So off the back of another thread where someone asked if guys lower standards on here to get a meet.
Flipping this on its head do women turn down meets if they think the guy is only so keen because you are the only female that has actually responded to his message.
I lose interest pretty quickly if I ask how they find the site and the response is 'nobody chats'
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"So off the back of another thread where someone asked if guys lower standards on here to get a meet.
Flipping this on its head do women turn down meets if they think the guy is only so keen because you are the only female that has actually responded to his message.
I lose interest pretty quickly if I ask how they find the site and the response is 'nobody chats'
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I find that kind of message generally denotes someone who has no interest in finding if there's any spark of attraction. Attraction is not all about looks for me, a wicked and wacky sense of humour, intelligence and a laid back attitude are key. Some on other threads seem to think that having those things in common isn't NSA. I disagree but then we are all here for our own pleasure. I've been lucky enough to find that but would never meet any one who didn't tick those boxes for me so the kind of message you mean would probably be a no for me too.
Disclaimer (due to previous forum experience) In no way does this comment imply that all men/women are stereotypically one way or the other... no fabsters were harmed in the making of this comment... reading this comment is at your own risk.  |
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"So off the back of another thread where someone asked if guys lower standards on here to get a meet.
Flipping this on its head do women turn down meets if they think the guy is only so keen because you are the only female that has actually responded to his message.
I lose interest pretty quickly if I ask how they find the site and the response is 'nobody chats'
I find that kind of message generally denotes someone who has no interest in finding if there's any spark of attraction. Attraction is not all about looks for me, a wicked and wacky sense of humour, intelligence and a laid back attitude are key. Some on other threads seem to think that having those things in common isn't NSA. I disagree but then we are all here for our own pleasure. I've been lucky enough to find that but would never meet any one who didn't tick those boxes for me so the kind of message you mean would probably be a no for me too.
Disclaimer (due to previous forum experience) In no way does this comment imply that all men/women are stereotypically one way or the other... no fabsters were harmed in the making of this comment... reading this comment is at your own risk. "
Yeah I agree with this. I mean I will chat to 'almost anyone' and love good banter. Just sometimes wonder if the meet is being asked for because they like you or have they lowered their standards because they are getting a response. I have too much time to think today haha
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"From a guys perspective alot of fems claim they want interesting msgs and chat but dont engage then complain when you stop "chatting" conversations a two way street"
Yeah I get that. Was actually asking from a woman's point of view. Some conversations just fizzle out naturally. Such is life. I couldn't be arsed with the drama. I'm too auld for that |
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Perhaps there's a bit of that subconsciously. I look at some of the men who contact me and get put off because they are too hot, or when seeing some of the women they have met before leaves me thinking I would be a bit of a let down. |
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"Perhaps there's a bit of that subconsciously. I look at some of the men who contact me and get put off because they are too hot, or when seeing some of the women they have met before leaves me thinking I would be a bit of a let down. "
Lol. This is me exactly. Hence the doubts that creep in about them lowering their standards. I think my bullshit radar is quite good tho that's a bonus |
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"Perhaps there's a bit of that subconsciously. I look at some of the men who contact me and get put off because they are too hot, or when seeing some of the women they have met before leaves me thinking I would be a bit of a let down. "
I definitely do this. I get all fretty when a proper gorgeous guy messages me and I convince myself they’ve made a mistake  |
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"Perhaps there's a bit of that subconsciously. I look at some of the men who contact me and get put off because they are too hot, or when seeing some of the women they have met before leaves me thinking I would be a bit of a let down.
I definitely do this. I get all fretty when a proper gorgeous guy messages me and I convince myself they’ve made a mistake "
 this is me! |
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"Perhaps there's a bit of that subconsciously. I look at some of the men who contact me and get put off because they are too hot, or when seeing some of the women they have met before leaves me thinking I would be a bit of a let down.
I definitely do this. I get all fretty when a proper gorgeous guy messages me and I convince myself they’ve made a mistake
this is me! "
Me also! I sometimes say to them that they are way out of me league and to try someone else lol |
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I've not experienced fab as a single female so can't comment from that perspective, but even as half of a couple, there are times where I look at profiles/status updates/verifications/meets and can deduce from those that some people are definitely not fussy about who they will meet. If I get an "anyone will do"/desperation vibe then that's a definite no for me.
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"I've not experienced fab as a single female so can't comment from that perspective, but even as half of a couple, there are times where I look at profiles/status updates/verifications/meets and can deduce from those that some people are definitely not fussy about who they will meet. If I get an "anyone will do"/desperation vibe then that's a definite no for me.
K x"
Agree with you.
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"Perhaps there's a bit of that subconsciously. I look at some of the men who contact me and get put off because they are too hot, or when seeing some of the women they have met before leaves me thinking I would be a bit of a let down.
I definitely do this. I get all fretty when a proper gorgeous guy messages me and I convince myself they’ve made a mistake "
I thought you ladies seemed a bit stand-offish to begin with!! Here was me thinking my patter was crap! I need to get me one of those ugly sticks to beat myself with. |
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"Perhaps there's a bit of that subconsciously. I look at some of the men who contact me and get put off because they are too hot, or when seeing some of the women they have met before leaves me thinking I would be a bit of a let down.
I definitely do this. I get all fretty when a proper gorgeous guy messages me and I convince myself they’ve made a mistake "
Everybody feels like that at some point. 25yr old gym bod Adonis messaging....what the hell would he be doing wanting to pump a 45yr old mammy? My defences are usually up because I think someone is always trying to take the piss. |
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"Perhaps there's a bit of that subconsciously. I look at some of the men who contact me and get put off because they are too hot, or when seeing some of the women they have met before leaves me thinking I would be a bit of a let down. "
Very well put and grounded reply, everyone look for different this so with that in mind I'd doubt you being a let down. In reading your reply it says alot about you, and great conversation is a big part which I bet you are! |
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