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This maybe won’t end well...
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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.... but I’ll post it anyway. Firstly I’d like it noted that...
1. There are good and bad in both sexes
2. Yes, this is not a new topic
3. I’m not tarring anyone with any brushes
Due to an influx of a certain type of message I’m wondering about the following...
Genuine thoughtful responses would be preferred but hey... it’s an open forum so all welcome.
My experience is that in general men are far less fussy than women in meeting (reminder: not all  ) Now I’m sure there are generalities for both sexes but what’s your experience/thoughts. Do you see a large “any holes a goal” male mentality? What if you had a daughter (legal age, you can see I’ve forum experience eh?) what would you advise her of? Would you feel differently about a son being here?
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I'd say your correct to a point I'd say the men on here a large proportion are of the any holes a goal variety.
I'd also say a large proportion of fems are attention seekers.
A lot of cpl profiles are Male driven with pretend bi wife's.
If my sons were to be using this it would be the same advice they get for life.
Don't buy into the bullshit and respect partners you chose
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By (user no longer on site)
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If it were relevant, I'd hope that neither a son or daughter would come here for any early sexual experiences as I think there are a lot of unhealthy and unrealistic attitudes and expectations displayed by both men and women |
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Any hole is a goal! Especially when own goals have become the norm. Personally speaking, I'd like a little shooting practice into the opposition orifice. If I'm going down, someone is coming with me.
I forgot the actual questions you posed. Lack of blood-flow to the top brain always hinders me on Fab. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'd say your correct to a point I'd say the men on here a large proportion are of the any holes a goal variety.
I'd also say a large proportion of fems are attention seekers.
A lot of cpl profiles are Male driven with pretend bi wife's.
If my sons were to be using this it would be the same advice they get for life.
Don't buy into the bullshit and respect partners you chose
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Pretty much agree with you there Kola and nice advice for your sons too  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I’ve definitely noticed an increase in the instashag brigade in recent years, fed up of getting no effort messages expecting me to drop my knickers at a moment’s notice "
This was what I’ve been finding and a level of crudity that is eye watering. Yes I could apply filters to stop a lot of it but I quite like some of the forum private messages too. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yeah hate it when men speak to you like an object and not a person. "
Agreed, there’s a difference between sexually engaging someone and objectification |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If it were relevant, I'd hope that neither a son or daughter would come here for any early sexual experiences as I think there are a lot of unhealthy and unrealistic attitudes and expectations displayed by both men and women "
A good point and if a son or daughter did join the site that would be very sound advice |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Any hole is a goal! Especially when own goals have become the norm. Personally speaking, I'd like a little shooting practice into the opposition orifice. If I'm going down, someone is coming with me.
I forgot the actual questions you posed. Lack of blood-flow to the top brain always hinders me on Fab. "
Lolol fair point and an attitude for many I think. |
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I forgot the actual questions you posed. Lack of blood-flow to the top brain always hinders me on Fab. "
That's an actual thing men when aroused are more likely to take risks and take action without thinking about it the same as if they were "sober". There have been some interesting studies done on it.
I have no intention of having children but if my niece or nephew or more relevant my cousin were on here I would give them same advice I give for all situations don't be a dick, treat people with respect and kindness, ignore the rude people who spread hate.
Also block me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If it were relevant, I'd hope that neither a son or daughter would come here for any early sexual experiences as I think there are a lot of unhealthy and unrealistic attitudes and expectations displayed by both men and women
A good point and if a son or daughter did join the site that would be very sound advice "
Have to be honest but my heart sinks a wee bit when I see a profile (male or female) and they're really young (but legal!)..Yeah, I know that they're technically adults at 18...but 18, 19 and into your early 20s you should be out meeting folk in real life. Maybe I'm just old fashioned... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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I forgot the actual questions you posed. Lack of blood-flow to the top brain always hinders me on Fab.
That's an actual thing men when aroused are more likely to take risks and take action without thinking about it the same as if they were "sober". There have been some interesting studies done on it.
I have no intention of having children but if my niece or nephew or more relevant my cousin were on here I would give them same advice I give for all situations don't be a dick, treat people with respect and kindness, ignore the rude people who spread hate.
Also block me."
I agree about the studies - Mother Nature creates strong drives and whilst we like to think we are in control of them it’s often the other way round |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If it were relevant, I'd hope that neither a son or daughter would come here for any early sexual experiences as I think there are a lot of unhealthy and unrealistic attitudes and expectations displayed by both men and women
A good point and if a son or daughter did join the site that would be very sound advice
Have to be honest but my heart sinks a wee bit when I see a profile (male or female) and they're really young (but legal!)..Yeah, I know that they're technically adults at 18...but 18, 19 and into your early 20s you should be out meeting folk in real life. Maybe I'm just old fashioned..."
Nope totally agree with you and if I had to put a minimum age for here I’d say 25 but that’s just my opinion |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd say your correct to a point I'd say the men on here a large proportion are of the any holes a goal variety.
I'd also say a large proportion of fems are attention seekers.
A lot of cpl profiles are Male driven with pretend bi wife's.
If my sons were to be using this it would be the same advice they get for life.
Don't buy into the bullshit and respect partners you chose
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My thoughts too |
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I’ve only made my profile public the past couple of weeks but found most messages respectful and a note of thanks from them if I politely decline.
Only a couple of cock pics sent and only a couple of nutty messages so I seem to be getting off lightly.
I do feel there is an ‘any holes a goal’ attitude amongst some as they quite obviously haven’t read my profile which suggests to me they aren’t too bothered who the female is just as long as they get a response |
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"I’ve definitely noticed an increase in the instashag brigade in recent years, fed up of getting no effort messages expecting me to drop my knickers at a moment’s notice "
It's a difficult one, I have spent ages crafting nice messages, trying to get across the type of guy I am with a touch of humour. I understand women get 100's mails so don't read all, so can be pointless excercise and time consuming. |
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Being sent a pic of a huge Dick and being asked if i want young and vwh (very well hung )i was informed ,i said no thanks a big dick tends to have an even bigger dick behind it ,its not what i cam on here for ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's an interesting one. We block single men so only really see couples and single girls.
Maybe it's a singles thing as we get better messages and responses from couples than single girls.
I'm sure single girls get lots of messages that lead to the 'unicorn' status some feel they have, but ultimately lots seem to be timewasters.
For that reason we mostly just message couples now. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I’ve only made my profile public the past couple of weeks but found most messages respectful and a note of thanks from them if I politely decline.
Only a couple of cock pics sent and only a couple of nutty messages so I seem to be getting off lightly.
I do feel there is an ‘any holes a goal’ attitude amongst some as they quite obviously haven’t read my profile which suggests to me they aren’t too bothered who the female is just as long as they get a response "
I have to agree with you there CG, if the message is polite I respond in kind and as you say there’s often a message of thanks which is great but recently had an influx of the latter type you refer too.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Its the I'm driveing past or im staying up ur way with work .that's does it for me .you feel.like a free prostitute.
No respect .no nothing "
You do wonder if that works don’t you, I guess it must or why do it. I did ask (politely) once and got the response “you don’t ask you don’t get” not very complimentary either. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Being sent a pic of a huge Dick and being asked if i want young and vwh (very well hung )i was informed ,i said no thanks a big dick tends to have an even bigger dick behind it ,its not what i cam on here for ..."
Youth is wasted on the young perhaps  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It's an interesting one. We block single men so only really see couples and single girls.
Maybe it's a singles thing as we get better messages and responses from couples than single girls.
I'm sure single girls get lots of messages that lead to the 'unicorn' status some feel they have, but ultimately lots seem to be timewasters.
For that reason we mostly just message couples now."
Indeed good and bad everywhere |
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By (user no longer on site)
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There is no excuse for bad manners, here or anywhere else. You wouldn't walk up to a stranger in the pub, dick hanging out and introduce yourself with 'Hi, wanna shag?' so why do it online?
As for advice to my (now grown) kids, it's simple -
Treat others as you want to be treated.
Be safe, always.
If something feels wrong, it is wrong.
Never accept anything less than you are aiming for. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"There is no excuse for bad manners, here or anywhere else. You wouldn't walk up to a stranger in the pub, dick hanging out and introduce yourself with 'Hi, wanna shag?' so why do it online?
As for advice to my (now grown) kids, it's simple -
Treat others as you want to be treated.
Be safe, always.
If something feels wrong, it is wrong.
Never accept anything less than you are aiming for."
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By *uietbloke67Man
over a year ago
outside your bedroom window ;-) |
"If it were relevant, I'd hope that neither a son or daughter would come here for any early sexual experiences as I think there are a lot of unhealthy and unrealistic attitudes and expectations displayed by both men and women
A good point and if a son or daughter did join the site that would be very sound advice
Have to be honest but my heart sinks a wee bit when I see a profile (male or female) and they're really young (but legal!)..Yeah, I know that they're technically adults at 18...but 18, 19 and into your early 20s you should be out meeting folk in real life. Maybe I'm just old fashioned..."
I tend to agree with this, at pre-25 I always ask myself, what's happened previously in their lifes that has led them to want to be involved in swinging especially with females.
Males I can see the attraction though if I remember myself in my 20s simply put 36 was ancient and the same age as my mother (in my head, not actually), I would have ran a mile. |
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"I’ve definitely noticed an increase in the instashag brigade in recent years, fed up of getting no effort messages expecting me to drop my knickers at a moment’s notice
It's a difficult one, I have spent ages crafting nice messages, trying to get across the type of guy I am with a touch of humour. I understand women get 100's mails so don't read all, so can be pointless excercise and time consuming. "
So because (mainly) men have not had replies to decent messages before they shouldn't bother? Nah. If a guy sends me a decent message then I will always reply even if it's with a no thanks. One liners and the no effort gang get ignored |
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"I’ve definitely noticed an increase in the instashag brigade in recent years, fed up of getting no effort messages expecting me to drop my knickers at a moment’s notice
It's a difficult one, I have spent ages crafting nice messages, trying to get across the type of guy I am with a touch of humour. I understand women get 100's mails so don't read all, so can be pointless excercise and time consuming.
So because (mainly) men have not had replies to decent messages before they shouldn't bother? Nah. If a guy sends me a decent message then I will always reply even if it's with a no thanks. One liners and the no effort gang get ignored "
I actually don’t mind the one liner initial message, I have a look at the profile and if it interests me I respond and expect the next message to be more thought out. Sometimes I’m chatting to enough guys so simply tell them this politely. It is time consuming writing messages and for guys that get little response So i can see why they dip their toe in with a one liner to test the water |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I’ve definitely noticed an increase in the instashag brigade in recent years, fed up of getting no effort messages expecting me to drop my knickers at a moment’s notice
It's a difficult one, I have spent ages crafting nice messages, trying to get across the type of guy I am with a touch of humour. I understand women get 100's mails so don't read all, so can be pointless excercise and time consuming.
So because (mainly) men have not had replies to decent messages before they shouldn't bother? Nah. If a guy sends me a decent message then I will always reply even if it's with a no thanks. One liners and the no effort gang get ignored "
I think this is why the site says a no response should be taken as polite no thanks (have that clearly stated on my profile) and it can get very wearing making a personal no thank you to those that clearly have not read or then ignored your profile |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I’ve definitely noticed an increase in the instashag brigade in recent years, fed up of getting no effort messages expecting me to drop my knickers at a moment’s notice
It's a difficult one, I have spent ages crafting nice messages, trying to get across the type of guy I am with a touch of humour. I understand women get 100's mails so don't read all, so can be pointless excercise and time consuming.
So because (mainly) men have not had replies to decent messages before they shouldn't bother? Nah. If a guy sends me a decent message then I will always reply even if it's with a no thanks. One liners and the no effort gang get ignored
I actually don’t mind the one liner initial message, I have a look at the profile and if it interests me I respond and expect the next message to be more thought out. Sometimes I’m chatting to enough guys so simply tell them this politely. It is time consuming writing messages and for guys that get little response So i can see why they dip their toe in with a one liner to test the water "
I also get this, yes it must be disheartening for guys at times. Likewise CG, I’ll respond sometimes and see where it goes. A polite message will always get a reply |
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"I’ve definitely noticed an increase in the instashag brigade in recent years, fed up of getting no effort messages expecting me to drop my knickers at a moment’s notice
It's a difficult one, I have spent ages crafting nice messages, trying to get across the type of guy I am with a touch of humour. I understand women get 100's mails so don't read all, so can be pointless excercise and time consuming.
So because (mainly) men have not had replies to decent messages before they shouldn't bother? Nah. If a guy sends me a decent message then I will always reply even if it's with a no thanks. One liners and the no effort gang get ignored
I think this is why the site says a no response should be taken as polite no thanks (have that clearly stated on my profile) and it can get very wearing making a personal no thank you to those that clearly have not read or then ignored your profile "
Yes, however the number of people who haven't read the FAQs is staggering, judging by the constant moaning in my local status updates! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I’ve definitely noticed an increase in the instashag brigade in recent years, fed up of getting no effort messages expecting me to drop my knickers at a moment’s notice
It's a difficult one, I have spent ages crafting nice messages, trying to get across the type of guy I am with a touch of humour. I understand women get 100's mails so don't read all, so can be pointless excercise and time consuming.
So because (mainly) men have not had replies to decent messages before they shouldn't bother? Nah. If a guy sends me a decent message then I will always reply even if it's with a no thanks. One liners and the no effort gang get ignored
I think this is why the site says a no response should be taken as polite no thanks (have that clearly stated on my profile) and it can get very wearing making a personal no thank you to those that clearly have not read or then ignored your profile
Yes, however the number of people who haven't read the FAQs is staggering, judging by the constant moaning in my local status updates!"
Agreed, I’ve suggested this to some that message and they haven’t even thought of it. A couple even thanked me. Perhaps a help page could be more prominent on site  |
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I think the site is still the same as it was 7 years ago but now people are more impatient, far more fake profiles and also more open ones
I’ve been quite active in previous years and have regrets in meeting certain people, far to many liars and cheats but always has been the same.
As for sons and daughters here well come on they are very possibly on here already and you are very limited if you think they are not and very possibly have seen our profiles and have met others for sex
Advice goes both ways
The advice I would give is don’t waste your time here and if you do be careful with who you meet and worries for stds and safety
They would possibly advise me to have more respect for myself and worry about the men I’d possibly meet for my safety too |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I think the site is still the same as it was 7 years ago but now people are more impatient, far more fake profiles and also more open ones
I’ve been quite active in previous years and have regrets in meeting certain people, far to many liars and cheats but always has been the same.
As for sons and daughters here well come on they are very possibly on here already and you are very limited if you think they are not and very possibly have seen our profiles and have met others for sex
Advice goes both ways
The advice I would give is don’t waste your time here and if you do be careful with who you meet and worries for stds and safety
They would possibly advise me to have more respect for myself and worry about the men I’d possibly meet for my safety too"
A well reasoned and balanced view - thanks for that newt x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think that a lot of people on here forget that this site is about swinging.
I get so many messages asking me to “Dom then” or expecting me to just meet for a quick shag.
That is an instant turn off. They’d be as well getting a prostitute if they want that kind of instant gratification. I’m a swinger, not a hooker and people don’t always get that! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think that a lot of people on here forget that this site is about swinging.
I get so many messages asking me to “Dom then” or expecting me to just meet for a quick shag.
That is an instant turn off. They’d be as well getting a prostitute if they want that kind of instant gratification. I’m a swinger, not a hooker and people don’t always get that! "
Don't swingers still have sex though? Folk are always gonna take the chance of getting something more immediate |
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By *ugyukMan
over a year ago
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Iv been the any holes a goal bloke
And ive played it the hard to get way too
Also the mature grown up fugy
And then the downright naughty mischievous fugy
Still no rides!
Wonder what im doing wrong
Discuss!! |
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"Iv been the any holes a goal bloke
And ive played it the hard to get way too
Also the mature grown up fugy
And then the downright naughty mischievous fugy
Still no rides!
Wonder what im doing wrong
Discuss!!"
Have u tried being female? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Iv been the any holes a goal bloke
And ive played it the hard to get way too
Also the mature grown up fugy
And then the downright naughty mischievous fugy
Still no rides!
Wonder what im doing wrong
Discuss!!"
It's maybe yer patter..ya krank..
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I always send a first message introducing myself and asking if that person/couple wants to engage further. I probably get deleted for the boring first contact but chances are I could write an elaborate message and get deleted anyway. I also never send pic with first message even if requested due to the above point. As for any holes a goal attitude then yes I'm guilty but only because I'm attracted to all women. Different shapes offer different thrills. Oh and if someone says they want a huge cock or no attached people then I avoid sending them a message too as I'm not what they want. |
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I was always brought up to talk to a lady like her father and brother were in the same room (for introductions obviously!) It means you're courteous and polite rather than offensive. Guys are definitely more vulgar than women and yes I believe most of the site go with the any holes a goal mentality and wouldn't look twice at a photo! That said we are out numbered massively which means the ladies can afford to be a little more fussy! I'm a Dad of 3 daughters and try to be a good role model (this site wouldn't promote that but I do like to date and see if there's an attraction before perusing!) That said other dating apps go purely on looks too and I genuinely wonder if these one line wonder messages that guys send "Fancy a f*ck" actually work! I'd say on average I get 1 or 2 views a day and maybe 1 message every 2-3 weeks and out of them most say you're not my type! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Iv been the any holes a goal bloke
And ive played it the hard to get way too
Also the mature grown up fugy
And then the downright naughty mischievous fugy
Still no rides!
Wonder what im doing wrong
Discuss!!
It's maybe yer patter..ya krank..
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Droo asked me tae tell you both he’s waiting for ye both in the Cit M, room 69 |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Hornyone30 and tattooed chap, thank you for those posts... that’s encouraging to here that some men have that attitude. Some may be cynical and say you’re “playing to the crowd” but my experience in meeting is with men who have that outlook. However I think because men outnumber women so overwhelmingly and messages can be so graphic lots of ladies are also overwhelmed in a different way. I’m sure the goid guys shine through it’s just a shame there’s not more like you |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Iv been the any holes a goal bloke
And ive played it the hard to get way too
Also the mature grown up fugy
And then the downright naughty mischievous fugy
Still no rides!
Wonder what im doing wrong
Discuss!!"
You’re doing nothing wrong, you’re refreshingly honest. Noo where’s ma sheep onesie |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I don’t message people often but politeness and manners cost nothing. "
Agreed but they have to be backed up with respect even in nsa (not saying you don’t lol)  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hornyone30 and tattooed chap, thank you for those posts... that’s encouraging to here that some men have that attitude. Some may be cynical and say you’re “playing to the crowd” but my experience in meeting is with men who have that outlook. However I think because men outnumber women so overwhelmingly and messages can be so graphic lots of ladies are also overwhelmed in a different way. I’m sure the goid guys shine through it’s just a shame there’s not more like you "
There are a few wee rough diamonds on here to be fair |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Hornyone30 and tattooed chap, thank you for those posts... that’s encouraging to here that some men have that attitude. Some may be cynical and say you’re “playing to the crowd” but my experience in meeting is with men who have that outlook. However I think because men outnumber women so overwhelmingly and messages can be so graphic lots of ladies are also overwhelmed in a different way. I’m sure the goid guys shine through it’s just a shame there’s not more like you
There are a few wee rough diamonds on here to be fair "
I’ll second that my dear |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Speaking as a young male. I wouldn’t say any hole is a goal BUT I generally find all females attractive. Id like to experience all different shapes, sizes and ages. I’d never objectify a women and always try to be polite and respectful. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Speaking as a young male. I wouldn’t say any hole is a goal BUT I generally find all females attractive. Id like to experience all different shapes, sizes and ages. I’d never objectify a women and always try to be polite and respectful. "
I think that’s fair to say, I’m a bit the same in that I can almost always see something beautiful in most people. The polite and respectful are key never lose that is my wee bit free advice as an auld yin. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I don’t message people often but politeness and manners cost nothing.
Agreed but they have to be backed up with respect even in nsa (not saying you don’t lol)
Absolutely "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Speaking as a young male. I wouldn’t say any hole is a goal BUT I generally find all females attractive. Id like to experience all different shapes, sizes and ages. I’d never objectify a women and always try to be polite and respectful.
I think that’s fair to say, I’m a bit the same in that I can almost always see something beautiful in most people. The polite and respectful are key never lose that is my wee bit free advice as an auld yin. "
Haha thanks, I’ll hold on to that |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If it were relevant, I'd hope that neither a son or daughter would come here for any early sexual experiences as I think there are a lot of unhealthy and unrealistic attitudes and expectations displayed by both men and women
A good point and if a son or daughter did join the site that would be very sound advice
Have to be honest but my heart sinks a wee bit when I see a profile (male or female) and they're really young (but legal!)..Yeah, I know that they're technically adults at 18...but 18, 19 and into your early 20s you should be out meeting folk in real life. Maybe I'm just old fashioned..."
Completely agree.. So glad there was no social media when I was in my 20s 30s.. Got out 3 nights every week and travelled the world
Had thousands of random friends all over the place.. Changed days now |
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"If it were relevant, I'd hope that neither a son or daughter would come here for any early sexual experiences as I think there are a lot of unhealthy and unrealistic attitudes and expectations displayed by both men and women
A good point and if a son or daughter did join the site that would be very sound advice
Have to be honest but my heart sinks a wee bit when I see a profile (male or female) and they're really young (but legal!)..Yeah, I know that they're technically adults at 18...but 18, 19 and into your early 20s you should be out meeting folk in real life. Maybe I'm just old fashioned...
Completely agree.. So glad there was no social media when I was in my 20s 30s.. Got out 3 nights every week and travelled the world
Had thousands of random friends all over the place.. Changed days now "
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"If it were relevant, I'd hope that neither a son or daughter would come here for any early sexual experiences as I think there are a lot of unhealthy and unrealistic attitudes and expectations displayed by both men and women
A good point and if a son or daughter did join the site that would be very sound advice
Have to be honest but my heart sinks a wee bit when I see a profile (male or female) and they're really young (but legal!)..Yeah, I know that they're technically adults at 18...but 18, 19 and into your early 20s you should be out meeting folk in real life. Maybe I'm just old fashioned...
Completely agree.. So glad there was no social media when I was in my 20s 30s.. Got out 3 nights every week and travelled the world
Had thousands of random friends all over the place.. Changed days now
Where did it all go wrong for you?"
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"If it were relevant, I'd hope that neither a son or daughter would come here for any early sexual experiences as I think there are a lot of unhealthy and unrealistic attitudes and expectations displayed by both men and women
A good point and if a son or daughter did join the site that would be very sound advice
Have to be honest but my heart sinks a wee bit when I see a profile (male or female) and they're really young (but legal!)..Yeah, I know that they're technically adults at 18...but 18, 19 and into your early 20s you should be out meeting folk in real life. Maybe I'm just old fashioned...
Completely agree.. So glad there was no social media when I was in my 20s 30s.. Got out 3 nights every week and travelled the world
Had thousands of random friends all over the place.. Changed days now "
this is the same nonsense that every generation claims.
It's the young person's world and they know how to interact with it.
news flash we are the doddering old farts of a bygone era when we start with the "wasnt like that when ah was a lad"
Have you tried going out three nights a week no 1 my body couldn't handle it no 2 you would need a hefty loan to do it.
Its perhaps part of the reason alot see the site as a sex site now instead of a swingers site.
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"If it were relevant, I'd hope that neither a son or daughter would come here for any early sexual experiences as I think there are a lot of unhealthy and unrealistic attitudes and expectations displayed by both men and women
A good point and if a son or daughter did join the site that would be very sound advice
Have to be honest but my heart sinks a wee bit when I see a profile (male or female) and they're really young (but legal!)..Yeah, I know that they're technically adults at 18...but 18, 19 and into your early 20s you should be out meeting folk in real life. Maybe I'm just old fashioned...
Completely agree.. So glad there was no social media when I was in my 20s 30s.. Got out 3 nights every week and travelled the world
Had thousands of random friends all over the place.. Changed days now this is the same nonsense that every generation claims.
It's the young person's world and they know how to interact with it.
news flash we are the doddering old farts of a bygone era when we start with the "wasnt like that when ah was a lad"
Have you tried going out three nights a week no 1 my body couldn't handle it no 2 you would need a hefty loan to do it.
Its perhaps part of the reason alot see the site as a sex site now instead of a swingers site.
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Absolutely I know I’m a dinosaur now but it can still be nice to think of our youth, life is so different now and it’s changing at a brake-neck speed too, I’d never seen so many young people into bdsm as we have now.
20 years ago the average age was roughly 49s 50s now its looking like it’s 20s, be it mostly new and not very experienced but some very experienced young kinksters around too, speaking about it to younger people and they say it’s due to the internet |
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Afraid it’s mostly genetics and many guy’s Inability to control primal urges.
Look at most of the animal kingdom. Lions for example. A lioness will have cubs and will spend a few years raising them. Meanwhile the male lions go wandering around looking for their next mate.
Most ladies on here want a connection. I’m not saying they want emotional connections but you need your mind to be stimulated and not just the body. Guys are far more detached and less involved so don’t put as much importance on an intellectual/spiritual/soulful connection
There are though some guys on here where this isn’t true and we do look for a more personal connection. Just as there’s some ladies who are “any wang’s a winner” in mentality.
Like most things in life it’s a sliding scale on a spectrum and we’re all on various points on that scale. It’s just that the extreme ends seem to stand out most. |
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"If it were relevant, I'd hope that neither a son or daughter would come here for any early sexual experiences as I think there are a lot of unhealthy and unrealistic attitudes and expectations displayed by both men and women
A good point and if a son or daughter did join the site that would be very sound advice
Have to be honest but my heart sinks a wee bit when I see a profile (male or female) and they're really young (but legal!)..Yeah, I know that they're technically adults at 18...but 18, 19 and into your early 20s you should be out meeting folk in real life. Maybe I'm just old fashioned...
Completely agree.. So glad there was no social media when I was in my 20s 30s.. Got out 3 nights every week and travelled the world
Had thousands of random friends all over the place.. Changed days now this is the same nonsense that every generation claims.
It's the young person's world and they know how to interact with it.
news flash we are the doddering old farts of a bygone era when we start with the "wasnt like that when ah was a lad"
Have you tried going out three nights a week no 1 my body couldn't handle it no 2 you would need a hefty loan to do it.
Its perhaps part of the reason alot see the site as a sex site now instead of a swingers site.
Absolutely I know I’m a dinosaur now but it can still be nice to think of our youth, life is so different now and it’s changing at a brake-neck speed too, I’d never seen so many young people into bdsm as we have now.
20 years ago the average age was roughly 49s 50s now its looking like it’s 20s, be it mostly new and not very experienced but some very experienced young kinksters around too, speaking about it to younger people and they say it’s due to the internet "
Yep self confessed dinosaur here too..lol.. Have love and affection for the oldish ways and less and less time for modernisms or current trends, I just find them boring, worrying.. Wheres the keys to my deloren.. Ha x |
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I think you’ve hit the nail on the head.
In terms of sites like Fab, most men are hunters, they are hunting prey and women are the prey. It is a primal thing, if you’ve ever read “men are form Mars and women are from Venus” it’s quite good and illustrating why we are so different.
PS I’m not saying all men are like this BTW, in fact, I reckon the misbehaviour is directly linked to overproduction of testosterone, and in some cases the “God’s gift” gene. |
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There seem to be some misguided notion to the intent of this site to start with. Some still see it as a dating site. Its a swingers site...……….by definition a Swinger is a person who engages in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners.
So that being the case, if the purpose of something is not known then its abuse is inevitable.
Manners is an absolute value not to FAB but to life in general. But the reality, we will always have uncultured people not what. It takes maturity and experience to filter them out.
With respect to advise family member about the site, I would take a turn and change the narrative to advising them about life in general and living by example. This site is a reflection of life in general.
I also did see some comments of the issue around seeing dicks (if you don't want to be soaked with water then don't venture into the rain). |
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"Afraid it’s mostly genetics and many guy’s Inability to control primal urges.
Look at most of the animal kingdom. Lions for example. A lioness will have cubs and will spend a few years raising them. Meanwhile the male lions go wandering around looking for their next mate.
Most ladies on here want a connection. I’m not saying they want emotional connections but you need your mind to be stimulated and not just the body. Guys are far more detached and less involved so don’t put as much importance on an intellectual/spiritual/soulful connection
There are though some guys on here where this isn’t true and we do look for a more personal connection. Just as there’s some ladies who are “any wang’s a winner” in mentality.
Like most things in life it’s a sliding scale on a spectrum and we’re all on various points on that scale. It’s just that the extreme ends seem to stand out most. "
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"There seem to be some misguided notion to the intent of this site to start with. Some still see it as a dating site. Its a swingers site...……….by definition a Swinger is a person who engages in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners.
So that being the case, if the purpose of something is not known then its abuse is inevitable.
Manners is an absolute value not to FAB but to life in general. But the reality, we will always have uncultured people not what. It takes maturity and experience to filter them out.
With respect to advise family member about the site, I would take a turn and change the narrative to advising them about life in general and living by example. This site is a reflection of life in general.
I also did see some comments of the issue around seeing dicks (if you don't want to be soaked with water then don't venture into the rain)."
Nice post and agreed - teaching your kids respect in life would then reflect here too |
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"Yeah hate it when men speak to you like an object and not a person. "
Well, these type of guys are the losers in the long run, they just play a number game and maybe every now and then they get lucky?
Personally, there’s got to be a connection for me, it’s not just about sex.
Nice blue and white dress, by the way! X |
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I personally have never subscribed to the " any hole is a goal " philosophy. There HAS to be attraction for me to want sex, I'm not gonna get (and stay) hard with a lady who looks like Susan Boyle. Also, I was brought up in a house full of women and if my dad taught me one thing it's to always respect them. |
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I always initiate with a polite short message but the chances of a reply are almost zero, I also take accept ion to the statement ‘message must have face pic’ particularly applicable to men, why are women afforded privacy and not men? I am happy to send a pic but I would like an acknowledgement firstly, I know it’s a ‘sex site’ but manners still apply don’t they?? |
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"I personally have never subscribed to the " any hole is a goal " philosophy. There HAS to be attraction for me to want sex, I'm not gonna get (and stay) hard with a lady who looks like Susan Boyle. Also, I was brought up in a house full of women and if my dad taught me one thing it's to always respect them. "
I think it’s great to get feedback like this, I find lots of lovely guys here like you. But (you were expecting that right ) for every one of you there’s at least five that think you’re here to be at their beck and call, talk dirty, send intimate pics, cam etc etc on a daily basis. I really try, and I know lots of ladies do too, to give good guys they respect they deserve and a reply. Maybe it would do both sexes good to think about it from the others perspective |
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"I always initiate with a polite short message but the chances of a reply are almost zero, I also take accept ion to the statement ‘message must have face pic’ particularly applicable to men, why are women afforded privacy and not men? I am happy to send a pic but I would like an acknowledgement firstly, I know it’s a ‘sex site’ but manners still apply don’t they??"
It sounds like you’re doing everything right but suffering from the exasperation women feel at the aforesaid messages women suffer from on a regular if not daily basis. Filters stop that but then can also hinder chat from others on such things as the forum topics. Manners should apply yes, but in regard to a pic... of you send one it doesn’t mean the person also should. Demanding one is wrong though, that should be when you feel comfortable to do so. |
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"I always initiate with a polite short message but the chances of a reply are almost zero, I also take accept ion to the statement ‘message must have face pic’ particularly applicable to men, why are women afforded privacy and not men? I am happy to send a pic but I would like an acknowledgement firstly, I know it’s a ‘sex site’ but manners still apply don’t they??
It sounds like you’re doing everything right but suffering from the exasperation women feel at the aforesaid messages women suffer from on a regular if not daily basis. Filters stop that but then can also hinder chat from others on such things as the forum topics. Manners should apply yes, but in regard to a pic... of you send one it doesn’t mean the person also should. Demanding one is wrong though, that should be when you feel comfortable to do so. "
Absolutely, totally agree, happy to exchange, rather be disregarded straight off for not doing so to initiate a conversation. I think the earlier comments are correct also, a lot of women just want the attentions and men want the ‘hole’ I suppose it’s a by product of the site unfortunately |
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"I always initiate with a polite short message but the chances of a reply are almost zero, I also take accept ion to the statement ‘message must have face pic’ particularly applicable to men, why are women afforded privacy and not men? I am happy to send a pic but I would like an acknowledgement firstly, I know it’s a ‘sex site’ but manners still apply don’t they??
It sounds like you’re doing everything right but suffering from the exasperation women feel at the aforesaid messages women suffer from on a regular if not daily basis. Filters stop that but then can also hinder chat from others on such things as the forum topics. Manners should apply yes, but in regard to a pic... of you send one it doesn’t mean the person also should. Demanding one is wrong though, that should be when you feel comfortable to do so.
Absolutely, totally agree, happy to exchange, rather be disregarded straight off for not doing so to initiate a conversation. I think the earlier comments are correct also, a lot of women just want the attentions and men want the ‘hole’ I suppose it’s a by product of the site unfortunately "
That’s generalising but of course generalities or statistics/stereotypes are when we find something happens often but not all the time. Yes, there’s some truth in what you say and it’s not just the site, communication is the key and it’s also a two way street, listening is as important as talking |
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"I always initiate with a polite short message but the chances of a reply are almost zero, I also take accept ion to the statement ‘message must have face pic’ particularly applicable to men, why are women afforded privacy and not men? I am happy to send a pic but I would like an acknowledgement firstly, I know it’s a ‘sex site’ but manners still apply don’t they??"
Totally agree. Spot on. |
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"I always initiate with a polite short message but the chances of a reply are almost zero, I also take accept ion to the statement ‘message must have face pic’ particularly applicable to men, why are women afforded privacy and not men? I am happy to send a pic but I would like an acknowledgement firstly, I know it’s a ‘sex site’ but manners still apply don’t they??
Totally agree. Spot on. "
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Sadley, it seems to be largely the case on here. And for me a genuine respectful single guy it becomes hard in alot of cases to be taken fir who I actually am given the way alot of guys are on here. I haven't, wont and couldnt jump with anyone no matter what!!
And to a point it must be difficult for the ladies to try decide if the guys genuine and not a bed post hopper.
All good points put forward guys and Gals.... |
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"O.P. cannot argue with fact. What you posted is a fact.
What part lol I will bite......none of it way to general to be factual pmsl (ya know I'm jesting right ?) "
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Must admit i have sent a few messages mostly asking for a chat to start with as i personally would like to know a bit about a potential meet but tbh get very few replys not even a polite no thanks but the few i have got back it ends with a final message of thanks have a nice day type thing so not sure what im doing wrong lol |
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"Must admit i have sent a few messages mostly asking for a chat to start with as i personally would like to know a bit about a potential meet but tbh get very few replys not even a polite no thanks but the few i have got back it ends with a final message of thanks have a nice day type thing so not sure what im doing wrong lol"
Possibly nothing wrong but women are way out numbered by men so maybe just numbers. Patience is perhaps the key, good luck |
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