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By *reman6976 OP Man
over a year ago
Deeping St James |
I recently noticed a post from a guy that states in his profile that he's a virgin and is looking for the guiding hand of a woman. I'm not sure how many women would actually want to take the time to show him what to do- aren't most people, that are on here and looking for meets anyway, looking for someone with knowledge on what to do and to give them a great experience? Or are there people that have that kink in which they like to take someone by the hand and be their 'first'?
Anyway, that got me thinking and, now that I've started to tentatively explore writing I thought I'd mention an experience of my own.
Feel free to offer your thoughts and own experiences- either about the topic or my writing. I'm interested.
I met a girl a couple of years ago on one of these sites who was looking for company. She is a BBC (British born Chinese, not the other well-known BBC, that I'd probably run from, after a peek that is). She was in her mid twenties then and hadn't experienced much, she had said that from an early age she would watch porn and play, fearful of having her parents hear her own personal explorations in her bedroom, and that being Chinese she found it difficult to escape their constant prying and so hadn't really had many boyfriends, even during her university years- she would often just stay with other Chinese girls and watch movies and go for meals.
We got chatting and then met, there was a spark between us and we started meeting - drinks, meals and a little soft play- kissing and stroking. I spoke of the meets and experiences I'd had and she spoke about experiences she'd had, the things she had fantasised about and wanted to try. We played quite often and things developed. She would explore my body, sating her curiosity of the male anatomy, and I would help her explore her own as well. The first unrestrained orgasm she had in my company was wonderful to behold, and she started to open up and get more insatiable, we had opened a Pandora's box, she had turned into an animal.
And then she said that she had lied and hadn't done anything with a guy, she was a virgin and that we should have full sex! Now, I knew she wasn't that experienced but to sleep with a virgin? I have had fantasies and dreams in which this sort of thing happens and the outcome is that I go ahead with it and we both have an amazing time (obviously, because, you know, I'm a very skilled lover... fantasies are great aren't they?)
This time however was reality!
I was unsure about what to do. Things were going well between us but it was becoming more than the 'friendly no strings fun' that she initially stated she wanted. She stated numerous times from then on that she didn't want a boyfriend and that she wanted to experience what it was all about, but there was still that nagging voice in my head-
'M, are you sure you should go ahead with this?'
Each time we met we would explore different kinks and fantasies, all the while leaving out the most obvious...vaginal penetration. I just couldn't go there, I was happy in her company but could see that she wanted to have more, not just the experience but a true relationship, and me being 10 years older than her I could see that although we had fun we weren't really compatible for that. Her parents weren't too fond of this older guy either.
I also remembered my first time- now maybe that was what was holding me back, we all remember our first don't we? Well I remember the connection I had with that first girl and, maybe projecting my own personality onto this sweet and insatiable girl, I thought she should have a true relationship and have her first time be with someone that wanted her solely for who she was and she should not just 'get it out of the way'.
And so I declined. We still met regularly but the physical side of things slowed until we became just friends.
She started to realise that maybe these sites weren't for her, and that she should look for a 'normal' relationship with a guy. The first guy she met on a vanilla site made all of the right sounds and actions until he had gotten what he wanted and then stopped seeing her. She was heartbroken, distraught that she had given him what he wanted and that he wasn't what he said he was. Her second date did the same. We often spoke until late in the night about these things and she would say that I should have done it with her, I felt a little guilty about that but knew it wasn't the right thing to do. It was only when she met her third date that she found what she was looking for- a gentleman, an honest guy that loved her and that she loved, and they're still together now 4 years later. It was weird to meet him for the first time- how much had she told him about how we met? He is the perfect guy for her though and a good friend of mine now too.
She still often comments about the fun we had and that she would like her boyfriend to be more experimental, I said to just let him know, I'm sure he'll be willing. It turns out she is still as insatiable as back then.
I did meet another virgin more recently, again an Asian girl, and again she didn't mention it until we were getting intimate. I'll post about that meet another day.
Have you any experiences you'd like to share?
Would you want to be the 'first' for someone?
What are your thoughts on the honesty of these sites compared to the vanilla ones |
