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do some find that when you look at profiles that the folk are going for a world record of notches on the bed post with the amount of play meets they have had, now i dont mean folk meeting at socials as you can meet loads there but actual play meets.
the big question is would you meet a serial shagger |
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Really new to all this and yeah someone with a lot of verifications puts me off somewhat.
While i get we are all here for different reasons, im deffo not here to shag half the site.. Or all of it LOL |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends on how long apart the veris are
Iv no problem how often folk meet that's none of my business but if its every other day then I'd be a bit judgey too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Bit judgey given the site you're on im not judging others it is purely a question to start a conversation."
Your OP is loaded with judgemental language. Sometimes it's better to keep things to yourself. I wouldn't meet anyone who displayed these kinda views for everyone to see |
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Quite a lot of verifications on display actually aren't concerning sex in any way, loads I've seen are from social events.
If they were all notches on bed posts, that's still up to them as well.
The amount of veris wouldn't put me off, but if it's from certain people it very well might x |
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"Quite a lot of verifications on display actually aren't concerning sex in any way, loads I've seen are from social events.
If they were all notches on bed posts, that's still up to them as well.
The amount of veris wouldn't put me off, but if it's from certain people it very well might x"
I'd be more put off with who someone's met than how many someone has met 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People could have so many more veries than the few they display 
If the veries are day after day then my preference would be to stay clear but wish them well |
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as with all swingers ect ect its not the bed notch ect it the health checks that follow i know i get reg helth check to be hounest how many on fab also get checked out as for your own helth and to others all part of swinging ect ect in my point of view no harm ment ect to any one |
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By *hav02Man
over a year ago
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Not really how many they been with, it's more what sort of people they been with.... Some people have lots of veris from socials, or just camming, and some.... Well, lots of bareback random meets  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"do some find that when you look at profiles that the folk are going for a world record of notches on the bed post with the amount of play meets they have had, now i dont mean folk meeting at socials as you can meet loads there but actual play meets.
the big question is would you meet a serial shagger "
Pretty sure there will be loads of discreet "serial shaggers" out there....so the existence, or lack of, numerous verifications actually tells you fuck all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"do some find that when you look at profiles that the folk are going for a world record of notches on the bed post with the amount of play meets they have had, now i dont mean folk meeting at socials as you can meet loads there but actual play meets.
the big question is would you meet a serial shagger "
Well that’s what folk are on a swingers site predominantly for and tbh it can be hard for folk to find regular meets, even when you think you’ve clicked with someone after sex it might just be a case of nah not my type so then what do you do ? Sit and wait a year in case it appears you like it too much or aren’t fussy if you quickly want to meet again, if I were to average the amount of times I have sex in a year with a single partner on average I’d say most folk get the best part of 150 shags per year given the national average, if I’ve got a partner with the same drive as me you can multiply the three times a week by 7 cause it would be at least three times a day and then you’re sitting at 1050 shags per year !!! More if you’re really lucky but someone with say 20verification for only fun in a year are looked at by some as cheap, slutty, beyond contempt personally I think poor bastards must be biting their legs off |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Me I can count on one hand the amount of guys I’ve had sex/play with in the last year  but haven’t got enough fingers and toes to count the amount of times I’ve had sex in the last week with the one partner  |
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By *ubbly2012Woman
over a year ago
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"Me I can count on one hand the amount of guys I’ve had sex/play with in the last year but haven’t got enough fingers and toes to count the amount of times I’ve had sex in the last week with the one partner "
Wooohooo go you!! And the smile on your face is testiment to that!!!
Love seeing my besty happy!!! |
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"Me I can count on one hand the amount of guys I’ve had sex/play with in the last year but haven’t got enough fingers and toes to count the amount of times I’ve had sex in the last week with the one partner "
And for part of the week he hasn’t been in the country  |
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There are many things to consider whether I’d meet someone, number of meets and with whom are a couple of them, a pulse is another , however a newbie with a few meets in quick succession is likely to be Less likely than with someone that’s been around longer with more meets, and anyway I don’t have a bedpost, it broke with all the shaggin |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hmm we are on the fence with this. Majority of our veris are from social meets (or a club) not sex. But we get why a lot of meets would put people off. For us safe sex is a must so when we see pics bareback (different cocks) it’s a no from us. Apart from that we try (and sometimes fail) to keep an open mind |
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"do some find that when you look at profiles that the folk are going for a world record of notches on the bed post with the amount of play meets they have had, now i dont mean folk meeting at socials as you can meet loads there but actual play meets.
the big question is would you meet a serial shagger "
Nope |
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Last verification "nov 2016",these kind of profiles trip me up,if its a couples profile i start pondering if both are still together etc,or worse 
Guys can have wee purple patches that generally dont last long,maybe thats due to too many meets in a short space of time and before you know it your honest account of your purple patch has become self defeating.
Posts like this kind of endorse hiding them all, always said thats not healthy for the mechanics of the site to help the site work for people. |
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"do some find that when you look at profiles that the folk are going for a world record of notches on the bed post with the amount of play meets they have had, now i dont mean folk meeting at socials as you can meet loads there but actual play meets.
the big question is would you meet a serial shagger
Well that’s what folk are on a swingers site predominantly for and tbh it can be hard for folk to find regular meets, even when you think you’ve clicked with someone after sex it might just be a case of nah not my type so then what do you do ? Sit and wait a year in case it appears you like it too much or aren’t fussy if you quickly want to meet again, if I were to average the amount of times I have sex in a year with a single partner on average I’d say most folk get the best part of 150 shags per year given the national average, if I’ve got a partner with the same drive as me you can multiply the three times a week by 7 cause it would be at least three times a day and then you’re sitting at 1050 shags per year !!! More if you’re really lucky but someone with say 20verification for only fun in a year are looked at by some as cheap, slutty, beyond contempt personally I think poor bastards must be biting their legs off "
I agree with this ... ive seen people to be squeamish about “the number of cocks someone has had up them” and make daft comments about how loose or otherwise it would make you ... but never a second thought to someone in a relationship who's had way more sex it just happens to be over and over with the same cock.
Singles are always likely to have a higher number of verifications (unless they just dont leave them/ ask for them/ show them - which i dont) because the nature of having a high sex drive but not a regular relationship just naturally pushes that number up
If the thought of someone having had alot of sex before you puts you off im not sure why you would be on a site like fab to begin with
Like others have said its more the content of displayed veris that would put me off... type of play im not into or very graphic or bareback that kind of thing
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"wow....
i am severely lacking & way, way below the 'national average' according to this 
on all stats
Hell I must be dead according to stats as has been over a year ?? "
You n me both. I’d probably go over 2 years tbh. |
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Definitely a lot of sexist "morality" showing through in some comments here...the old idea that a man who has an active sex life is a stud, but a woman is a "slut" (not a word we'd view as an insult but society does!)...
Screw that. You're on a sex-sharing swingers site ffs. Leave your judge, church-going old-fashioned morality at the door. As long as it's safe and consensual what the fuck business is it of yours or anyone else if someone has had 1 meet in a year or 10 meets in the last week.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Would send you a message about something but you've got messages turned off...hey.....totally agree tho, safe, consensual fun is no-one else concern but the participants
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Did you mean me? (Just guessing because mine are off just now) if so i can wink you to let you through the filter |
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By *tew008Man
over a year ago
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"Definitely a lot of sexist "morality" showing through in some comments here...the old idea that a man who has an active sex life is a stud, but a woman is a "slut" (not a word we'd view as an insult but society does!)...
Screw that. You're on a sex-sharing swingers site ffs. Leave your judge, church-going old-fashioned morality at the door. As long as it's safe and consensual what the fuck business is it of yours or anyone else if someone has had 1 meet in a year or 10 meets in the last week.
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If people want to fuck, let em fuck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd like to think I'd focus more on how the person made me feel rather than who they fucked or what they did before.
Having said that, if they had a track record for meeting absolute roasters I'd be giving them a wide berth. |
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"Me I can count on one hand the amount of guys I’ve had sex/play with in the last year but haven’t got enough fingers and toes to count the amount of times I’ve had sex in the last week with the one partner "
Think of all them calories you’re burning 
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" ive seen people to be squeamish about “the number of cocks someone has had up them” and make daft comments about how loose or otherwise it would make you ...
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Actually the more cock you get, the tighter your vaginal muscles get so feel free to bang those cocks like a barn door in the wind ladies.. |
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"I'd like to think I'd focus more on how the person made me feel rather than who they fucked or what they did before.
Having said that, if they had a track record for meeting absolute roasters I'd be giving them a wide berth. "
including Hot Tub ..? |
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