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Is there something wrong with my profile

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

What can I do to improve mine .I really don't get any interest at all. I did have a really long reading one but then I still got nothing so I just put a really short one....even worse is when you send a message and put effort in to reading someone's profile and they look at it and dont reply. Am I ugly lol I dont get what part I'm going wrong.....help me x

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By *ed-monkeyCouple over a year ago

Hailsham

You're only here 3 weeks so still new really ...

And your profile text says next to nothing about you

There are so many guys on here you have to stand out a little

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thank you for the reply. I did have a really long one but I think maybe people got board halfway through haha

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes! From what I can see from your pictures, you seem the type of guy to drive a fiat 500

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By *ex HolesMan over a year ago

Up North

Change your location from Wakefield then you’ll do just fine

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes! From what I can see from your pictures, you seem the type of guy to drive a fiat 500 "
and does hairdressing

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By *penbicoupleCouple over a year ago

Northampton

"What can I do to improve mine .I really don't get any interest at all. I did have a really long reading one but then I still got nothing so I just put a really short one....even worse is when you send a message and put effort in to reading someone's profile and they look at it and dont reply. Am I ugly lol I dont get what part I'm going wrong.....help me x"

Your profile doesn't say anything and your profile pic us a bit strange. (Are you taking a pee?!)

There are LOADS more single guys than anyone else on here. You have to stand-out.

Plus, 3 weeks is hardly any time at all.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Try varying your photos a little. Even something simple like a black and white pic with a cheeky pose. As pp said, there are a lot of single guys on here so if you want to catch people's attention, you need to do something a bit different and interesting.

Your write up could say more about you as a person - who you're looking to meet, what sort of experience you have, and anything you *don't* want.

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By *arlomaleMan over a year ago

darlington

"Yes! From what I can see from your pictures, you seem the type of guy to drive a fiat 500 and does hairdressing

"
well known fact hairdressers drive Audi TT.s or was that estate agents any way the fiat 500 is a fantastic car especially the arbath ones

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A face pic should help. Loose the body shots. Do one in shirt and trousers.

Then say something about your character, what you are like and what you want.

Don't talk about any sexual stuff yet.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To be honest I think even though now may seem like a good time to make connections and stuff, peoples heads aren't really in it.

Nobody knows when lockdown will actually end, nobody knows when it will be considered safe to meet again, and then whether they'll even want to for a good while after that.

I'm personally written the rest of the year off.

Don't get me wrong I do like to get to know people a fair bit before meeting but I imagine a fair few people aren't really looking to arrange for the future, as they have no idea what the future entails.

Having been on 3 weeks you joined during lockdown. Had you been an "established" fabber then it may be a different story, but I'm betting some will simply see another single male who's joined coz he's bored and wants something for the wank bank. That very well may not be the case and just piss poor timing.

Don't sweat it.

Be selective, you say you send out loads of messages, that sounds like you've gone kid in a candy shop mode.

I'll give you the same advice I give most others that ask the same thing, albeit you'll need patience.

Get yourself to organised socials, they're a great way of meeting people, getting your face known and making connections. Just a case of waiting for them to be up and running again.

Good luck

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By *eliciousladyWoman over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

"Yes! From what I can see from your pictures, you seem the type of guy to drive a fiat 500 "

Reading this comment has intrigued me about the OP...do I want to satisfy my curiosity by having a look at his profile?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Pictures aren't great, a bit more variety and imagination

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Yes! From what I can see from your pictures, you seem the type of guy to drive a fiat 500 "

Haha I'm a wagon driver what makes it look like I drive a fiat 500 hahaha

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Pictures aren't great, a bit more variety and imagination"

Thank you. I will have a change of that

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thank you that really made sense.

You see I don't have the time for relationships because of my job but I do like to chat and stuff with people.

And when all the carona stuff blows over I will definitely be attending some social clubs and things. Thanks again

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"A face pic should help. Loose the body shots. Do one in shirt and trousers.

NThen say something about your character, what you are like and what you want.

Don't talk about any sexual stuff yet."

Noted thank you. All this stuff does help guys.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Try varying your photos a little. Even something simple like a black and white pic with a cheeky pose. As pp said, there are a lot of single guys on here so if you want to catch people's attention, you need to do something a bit different and interesting.

Your write up could say more about you as a person - who you're looking to meet, what sort of experience you have, and anything you *don't* want. "

Thank you. I did have a really long one at first but I am not sure people read it...don't get me wrong I do read most before I message but I never seem to get a reply

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't bite.. and licking pussy is the best bit.

Seriously? That's the best you can do, OP?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Your profile doesn't say anything and your profile pic us a bit strange. (Are you taking a pee?!)

There are LOADS more single guys than anyone else on here. You have to stand-out.

Plus, 3 weeks is hardly any time at all. "

Thanks. I'm guessing first thing I need to sort is the picture situation

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I don't bite.. and licking pussy is the best bit.

Seriously? That's the best you can do, OP?"

I know it seems so lame but I did have a really long one to start and then I just gave up and changed it to a tiny little write up

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And I agree, your avatar looks like you have pissed on that carpet.

Get rid of it. Now.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m in no position to give out advice, most of the other respondents are better sources than I am. But don’t let rejection on here affect your image of yourself. It’s tough, I know but don’t ever feel as though you are ugly, pal.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"And I agree, your avatar looks like you have pissed on that carpet.

Get rid of it. Now."

Noted I will do that now haha.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thank you so much people need to just hear that sometimes

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Ok guys and girls who have kindly given advice. Can you give it another read and see if that is better.

Thanks again everyone

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Going to be totally honest, it does not matter if you have a face picture on your profile? Or you have the best profile you can do , I have seen people with 10,20+ meets and they have few body pictures and “ will fill in later” as a profile , people are very clicky on these sites, you either have it or you don’t I’m afraid ,keep going don’t give up!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Going to be totally honest, it does not matter if you have a face picture on your profile? Or you have the best profile you can do , I have seen people with 10,20+ meets and they have few body pictures and “ will fill in later” as a profile , people are very clicky on these sites, you either have it or you don’t I’m afraid ,keep going don’t give up!!"

Thank you I'm definitely going to keep on with it. I'm going to hopefully get to the clubs once everything is open again and then hopefully people will want to chat

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

At the moment the site is filling with single men looking for sex. These guys aren’t swingers most of the time. So the established lot just ignore them.

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Your profile at the minute is trying to cover all bases as if you don't want to rule anybody out and that would put me off to be honest.

As it reeks as you would just like to meet 'anyone', I like a man who has his likes and has the conviction to stand by them, just now, all I can see is any hole is a goal as you don't want to rule 'anyone' out.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Also reach out to people that you fulfil what they want. There’s a looking for box for a reason.

Also 95% of men fail on here. There’s just no demand for them. The amount of people that actually want to meet a man has a choice of 100s to choose from. You have to be the top of them, and people will want to see verifications. You’ll be better off starting once socials are up and running again.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Your profile at the minute is trying to cover all bases as if you don't want to rule anybody out and that would put me off to be honest.

Thanks for taking the time to read it much appreciated. I don't really just want any hole haha how could I improve that without people taking offence. I'm also not wanting to bed hop and I'm really hoping to get in to the scene properly once everything is back to normal.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Also reach out to people that you fulfil what they want. There’s a looking for box for a reason.

Thanks so much. I'm grateful for the response peeps and I will 100% be getting to socials once they are going again.

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"Your profile at the minute is trying to cover all bases as if you don't want to rule anybody out and that would put me off to be honest.

So say what type of woman you are attracted to for a start! You are not attracted to every woman same as I am not attracted to any man just because he is a man! That would be the place to start.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Your profile at the minute is trying to cover all bases as if you don't want to rule anybody out and that would put me off to be honest.

So say what type of woman you are attracted to for a start! You are not attracted to every woman same as I am not attracted to any man just because he is a man! That would be the place to start. "

See your profile looks and reads great mine still seems crap and I have re done it

. Thanks for the help though x

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"Your profile at the minute is trying to cover all bases as if you don't want to rule anybody out and that would put me off to be honest.

So say what type of woman you are attracted to for a start! You are not attracted to every woman same as I am not attracted to any man just because he is a man! That would be the place to start.

See your profile looks and reads great mine still seems crap and I have re done it

. Thanks for the help though x"

Take mine as a pointer then, it will give you some sense I am sure on how to lay out things out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Your profile at the minute is trying to cover all bases as if you don't want to rule anybody out and that would put me off to be honest.

So say what type of woman you are attracted to for a start! You are not attracted to every woman same as I am not attracted to any man just because he is a man! That would be the place to start.

See your profile looks and reads great mine still seems crap and I have re done it

. Thanks for the help though x

Take mine as a pointer then, it will give you some sense I am sure on how to lay out things out. "

I'm going to have another read of yours later and have another go with mine I have tweaked it a little more from before x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You need more pictures of your cock bud. The lasses like to see what they're getting. Have one as your profile pic. Never fails...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You need more pictures of your cock bud. The lasses like to see what they're getting. Have one as your profile pic. Never fails..."

or you could dress your cock up with a fake mustache and glasses, also give it a name and refer to it in the 3rd person.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In lieu of the socials, keep yourself active and engaged here (and Chat Rooms too if you’re OK with them).

‘Don’t be a dick’ is also a sound approach! Some blokes here do genuinely think ‘Fancy a fuck, luv?’ in a DM will work. You don’t seem that sort, so don’t join that club!

And the advice around patience is correct; don’t expect anything overnight. I’ve been here some time now and haven’t met up with anyone yet. Blokes are ten-a-penny here, accept that and work with that in mind any you may get somewhere.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You need more pictures of your cock bud. The lasses like to see what they're getting. Have one as your profile pic. Never fails...

or you could dress your cock up with a fake mustache and glasses, also give it a name and refer to it in the 3rd person. "

Mr Winky?

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By *oodsyMan over a year ago

tonbridge

Well you need to be real. Go to a few parties and get some veris from people you have actually met. Because anyone can have a virtual fantasy life. But if you are genuine you will be a real person not just a profile. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"In lieu of the socials, keep yourself active and engaged here (and Chat Rooms too if you’re OK with them).

‘Don’t be a dick’ is also a sound approach! Some blokes here do genuinely think ‘Fancy a fuck, luv?’ in a DM will work. You don’t seem that sort, so don’t join that club!

Yeh I have just started with the forum chat and people seem nice enough to help. Certainly not that guy who says fancy a fuck haha I do like to chat and stuff and I'm not long out of a 13 year relationship so the whole dating scene has changed since I was last dating.

Hopefully I can get chatting with some lasses and maybe just maybe meet someone haha. Thanks for the advice though

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Well you need to be real. Go to a few parties and get some veris from people you have actually met. Because anyone can have a virtual fantasy life. But if you are genuine you will be a real person not just a profile. Good luck"

Thank you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You need more pictures of your cock bud. The lasses like to see what they're getting. Have one as your profile pic. Never fails..."

Na its probably not big enough ?? have you seen some of them on here jesus makes me never want to look at mine

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By *jonesMan over a year ago

Plymouth

I don't think it's bad.. not that I'm any expert ..refine it as you go along, keep it tasteful, describe a bit about you and what you are looking for.

Fab is a marathon not a sprint..

To get verified ..either go on cam with someone or when we can go to an organised social.they see free and you will meet loads of people.

Also keep one foot in the real world..meet ladies in pubs or venues and I'm sure your successful chatting to people...don't measure yourself by your success in this alternative dimension...give it time ...at least..good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I don't think it's bad.. not that I'm any expert ..refine it as you go along, keep it tasteful, describe a bit about you and what you are looking for.

Fab is a marathon not a sprint..

To get verified ..either go on cam with someone or when we can go to an organised social.they see free and you will meet loads of people.

Thank you and I certainly don't have trouble talking haha I literally don't shut up and my default when I'm nervous is to talk more. So I think when everything is back to normal I will get to the clubs and stuff and hopefully get to meet some really nice people.

Thanks for the advice and from everyone really it's all a big help as I said I was in a long relationship and it has all changed now.

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By *jonesMan over a year ago

Plymouth

"I don't think it's bad.. not that I'm any expert ..refine it as you go along, keep it tasteful, describe a bit about you and what you are looking for.

Fab is a marathon not a sprint..

To get verified ..either go on cam with someone or when we can go to an organised social.they see free and you will meet loads of people.

Thanks for the advice and from everyone really it's all a big help as I said I was in a long relationship and it has all changed now. "

Search socials in the forum and go to one of them ...free, easy ..and more genuine..save you a thousand messages on fab..

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I don't think it's bad.. not that I'm any expert ..refine it as you go along, keep it tasteful, describe a bit about you and what you are looking for.

Fab is a marathon not a sprint..

To get verified ..either go on cam with someone or when we can go to an organised social.they see free and you will meet loads of people.

Thanks for the advice and from everyone really it's all a big help as I said I was in a long relationship and it has all changed now.

Search socials in the forum and go to one of them ...free, easy ..and more genuine..save you a thousand messages on fab..

Thank you I suppose it just needs someone to help you along with this stuff and everyone has shown that they can help in different way. Because its hard for people to see you are genuinely on here to try and meet new people too and not just for sex.

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