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By *sm265 OP Woman
over a year ago
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Anyone else feeling a bit blah just now?
After all the build up, the frantic shopping/wrapping/preparing/cooking etc, Christmas is now over and it's the slump in between the Christmas and hogmanay celebrations. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think Christmas is always a bit like that, we put pressure on it and then say stuff like ‘Christmas isn’t the same anymore’ lol I try not to get to up or down generally x |
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"I'm glad/sad that it's not just me!
Looking forward to seeing the New Year in & hoping 2020 will be a good one! But for now I'm just feeling very flat. "
Its just like an adrenalin rush then nothing
I dont even know what day it is with no reg schedule and sick of eating lol  |
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Yes, I’m ill. All the rushing about and stress has resulted in me being properly ill. Doc says I need rest.... I knew that already. There is so much pressure to make everything just so for the kids, coupled with exams and assessments in December leaves no time for self care. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm feeling naffed off
You need a night out haha
That, a bottle of vodka and a couple of other things  "
One of which is me 
Seriously though, I'm with you... bored, flat and cabin feverish |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My house has been full since Xmas eve, today it's been bliss, peace and quiet, hubby and 2 kids slept in so I drove to sunbeds and got a wee energy boost and felt great all day. Loving peace and quiet. Now looking forward to hogmanay at cjs |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think we are hard on ourselves, in nature this time is one of celebration (it doesn’t look like it but the days do now get longer  ). However to feel that it’s a quiet time, one of hibernation is natural, we need this time of reflection and rest but in our 24/7 excitement filled world it’s not honoured. Everyone needs that quiet time, just be kind to YOU xxx |
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By *hav02Man
over a year ago
Glasgow/London |
Don't set the expectations high for Xmas, so to me, it's just been one long weekend that still hasn't ended...
It's not called January blues for nothing... Maybe some forum fun could lift the mood? Or a January social? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm feeling naffed off
You need a night out haha
That, a bottle of vodka and a couple of other things
One of which is me
Seriously though, I'm with you... bored, flat and cabin feverish"
I'm more fucked off than anything |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Na I'm fine...though as above the next 2 months are a killer.
Role on March, lighter mornings and you never know the rain might be off "
The former is assured... the latter... ffs it’s Scotland |
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By *uietbloke67Man
over a year ago
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"Na I'm fine...though as above the next 2 months are a killer.
Role on March, lighter mornings and you never know the rain might be off
The former is assured... the latter... ffs it’s Scotland "
No rain so far today and its 10.32am
..positive thinking V |
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By *sm265 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"To jsm
Big hug!
Also, to anyone else - big hugs!
Soon be back to normal! X"
Thanks. I am OK, just got the post Christmas/Pre Hogmanay blues, looking forward to seeing in the new year and then seeing what adventures 2020 will bring! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Na I'm fine...though as above the next 2 months are a killer.
Role on March, lighter mornings and you never know the rain might be off
The former is assured... the latter... ffs it’s Scotland
No rain so far today and its 10.32am
..positive thinking V "
I’m positive I like the rain... |
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By *ucky24Man
over a year ago
Glasgow |
"I think we are hard on ourselves, in nature this time is one of celebration (it doesn’t look like it but the days do now get longer ). However to feel that it’s a quiet time, one of hibernation is natural, we need this time of reflection and rest but in our 24/7 excitement filled world it’s not honoured. Everyone needs that quiet time, just be kind to YOU xxx"
This is so very true. We are constantly being bombarded with the message that you can be happy having fun all the time as that is what you are seeing on other's social media. Unreal expectations leads to mounting pressure and eventually crushing disappointment.
What I've taught my kids, is you can't be happy all the time, you can be contented though. That doesn't mean settling for second best. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I hate this time of year. Nothing reminds you that you don't have a big family around you or that you're single more than xmas.
To combat it, I brought my children on holiday. I thought running away would make it better. I was wrong I've probably felt more lonely out here than I would have at home.
My boys have had fun, we have had a few brilliant adventures so that's all that matters.
I do think though it gets to this point and everyone is missing the security of routines |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think we are hard on ourselves, in nature this time is one of celebration (it doesn’t look like it but the days do now get longer ). However to feel that it’s a quiet time, one of hibernation is natural, we need this time of reflection and rest but in our 24/7 excitement filled world it’s not honoured. Everyone needs that quiet time, just be kind to YOU xxx
This is so very true. We are constantly being bombarded with the message that you can be happy having fun all the time as that is what you are seeing on other's social media. Unreal expectations leads to mounting pressure and eventually crushing disappointment.
What I've taught my kids, is you can't be happy all the time, you can be contented though. That doesn't mean settling for second best."
Wise words  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I hate this time of year. Nothing reminds you that you don't have a big family around you or that you're single more than xmas.
To combat it, I brought my children on holiday. I thought running away would make it better. I was wrong I've probably felt more lonely out here than I would have at home.
My boys have had fun, we have had a few brilliant adventures so that's all that matters.
I do think though it gets to this point and everyone is missing the security of routines "
I’m sorry to hear that but many would envy you and what you have too |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I hate this time of year. Nothing reminds you that you don't have a big family around you or that you're single more than xmas.
To combat it, I brought my children on holiday. I thought running away would make it better. I was wrong I've probably felt more lonely out here than I would have at home.
My boys have had fun, we have had a few brilliant adventures so that's all that matters.
I do think though it gets to this point and everyone is missing the security of routines
I’m sorry to hear that but many would envy you and what you have too "
I'm well aware I'm very lucky, however that doesn't mean I'm not able to feel this way.
I worked my ass off at two jobs all year to get us here and I've raised my boys single handedly for 10 year's. I've no parents, no siblings and no significant other, therefore I think I'm allowed to feel a little bit lonely |
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"I hate this time of year. Nothing reminds you that you don't have a big family around you or that you're single more than xmas.
To combat it, I brought my children on holiday. I thought running away would make it better. I was wrong I've probably felt more lonely out here than I would have at home.
My boys have had fun, we have had a few brilliant adventures so that's all that matters.
I do think though it gets to this point and everyone is missing the security of routines "
I think the festive period is very disorientating in that you make yourself be with family when you would prefer to be alone or you isolate yourself when you would prefer to be with others. My eldest has struggled with Xmas since my dad passed 6 years ago so he isolated himself for so long at Xmas that I don’t think he knows how to celebrate it now but hopefully with encouragement he will learn to let go and join us again.
I will always remember a 6 yr old telling me about her amazing Xmas where her and her mother have a picnic Xmas dinner on a blanket in their living room as they don’t have a table to sit at and it’s just the two of them. So Mum made it into such a special thing and this child will always treasure their picnic xmases.
I have a massive family so never know the true feeling of loneliness (80 full cousins and that doesn’t count the next 3 generations up and coming!) but can empathize and always offer a hand of friendship to you sinders if you ever need it. Wishing you a amazing 2020 with your lovely boys xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I hate this time of year. Nothing reminds you that you don't have a big family around you or that you're single more than xmas.
To combat it, I brought my children on holiday. I thought running away would make it better. I was wrong I've probably felt more lonely out here than I would have at home.
My boys have had fun, we have had a few brilliant adventures so that's all that matters.
I do think though it gets to this point and everyone is missing the security of routines "
The busiest people in the world can be the loneliest |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I hate this time of year. Nothing reminds you that you don't have a big family around you or that you're single more than xmas.
To combat it, I brought my children on holiday. I thought running away would make it better. I was wrong I've probably felt more lonely out here than I would have at home.
My boys have had fun, we have had a few brilliant adventures so that's all that matters.
I do think though it gets to this point and everyone is missing the security of routines
I’m sorry to hear that but many would envy you and what you have too
I'm well aware I'm very lucky, however that doesn't mean I'm not able to feel this way.
I worked my ass off at two jobs all year to get us here and I've raised my boys single handedly for 10 year's. I've no parents, no siblings and no significant other, therefore I think I'm allowed to feel a little bit lonely "
I can understand that and of course you are entitled to feel that way. We all do at times. It sounds like you’re a strong lady. We all speak from personal experience and I guess I was too. This time of year is also about counting blessings and having a close friend who lost his 11 year old son a couple of months ago has me thankful in particular this year. I’m sure you do too when you look at your boys smiles. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It'll pass folks, everything does.
Like a jaggie jobbie 
Aye....and the ring sting passes eventually too!
Chilled loo roll so I’m told "
Time to stop now....some pervert will be along shortly offering their frozen tongue for a spot of chilled rimming . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It'll pass folks, everything does.
Like a jaggie jobbie
Aye....and the ring sting passes eventually too!
Chilled loo roll so I’m told
Time to stop now....some pervert will be along shortly offering their frozen tongue for a spot of chilled rimming . "
Arrrgh... stopped!!!!  |
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It can be like this at this time of year, the buzz, busy get togethers (or none) then a lull where not much happens.
Days flow into each other. And I say that as a guy on a Monday morning sitting on the couch drinking a beer at 9am.
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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago
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"I hate this time of year. Nothing reminds you that you don't have a big family around you or that you're single more than xmas.
To combat it, I brought my children on holiday. I thought running away would make it better. I was wrong I've probably felt more lonely out here than I would have at home.
My boys have had fun, we have had a few brilliant adventures so that's all that matters.
I do think though it gets to this point and everyone is missing the security of routines
I’m sorry to hear that but many would envy you and what you have too
I'm well aware I'm very lucky, however that doesn't mean I'm not able to feel this way.
I worked my ass off at two jobs all year to get us here and I've raised my boys single handedly for 10 year's. I've no parents, no siblings and no significant other, therefore I think I'm allowed to feel a little bit lonely "
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Sounds like you're a fantastic mum and you're doing it by yourself
without a family support network, something most of us take for granted.
Hope you're proud of yourself because you should be
Sounds like you've made some great memories on your trip too |
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