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over a year ago
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I let my girlfriend have a lone meet with a single male the other night because i thought it was a huge turn on for me but as it was going on i had completely changed my mind at which time it was too late and she already had him over her house and was obviously fucking him.
Anyone else had this problem. I don't mind her fucking other men but im usually there to watch and join in and don't like the fact she was fucking this guy and i couldn't hear, see or experience any of it.
She throughly enjoyed herself and said it was an amazing night, so i said okay give it some time and we will have some couple meets and ill let you have another male and her face lit up in delight.
I know how much she loves me so am i letting this bother me for no reason??
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"I let my girlfriend have a lone meet with a single male the other night because i thought it was a huge turn on for me but as it was going on i had completely changed my mind at which time it was too late and she already had him over her house and was obviously fucking him.
Anyone else had this problem. I don't mind her fucking other men but im usually there to watch and join in and don't like the fact she was fucking this guy and i couldn't hear, see or experience any of it.
She throughly enjoyed herself and said it was an amazing night, so i said okay give it some time and we will have some couple meets and ill let you have another male and her face lit up in delight.
I know how much she loves me so am i letting this bother me for no reason??
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You "let" her and you didn't like the thought of it. But something must have turned you on as you are going to "let" her again. |
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First be careful if you don't communicate to her exactly how you are feeling then you could both end up moving forward at completely different speeds. Ultimately this can lead to you both arguing and potentially worse ....
Right now that's the warning out of the way let's discuss your situation ...
What you are feeling is completely normal, we have been playing for about 10years and still to this day J playing alone is much more intense than when I watch
And like you the first times we played with this type of scenario I suffered terribly with jealousy
That said I pushed forward and encouraged J to do it several more times over the years and I have grown to actually enjoy the feeling of J playing alone as much if not more than being there
As a couple we are playing for the benefit of each other. J will tell my that the biggest thrill for her is the fact she is turning me on, however when she meets alone she can relax a little more and enjoy the situation, even if she is thinking about me.
The point is that what is good for one couple isn't necessarily good for another and what works for you as a couple one month may not work the next
Have fun, communicate, and enjoy yourselfs as a couple  |
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I used to swing with my ex for years. The first time she met alone I was all over the place. I went from wanting it, to not wanting it, to being hard as rock thinking about it, then back to feeling sick thinking about it. Once she came home and told me all about it and I saw the pics she took for me I was hooked. The sexual confidence and energy it gave her was worth every bit of turmoil I felt while she was gone. in the end she met alone more than we did as a cpl. She said although she liked me watching occasionally, she preferred it when she met alone cause she could relax, not worry if she was including me enough and she said she was twice as dirty with her meet as when I was watching. Again that was because she wasn't worried about what I was thinking or if she was going to far. If you enjoyed any bit of it I say do it again and set some boundaries. I found her taking pics for me to see made me still feel part of everything she was doing. |
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Well you've tried it and didn't enjoy it so I wouldn't be doing it again.
As others have said, if you are going to try again, how about videoing it or getting pics sent during the meet, or leaving the phone off the hook so you feel part of what's happening, that could make a massive difference to the experience.
Good luck whatever you decide x |
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"I let my girlfriend have a lone meet with a single male the other night because i thought it was a huge turn on for me but as it was going on i had completely changed my mind at which time it was too late and she already had him over her house and was obviously fucking him.
Anyone else had this problem. I don't mind her fucking other men but im usually there to watch and join in and don't like the fact she was fucking this guy and i couldn't hear, see or experience any of it.
She throughly enjoyed herself and said it was an amazing night, so i said okay give it some time and we will have some couple meets and ill let you have another male and her face lit up in delight.
I know how much she loves me so am i letting this bother me for no reason??
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One thing you need to learn is 'never take a hit for the team'. If you do, you will resent it and it will resurface in time, and perhaps not a long time either.
The other week we met a couple, she was delicious but he was repulsive. Lou appeared to be prepared to go through with it but I knew she was reluctant. We laugh and joke about it now, but imagine if she'd have gone through with it?
Don't do it for her until you're ready for it. If she knows you're reluctant but wants to go through with it anyway, she's thinking only about herself. |
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PS I once did this with an ex.
I had her text me as to when she arrived, having a drink, going upstairs, etc and then received a video call of her sucking his cock and listened to her getting fucked.
Horny. |
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By *aisy2012Couple
over a year ago
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I "let" Sexy meet guys alone when either she or I am away from home. First time I had a hissy fit about it. Was he taller/richer/better looking/better hung/better fuck than me? Got in a right state about it. Some sober reflection (when it turned out she wasn't going to disappear into the sunset with him) showed me what a twat I was being. We've done it a good few times since, either with me listening on the phone , or at least having a great picture library, & it thrills me that my woman is (a) so in tune with her sexuality & appetites & (b) such a slut. If she wants to do it then she does it, you should be happy you have such a horny woman. Push comes to shove its sex not love & its love that matters. |
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By *aisy2012Couple
over a year ago
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Any guy is going to suffer the agonies of the damned the first time his woman fucks someone else & he's not there. The whole point (it seems to me) of swinging is to enhance what's already good in a relationship. If you're not in a relationship that's secure enough for you to realise that, no matter how good a fuck someone else is, it's you she loves, you shouldn't be swinging. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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i have let donna do it on many occasions but only with men we have met together , i have been away on holiday and then had a phone call whilst they are shagging , come back to photos and videos , i love it but at the same time i'm jealous as hell  |
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just imagining it a turn on. Just ask for pics to be taking, and sexy texts - stu