broach subject with her as I would Khmer to join in."
Your wife is obviously not interested in swinging. I would forget it if I was you. Try and push it and she may leave you. |
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The short answer OP is you don't.
You've mentioned it and she has said no.
I wouldn't push it if I were you as it could result in the end of your marriage. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Seems her only choices are either to swing when she clearly doesn't want to or accept her husband is just going to do it without her anyway. Lucky lady. |
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Sorry to have to tell you in this way.....
But your wife and I have been having a torrid affair for the last 12 months!
She says its because you are crap in the sack...
and she loves the way I make her cum time after time|
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"Love the swinging scene and playing with others and I also love the idea of seeing my wife with others. Thing is We have spoke about it when things have been on TV about it and she is like what’s the point no thank you. So any advice on how to try and broach subject with her as I would Khmer to join in.
I’ve seen numerous threads on this subject. The general consensus is respect her wishes. if it’s no it’s no. I think it’s pretty shitty to try and force her otherwise.
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OP hasn’t said he will ‘force’ her to do anything. I’m wondering how exactly a woman who doesn’t like sex could be forced into swinging. |
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By *ebwizMan
over a year ago
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The impression I get is its a no from her end of. Me and her just randomly bought it up in a discussion one night. She had a curiosity about a thing or two. We went to clubs on and off over the last 17 years. Have done various things. Now we hardly go anymore, she is happy with me and would not push her now as its not a need for her, which I respect. |
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"Love the swinging scene and playing with others and I also love the idea of seeing my wife with others. Thing is We have spoke about it when things have been on TV about it and she is like what’s the point no thank you. So any advice on how to try and broach subject with her as I would Khmer to join in."
Show her porn videos of Asa Akira. She turn anyone bi and want to have a threesome |
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Do you believe that she has very low interest levels in sex as well as sex with others?
If the marriage isn't satisfactory, then it's probably better to focus on aspects of this, including what you both need. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"Well, if she’s not that interested in sex in general (read from your profile) then I highly doubt that she’s going to be interested in sex with other people, is she...
Sassy"
She might be, just not with the OP. Who's to say she isn't doing the same thing without him? |
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"Please *please* no one say "show her your profile on here".
A guy can register on a swinger site, a guy can ask questions ...it doesn't have to be deemed dodgy....or have sofa Judges chiming in.
I can't help, except to suggest watching a lot of swinger's porn with her! (which sort of normalises it over times!.
I once read somewhere that if you can get someone to persist and eat something they don't like ten times, then after the tenth time they accept it (jism?)...perhaps the same applies to swinger's porn"
nope gonna say it, show her your profile and run with that see how it pans out for you, if she hits the roof you got a pretty good idea she dont like the idea |
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