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By *sm265 OP Woman
over a year ago
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Something I've noticed as a newbie on here is there seems to be a distinct lack of basic manners in the majority of messages from men on here. No polite introductions & sharing a bit of background about themselves or anything like that, usually just launching straight in to crude and overtly graphic details about what they'd do to me. There seem to be very few gentlemen but lots of disrespectful neanderthals.
Has social media & technology killed the art of conversation or has society in general given up on basic social etiquette? Or am I expecting too much to ask for manners and respect on a site like this?
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I think it's a general problem, social media seems to have removed basic manners from some people. There are many men on here who seem to think that because it's a swingers site and we are on here, we should drop our knickers for anyone that messages us.
They wouldn't dare speak to someone like that face to face. |
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over a year ago
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I think some men on here think we are at home sitting gagging for any meet because we are on a sex site so 1 click of a message and we should be ok let's go big fella. 
I did say some but just now it seems to be more and more crudeness than genuine messages.
Hey ho delete and move on. |
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over a year ago
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Whilst there's no excuse for a crude opening message, I can understand why the majority of men don't bother their arse they with a wordy, time consuming opener.
I imagine it's a bit like being a door to door salesman, starting off all enthusiastic but after having 50 doors slammed in your coupon (and of course, folk are perfectly entitled to do so!) they think "Fuck that!" and resort to one liners.
Never opened my front door to a guy with his wanger hanging out mind you.
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over a year ago
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"Whilst there's no excuse for a crude opening message, I can understand why the majority of men don't bother their arse they with a wordy, time consuming opener.
I imagine it's a bit like being a door to door salesman, starting off all enthusiastic but after having 50 doors slammed in your coupon (and of course, folk are perfectly entitled to do so!) they think "Fuck that!" and resort to one liners.
Never opened my front door to a guy with his wanger hanging out mind you.
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i agree I always say if I was a guy on here id just wink rather than leave a message. If you look at the profile and are interested you will wink back.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Morning ladies *doffs hat and bows*
You wrote that with your wanger hanging out, didn't you?
My vocabulary is inadequate. What's the opposite of hanging?"
Oops..typo...should have read "hanging over your shoulder"  |
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By *sm265 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I think it's a general problem, social media seems to have removed basic manners from some people. There are many men on here who seem to think that because it's a swingers site and we are on here, we should drop our knickers for anyone that messages us.
They wouldn't dare speak to someone like that face to face."
It's that sense of entitlement that really irks me. Like they assume that because we are on here we are all gagging for a shag so they can treat us accordingly.
Whether they would do the same face to face I'll never know because they sure as hell don't make me want to meet them. |
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By *sm265 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Whilst there's no excuse for a crude opening message, I can understand why the majority of men don't bother their arse they with a wordy, time consuming opener.
I imagine it's a bit like being a door to door salesman, starting off all enthusiastic but after having 50 doors slammed in your coupon (and of course, folk are perfectly entitled to do so!) they think "Fuck that!" and resort to one liners.
Never opened my front door to a guy with his wanger hanging out mind you.
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I wonder if the crude one liners & wanger hanging out approach works. Maybe I'm in the minority finding manners attractive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Whilst there's no excuse for a crude opening message, I can understand why the majority of men don't bother their arse they with a wordy, time consuming opener.
I imagine it's a bit like being a door to door salesman, starting off all enthusiastic but after having 50 doors slammed in your coupon (and of course, folk are perfectly entitled to do so!) they think "Fuck that!" and resort to one liners.
Never opened my front door to a guy with his wanger hanging out mind you.
I wonder if the crude one liners & wanger hanging out approach works. Maybe I'm in the minority finding manners attractive. "
Must do at some point, otherwise why continue.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Morning ladies *doffs hat and bows*
You wrote that with your wanger hanging out, didn't you?
My vocabulary is inadequate. What's the opposite of hanging?
Oops..typo...should have read "hanging over your shoulder" "
That made me laugh. So far I’ve been thanked for responding but that’s only now things have settled. Couldn’t answer them all at first and rude ones were ignored. I love sex but hate crudity |
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over a year ago
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Good manners cost nothing at the end of the day. I would say the lack off good manners being displayed is a social issue and not just online..
It's funny because I was speaking to a woman yesterday about this and she told me she dislikes holding a door open for someone if they don't say thanks in return and lets them know so.....
My response to that was i do it because i do , I don't do it for the thanks, it would be nice but if the person doesn't thank you then so be it. |
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"Whilst there's no excuse for a crude opening message, I can understand why the majority of men don't bother their arse they with a wordy, time consuming opener.
I imagine it's a bit like being a door to door salesman, starting off all enthusiastic but after having 50 doors slammed in your coupon (and of course, folk are perfectly entitled to do so!) they think "Fuck that!" and resort to one liners.
Never opened my front door to a guy with his wanger hanging out mind you.
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I have to say unfortunately this is probably true. Dosnt mean anyone has the right to be crude or rude but realistically you are not going to get a long message with an introduction and background info. You must also remember it works the other way too as in if a man sends a nice message very rarely will he get a reponse with a polite no thanks and i think that contributes to how it is in life today.
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"Whilst there's no excuse for a crude opening message, I can understand why the majority of men don't bother their arse they with a wordy, time consuming opener.
I imagine it's a bit like being a door to door salesman, starting off all enthusiastic but after having 50 doors slammed in your coupon (and of course, folk are perfectly entitled to do so!) they think "Fuck that!" and resort to one liners.
Never opened my front door to a guy with his wanger hanging out mind you.
I have to say unfortunately this is probably true. Dosnt mean anyone has the right to be crude or rude but realistically you are not going to get a long message with an introduction and background info. You must also remember it works the other way too as in if a man sends a nice message very rarely will he get a reponse with a polite no thanks and i think that contributes to how it is in life today.
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Ohhh....and i have never tried knocking on the door with my wanger out...yet
Just dont look thru the letter box to see who is there ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No matter how we right messages to any female
We still get a unread delete n block
That’s untrue. Very rarely do I get that. Maybe your technique just needs a little refinement. "
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"No matter how we right messages to any female
We still get a unread delete n block
That’s untrue. Very rarely do I get that. Maybe your technique just needs a little refinement. "
We can't all be cunninglinguists though.. You should run a night class fir us mere weegies who spout more shit than a burst sewer pipe. Please teach me obi (big) wan kenobi. |
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I would say that in my experience the lack of manners is on both sides of the equation.
I take my time to be polite in my postings on here.
In maybe 1 in 5 i get a response. The rest are Message read and deleted with no reply.
Now to me that is rude but i put it down as a lucky escape as if they are that way online then I have no interest in meeting them.
My personal "favourite" are those who wink at you but when i reply with a message they read and delete with no reply.
As i say though, lucky escape for me. |
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"No matter how we right messages to any female
We still get a unread delete n block
That’s untrue. Very rarely do I get that. Maybe your technique just needs a little refinement.
We can't all be cunninglinguists though.. You should run a night class fir us mere weegies who spout more shit than a burst sewer pipe. Please teach me obi (big) wan kenobi. "
Just hod the bus right there! How many burds frequent your Jedi mind trick establishment every Friday, Qui-Gon Jinn? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would say that in my experience the lack of manners is on both sides of the equation.
I take my time to be polite in my postings on here.
In maybe 1 in 5 i get a response. The rest are Message read and deleted with no reply.
Now to me that is rude but i put it down as a lucky escape as if they are that way online then I have no interest in meeting them.
My personal "favourite" are those who wink at you but when i reply with a message they read and delete with no reply.
As i say though, lucky escape for me."
Firstly... there is fault on BOTH sides... however, I wonder if men would really be that tolerant if they got the same amount of messages saying the same thing on here. A lot of men who message have blatantly ignored the profile in the first place so why should someone answer... PLUS the site specifically states that a non response should be taken as a polite no thanks... but then who reads the site guidlines and FAQ's eh |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No matter how we right messages to any female
We still get a unread delete n block
That’s untrue. Very rarely do I get that. Maybe your technique just needs a little refinement.
We can't all be cunninglinguists though.. You should run a night class fir us mere weegies who spout more shit than a burst sewer pipe. Please teach me obi (big) wan kenobi.
Just hod the bus right there! How many burds frequent your Jedi mind trick establishment every Friday, Qui-Gon Jinn?"
Nothing to do with me .. It's the free booze. They come in, drink me dry and go home with you.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No matter how we right messages to any female
We still get a unread delete n block
That’s untrue. Very rarely do I get that. Maybe your technique just needs a little refinement.
We can't all be cunninglinguists though.. You should run a night class fir us mere weegies who spout more shit than a burst sewer pipe. Please teach me obi (big) wan kenobi.
Just hod the bus right there! How many burds frequent your Jedi mind trick establishment every Friday, Qui-Gon Jinn?"
Should you two not be messaging the lovely ladies of fab |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would say that in my experience the lack of manners is on both sides of the equation.
I take my time to be polite in my postings on here.
In maybe 1 in 5 i get a response. The rest are Message read and deleted with no reply.
Now to me that is rude but i put it down as a lucky escape as if they are that way online then I have no interest in meeting them.
My personal "favourite" are those who wink at you but when i reply with a message they read and delete with no reply.
As i say though, lucky escape for me.
Firstly... there is fault on BOTH sides... however, I wonder if men would really be that tolerant if they got the same amount of messages saying the same thing on here. A lot of men who message have blatantly ignored the profile in the first place so why should someone answer... PLUS the site specifically states that a non response should be taken as a polite no thanks... but then who reads the site guidlines and FAQ's eh "
About as many who manage to get passed the public pics to the profile text. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would say that in my experience the lack of manners is on both sides of the equation.
I take my time to be polite in my postings on here.
In maybe 1 in 5 i get a response. The rest are Message read and deleted with no reply.
Now to me that is rude but i put it down as a lucky escape as if they are that way online then I have no interest in meeting them.
My personal "favourite" are those who wink at you but when i reply with a message they read and delete with no reply.
As i say though, lucky escape for me.
Firstly... there is fault on BOTH sides... however, I wonder if men would really be that tolerant if they got the same amount of messages saying the same thing on here. A lot of men who message have blatantly ignored the profile in the first place so why should someone answer... PLUS the site specifically states that a non response should be taken as a polite no thanks... but then who reads the site guidlines and FAQ's eh
About as many who manage to get passed the public pics to the profile text. "
See you are a wise obi wan lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No matter how we right messages to any female
We still get a unread delete n block
That’s untrue. Very rarely do I get that. Maybe your technique just needs a little refinement.
We can't all be cunninglinguists though.. You should run a night class fir us mere weegies who spout more shit than a burst sewer pipe. Please teach me obi (big) wan kenobi.
Just hod the bus right there! How many burds frequent your Jedi mind trick establishment every Friday, Qui-Gon Jinn?
Should you two not be messaging the lovely ladies of fab "
There are ways to chat outside of forum threads??? |
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By *sm265 OP Woman
over a year ago
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I don't want their life story, a general polite message that shows they've taken the time to read my profile would be a good start. Unfortunately most seem to opt for either a lazy uninspiring "hi" or go straight in with a dick pic & crude message about what they'd like to do to me or there are the charmers that introduce themselves with things like "do you do anal?" or "fancy a fuck?"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No matter how we right messages to any female
We still get a unread delete n block
That’s untrue. Very rarely do I get that. Maybe your technique just needs a little refinement.
We can't all be cunninglinguists though.. You should run a night class fir us mere weegies who spout more shit than a burst sewer pipe. Please teach me obi (big) wan kenobi.
Just hod the bus right there! How many burds frequent your Jedi mind trick establishment every Friday, Qui-Gon Jinn?
Should you two not be messaging the lovely ladies of fab
There are ways to chat outside of forum threads??? "
There are many paths to the top of the mountain young obi - but when you get there the view is just the same... (no idea what that's got to do with anything but I just felt like saying it) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No matter how we right messages to any female
We still get a unread delete n block
That’s untrue. Very rarely do I get that. Maybe your technique just needs a little refinement.
We can't all be cunninglinguists though.. You should run a night class fir us mere weegies who spout more shit than a burst sewer pipe. Please teach me obi (big) wan kenobi.
Just hod the bus right there! How many burds frequent your Jedi mind trick establishment every Friday, Qui-Gon Jinn?
Should you two not be messaging the lovely ladies of fab
There are ways to chat outside of forum threads???
There are many paths to the top of the mountain young obi - but when you get there the view is just the same... (no idea what that's got to do with anything but I just felt like saying it) "
The many paths to your mountain all seem to be blocked. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No matter how we right messages to any female
We still get a unread delete n block
That’s untrue. Very rarely do I get that. Maybe your technique just needs a little refinement.
We can't all be cunninglinguists though.. You should run a night class fir us mere weegies who spout more shit than a burst sewer pipe. Please teach me obi (big) wan kenobi.
Just hod the bus right there! How many burds frequent your Jedi mind trick establishment every Friday, Qui-Gon Jinn?
Should you two not be messaging the lovely ladies of fab
There are ways to chat outside of forum threads???
There are many paths to the top of the mountain young obi - but when you get there the view is just the same... (no idea what that's got to do with anything but I just felt like saying it)
The many paths to your mountain all seem to be blocked. "
It's the big boobs... they get in the way of everything, no idea why some folk want em |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No matter how we right messages to any female
We still get a unread delete n block
That’s untrue. Very rarely do I get that. Maybe your technique just needs a little refinement.
We can't all be cunninglinguists though.. You should run a night class fir us mere weegies who spout more shit than a burst sewer pipe. Please teach me obi (big) wan kenobi.
Just hod the bus right there! How many burds frequent your Jedi mind trick establishment every Friday, Qui-Gon Jinn?
Should you two not be messaging the lovely ladies of fab
There are ways to chat outside of forum threads???
There are many paths to the top of the mountain young obi - but when you get there the view is just the same... (no idea what that's got to do with anything but I just felt like saying it)
The many paths to your mountain all seem to be blocked.
It's the big boobs... they get in the way of everything, no idea why some folk want em "
. They are the mountains i was referring to. |
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"I don't want their life story, a general polite message that shows they've taken the time to read my profile would be a good start. Unfortunately most seem to opt for either a lazy uninspiring "hi" or go straight in with a dick pic & crude message about what they'd like to do to me or there are the charmers that introduce themselves with things like "do you do anal?" or "fancy a fuck?"
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why dont you block all males & do your own search ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No matter how we right messages to any female
We still get a unread delete n block
That’s untrue. Very rarely do I get that. Maybe your technique just needs a little refinement.
We can't all be cunninglinguists though.. You should run a night class fir us mere weegies who spout more shit than a burst sewer pipe. Please teach me obi (big) wan kenobi.
Just hod the bus right there! How many burds frequent your Jedi mind trick establishment every Friday, Qui-Gon Jinn?
Should you two not be messaging the lovely ladies of fab
There are ways to chat outside of forum threads???
There are many paths to the top of the mountain young obi - but when you get there the view is just the same... (no idea what that's got to do with anything but I just felt like saying it)
The many paths to your mountain all seem to be blocked.
It's the big boobs... they get in the way of everything, no idea why some folk want em . They are the mountains i was referring to. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't want their life story, a general polite message that shows they've taken the time to read my profile would be a good start. Unfortunately most seem to opt for either a lazy uninspiring "hi" or go straight in with a dick pic & crude message about what they'd like to do to me or there are the charmers that introduce themselves with things like "do you do anal?" or "fancy a fuck?"
why dont you block all males & do your own search ?"
I do agree with this to a degree but you sometimes miss some very interesting conversation with some very nice people if you do that (thinking fab forum folk for instance) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't want their life story, a general polite message that shows they've taken the time to read my profile would be a good start. Unfortunately most seem to opt for either a lazy uninspiring "hi" or go straight in with a dick pic & crude message about what they'd like to do to me or there are the charmers that introduce themselves with things like "do you do anal?" or "fancy a fuck?"
why dont you block all males & do your own search ?"
Ive blocked all females and do my own searching.. Oh wait.. Only half that statement is true. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I was actually talking about this over the weekend, I’m quite fortunate I don’t really t any new messages these day’s tbh just folk who are in the forums and folk I already know, I don’t even have newbies filtered but I seem to get the folk who know that kind of shit isn’t tolerated, maybe it’s just luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I was actually talking about this over the weekend, I’m quite fortunate I don’t really t any new messages these day’s tbh just folk who are in the forums and folk I already know, I don’t even have newbies filtered but I seem to get the folk who know that kind of shit isn’t tolerated, maybe it’s just luck "
I think good filters, good profile and time means the amount of random messages goes down but yes maybe luck too |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Good manners cost nothing at the end of the day. I would say the lack off good manners being displayed is a social issue and not just online..
It's funny because I was speaking to a woman yesterday about this and she told me she dislikes holding a door open for someone if they don't say thanks in return and lets them know so.....
My response to that was i do it because i do , I don't do it for the thanks, it would be nice but if the person doesn't thank you then so be it."
I do it because I was brought up to do so, and when someone walks through with out saying thanks I simply say very loudly you’re welcome
Yesterday I was ready to chase a woman round the shop and knock fifty shades of shite out her barged past me nearly knocking me on my ass in Asda ! Myself and bf were already halfway past the two eedjits blocking the aisle with their trolleys when she bounded up arms up elbows out and full on rammed me like a fuxking rugby player eh hello pretty sure I had right of way considering you were on the right of the aisle and then ran down the left side through me like a fuxking steamtrain !!! And I mean ran ! She’s either foreign or ignorant cause she never even turned round when I screamed ducking ignorant bitch aye fuxking excuse me ya fuxking Cow ! Everyone else turned and looked she sped off out of sight ! I swear I was ready to kick off and then some |
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"I don't want their life story, a general polite message that shows they've taken the time to read my profile would be a good start. Unfortunately most seem to opt for either a lazy uninspiring "hi" or go straight in with a dick pic & crude message about what they'd like to do to me or there are the charmers that introduce themselves with things like "do you do anal?" or "fancy a fuck?"
why dont you block all males & do your own search ?
I do agree with this to a degree but you sometimes miss some very interesting conversation with some very nice people if you do that (thinking fab forum folk for instance) "
You can still message them instead of them messaging you tho |
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"Good manners cost nothing at the end of the day. I would say the lack off good manners being displayed is a social issue and not just online..
It's funny because I was speaking to a woman yesterday about this and she told me she dislikes holding a door open for someone if they don't say thanks in return and lets them know so.....
My response to that was i do it because i do , I don't do it for the thanks, it would be nice but if the person doesn't thank you then so be it.
I do it because I was brought up to do so, and when someone walks through with out saying thanks I simply say very loudly you’re welcome
Yesterday I was ready to chase a woman round the shop and knock fifty shades of shite out her barged past me nearly knocking me on my ass in Asda ! Myself and bf were already halfway past the two eedjits blocking the aisle with their trolleys when she bounded up arms up elbows out and full on rammed me like a fuxking rugby player eh hello pretty sure I had right of way considering you were on the right of the aisle and then ran down the left side through me like a fuxking steamtrain !!! And I mean ran ! She’s either foreign or ignorant cause she never even turned round when I screamed ducking ignorant bitch aye fuxking excuse me ya fuxking Cow ! Everyone else turned and looked she sped off out of sight ! I swear I was ready to kick off and then some "
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By *alkdirty2meCouple
over a year ago
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We work with a lot of very different people in different areas of the country and the level of manners from one place to another is shocking
Poor areas of The UK where there is dog shit on the street and you might form a opinion of those living there, in our experience are some of the politest and mannerly we have ever met, skip to the posh areas with vast amounts of money and it’s exactly the opposite, the people are mannerly to a point but that point is repeatedly shown
As a poster said further up this thread
Manners cost nothing, they can make someone’s day, and even if you’re angry or annoyed at something or someone, be polite, be honest and be humble
Calling someone a cunt in a mannerly fashion will hit home a lot more than a shouty argument |
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This annoys me no end as it makes things so much more difficult for those of us guys who would like to chat first, get to know some people etc before even considering asking about a meet up...
We’re all here for similar reasons, but some idiots just ruin it for the rest
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We’re all here for similar reasons, but some idiots just ruin it for the rest
I dont believe this !.... Good guys will always stand out "
Good people stand out can’t thank them enough for help I’ve had . |
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By *sm265 OP Woman
over a year ago
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We’re all here for similar reasons, but some idiots just ruin it for the rest
I dont believe this !.... Good guys will always stand out "
I agree. As a newbie I had an onslaught of messages. The crude, disrespectful ones & the ones who clearly haven't read my profile, or that are obviously cut & paste jobs, have immediately been ruled out. The few polite, well worded, messages are the ones I've taken time to respond to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't want their life story, a general polite message that shows they've taken the time to read my profile would be a good start. Unfortunately most seem to opt for either a lazy uninspiring "hi" or go straight in with a dick pic & crude message about what they'd like to do to me or there are the charmers that introduce themselves with things like "do you do anal?" or "fancy a fuck?"
why dont you block all males & do your own search ?
I do agree with this to a degree but you sometimes miss some very interesting conversation with some very nice people if you do that (thinking fab forum folk for instance) You can still message them instead of them messaging you tho "
Yes true but I meant they’ve wanted to comment on something I’ve said which has then led to an interesting exchange I’d not have had otherwise. I guess you make your filters and your choice therein  |
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"I think it's a general problem, social media seems to have removed basic manners from some people. There are many men on here who seem to think that because it's a swingers site and we are on here, we should drop our knickers for anyone that messages us.
They wouldn't dare speak to someone like that face to face."
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There are gentlemen on here and usually when we take the time to type out a message to a woman, polite, correct grammar, nothing sexual and all the other stuff by way of an introduction, it still goes straight into the delete bin making it a total waste of time in the first place, so maybe some guys just think fuck that i'll just go off at the deep end and i'll either get deleted or i'll get fucked
I wouldn't do that, neither would i go up to a woman in a pub and say those things, but even when you take the time to compose something because we are single men women get loads of messages from guys so it's just a crap shoot whether it gets read or no
I think the women should send a message to a guy they might like that way at least the guy knows where he stands and if he comes back in his message about what he would do etc then at least you know he's a twat and no worth bothering about and move on to someone else |
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By *sm265 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"There are gentlemen on here and usually when we take the time to type out a message to a woman, polite, correct grammar, nothing sexual and all the other stuff by way of an introduction, it still goes straight into the delete bin making it a total waste of time in the first place, so maybe some guys just think fuck that i'll just go off at the deep end and i'll either get deleted or i'll get fucked
I wouldn't do that, neither would i go up to a woman in a pub and say those things, but even when you take the time to compose something because we are single men women get loads of messages from guys so it's just a crap shoot whether it gets read or no
I think the women should send a message to a guy they might like that way at least the guy knows where he stands and if he comes back in his message about what he would do etc then at least you know he's a twat and no worth bothering about and move on to someone else "
That's basically the conclusion I have come to. |
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"Good manners cost nothing at the end of the day. I would say the lack off good manners being displayed is a social issue and not just online..
It's funny because I was speaking to a woman yesterday about this and she told me she dislikes holding a door open for someone if they don't say thanks in return and lets them know so.....
My response to that was i do it because i do , I don't do it for the thanks, it would be nice but if the person doesn't thank you then so be it.
I do it because I was brought up to do so, and when someone walks through with out saying thanks I simply say very loudly you’re welcome
Yesterday I was ready to chase a woman round the shop and knock fifty shades of shite out her barged past me nearly knocking me on my ass in Asda ! Myself and bf were already halfway past the two eedjits blocking the aisle with their trolleys when she bounded up arms up elbows out and full on rammed me like a fuxking rugby player eh hello pretty sure I had right of way considering you were on the right of the aisle and then ran down the left side through me like a fuxking steamtrain !!! And I mean ran ! She’s either foreign or ignorant cause she never even turned round when I screamed ducking ignorant bitch aye fuxking excuse me ya fuxking Cow ! Everyone else turned and looked she sped off out of sight ! I swear I was ready to kick off and then some "
Some people do make you wonder and as you say you were brought up with manners so is it a case of blaming the parents for those without manners.
Or do some people just not think because they are that ignorant and self obsessed or is it just plain stupidity or a lack of common sense.
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By *sm265 OP Woman
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Some people do make you wonder and as you say you were brought up with manners so is it a case of blaming the parents for those without manners.
Or do some people just not think because they are that ignorant and self obsessed or is it just plain stupidity or a lack of common sense.
Who knows"
I think, on sites like this especially, there are quite a lot of people who think they can behave in ways they never would in 'real' life. They can say what they want and behave how they want because they are safely tucked behind a screen. Some of them get their kicks from sending the lewd comments & dick pics & they probably don't have any intentions of ever actually meeting the people they send them to. |
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Some people do make you wonder and as you say you were brought up with manners so is it a case of blaming the parents for those without manners.
Or do some people just not think because they are that ignorant and self obsessed or is it just plain stupidity or a lack of common sense.
Who knows
I think, on sites like this especially, there are quite a lot of people who think they can behave in ways they never would in 'real' life. They can say what they want and behave how they want because they are safely tucked behind a screen. Some of them get their kicks from sending the lewd comments & dick pics & they probably don't have any intentions of ever actually meeting the people they send them to. "
Keep saying sites like this. This isn't anything special really. Have you not seen Twitter talk or any public forum where people can communicate. Even on Facebook sometimes with the photos and real names, if there is enough distance.
Now to this site I get around 1 in 10 replying, roughly. I have seen that a no reply is not to be considered rude here, but it seems rude anyways, I think people can understand why. And people who don't reply get tons of messages, I get that too.
Would probably be fair to reply if you see effort has been made to write a message.
I did follow up once, to ask why they didn't reply. They didn't reply to that either. Felt stupid, not doing that again. |
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Keep saying sites like this. This isn't anything special really. Have you not seen Twitter talk or any public forum where people can communicate. Even on Facebook sometimes with the photos and real names, if there is enough distance.
Now to this site I get around 1 in 10 replying, roughly. I have seen that a no reply is not to be considered rude here, but it seems rude anyways, I think people can understand why. And people who don't reply get tons of messages, I get that too.
Would probably be fair to reply if you see effort has been made to write a message.
I did follow up once, to ask why they didn't reply. They didn't reply to that either. Felt stupid, not doing that again."
Not on twitter so can't comment on that. On Facebook I keep my friends list to people I know well & family so not had any issues there. On here though I have had loads of messages that have immediately made me delete/block.
Polite messages from people who have clearly read an effort to read my profile & to compose a decent introductory message I always try to reply to, even if it's just to say thanks but no thanks.
I don't have the time or inclination to respond to every "hi" message though. |
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