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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So. Here goes. I’m a newbie to this site. Joined after a recommendation. I’m looking to meet females initially who’ve got some experience and can help me overcome newbie nerves and introduce me to the scene. Problem I’m having is I’m not getting many responses nor profile views so wander where I’m going wrong. Any pointers most welcome.
I’m a single male no baggage or dramas. Just want to meet like minded peeps and see what happens. May love it or hate it but it’s something I know I want to do.
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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago
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"So. Here goes. I’m a newbie to this site. Joined after a recommendation. I’m looking to meet females initially who’ve got some experience and can help me overcome newbie nerves and introduce me to the scene. Problem I’m having is I’m not getting many responses nor profile views so wander where I’m going wrong. Any pointers most welcome.
I’m a single male no baggage or dramas. Just want to meet like minded peeps and see what happens. May love it or hate it but it’s something I know I want to do.
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Unfortunately the site has a very high ratio of single guys so you'll need to be patient, try to make your profile & messages interesting so that they stand out from the rest, & be prepared for plenty of knock backs.
Is there a club you could go to & meet people socially face to face? That way you can get verifications which can then reassure people on here that you are a genuine person. Or try to find a social in your area and go along to that. You don't necessarily need to do anything more than chat.
Joining in with forum posts is also good. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I guess. Just want to get to know someone build up a rapport and then hit the clubs and let my hair down. Can never imagine doing that for the first time alone  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Yeah major knockbacks but not sure if it’s my profile or what. Really want to go to a meet get to know peeps then see what happens. A club I couldn’t do on my own initially |
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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago
Shangri-la |
"Yeah major knockbacks but not sure if it’s my profile or what. Really want to go to a meet get to know peeps then see what happens. A club I couldn’t do on my own initially "
See if there are any group socials or events nearby. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yeah major knockbacks but not sure if it’s my profile or what. Really want to go to a meet get to know peeps then see what happens. A club I couldn’t do on my own initially
See if there are any group socials or events nearby. "
Yeah will get myself along hopefully soon. Got some time off coming up. Just missing some excitement in the meantime  |
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By *horelyWoman
over a year ago
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Personally, going by your profile, you'd have to send me an interesting/specific first message for me to reply. As pointed out above, the ratio is off so I think guys have to be patient.
Because women typically get a lot of messages, I mostly only respond to messages with a profile or first message that really stand out. For me, standing out means being reasonably explicit with what you want or like sexually but that's not everyone's cup of tea for a first message.
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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago
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Looking at your profile I'd say add a bit more info about yourself in general & maybe about the kind of adventures you are looking for.
Personally I'm not a fan of dick pics as profile pictures, or in general to be honest. Far prefer a picture that teases or shows creativity & individuality |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So if u are having no luck then who is the female in the pics?
A couple of years back again when I was single. And that was more a d*unken fumble
So are you not single now?"
Yes that was a couple of years back. I’ve been in a relationship until recently |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Looking at your profile I'd say add a bit more info about yourself in general & maybe about the kind of adventures you are looking for.
Personally I'm not a fan of dick pics as profile pictures, or in general to be honest. Far prefer a picture that teases or shows creativity & individuality "
I hear you. Thanks for the pointers. I’ll spend tonight updating and making it stand out a lot more.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Personally the pics would put me off and there is not enough on your profile "
Yeah I’m guessing that now. Just not sure what to say with so little experience. I’ll get my creative writing head on |
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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago
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"Personally the pics would put me off and there is not enough on your profile
Yeah I’m guessing that now. Just not sure what to say with so little experience. I’ll get my creative writing head on "
It doesn't have to be focused on the sex side of things. Lots of people/couples on here are in the lifestyle for the social side as much as the sex and place value a lot of value on common interest & establishing a connection. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Personally the pics would put me off and there is not enough on your profile
Yeah I’m guessing that now. Just not sure what to say with so little experience. I’ll get my creative writing head on
It doesn't have to be focused on the sex side of things. Lots of people/couples on here are in the lifestyle for the social side as much as the sex and place value a lot of value on common interest & establishing a connection. "
Yeah. It shouldn’t all be about the sex side. You’re right. Thank you  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Personally the pics would put me off and there is not enough on your profile
Yeah I’m guessing that now. Just not sure what to say with so little experience. I’ll get my creative writing head on
It doesn't have to be focused on the sex side of things. Lots of people/couples on here are in the lifestyle for the social side as much as the sex and place value a lot of value on common interest & establishing a connection. "
Made some changes. What you think? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ok so have made some changes based on your feedback. Any better?
You'll please some of the people some of the time  "
Yeah as long as I can please one or two I’m sure I’ll gain the confidence to fully explore |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"That's definitely an improvement I'd say. "
Appreciate that and thanks for your advice. Had a message already lol. Just needed to set the right tone I guess. So grateful |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been on fab just over 2 months.a d haven't met any one,
Only came across a small few who were abusive.. An got told I'm a fake. As I need to be a paid member to prove I'm genuine...
It's takes time to build up an you get there eventually.
I work on shifts. So hard for me to arrange..
I no I'm not a fake or I won't be writing this. everything you see on my profile is true...
Good luck op |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been on fab just over 2 months.a d haven't met any one,
Only came across a small few who were abusive.. An got told I'm a fake. As I need to be a paid member to prove I'm genuine...
It's takes time to build up an you get there eventually.
I work on shifts. So hard for me to arrange..
I no I'm not a fake or I won't be writing this. everything you see on my profile is true...
Good luck op"
Psst...you're meet verified by a couple |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've been on fab just over 2 months.a d haven't met any one,
Only came across a small few who were abusive.. An got told I'm a fake. As I need to be a paid member to prove I'm genuine...
It's takes time to build up an you get there eventually.
I work on shifts. So hard for me to arrange..
I no I'm not a fake or I won't be writing this. everything you see on my profile is true...
Good luck op"
Yes I’ve had same which is sad. I work a lot so not wanting to pay to verify for something I barely will use. Just hopefully find the right peeps eventually who can set me free. Good luck pal |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've been on fab just over 2 months.a d haven't met any one,
Only came across a small few who were abusive.. An got told I'm a fake. As I need to be a paid member to prove I'm genuine...
It's takes time to build up an you get there eventually.
I work on shifts. So hard for me to arrange..
I no I'm not a fake or I won't be writing this. everything you see on my profile is true...
Good luck op
Psst...you're meet verified by a couple "
You’re very observant ?? x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been on fab just over 2 months.a d haven't met any one,
Only came across a small few who were abusive.. An got told I'm a fake. As I need to be a paid member to prove I'm genuine...
It's takes time to build up an you get there eventually.
I work on shifts. So hard for me to arrange..
I no I'm not a fake or I won't be writing this. everything you see on my profile is true...
Good luck op
Psst...you're meet verified by a couple "
that was a fake verification an was reported to admin |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Row your own canoe and find a way that fab works for you rather than following someone else's rules
Never heard that before ...mind if I use it?"
You can even use it for free |
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By *uietbloke67Man
over a year ago
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"Row your own canoe and find a way that fab works for you rather than following someone else's rules
Never heard that before ...mind if I use it?
You can even use it for free "
Too kind thank you  |
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