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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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... an uncomfortable truth or a pretty lie?
Question debated at the pub hotly at the weekend. Context is personal so what’s your thoughts dear fabbers.
Oh I’m with truth every time in case you’re wondering  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I reckon there will be some not so pretty lies on this thread
My answer?
Depends "
How will we know to the first part and on what to the second... truthfully, I expect a cryptic response  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I reckon there will be some not so pretty lies on this thread
My answer?
Depends
How will we know to the first part and on what to the second... truthfully, I expect a cryptic response "
The situation |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I reckon there will be some not so pretty lies on this thread
My answer?
Depends
How will we know to the first part and on what to the second... truthfully, I expect a cryptic response
The situation "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Majority of the time... I do amd will go with the ugly uncomfortable truth.
But then theres certain situations in life where it may be kinder to lie. "
Yep I’ve done that but strangely I’d always rather hear the truth even though there’s been occasions I’ll use “tactful diplomacy” too others  |
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"The truth sometimes hurts but i would rather someone hurt me than take me for a fool."
This exactly!
I can deal with most things but I need to know the truth to know how to handle whatever situation it is and I hate being taken for a mug! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Always the truth.
I've studied psychology in many forms so I can spot a liar a mile off!"
Agree with you all ladies but shorty... interesting do you find body language can be revealing? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Am I giving or receiving.... I will get to the truth or lie thing later
Yer no getting me that way lmao it’s from your own context "
I'm going for a bearable truth. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Am I giving or receiving.... I will get to the truth or lie thing later
Yer no getting me that way lmao it’s from your own context
I'm going for a bearable truth. "
See that was easy lol |
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By *eep.Man
over a year ago
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"How can you answer this without knowing the trade-off? 
Just go with the answer that makes your morals look intact
Or the truth  "
So, for instance, telling a dying loved one that everything is going to be OK fits in where, in your binary outlook? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"How can you answer this without knowing the trade-off?
Just go with the answer that makes your morals look intact
Or the truth
So, for instance, telling a dying loved one that everything is going to be OK fits in where, in your binary outlook? "
If it was me I’d want to know, that’s where it fits. Others may not or may not want to be the bearer of that news. That is a personal choice always  |
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"How can you answer this without knowing the trade-off?
Just go with the answer that makes your morals look intact
Or the truth
So, for instance, telling a dying loved one that everything is going to be OK fits in where, in your binary outlook? "
I would want to know if I was dying, would want everyone to be upfront with me about that. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"How can you answer this without knowing the trade-off?
Just go with the answer that makes your morals look intact
Or the truth
So, for instance, telling a dying loved one that everything is going to be OK fits in where, in your binary outlook?
I would want to know if I was dying, would want everyone to be upfront with me about that. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How can you answer this without knowing the trade-off?
Just go with the answer that makes your morals look intact
Or the truth
So, for instance, telling a dying loved one that everything is going to be OK fits in where, in your binary outlook?
I would want to know if I was dying, would want everyone to be upfront with me about that. "
Would you not be okay with the pretty lie if you were in pain and a loved one was trying to soothe you though? |
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"How can you answer this without knowing the trade-off?
Just go with the answer that makes your morals look intact
Or the truth
So, for instance, telling a dying loved one that everything is going to be OK fits in where, in your binary outlook?
I would want to know if I was dying, would want everyone to be upfront with me about that.
Would you not be okay with the pretty lie if you were in pain and a loved one was trying to soothe you though?"
If i was in pain i would be raging if someone said i wasnt. |
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"How can you answer this without knowing the trade-off?
Just go with the answer that makes your morals look intact
Or the truth
So, for instance, telling a dying loved one that everything is going to be OK fits in where, in your binary outlook? "
If i were dying a Dr would tell me first. If i were not fit to comprehend then it does not really matter what anyone else says as i would not be well enough to understand anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Always the truth.
I've studied psychology in many forms so I can spot a liar a mile off!
Have your studies helped you spot it on here?"
Ive not studied psychology but ive spotted some seek a reaction with their negativity.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Always the truth.
I've studied psychology in many forms so I can spot a liar a mile off!
Have your studies helped you spot it on here?
Ive not studied psychology but ive spotted some seek a reaction with their negativity. "
Ain’t that the truth |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Always the truth.
I've studied psychology in many forms so I can spot a liar a mile off!
Have your studies helped you spot it on here?
Ive not studied psychology but ive spotted some seek a reaction with their negativity. "
I'm unsure why asking that particular question is perceived as negativity |
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If you are going to be hurt by the truth, then the question was more important than "does my bum look big in this" and was probably asked of a close friend, not some random. In that situation I would expect the truth.
Everyday small lies are ok though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Always the truth.
I've studied psychology in many forms so I can spot a liar a mile off!
Have your studies helped you spot it on here?
Ive not studied psychology but ive spotted some seek a reaction with their negativity.
I'm unsure why asking that particular question is perceived as negativity "
Maybe that can be percceived as a pretty lie. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Always the truth.
I've studied psychology in many forms so I can spot a liar a mile off!
Have your studies helped you spot it on here?
Ive not studied psychology but ive spotted some seek a reaction with their negativity.
I'm unsure why asking that particular question is perceived as negativity
Maybe that can be percceived as a pretty lie. "
I'm truthful with most of my views 
I'd have laid odds that most would claim to want an uncomfortable truth.
But I think real life is far more complicated to be able to make that claim categorically |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Always the truth.
I've studied psychology in many forms so I can spot a liar a mile off!
Have your studies helped you spot it on here?
Ive not studied psychology but ive spotted some seek a reaction with their negativity.
I'm unsure why asking that particular question is perceived as negativity
Maybe that can be percceived as a pretty lie.
I'm truthful with most of my views
I'd have laid odds that most would claim to want an uncomfortable truth.
But I think real life is far more complicated to be able to make that claim categorically "
I do think it’s harder to be he one telling the truth than it is to be the one receiving it. |
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A few years back my elderly neighbours mate died in a brothel! Took a heart attack mid fifties & gone.. police told his brother where he was at time of death but told his wife he was in a cafe having a coffee.. serious lie but told with best intentions to spare a women hurt feelings who had been married for 30 years. Right or wrong I personally think the cops left her with a better head for the future. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"A few years back my elderly neighbours mate died in a brothel! Took a heart attack mid fifties & gone.. police told his brother where he was at time of death but told his wife he was in a cafe having a coffee.. serious lie but told with best intentions to spare a women hurt feelings who had been married for 30 years. Right or wrong I personally think the cops left her with a better head for the future. "
Good example of an exception to the rule (not there’s a rule here). She may have been aware of it but agreed it was the right thing for the police to do. Interesting comment |
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"... an uncomfortable truth or a pretty lie?
Question debated at the pub hotly at the weekend. Context is personal so what’s your thoughts dear fabbers.
Oh I’m with truth every time in case you’re wondering "
Truth everytime please |
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"A few years back my elderly neighbours mate died in a brothel! Took a heart attack mid fifties & gone.. police told his brother where he was at time of death but told his wife he was in a cafe having a coffee.. serious lie but told with best intentions to spare a women hurt feelings who had been married for 30 years. Right or wrong I personally think the cops left her with a better head for the future.
Good example of an exception to the rule (not there’s a rule here). She may have been aware of it but agreed it was the right thing for the police to do. Interesting comment "
Thanks the story does make me think if sometimes a lie is better depending on its nature & why it's told. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A few years back my elderly neighbours mate died in a brothel! Took a heart attack mid fifties & gone.. police told his brother where he was at time of death but told his wife he was in a cafe having a coffee.. serious lie but told with best intentions to spare a women hurt feelings who had been married for 30 years. Right or wrong I personally think the cops left her with a better head for the future.
Good example of an exception to the rule (not there’s a rule here). She may have been aware of it but agreed it was the right thing for the police to do. Interesting comment
Thanks the story does make me think if sometimes a lie is better depending on its nature & why it's told. "
Aye....if Mr croaked it ball deep in a brothel I'd probably be happier not knowing.....or I'd be digging the fucker up to do him in again! |
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"A few years back my elderly neighbours mate died in a brothel! Took a heart attack mid fifties & gone.. police told his brother where he was at time of death but told his wife he was in a cafe having a coffee.. serious lie but told with best intentions to spare a women hurt feelings who had been married for 30 years. Right or wrong I personally think the cops left her with a better head for the future.
Good example of an exception to the rule (not there’s a rule here). She may have been aware of it but agreed it was the right thing for the police to do. Interesting comment
Thanks the story does make me think if sometimes a lie is better depending on its nature & why it's told.
Aye....if Mr croaked it ball deep in a brothel I'd probably be happier not knowing.....or I'd be digging the fucker up to do him in again!"
I don't see necrophilia on your list of interests! |
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"A few years back my elderly neighbours mate died in a brothel! Took a heart attack mid fifties & gone.. police told his brother where he was at time of death but told his wife he was in a cafe having a coffee.. serious lie but told with best intentions to spare a women hurt feelings who had been married for 30 years. Right or wrong I personally think the cops left her with a better head for the future.
Good example of an exception to the rule (not there’s a rule here). She may have been aware of it but agreed it was the right thing for the police to do. Interesting comment "
is it though ? The person is left believing that he was a great guy when he wasn't so two trains if thought on that one too |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"A few years back my elderly neighbours mate died in a brothel! Took a heart attack mid fifties & gone.. police told his brother where he was at time of death but told his wife he was in a cafe having a coffee.. serious lie but told with best intentions to spare a women hurt feelings who had been married for 30 years. Right or wrong I personally think the cops left her with a better head for the future.
Good example of an exception to the rule (not there’s a rule here). She may have been aware of it but agreed it was the right thing for the police to do. Interesting comment is it though ? The person is left believing that he was a great guy when he wasn't so two trains if thought on that one too"
True but then we don’t have the full story |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"A few years back my elderly neighbours mate died in a brothel! Took a heart attack mid fifties & gone.. police told his brother where he was at time of death but told his wife he was in a cafe having a coffee.. serious lie but told with best intentions to spare a women hurt feelings who had been married for 30 years. Right or wrong I personally think the cops left her with a better head for the future.
Good example of an exception to the rule (not there’s a rule here). She may have been aware of it but agreed it was the right thing for the police to do. Interesting comment
Thanks the story does make me think if sometimes a lie is better depending on its nature & why it's told.
Aye....if Mr croaked it ball deep in a brothel I'd probably be happier not knowing.....or I'd be digging the fucker up to do him in again!"
I’m thinking you shouldn’t have a melon spoon either lolol |
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By default an uncomfortable truth; even though it may make a loss to self. However, majority of the population isn't willing to digest that uncomfortable truth from others. Maybe that the reason have only a number of real friends whom can be counted on fingers and in real life. All others are acquaintances.
And very rare discretionary lie if it ONLY benefits the other person to whom the lie is said to. For example telling a person on advanced stage of cancer for it to get better is to get them strong while they are at it. It's not as if the person isnt aware of their diagnosis or prognosis. It's the support that is required that moment and not rubbing the truth in their face.
"... an uncomfortable truth or a pretty lie?
Question debated at the pub hotly at the weekend. Context is personal so what’s your thoughts dear fabbers.
Oh I’m with truth every time in case you’re wondering "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes there are no 100%'s in life and the situation of what to say to a terminal relative would depend on many things
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Agreed..
I've experienced this of recent and now back into the same situation.
My humour is a pretty lie that hides the painful trurh. |
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"Yes there are no 100%'s in life and the situation of what to say to a terminal relative would depend on many things
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having done it I can say hand on heart there is zero point lying and giving false hope. Support and realisation is what I witnessed as best for a person to move forward and get the best result from what's left.
Wasting time chasing rainbows doesn't do the person justice |
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