FabSwingers.com > Forums > Scotland > What in your opinion is the definition of a 'real' man
What in your opinion is the definition of a 'real' man
Jump to: Newest in thread
 |
By *e Devil OP Man
over a year ago
Blantyre |
Seen it occasionally on Fab and POF . A women saying she's looking for a 'real ' man. So ladies , do you think there is such a thing ? What qualities should he have. ?Guys , do you think you are a 'real' man in the eyes of women ? If so why, what qualifies you as this unicorn of the male species?.
Thoughts ???
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Mmmmm..tough question.....on Fab?
For me, someone who knows his own mind, a quiet confidence and feels no need to compete in the pissing contests that can arise on here.
Very little to do with physical appearance.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Quietly confident but social if that makes sense.
Feels no need to prove himself to others or beg.
Enjoys the Fab ride and looks to give rather than just receive.
I think anyway ha ha |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Yeah seen this a lot,
"looking for a real man"
copy and paste forwarded.. followed by uncontrollable sobbing when i look at myself in the mirror and they don't reply. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *e Devil OP Man
over a year ago
Blantyre |
"Quietly confident but social if that makes sense.
Feels no need to prove himself to others or beg.
Enjoys the Fab ride and looks to give rather than just receive.
I think anyway ha ha"
If there is such a thing as a real man, this would be a good definition of him i think.  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *e Devil OP Man
over a year ago
Blantyre |
"Mmmmm..tough question.....on Fab?
For me, someone who knows his own mind, a quiet confidence and feels no need to compete in the pissing contests that can arise on here.
Very little to do with physical appearance.
"
What about off Fab, obviously, well hopefully  you see Mr Doggy as a real man so whats his strengths then. ?  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Mmmmm..tough question.....on Fab?
For me, someone who knows his own mind, a quiet confidence and feels no need to compete in the pissing contests that can arise on here.
Very little to do with physical appearance.
What about off Fab, obviously, well hopefully you see Mr Doggy as a real man so whats his strengths then. ? "
He can rein me in and isn't afraid to kick my arse when required! Playful, very funny, and a quality ride  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
A man who knows when to take control, one who could look after me but allows the freedom to look after myself, is confident enough they don’t have to as said before join in a pissing contest and respects women, someone who is mature in personality and not acting like a little boy needing looked after or a teenager getting all stroppy and moody. Lots of things make a man just as lots of things make a woman, a good woman and a good man are both pretty equal tbh |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Another question should there be such a thing as a "good man" ahould it not be a good person ?
What's wrong with "Man" if the person you're talking about is male  "
nothing whatever imo.
the problem is what "real man" equates too is usually gender devisive.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Mmmmm..tough question.....on Fab?
For me, someone who knows his own mind, a quiet confidence and feels no need to compete in the pissing contests that can arise on here.
Very little to do with physical appearance.
"
What she said
K |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Depends on context
On fab I would think a lady looking for a real man wants a man that will take charge
In life - someone who can make me laugh through the tears, treat me like a princess or a sex goddess and have the ability to know when each is required, enjoys life with me and enjoys me enjoying life with others too as I would him, knows when to discuss and when to agree, and above all lives in a different house from me (not sure I could share again!)
I’m thinking there may be a reason I’m still single  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Seen it occasionally on Fab and POF . A women saying she's looking for a 'real ' man. So ladies , do you think there is such a thing ? What qualities should he have. ?Guys , do you think you are a 'real' man in the eyes of women ? If so why, what qualifies you as this unicorn of the male species?.
Thoughts ???
"
I would describe my dad as a real man. I think a lot of real men died out with my dad's generation |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *e Devil OP Man
over a year ago
Blantyre |
"Depends on context
On fab I would think a lady looking for a real man wants a man that will take charge
In life - someone who can make me laugh through the tears, treat me like a princess or a sex goddess and have the ability to know when each is required, enjoys life with me and enjoys me enjoying life with others too as I would him, knows when to discuss and when to agree, and above all lives in a different house from me (not sure I could share again!)
I’m thinking there may be a reason I’m still single "
Haha , you want it all. And your quite right as well. Dont think anyone, man or woman should settle for 2nd best. X |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *e Devil OP Man
over a year ago
Blantyre |
"Seen it occasionally on Fab and POF . A women saying she's looking for a 'real ' man. So ladies , do you think there is such a thing ? What qualities should he have. ?Guys , do you think you are a 'real' man in the eyes of women ? If so why, what qualifies you as this unicorn of the male species?.
Thoughts ???
I would describe my dad as a real man. I think a lot of real men died out with my dad's generation "
Ooooooh big statement Karen , definitely requires a little more exploration or explanation about your post. Only if you want to of course. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
A real man after doing a #2 will always flush the toilet once and walk away never once looking back to see if it's gone or not, no waiting on the toilet cistern to fill back up before plunging the damn thing away for good lol |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Having had the delight of being married to a the complete opposite of a “real man” for too long, then being wonderfully single and now with the divine Mr Switch I would say a real man lets you be you and genuinely fucking adores you for it.
But hey maybe I’m still bitter |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Seen it occasionally on Fab and POF . A women saying she's looking for a 'real ' man. So ladies , do you think there is such a thing ? What qualities should he have. ?Guys , do you think you are a 'real' man in the eyes of women ? If so why, what qualifies you as this unicorn of the male species?.
Thoughts ???
I would describe my dad as a real man. I think a lot of real men died out with my dad's generation
Ooooooh big statement Karen , definitely requires a little more exploration or explanation about your post. Only if you want to of course. "
Priorities in the right place and old school values |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Badly
. Short
...wee tubby belly
......over 50
That's a real man ladies "
You've kissed the blarney stone though ...(and a few other things along the way) |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Real man or manly?
I like manly men.
Hate guys in skinny jeans and tight t shirts that's just walked out of the tanning salon.
I want a guy that's confident in his own skin can go fix my car or put some Ikea wardrobes up lol. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I think this is a very cultural thing, and also quite gender stereotypical.
I can when called on build wardrobes, rewire houses, fix cars, cook ok meals, climb mountains, go on expeditions, help oldies cross the road, kiss well, cuddle up as needed, go with red, white or beer, have a good political debate and make folk laugh.
I'm also a grumpy git, far too opinionated, skint permanently through having some kids, carrying a stone too much, like documentaries, own two Coldplay albums and get garlic breath that cold strip wallpaper...
So I'm real.  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I think this is a very cultural thing, and also quite gender stereotypical.
I can when called on build wardrobes, rewire houses, fix cars, cook ok meals, climb mountains, go on expeditions, help oldies cross the road, kiss well, cuddle up as needed, go with red, white or beer, have a good political debate and make folk laugh.
I'm also a grumpy git, far too opinionated, skint permanently through having some kids, carrying a stone too much, like documentaries, own two Coldplay albums and get garlic breath that cold strip wallpaper...
So I'm real. "
See the first part is when I would be with you and the second part is when you go home to your own house - that would make a perfect partnership |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"
See the first part is when I would be with you and the second part is when you go home to your own house - that would make a perfect partnership "
This causes issues.
I love a good morning sex session.
I love a good cuddle.
I'd never remember to bring toothbrush or where I left my clean pants at... |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"
See the first part is when I would be with you and the second part is when you go home to your own house - that would make a perfect partnership
This causes issues.
I love a good morning sex session.
I love a good cuddle.
I'd never remember to bring toothbrush or where I left my clean pants at..."
I will send you home at lunchtime then so you can be a grumpy fit after lunch
Plenty cuddles in between
I have spare toothbrushes
Go commando
Issues? what issues?
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"
I will send you home at lunchtime then so you can be a grumpy fit after lunch
Plenty cuddles in between
I have spare toothbrushes
Go commando
Issues? what issues?
"
I'll go start the car - what's your address..? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"
I will send you home at lunchtime then so you can be a grumpy fit after lunch
Plenty cuddles in between
I have spare toothbrushes
Go commando
Issues? what issues?
I'll go start the car - what's your address..? "
Pm you but give me time to get rid of my boys first, I’m hoping by 2029 I should have an empty  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Hmmmm I seek the same qualities in a man as a woman - intelligent, direct, open minded and a killer sense of humour is essential. In terms of looks I’ve never judged a guy on physical appearence. Tall, short, quirky, hunky, lean, good looking, great physique or dad bod has been secondary to having that X factor. Personal chemistry and being a wee bit different in outlook always appeals. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Hmmmm I seek the same qualities in a man as a woman - intelligent, direct, open minded and a killer sense of humour is essential. In terms of looks I’ve never judged a guy on physical appearence. Tall, short, quirky, hunky, lean, good looking, great physique or dad bod has been secondary to having that X factor. Personal chemistry and being a wee bit different in outlook always appeals. "
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"
I will send you home at lunchtime then so you can be a grumpy fit after lunch
Plenty cuddles in between
I have spare toothbrushes
Go commando
Issues? what issues?
I'll go start the car - what's your address..?
Pm you but give me time to get rid of my boys first, I’m hoping by 2029 I should have an empty "
I ts 21:42 now have they left yet |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"
I will send you home at lunchtime then so you can be a grumpy fit after lunch
Plenty cuddles in between
I have spare toothbrushes
Go commando
Issues? what issues?
I'll go start the car - what's your address..?
Pm you but give me time to get rid of my boys first, I’m hoping by 2029 I should have an empty
I ts 21:42 now have they left yet "
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
For me it's a poor turn of phrase. Much like real woman. Both make me roll my eyes .
However I do think that people are likely referring to personality qualities, or at least that is how I define it. Someone with compassion, conviction, courage and who shows respect. Someone who owns who they are and doesn't just want to conform . Someone who isn't afraid of their feelings and is open about their flaws. Humility. It should be standard practice but I think now it's becoming less .
Perhaps that is why it seems an impossible ideal
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
Maybe I'm not real? 