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What’s everyone’s preference of meet? Personally we don't really care either way but recently we met a guy with the intention of building towards repeat regular meets. We find we enjoy that more than one offs. After a few vanilla socials and a hotel meet over a few months we felt comfortable enough to ask him back to ours. He says he’s single but after arranging a couple of times to meet stuff always seems to crop up but we have been patient and always tried to re arrange. Was supposed to come passed tonight and then the weird requests started saying I wasn’t to have perfume or make up on as he has allergies. Then he said that could I have a bag for him to put his clothes in when he gets naked as he is also allergic to dogs and he doesn’t want dog hair. The last straw was when he said could I put a pair of gloves on because last time in the hotel I dug my nails in and left a mark on his back. When I questioned him he was still trying to insist he was single. I know it sounds hypocritical when I say I don’t mind meeting attached guys then moaning but surely would be easier to just say look I’m attached and I’ve got to be careful rather than try to lie and make excuses. Just puts me right off when people try to treat you like an idiot when if they were just honest I really couldn’t care less. It it just me being daft or would that annoy others |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Prefer Single, Only meet married females with their partner.
In saying that, most single women already have a FB on here so woudl rather know this as well lolol   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm divorced with children, it's not always that simple to arrange meets.
People have lives away from FAB, we singles enjoy what we can.
Sorry for the rant.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm divorced with children, it's not always that simple to arrange meets.
People have lives away from FAB, we singles enjoy what we can.
Sorry for the rant.
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Same but my son usually wants to stay at mine after working in the city as im only 3 miles away whereas his mothers 25 miles north. Fecks me up no end for arranging a meet at mine  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It would bug me yeah ,I totally think you should just be up front,by the time meeting comes around something will come up ,just be honest ,if it's not your bag don't do it  |
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"What’s everyone’s preference of meet? Personally we don't really care either way but recently we met a guy with the intention of building towards repeat regular meets. We find we enjoy that more than one offs. After a few vanilla socials and a hotel meet over a few months we felt comfortable enough to ask him back to ours. He says he’s single but after arranging a couple of times to meet stuff always seems to crop up but we have been patient and always tried to re arrange. Was supposed to come passed tonight and then the weird requests started saying I wasn’t to have perfume or make up on as he has allergies. Then he said that could I have a bag for him to put his clothes in when he gets naked as he is also allergic to dogs and he doesn’t want dog hair. The last straw was when he said could I put a pair of gloves on because last time in the hotel I dug my nails in and left a mark on his back. When I questioned him he was still trying to insist he was single. I know it sounds hypocritical when I say I don’t mind meeting attached guys then moaning but surely would be easier to just say look I’m attached and I’ve got to be careful rather than try to lie and make excuses. Just puts me right off when people try to treat you like an idiot when if they were just honest I really couldn’t care less. It it just me being daft or would that annoy others"
hmmm sounds suspect  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All the demands would kill spontaneity for me... he’s either a princess or married. There’s plenty more lovely guys on Fab (married or not). He’s too much hard work, I’d politely say so and move on. Good luck OP  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Spoke to a few folk on here who I've "clicked" with and know I would enjoy their company on a social level but I couldn't get involved beyond that.
I understand everyone has their reasons for being here, and don't judge, but becoming physically involved with a married man or woman would just be too messy potentially. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Everyone is looking for their own thing.
I think fab offers enough of a variety for all.
If you can wade through the fakes then I'm sure you'll find good people, married or otherwise. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Everyone is looking for their own thing.
I think fab offers enough of a variety for all.
If you can wade through the fakes then I'm sure you'll find good people, married or otherwise. "
Totally agree Phunk .. |
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"I prefer men to be single. Married men are too much hassle to arrange things with."
And they hardly ever stick around, run out the door as soon as they're finished. That's what puts me off meeting married men x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm married but its mentioned very high in my profile and I always mention it in messages. Yes what I'm doing on here alot of people will see as wrong and I understand but I dont mislead people that I'm single when I'm not |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What’s everyone’s preference of meet? Personally we don't really care either way but recently we met a guy with the intention of building towards repeat regular meets. We find we enjoy that more than one offs. After a few vanilla socials and a hotel meet over a few months we felt comfortable enough to ask him back to ours. He says he’s single but after arranging a couple of times to meet stuff always seems to crop up but we have been patient and always tried to re arrange. Was supposed to come passed tonight and then the weird requests started saying I wasn’t to have perfume or make up on as he has allergies. Then he said that could I have a bag for him to put his clothes in when he gets naked as he is also allergic to dogs and he doesn’t want dog hair. The last straw was when he said could I put a pair of gloves on because last time in the hotel I dug my nails in and left a mark on his back. When I questioned him he was still trying to insist he was single. I know it sounds hypocritical when I say I don’t mind meeting attached guys then moaning but surely would be easier to just say look I’m attached and I’ve got to be careful rather than try to lie and make excuses. Just puts me right off when people try to treat you like an idiot when if they were just honest I really couldn’t care less. It it just me being daft or would that annoy othershmmm sounds suspect "
No shit Sherlock! |
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"What’s everyone’s preference of meet? Personally we don't really care either way but recently we met a guy with the intention of building towards repeat regular meets. We find we enjoy that more than one offs. After a few vanilla socials and a hotel meet over a few months we felt comfortable enough to ask him back to ours. He says he’s single but after arranging a couple of times to meet stuff always seems to crop up but we have been patient and always tried to re arrange. Was supposed to come passed tonight and then the weird requests started saying I wasn’t to have perfume or make up on as he has allergies. Then he said that could I have a bag for him to put his clothes in when he gets naked as he is also allergic to dogs and he doesn’t want dog hair. The last straw was when he said could I put a pair of gloves on because last time in the hotel I dug my nails in and left a mark on his back. When I questioned him he was still trying to insist he was single. I know it sounds hypocritical when I say I don’t mind meeting attached guys then moaning but surely would be easier to just say look I’m attached and I’ve got to be careful rather than try to lie and make excuses. Just puts me right off when people try to treat you like an idiot when if they were just honest I really couldn’t care less. It it just me being daft or would that annoy others"
I can understand all the things the guy was asking for if he was trying to avoid evidence of cheating from his wife, I just don’t get why he’d think anyone wouldn’t twig he wasn’t single.
Years ago, pre-fab, I met a couple, who were great company but both smoked pretty heavily. We went back to their and I could smell a strong smell of smoke. Didn’t go to anywhere near the lengths this guy did but asked if I could have a bath afterwards before I left. It felt a little awkward as it could’ve been so easily perceived as me saying their house stunk. This was before the smoking ban so it was easy to explain away a bit of a smoky smell off clothes, but not off my body.
They knew I was married and that my house was smoke free, and they were pretty cool about it, but I just thought it’s so easily misinterpreted as taking the piss with Ts&Cs
It’s married and pretending to single that’s the dick-move |
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"I am married and it is clear on my profile
I also don't ask to meet or message anyone who states on there profile the don't meet married men "
Agree with Jason and Scottish lad, i have it clear on my profile. Yes it might attract a few holier than thou folk telling me off but no one is mislead into meeting me this way |
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"What’s everyone’s preference of meet? Personally we don't really care either way but recently we met a guy with the intention of building towards repeat regular meets. We find we enjoy that more than one offs. After a few vanilla socials and a hotel meet over a few months we felt comfortable enough to ask him back to ours. He says he’s single but after arranging a couple of times to meet stuff always seems to crop up but we have been patient and always tried to re arrange. Was supposed to come passed tonight and then the weird requests started saying I wasn’t to have perfume or make up on as he has allergies. Then he said that could I have a bag for him to put his clothes in when he gets naked as he is also allergic to dogs and he doesn’t want dog hair. The last straw was when he said could I put a pair of gloves on because last time in the hotel I dug my nails in and left a mark on his back. When I questioned him he was still trying to insist he was single. I know it sounds hypocritical when I say I don’t mind meeting attached guys then moaning but surely would be easier to just say look I’m attached and I’ve got to be careful rather than try to lie and make excuses. Just puts me right off when people try to treat you like an idiot when if they were just honest I really couldn’t care less. It it just me being daft or would that annoy others"
Ha ha, never mind the allergies; how would he explain the scratch marks  |
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By *hav02Man
over a year ago
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Don't think I've been with anyone married. But then, I'm not too bothered, so long as no one comes chasing me for a fight
Whilst I am single, like many others I do have commitments in real life, whether social or work related. Things do crop up last minute! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Single! It clearly states in my profile that I only meet single men but I still get messages from married or attached men. I just politely say no thanks as they're obviously not reading my profile x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe... he’s ocd? Hm.. I’m half jesting. I diny think he’s married, what married guy (or single guy) would make all those rather strange requests when he could have a quick wash at yours, change of clothes in boot of his car.. bobs yer uncle (or his) sorted!
I’m thinking... he has issues  personally I would make your excuses next time  |
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Single is my preference.
Having been lied to and had a wife get my phone number, then find my Facebook and then turn up at my door I wouldn’t go their again. If I have slightest suspicion that there is a wife/gf then I’m not meeting. |
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"What difference does it make as long as those involved know the truth of the situation "
That’s the bit though not everyone tells the truth and I now just wouldn’t go there I don’t need the drama |
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By *xybumWoman
over a year ago
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"What difference does it make as long as those involved know the truth of the situation "
Of course it matters! What about the poor wife/ hubby and prob kids at home? That’s all I think about! Some people don’t mind but a lot do! |
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over a year ago
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"What difference does it make as long as those involved know the truth of the situation "
I think a lot of people put themselves in the position of the partner who is being deceived and it doesn't sit well with them.
At least with full disclosure you know exactly what you're dealing with. And I may well have fell for some fibs or sob stories, but there are a couple where I've thought 'Jesus, I wish you weren't married..." |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve been to a meet horny as hell turned up at the guys house had a meet then whilst relaxing after the scumbag informs me his partner is out at work!
Much more careful now"
Were there no clues that he didn't live alone?
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"I’ve been to a meet horny as hell turned up at the guys house had a meet then whilst relaxing after the scumbag informs me his partner is out at work!
Much more careful now
Were there no clues that he didn't live alone?
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No It wasn’t on his profile and with him inviting me into his home I automatically thought he would be single i was new to fab that year
When he said his partner was busy working I just wanted out fast didn’t tell him what I thought but it’s always been on my mind |
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"I’ve been to a meet horny as hell turned up at the guys house had a meet then whilst relaxing after the scumbag informs me his partner is out at work!
Much more careful now
Were there no clues that he didn't live alone?
No It wasn’t on his profile and with him inviting me into his home I automatically thought he would be single i was new to fab that year
When he said his partner was busy working I just wanted out fast didn’t tell him what I thought but it’s always been on my mind"
I meant clues in his home |
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"I’ve been to a meet horny as hell turned up at the guys house had a meet then whilst relaxing after the scumbag informs me his partner is out at work!
Much more careful now
Were there no clues that he didn't live alone?
No It wasn’t on his profile and with him inviting me into his home I automatically thought he would be single i was new to fab that year
When he said his partner was busy working I just wanted out fast didn’t tell him what I thought but it’s always been on my mind
I meant clues in his home "
Not at first but I just had the horn Goggles on, no small talk just straight to sex but I wasn’t looking for clues but seen signs in the loo after |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I am married and as a couple of other guys have said it is on my profile. Best to be up front from the start. It for sure puts a good majority of women couples etc off but everyone has there reasons.....mabey being on here could be saving said married persons marriage depending on circumstances. |
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"I am married and as a couple of other guys have said it is on my profile. Best to be up front from the start. It for sure puts a good majority of women couples etc off but everyone has there reasons.....mabey being on here could be saving said married persons marriage depending on circumstances. "
^^^^^^^^ this |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
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I’d rather know if they were single or married. They each have pros and cons. My single playmates usually end up finding a relationship. Married playmates at least make the effort to meet when they can. |
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"I’d rather know if they were single or married. They each have pros and cons. My single playmates usually end up finding a relationship. Married playmates at least make the effort to meet when they can. "
i find that a strange statement "married playmates at least make the effort to meet when they can" taking the moral standpoint out it.
there time is mostly used up by family and work.whereas a singles freetime is theres to do with as they see fit.
A married person will only put effort in for their own wants and desires.
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"I’d rather know if they were single or married. They each have pros and cons. My single playmates usually end up finding a relationship. Married playmates at least make the effort to meet when they can. i find that a strange statement "married playmates at least make the effort to meet when they can" taking the moral standpoint out it.
there time is mostly used up by family and work.whereas a singles freetime is theres to do with as they see fit.
A married person will only put effort in for their own wants and desires.
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So ..with that logic ..Single peoples time cant be used up with family and work ?
I really dont get the last line..your own wants and desires ..Surely you didnt join here for someone else benefit.
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"I’d rather know if they were single or married. They each have pros and cons. My single playmates usually end up finding a relationship. Married playmates at least make the effort to meet when they can. i find that a strange statement "married playmates at least make the effort to meet when they can" taking the moral standpoint out it.
there time is mostly used up by family and work.whereas a singles freetime is theres to do with as they see fit.
A married person will only put effort in for their own wants and desires.
So ..with that logic ..Single peoples time cant be used up with family and work ?
I really dont get the last line..your own wants and desires ..Surely you didnt join here for someone else benefit.
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they simply have more time available and they are way more likely to be wanting to share experiances a married person claimed they had what they wanted.....but fancied more toppings on their cake.
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I’m married too and it’s clear on my profile- I fully realise that I will hardly get a meet but I like the social side more and that little buzz when I get an email - |
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I've only met someone who is married as long as partner knows about it either been in contact or is there.
I intentionally try to avoid married women, it just aint worth the hassle.
Normally chatting and message exchange you can find out the situation and if not comfortable I just don't go ahead if there is potential for a meet  |
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"I’d rather know if they were single or married. They each have pros and cons. My single playmates usually end up finding a relationship. Married playmates at least make the effort to meet when they can. i find that a strange statement "married playmates at least make the effort to meet when they can" taking the moral standpoint out it.
there time is mostly used up by family and work.whereas a singles freetime is theres to do with as they see fit.
A married person will only put effort in for their own wants and desires.
So ..with that logic ..Single peoples time cant be used up with family and work ?
I really dont get the last line..your own wants and desires ..Surely you didnt join here for someone else benefit.
they simply have more time available and they are way more likely to be wanting to share experiances a married person claimed they had what they wanted.....but fancied more toppings on their cake.
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Lets just beg too differ ..i just find that weird .. |
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"I've only met someone who is married as long as partner knows about it either been in contact or is there.
I intentionally try to avoid married women, it just aint worth the hassle.
Normally chatting and message exchange you can find out the situation and if not comfortable I just don't go ahead if there is potential for a meet "
Stop lying ..  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm married but separated for five years now. No plans to divorce and remain on great relations with the wife, we just find living apart suits our personal circumstances better. |
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By *T1980Man
over a year ago
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"What difference does it make as long as those involved know the truth of the situation
I think a lot of people put themselves in the position of the partner who is being deceived and it doesn't sit well with them.
At least with full disclosure you know exactly what you're dealing with. And I may well have fell for some fibs or sob stories, but there are a couple where I've thought 'Jesus, I wish you weren't married...""
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