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By *uffin OP Man
over a year ago
Edinburgh |
Ok call me a complete grump but its getting to the point of madness trying to actually do the following:
1) chat with a couple/single about swinging to create some contacts.
2) Mirror Adonis and have the perfect penis or body for even a sniff at a meet request.
3) Be a single male aka dog shite in the site and get any level of acceptance that we are here for the same reason as couples and females.
Here is my pitch to all swingers out there.
Im a guy who wants to be involved in the lifestyle - meet like minded others - meet for some form of beverage and possibly some fun. Couples and females are my preference
whats so wrong in this? or are all guys excluded from swinging now cos it certainly looks and seems that way these days. |
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over a year ago
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"Ok call me a complete grump but its getting to the point of madness trying to actually do the following:
1) chat with a couple/single about swinging to create some contacts.
2) Mirror Adonis and have the perfect penis or body for even a sniff at a meet request.
3) Be a single male aka dog shite in the site and get any level of acceptance that we are here for the same reason as couples and females.
Here is my pitch to all swingers out there.
Im a guy who wants to be involved in the lifestyle - meet like minded others - meet for some form of beverage and possibly some fun. Couples and females are my preference
whats so wrong in this? or are all guys excluded from swinging now cos it certainly looks and seems that way these days."
Difficult mate eh? Had more success in pass on other free sites so feel your pain ! Would say as for couples , majority times it’s the guy on it and not lady as I just checked your profile noted bi curious so maybe try FAB other site and maybe never know you may get lucky other then that as apparently lots of ladies on this are bombarded with emails and just delete emails without looking at your emails and small proportion just get their fun teasing guys which is very sad . Better going to pub , supermarket etc more chance of clicking then being a single older guy on this . Plus at least you know chemistry wise if gonna click rather than wondering who you emailed is ever gonna reply . Good luck mate |
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"Not what we are looking for but will give you some pointers, maybe some better pics, actually take time to fill out the profile etc so people actually have an idea about you 
John  "
Agree, your profile is how you sell yourself. 1 picture and very little bio, wont do that.
Im sure your camera has a timer so why the need for a mirror. ?
As for pics. You got to take about 40 to 60 pics and you will maybe get 2 pics you like out them. No effort so no meets, thats the harsh reality of Fab. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not what we are looking for but will give you some pointers, maybe some better pics, actually take time to fill out the profile etc so people actually have an idea about you
John "
Pet hate Is incomplete profiles, or says back again. Like wtf don’t know you from before so give us something to gonon |
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Without even looking up your info, your coming across as "wanting,needing",put yourself in the position of being a couple maybe lookin for a solo male, if you come across as fun and laid back about maybe meeting,you just might tick a few of their boxes.
I will now go and look up your info to see if my hunch stacks up,lol, but either way, dont do needy/pleady is my advice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I smell entitlement and it's a big turn off!
Let me tell you how I see this going..
This site ends up being the landing page for horny men after they have seen a like while watching porn.
Was it the hot young women or horny milfs in your area want to meet you that drew you in? Or was it watching an orgy and thinking you are a stud?
Regardless you're now here and horny. Initially you're excited by limitless possibilities. Then reality starts to kick in a touch and you realise it's not instashag.
At this point you might change your approach and start aiming for a social meet (after all who could resist your charm etc) however even that proves difficult.
Frustration kicks in and suddenly your cock takes over and you adopt the there must be someone up for a shag approach (this is where I'm usually emailed and looked upon as some sort of free escort. I mean I've got my tits out I must be up for it...
That doesn't work either so you jump on the forums and plead pussy poverty.
Some will perhaps feel your pain, others will give helpful tips, others will just roll their eyes "another one"
Either way the offers aren't flooding in and making any real effort seems pointless because A, your hardon and ego is deflating and B it's easier on other sites or down the pub.
You log out or delete the profile thinking we are all stuck up anyway.
In 3 or 6 months time the circle of fab begins again...
Am I correct in any of this?
The people who do well on here (and there are many) aren't god like beings or images of perfection.
They just show respect, character, patience and resilience.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's gonna take time
A whole lot of precious time
It's gonna take patience and time,
(But it's gonna take money
A whole lot of spending money
It's gonna take plenty of money
To do it right, child)  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's gonna take time
A whole lot of precious time
It's gonna take patience and time,
(But it's gonna take money
A whole lot of spending money
It's gonna take plenty of money
To do it right, child) "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To be honest the odds are stacked so much against single guys then we don’t know why they bother.
You’re much more likely to get lucky off the site than on it. In our opinion.
From looking at the number of veris then guys who seem to get the most meets are : -
1. Guys with unusually large cocks
2. BBCs
3. Incrediblely gym fit guys
4. Guys who put an incredible amount of time into forums and face to face socials/club meets
If you’re an average guy then option 4 is your best shout but can you be bothered ? Really? When it’s so much easier for guys outside of Fab. Unless of course you’re married and want a bit on the side. In that case Fab is a safer choice possibly as its NSA.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I smell entitlement and it's a big turn off!
Let me tell you how I see this going..
This site ends up being the landing page for horny men after they have seen a like while watching porn.
Was it the hot young women or horny milfs in your area want to meet you that drew you in? Or was it watching an orgy and thinking you are a stud?
Regardless you're now here and horny. Initially you're excited by limitless possibilities. Then reality starts to kick in a touch and you realise it's not instashag.
At this point you might change your approach and start aiming for a social meet (after all who could resist your charm etc) however even that proves difficult.
Frustration kicks in and suddenly your cock takes over and you adopt the there must be someone up for a shag approach (this is where I'm usually emailed and looked upon as some sort of free escort. I mean I've got my tits out I must be up for it...
That doesn't work either so you jump on the forums and plead pussy poverty.
Some will perhaps feel your pain, others will give helpful tips, others will just roll their eyes "another one"
Either way the offers aren't flooding in and making any real effort seems pointless because A, your hardon and ego is deflating and B it's easier on other sites or down the pub.
You log out or delete the profile thinking we are all stuck up anyway.
In 3 or 6 months time the circle of fab begins again...
Am I correct in any of this?
The people who do well on here (and there are many) aren't god like beings or images of perfection.
They just show respect, character, patience and resilience.
"
^^^^^THIS^^^^^^
One of the best summaries of how a significant portion of some men (and a woman that I see on my updates feed) behave on here. It’s almost a behavioural science it’s so predictable |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I smell entitlement and it's a big turn off!
Let me tell you how I see this going..
This site ends up being the landing page for horny men after they have seen a like while watching porn.
Was it the hot young women or horny milfs in your area want to meet you that drew you in? Or was it watching an orgy and thinking you are a stud?
Regardless you're now here and horny. Initially you're excited by limitless possibilities. Then reality starts to kick in a touch and you realise it's not instashag.
At this point you might change your approach and start aiming for a social meet (after all who could resist your charm etc) however even that proves difficult.
Frustration kicks in and suddenly your cock takes over and you adopt the there must be someone up for a shag approach (this is where I'm usually emailed and looked upon as some sort of free escort. I mean I've got my tits out I must be up for it...
That doesn't work either so you jump on the forums and plead pussy poverty.
Some will perhaps feel your pain, others will give helpful tips, others will just roll their eyes "another one"
Either way the offers aren't flooding in and making any real effort seems pointless because A, your hardon and ego is deflating and B it's easier on other sites or down the pub.
You log out or delete the profile thinking we are all stuck up anyway.
In 3 or 6 months time the circle of fab begins again...
Am I correct in any of this?
The people who do well on here (and there are many) aren't god like beings or images of perfection.
They just show respect, character, patience and resilience.
^^^^^THIS^^^^^^
One of the best summaries of how a significant portion of some men (and a woman that I see on my updates feed) behave on here. It’s almost a behavioural science it’s so predictable "
Feck YES!!! Well done Sinders!!!   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I smell entitlement and it's a big turn off!
Let me tell you how I see this going..
This site ends up being the landing page for horny men after they have seen a like while watching porn.
Was it the hot young women or horny milfs in your area want to meet you that drew you in? Or was it watching an orgy and thinking you are a stud?
Regardless you're now here and horny. Initially you're excited by limitless possibilities. Then reality starts to kick in a touch and you realise it's not instashag.
At this point you might change your approach and start aiming for a social meet (after all who could resist your charm etc) however even that proves difficult.
Frustration kicks in and suddenly your cock takes over and you adopt the there must be someone up for a shag approach (this is where I'm usually emailed and looked upon as some sort of free escort. I mean I've got my tits out I must be up for it...
That doesn't work either so you jump on the forums and plead pussy poverty.
Some will perhaps feel your pain, others will give helpful tips, others will just roll their eyes "another one"
Either way the offers aren't flooding in and making any real effort seems pointless because A, your hardon and ego is deflating and B it's easier on other sites or down the pub.
You log out or delete the profile thinking we are all stuck up anyway.
In 3 or 6 months time the circle of fab begins again...
Am I correct in any of this?
The people who do well on here (and there are many) aren't god like beings or images of perfection.
They just show respect, character, patience and resilience.
^^^^^THIS^^^^^^
One of the best summaries of how a significant portion of some men (and a woman that I see on my updates feed) behave on here. It’s almost a behavioural science it’s so predictable
Feck YES!!! Well done Sinders!!! "
And please note folks, Sinderella said PEOPLE that show respect, patience and resilience, not just guys. As someone said one before on one of these threads, succinctly if not as eloquently “Just don’t be a dick” |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I smell entitlement and it's a big turn off!
Let me tell you how I see this going..
This site ends up being the landing page for horny men after they have seen a like while watching porn.
Was it the hot young women or horny milfs in your area want to meet you that drew you in? Or was it watching an orgy and thinking you are a stud?
Regardless you're now here and horny. Initially you're excited by limitless possibilities. Then reality starts to kick in a touch and you realise it's not instashag.
At this point you might change your approach and start aiming for a social meet (after all who could resist your charm etc) however even that proves difficult.
Frustration kicks in and suddenly your cock takes over and you adopt the there must be someone up for a shag approach (this is where I'm usually emailed and looked upon as some sort of free escort. I mean I've got my tits out I must be up for it...
That doesn't work either so you jump on the forums and plead pussy poverty.
Some will perhaps feel your pain, others will give helpful tips, others will just roll their eyes "another one"
Either way the offers aren't flooding in and making any real effort seems pointless because A, your hardon and ego is deflating and B it's easier on other sites or down the pub.
You log out or delete the profile thinking we are all stuck up anyway.
In 3 or 6 months time the circle of fab begins again...
Am I correct in any of this?
The people who do well on here (and there are many) aren't god like beings or images of perfection.
They just show respect, character, patience and resilience.
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Brilliant. We need to add this to the FAQ's. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I smell entitlement and it's a big turn off!
Let me tell you how I see this going..
This site ends up being the landing page for horny men after they have seen a like while watching porn.
Was it the hot young women or horny milfs in your area want to meet you that drew you in? Or was it watching an orgy and thinking you are a stud?
Regardless you're now here and horny. Initially you're excited by limitless possibilities. Then reality starts to kick in a touch and you realise it's not instashag.
At this point you might change your approach and start aiming for a social meet (after all who could resist your charm etc) however even that proves difficult.
Frustration kicks in and suddenly your cock takes over and you adopt the there must be someone up for a shag approach (this is where I'm usually emailed and looked upon as some sort of free escort. I mean I've got my tits out I must be up for it...
That doesn't work either so you jump on the forums and plead pussy poverty.
Some will perhaps feel your pain, others will give helpful tips, others will just roll their eyes "another one"
Either way the offers aren't flooding in and making any real effort seems pointless because A, your hardon and ego is deflating and B it's easier on other sites or down the pub.
You log out or delete the profile thinking we are all stuck up anyway.
In 3 or 6 months time the circle of fab begins again...
Am I correct in any of this?
The people who do well on here (and there are many) aren't god like beings or images of perfection.
They just show respect, character, patience and resilience.
^^^^^THIS^^^^^^
One of the best summaries of how a significant portion of some men (and a woman that I see on my updates feed) behave on here. It’s almost a behavioural science it’s so predictable
Feck YES!!! Well done Sinders!!!
And please note folks, Sinderella said PEOPLE that show respect, patience and resilience, not just guys. As someone said one before on one of these threads, succinctly if not as eloquently “Just don’t be a dick” "
In the interests of fairness I've written the female version too! |
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"I smell entitlement and it's a big turn off!
Let me tell you how I see this going..
This site ends up being the landing page for horny men after they have seen a like while watching porn.
Was it the hot young women or horny milfs in your area want to meet you that drew you in? Or was it watching an orgy and thinking you are a stud?
Regardless you're now here and horny. Initially you're excited by limitless possibilities. Then reality starts to kick in a touch and you realise it's not instashag.
At this point you might change your approach and start aiming for a social meet (after all who could resist your charm etc) however even that proves difficult.
Frustration kicks in and suddenly your cock takes over and you adopt the there must be someone up for a shag approach (this is where I'm usually emailed and looked upon as some sort of free escort. I mean I've got my tits out I must be up for it...
That doesn't work either so you jump on the forums and plead pussy poverty.
Some will perhaps feel your pain, others will give helpful tips, others will just roll their eyes "another one"
Either way the offers aren't flooding in and making any real effort seems pointless because A, your hardon and ego is deflating and B it's easier on other sites or down the pub.
You log out or delete the profile thinking we are all stuck up anyway.
In 3 or 6 months time the circle of fab begins again...
Am I correct in any of this?
The people who do well on here (and there are many) aren't god like beings or images of perfection.
They just show respect, character, patience and resilience.
"
Now this is how to say something without making it sound like a dig or sound insulting. Well done sinders summing up how many are left very disappointed with the Fab experience. |
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By *uffin OP Man
over a year ago
Edinburgh |
Do for example if you get a nice hi email from my profile apart from the dodgy pic which I will fix when possible what is missing from my profile it's got a reasonably accurate fun message?
Or is it just all single guys are seen as crap still? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do for example if you get a nice hi email from my profile apart from the dodgy pic which I will fix when possible what is missing from my profile it's got a reasonably accurate fun message?
Or is it just all single guys are seen as crap still?"
You won't be everyone's cup of tea |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To me swinging is the engaging in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners within a group, especially on a habitual basis.
Now I think single men do get confused here especially when their bio reads/states they are loving ,caring , commited, know how to treat a woman etc etc (I have read a few from men who have messaged us even though it's clear what we are looking for in my bio ).
Then men stick in a short but brief part about looking to join in on couples not much detail , like they have just stuck it in to be included in the swinging scene and very little thought into it.
I get the feeling it's like a dating site sometimes where men come across looking for a woman or a man but will do a couple lol. That to me is not swinging and there are other sites if meeting a woman/guy is what guys want.
However joining in as threesome etc is classed under the same umbrella so to speak but urge all men to read the bios of people/couples before messaging as majority clearly state what they are looking for.
But taking offence and feeling men are just pushed aside in the swinging world isn't the case so comes the answer. Some husband's are not yet comfortable unless it involves another woman threesome unless the husband is ofcorse Extremely comfortable watching his wife with another man whilst he stands and watches (no play for him and green eyes monster appears.)not always the case I know but if a couple state couples mf and f that's what they want because that's what they feel comfortable with it should be reapected, so when a man messages jumping in saying would you consider a man joining you and your husband . Well if it was a consideration it would be in the bio believe me.so that is probably why most men get ignored because they haven't read bio of the person they have messaged and only looked at pictures so become disrespectful to the needs and wants of couples and not much body in their own bio.
I would suggest swinging clubs that are open to single men.im sure there may be few couples who are into that and group sex gangbangs might be more up your street .
Wasn't directed at you but in general I'm speaking.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Think you should have a profile pic.. Even if one of toned torso only. I dont like silhouette pics and many people find this offputting. Also think about a more appealing username.. Niffin sounds very negative. More info in profile but avoid a complete cv |
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"Ok call me a complete grump but its getting to the point of madness trying to actually do the following:
1) chat with a couple/single about swinging to create some contacts.
2) Mirror Adonis and have the perfect penis or body for even a sniff at a meet request.
3) Be a single male aka dog shite in the site and get any level of acceptance that we are here for the same reason as couples and females.
Here is my pitch to all swingers out there.
Im a guy who wants to be involved in the lifestyle - meet like minded others - meet for some form of beverage and possibly some fun. Couples and females are my preference
whats so wrong in this? or are all guys excluded from swinging now cos it certainly looks and seems that way these days."
Firstly, it's not personal and really not worth getting worked up about. If they're not replying it's because you either aren't what they're looking for, have not sent a message that appeals to them or have nothing on your profile to attract them.
Have you gone to a social or a club? Meeting people in person will definitely give you an advantage over the many hundreds of other single guys in your area.
If you are sticking to just messaging people ensure that your profile is the best it can possibly be and you write a decent message that shows you have read their profile and you meet their requirements. There might still be no attraction but that can't be helped, you will have at least done everything to the best of your ability.
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"I smell entitlement and it's a big turn off!
Let me tell you how I see this going..
This site ends up being the landing page for horny men after they have seen a like while watching porn.
Was it the hot young women or horny milfs in your area want to meet you that drew you in? Or was it watching an orgy and thinking you are a stud?
Regardless you're now here and horny. Initially you're excited by limitless possibilities. Then reality starts to kick in a touch and you realise it's not instashag.
At this point you might change your approach and start aiming for a social meet (after all who could resist your charm etc) however even that proves difficult.
Frustration kicks in and suddenly your cock takes over and you adopt the there must be someone up for a shag approach (this is where I'm usually emailed and looked upon as some sort of free escort. I mean I've got my tits out I must be up for it...
That doesn't work either so you jump on the forums and plead pussy poverty.
Some will perhaps feel your pain, others will give helpful tips, others will just roll their eyes "another one"
Either way the offers aren't flooding in and making any real effort seems pointless because A, your hardon and ego is deflating and B it's easier on other sites or down the pub.
You log out or delete the profile thinking we are all stuck up anyway.
In 3 or 6 months time the circle of fab begins again...
Am I correct in any of this?
The people who do well on here (and there are many) aren't god like beings or images of perfection.
They just show respect, character, patience and resilience.
Brilliant. We need to add this to the FAQ's."
The FAQs they never bloody read? |
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"Do for example if you get a nice hi email from my profile apart from the dodgy pic which I will fix when possible what is missing from my profile it's got a reasonably accurate fun message?
Or is it just all single guys are seen as crap still?"
Does your message just say hi? Because those scream lazy and I ignore them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I smell entitlement and it's a big turn off!
Let me tell you how I see this going..
This site ends up being the landing page for horny men after they have seen a like while watching porn.
Was it the hot young women or horny milfs in your area want to meet you that drew you in? Or was it watching an orgy and thinking you are a stud?
Regardless you're now here and horny. Initially you're excited by limitless possibilities. Then reality starts to kick in a touch and you realise it's not instashag.
At this point you might change your approach and start aiming for a social meet (after all who could resist your charm etc) however even that proves difficult.
Frustration kicks in and suddenly your cock takes over and you adopt the there must be someone up for a shag approach (this is where I'm usually emailed and looked upon as some sort of free escort. I mean I've got my tits out I must be up for it...
That doesn't work either so you jump on the forums and plead pussy poverty.
Some will perhaps feel your pain, others will give helpful tips, others will just roll their eyes "another one"
Either way the offers aren't flooding in and making any real effort seems pointless because A, your hardon and ego is deflating and B it's easier on other sites or down the pub.
You log out or delete the profile thinking we are all stuck up anyway.
In 3 or 6 months time the circle of fab begins again...
Am I correct in any of this?
The people who do well on here (and there are many) aren't god like beings or images of perfection.
They just show respect, character, patience and resilience.
"
That response totally sums up what some guys look for and even tho I do agree with it I do think some females do come on here with no intention off ever meeting anybody but love the guys chasing after them as they get a kick out off it and are unable to do it in a night club / pub as those guys wouldn't give them a second look . That's my take on this site as it has got to big for itself .
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"I smell entitlement and it's a big turn off!
Let me tell you how I see this going..
This site ends up being the landing page for horny men after they have seen a like while watching porn.
Was it the hot young women or horny milfs in your area want to meet you that drew you in? Or was it watching an orgy and thinking you are a stud?
Regardless you're now here and horny. Initially you're excited by limitless possibilities. Then reality starts to kick in a touch and you realise it's not instashag.
At this point you might change your approach and start aiming for a social meet (after all who could resist your charm etc) however even that proves difficult.
Frustration kicks in and suddenly your cock takes over and you adopt the there must be someone up for a shag approach (this is where I'm usually emailed and looked upon as some sort of free escort. I mean I've got my tits out I must be up for it...
That doesn't work either so you jump on the forums and plead pussy poverty.
Some will perhaps feel your pain, others will give helpful tips, others will just roll their eyes "another one"
Either way the offers aren't flooding in and making any real effort seems pointless because A, your hardon and ego is deflating and B it's easier on other sites or down the pub.
You log out or delete the profile thinking we are all stuck up anyway.
In 3 or 6 months time the circle of fab begins again...
Am I correct in any of this?
The people who do well on here (and there are many) aren't god like beings or images of perfection.
They just show respect, character, patience and resilience.
That response totally sums up what some guys look for and even tho I do agree with it I do think some females do come on here with no intention off ever meeting anybody but love the guys chasing after them as they get a kick out off it and are unable to do it in a night club / pub as those guys wouldn't give them a second look . That's my take on this site as it has got to big for itself .
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So the women on here are ugly and just here to mess guys around? Give your head a wobble.
There may well be some women on here who only want to chat, as is every person's right. It's no one else's business how they use this site.
The majority of the profiles you describe are likely fake profiles, sad little men sitting behind a keyboard thinking they're funny, or a bot. It amazes me how many men can't tell the difference between a genuine profile and a fake, usually because all their blood has rushed to their groin  |
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By *ubbly2012Woman
over a year ago
inver somewhere |
My personal advice...
Never send unsolicited dick picks or have them as your profile picture...
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Try attending a social or 2... even if to get yourself a few verifications... most people wont go near anyone that doesnt have verifications....
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Try going along to a club like cjs or after8... or the new one in dundee....
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Dont have a pity party on the forums...
If someone isnt interested...or doesnt reply to your messages...
Move on.. try again
Dont have any expectations and if anything happens it's a pleasant surprise...
Spitting dummies wont get you anywhere |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I smell entitlement and it's a big turn off!
Let me tell you how I see this going..
This site ends up being the landing page for horny men after they have seen a like while watching porn.
Was it the hot young women or horny milfs in your area want to meet you that drew you in? Or was it watching an orgy and thinking you are a stud?
Regardless you're now here and horny. Initially you're excited by limitless possibilities. Then reality starts to kick in a touch and you realise it's not instashag.
At this point you might change your approach and start aiming for a social meet (after all who could resist your charm etc) however even that proves difficult.
Frustration kicks in and suddenly your cock takes over and you adopt the there must be someone up for a shag approach (this is where I'm usually emailed and looked upon as some sort of free escort. I mean I've got my tits out I must be up for it...
That doesn't work either so you jump on the forums and plead pussy poverty.
Some will perhaps feel your pain, others will give helpful tips, others will just roll their eyes "another one"
Either way the offers aren't flooding in and making any real effort seems pointless because A, your hardon and ego is deflating and B it's easier on other sites or down the pub.
You log out or delete the profile thinking we are all stuck up anyway.
In 3 or 6 months time the circle of fab begins again...
Am I correct in any of this?
The people who do well on here (and there are many) aren't god like beings or images of perfection.
They just show respect, character, patience and resilience.
^^^^^THIS^^^^^^
One of the best summaries of how a significant portion of some men (and a woman that I see on my updates feed) behave on here. It’s almost a behavioural science it’s so predictable
Feck YES!!! Well done Sinders!!!
And please note folks, Sinderella said PEOPLE that show respect, patience and resilience, not just guys. As someone said one before on one of these threads, succinctly if not as eloquently “Just don’t be a dick” "
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"I smell entitlement and it's a big turn off!
Let me tell you how I see this going..
This site ends up being the landing page for horny men after they have seen a like while watching porn.
Was it the hot young women or horny milfs in your area want to meet you that drew you in? Or was it watching an orgy and thinking you are a stud?
Regardless you're now here and horny. Initially you're excited by limitless possibilities. Then reality starts to kick in a touch and you realise it's not instashag.
At this point you might change your approach and start aiming for a social meet (after all who could resist your charm etc) however even that proves difficult.
Frustration kicks in and suddenly your cock takes over and you adopt the there must be someone up for a shag approach (this is where I'm usually emailed and looked upon as some sort of free escort. I mean I've got my tits out I must be up for it...
That doesn't work either so you jump on the forums and plead pussy poverty.
Some will perhaps feel your pain, others will give helpful tips, others will just roll their eyes "another one"
Either way the offers aren't flooding in and making any real effort seems pointless because A, your hardon and ego is deflating and B it's easier on other sites or down the pub.
You log out or delete the profile thinking we are all stuck up anyway.
In 3 or 6 months time the circle of fab begins again...
Am I correct in any of this?
The people who do well on here (and there are many) aren't god like beings or images of perfection.
They just show respect, character, patience and resilience.
That response totally sums up what some guys look for and even tho I do agree with it I do think some females do come on here with no intention off ever meeting anybody but love the guys chasing after them as they get a kick out off it and are unable to do it in a night club / pub as those guys wouldn't give them a second look . That's my take on this site as it has got to big for itself .
So the women on here are ugly and just here to mess guys around? Give your head a wobble.
There may well be some women on here who only want to chat, as is every person's right. It's no one else's business how they use this site.
The majority of the profiles you describe are likely fake profiles, sad little men sitting behind a keyboard thinking they're funny, or a bot. It amazes me how many men can't tell the difference between a genuine profile and a fake, usually because all their blood has rushed to their groin "
you can take out off my reply what you like that is your prerogative and you won't get an arguement out off me there but mind it is a female ( yourself ) who is calling woman ugly |
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"My personal advice...
Never send unsolicited dick picks or have them as your profile picture...
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Try attending a social or 2... even if to get yourself a few verifications... most people wont go near anyone that doesnt have verifications....
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Try going along to a club like cjs or after8... or the new one in dundee....
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Dont have a pity party on the forums...
If someone isnt interested...or doesnt reply to your messages...
Move on.. try again
Dont have any expectations and if anything happens it's a pleasant surprise...
Spitting dummies wont get you anywhere"
very very sound advice put in a very nice way |
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"I smell entitlement and it's a big turn off!
Let me tell you how I see this going..
This site ends up being the landing page for horny men after they have seen a like while watching porn.
Was it the hot young women or horny milfs in your area want to meet you that drew you in? Or was it watching an orgy and thinking you are a stud?
Regardless you're now here and horny. Initially you're excited by limitless possibilities. Then reality starts to kick in a touch and you realise it's not instashag.
At this point you might change your approach and start aiming for a social meet (after all who could resist your charm etc) however even that proves difficult.
Frustration kicks in and suddenly your cock takes over and you adopt the there must be someone up for a shag approach (this is where I'm usually emailed and looked upon as some sort of free escort. I mean I've got my tits out I must be up for it...
That doesn't work either so you jump on the forums and plead pussy poverty.
Some will perhaps feel your pain, others will give helpful tips, others will just roll their eyes "another one"
Either way the offers aren't flooding in and making any real effort seems pointless because A, your hardon and ego is deflating and B it's easier on other sites or down the pub.
You log out or delete the profile thinking we are all stuck up anyway.
In 3 or 6 months time the circle of fab begins again...
Am I correct in any of this?
The people who do well on here (and there are many) aren't god like beings or images of perfection.
They just show respect, character, patience and resilience.
That response totally sums up what some guys look for and even tho I do agree with it I do think some females do come on here with no intention off ever meeting anybody but love the guys chasing after them as they get a kick out off it and are unable to do it in a night club / pub as those guys wouldn't give them a second look . That's my take on this site as it has got to big for itself .
So the women on here are ugly and just here to mess guys around? Give your head a wobble.
There may well be some women on here who only want to chat, as is every person's right. It's no one else's business how they use this site.
The majority of the profiles you describe are likely fake profiles, sad little men sitting behind a keyboard thinking they're funny, or a bot. It amazes me how many men can't tell the difference between a genuine profile and a fake, usually because all their blood has rushed to their groin you can take out off my reply what you like that is your prerogative and you won't get an arguement out off me there but mind it is a female ( yourself ) who is calling woman ugly "
‘they get a kick out off it and are unable to do it in a night club / pub as those guys wouldn't give them a second look . ‘
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By *ubbly2012Woman
over a year ago
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"My personal advice...
Never send unsolicited dick picks or have them as your profile picture...
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Try attending a social or 2... even if to get yourself a few verifications... most people wont go near anyone that doesnt have verifications....
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Try going along to a club like cjs or after8... or the new one in dundee....
.............
Dont have a pity party on the forums...
If someone isnt interested...or doesnt reply to your messages...
Move on.. try again
Dont have any expectations and if anything happens it's a pleasant surprise...
Spitting dummies wont get you anywherevery very sound advice put in a very nice way "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My personal advice...
Never send unsolicited dick picks or have them as your profile picture...
..............
Try attending a social or 2... even if to get yourself a few verifications... most people wont go near anyone that doesnt have verifications....
.............
Try going along to a club like cjs or after8... or the new one in dundee....
.............
Dont have a pity party on the forums...
If someone isnt interested...or doesnt reply to your messages...
Move on.. try again
Dont have any expectations and if anything happens it's a pleasant surprise...
Spitting dummies wont get you anywherevery very sound advice put in a very nice way
Says the one with the dick pick. For a profile.... lmfao "
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By *uffin OP Man
over a year ago
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Geesh folks. Those being positive many thanks and those who have msged me personally with support also thanks I will be messaging back to chat more if you want.
But ladies please change the tone.its really quite offensive. Single guys who are on the site for a ons and fail are so easy to spot and ignore. There are females who are exactly the same on here but I've yet to see a guy spit venom as much as you do.
Some of us have been around the scene for decades and fab is the modern way to meet but messaging most of you is hardly even enticing when you have such an angst.
Again last night 3 in my local updates who I'm sure had more choice ignored the guys and then bitched about time wasters and nobody wanting to fuck em.really...
So the topic is what it is. What does it take? It in reality shouldn't be as negative an experience as it is especially with the numbers here these days.
Good topic and thanks for proving the point. |
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over a year ago
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"Geesh folks. Those being positive many thanks and those who have msged me personally with support also thanks I will be messaging back to chat more if you want.
But ladies please change the tone.its really quite offensive. Single guys who are on the site for a ons and fail are so easy to spot and ignore. There are females who are exactly the same on here but I've yet to see a guy spit venom as much as you do.
Some of us have been around the scene for decades and fab is the modern way to meet but messaging most of you is hardly even enticing when you have such an angst.
Again last night 3 in my local updates who I'm sure had more choice ignored the guys and then bitched about time wasters and nobody wanting to fuck em.really...
So the topic is what it is. What does it take? It in reality shouldn't be as negative an experience as it is especially with the numbers here these days.
Good topic and thanks for proving the point."
I get ya..however, your profile still stands out very weak among those others..even if they are timewatsers etc..
Your claim that you have been around the scene does not appear that evident,so unsure if you just think being on the site and asking for a fuck has made you more worthy due to years being here. |
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over a year ago
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"Geesh folks. Those being positive many thanks and those who have msged me personally with support also thanks I will be messaging back to chat more if you want.
But ladies please change the tone.its really quite offensive. Single guys who are on the site for a ons and fail are so easy to spot and ignore. There are females who are exactly the same on here but I've yet to see a guy spit venom as much as you do.
Some of us have been around the scene for decades and fab is the modern way to meet but messaging most of you is hardly even enticing when you have such an angst.
Again last night 3 in my local updates who I'm sure had more choice ignored the guys and then bitched about time wasters and nobody wanting to fuck em.really...
So the topic is what it is. What does it take? It in reality shouldn't be as negative an experience as it is especially with the numbers here these days.
Good topic and thanks for proving the point."
Couple of things OP... I think most of your replies have pointed out that men AND women can have poor attitudes here but I’d ask you to re read your original post which somewhat contradicts the above one. In particular I quote the following...
1) chat with a couple/single about swinging to create some contacts.
2) Mirror Adonis and have the perfect penis or body for even a sniff at a meet request.
3) Be a single male aka dog shite in the site and get any level of acceptance that we are here for the same reason as couples and females.
The above is I think what Sinderella and others referred to as sounding somewhat “entitled”. Personally I’ve never in the 10 years I’ve been here treated a single male like “dog shite” despite some very pushy, arrogant and insistent messages. Men are outnumbered hugely here so it could be said the odds are stacked against them. However in my experience the ones who practice exactly what Sinderella suggested do exceptionally well here. Your three points sound petted and childish I’m afraid. Just my opinion of course and hope you find what you seek. Good luck on site |
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By *ubbly2012Woman
over a year ago
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Single women get bombarded with unsolicited requests... with attached dick pics on a multiple times a day basis
A lot of guys wont even have the decency to say hello...how are you...
They go straight in with the
I want to fuck you senseless..
Would you walk up to a woman in a bar and say it to her face?? If not...dont send it in a message
I'm not saying this to be cheeky... just making a point
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Geesh folks. Those being positive many thanks and those who have msged me personally with support also thanks I will be messaging back to chat more if you want.
But ladies please change the tone.its really quite offensive. Single guys who are on the site for a ons and fail are so easy to spot and ignore. There are females who are exactly the same on here but I've yet to see a guy spit venom as much as you do.
Some of us have been around the scene for decades and fab is the modern way to meet but messaging most of you is hardly even enticing when you have such an angst.
Again last night 3 in my local updates who I'm sure had more choice ignored the guys and then bitched about time wasters and nobody wanting to fuck em.really...
So the topic is what it is. What does it take? It in reality shouldn't be as negative an experience as it is especially with the numbers here these days.
Good topic and thanks for proving the point.
Couple of things OP... I think most of your replies have pointed out that men AND women can have poor attitudes here but I’d ask you to re read your original post which somewhat contradicts the above one. In particular I quote the following...
1) chat with a couple/single about swinging to create some contacts.
2) Mirror Adonis and have the perfect penis or body for even a sniff at a meet request.
3) Be a single male aka dog shite in the site and get any level of acceptance that we are here for the same reason as couples and females.
The above is I think what Sinderella and others referred to as sounding somewhat “entitled”. Personally I’ve never in the 10 years I’ve been here treated a single male like “dog shite” despite some very pushy, arrogant and insistent messages. Men are outnumbered hugely here so it could be said the odds are stacked against them. However in my experience the ones who practice exactly what Sinderella suggested do exceptionally well here. Your three points sound petted and childish I’m afraid. Just my opinion of course and hope you find what you seek. Good luck on site "
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Socials and going to clubs. That’s what I do. Scary walking into a club where you don’t know anyone? 100%
But over time you make friends and sometimes you end up playing, sometimes you don’t.
Spending all night in a club talking is fine, sometimes I’m not into anyone I meet there or vice versa.
A lot to be said for ol fashioned chatting! |
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over a year ago
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"Geesh folks. Those being positive many thanks and those who have msged me personally with support also thanks I will be messaging back to chat more if you want.
But ladies please change the tone.its really quite offensive. Single guys who are on the site for a ons and fail are so easy to spot and ignore. There are females who are exactly the same on here but I've yet to see a guy spit venom as much as you do.
Some of us have been around the scene for decades and fab is the modern way to meet but messaging most of you is hardly even enticing when you have such an angst.
Again last night 3 in my local updates who I'm sure had more choice ignored the guys and then bitched about time wasters and nobody wanting to fuck em.really...
So the topic is what it is. What does it take? It in reality shouldn't be as negative an experience as it is especially with the numbers here these days.
Good topic and thanks for proving the point.
Couple of things OP... I think most of your replies have pointed out that men AND women can have poor attitudes here but I’d ask you to re read your original post which somewhat contradicts the above one. In particular I quote the following...
1) chat with a couple/single about swinging to create some contacts.
2) Mirror Adonis and have the perfect penis or body for even a sniff at a meet request.
3) Be a single male aka dog shite in the site and get any level of acceptance that we are here for the same reason as couples and females.
The above is I think what Sinderella and others referred to as sounding somewhat “entitled”. Personally I’ve never in the 10 years I’ve been here treated a single male like “dog shite” despite some very pushy, arrogant and insistent messages. Men are outnumbered hugely here so it could be said the odds are stacked against them. However in my experience the ones who practice exactly what Sinderella suggested do exceptionally well here. Your three points sound petted and childish I’m afraid. Just my opinion of course and hope you find what you seek. Good luck on site
blah blah blah, get your tits out "
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"Geesh folks. Those being positive many thanks and those who have msged me personally with support also thanks I will be messaging back to chat more if you want.
But ladies please change the tone.its really quite offensive. Single guys who are on the site for a ons and fail are so easy to spot and ignore. There are females who are exactly the same on here but I've yet to see a guy spit venom as much as you do.
Some of us have been around the scene for decades and fab is the modern way to meet but messaging most of you is hardly even enticing when you have such an angst.
Again last night 3 in my local updates who I'm sure had more choice ignored the guys and then bitched about time wasters and nobody wanting to fuck em.really...
So the topic is what it is. What does it take? It in reality shouldn't be as negative an experience as it is especially with the numbers here these days.
Good topic and thanks for proving the point."
OP, as uncomfortable as it is for you to hear, no one is owed a shag just because they’re on a sex site. No effort equals no reward, and if you’re not willing to put in any effort then you’re wasting your time here. Sometimes we need to hear the negative so we can improve.
I for one will not fuck someone I am not attracted to. If I get a basic hello from a profile with no profile pic, no other/attractive pics and nothing written, then how am I supposed to find an attraction?
Your attitude in this response only goes to highlight that you haven’t listened to any advice you have been given. Some of it is tongue in cheek, but no one is being mean or offensive. If you’re reading it as such, ask yourself why.
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over a year ago
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They go straight in with the
I want to fuck you senseless..
Would you walk up to a woman in a bar and say it to her face?? If not...dont send it in a message
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over a year ago
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"Ok call me a complete grump but its getting to the point of madness trying to actually do the following:
1) chat with a couple/single about swinging to create some contacts.
2) Mirror Adonis and have the perfect penis or body for even a sniff at a meet request.
3) Be a single male aka dog shite in the site and get any level of acceptance that we are here for the same reason as couples and females.
Here is my pitch to all swingers out there.
Im a guy who wants to be involved in the lifestyle - meet like minded others - meet for some form of beverage and possibly some fun. Couples and females are my preference
whats so wrong in this? or are all guys excluded from swinging now cos it certainly looks and seems that way these days."
Boring.......
In simple terms.
Your profile is well below average on a 95% male driven website!!
You are probably in the bottom 30%.
In a word. Snowball hells chance of meeting anybody from Fab ever!!!!
You would have a better chance meeting someone in the local supermarket over the fish counter than of Fab!!
Put the work in. Get the rewards..
Sit on your arse throwing dummies.
Go back to the nursery until you can play with the big boys...
Mistress Amelia |
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over a year ago
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"Ok call me a complete grump but its getting to the point of madness trying to actually do the following:
1) chat with a couple/single about swinging to create some contacts.
2) Mirror Adonis and have the perfect penis or body for even a sniff at a meet request.
3) Be a single male aka dog shite in the site and get any level of acceptance that we are here for the same reason as couples and females.
Here is my pitch to all swingers out there.
Im a guy who wants to be involved in the lifestyle - meet like minded others - meet for some form of beverage and possibly some fun. Couples and females are my preference
whats so wrong in this? or are all guys excluded from swinging now cos it certainly looks and seems that way these days.
Boring.......
In simple terms.
Your profile is well below average on a 95% male driven website!!
You are probably in the bottom 30%.
In a word. Snowball hells chance of meeting anybody from Fab ever!!!!
You would have a better chance meeting someone in the local supermarket over the fish counter than of Fab!!
Put the work in. Get the rewards..
Sit on your arse throwing dummies.
Go back to the nursery until you can play with the big boys...
Mistress Amelia "
Im intrigued Miss Amelia
Could you tell me what percentage you think i am please
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By *uffin OP Man
over a year ago
Edinburgh |
Still attacking me when your missing the point.
This topic has shown how the community treats people. It was posted to clearly highlight how nasty many are also.
It's all about visual and lacks what swinging used to be about and maybe the growth on the site loses the community it's purpose when it's just a hook up site now.
The many I've met at the swing clubs over the past 4 years comment on how fab is full of nasty folks who are not proper swingers.
All I would like to see is people being much friendlier to each other. Build trust and relationships - we used to be suspicious of incomers and it was special to share your partner or even have the chance to talk to others but fab just isn't that nice swinging community any more.
I left fab 2 years ago because of this and I guess I forgot how nasty it gets, but rejoining it looked a bit better but over the past month some people honestly don't deserve the trust I know friends give.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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lol get real. If you were a girl/couple would you meet anyone with your profile? Get to a club/social and meet people. You come across as a sad wanker begging for a shag. Just saying..... |
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over a year ago
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"Still attacking me when your missing the point.
This topic has shown how the community treats people. It was posted to clearly highlight how nasty many are also.
It's all about visual and lacks what swinging used to be about and maybe the growth on the site loses the community it's purpose when it's just a hook up site now.
The many I've met at the swing clubs over the past 4 years comment on how fab is full of nasty folks who are not proper swingers.
All I would like to see is people being much friendlier to each other. Build trust and relationships - we used to be suspicious of incomers and it was special to share your partner or even have the chance to talk to others but fab just isn't that nice swinging community any more.
I left fab 2 years ago because of this and I guess I forgot how nasty it gets, but rejoining it looked a bit better but over the past month some people honestly don't deserve the trust I know friends give.
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By *uffin OP Man
over a year ago
Edinburgh |
No but at least treat others even the ones you don't want to meet with some respect, and understand swinging isn't just about hook ups it's a community and some just want to meet people to build trust which could lead to a more fantastic relationship.
It's also not just physical looks. |
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over a year ago
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"Still attacking me when your missing the point.
This topic has shown how the community treats people. It was posted to clearly highlight how nasty many are also.
It's all about visual and lacks what swinging used to be about and maybe the growth on the site loses the community it's purpose when it's just a hook up site now.
The many I've met at the swing clubs over the past 4 years comment on how fab is full of nasty folks who are not proper swingers.
All I would like to see is people being much friendlier to each other. Build trust and relationships - we used to be suspicious of incomers and it was special to share your partner or even have the chance to talk to others but fab just isn't that nice swinging community any more.
I left fab 2 years ago because of this and I guess I forgot how nasty it gets, but rejoining it looked a bit better but over the past month some people honestly don't deserve the trust I know friends give.
So are you saying that people are wrong to seek a physical attraction in their play partner's? "
Ffs sinders it's a sex site any hole or poles a goal no glass slippers needed here |
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"No but at least treat others even the ones you don't want to meet with some respect, and understand swinging isn't just about hook ups it's a community and some just want to meet people to build trust which could lead to a more fantastic relationship.
It's also not just physical looks."
I agree people should be treated with respect. However people throwing a strop because they can't get a meet or when people offer some advice isn't very respectful. |
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"Still attacking me when your missing the point.
This topic has shown how the community treats people. It was posted to clearly highlight how nasty many are also.
It's all about visual and lacks what swinging used to be about and maybe the growth on the site loses the community it's purpose when it's just a hook up site now.
The many I've met at the swing clubs over the past 4 years comment on how fab is full of nasty folks who are not proper swingers.
All I would like to see is people being much friendlier to each other. Build trust and relationships - we used to be suspicious of incomers and it was special to share your partner or even have the chance to talk to others but fab just isn't that nice swinging community any more.
I left fab 2 years ago because of this and I guess I forgot how nasty it gets, but rejoining it looked a bit better but over the past month some people honestly don't deserve the trust I know friends give.
So are you saying that people are wrong to seek a physical attraction in their play partner's?
Ffs sinders it's a sex site any hole or poles a goal no glass slippers needed here "
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OP you got lots of advice on how to make things better but it seems you want to focus on the bad comments here. It now looks like its easier to blame others or the site itself as opposed revamp your own profile and look at yourself more . Hate saying this but i think not everyone has been totally honest with you re- your profile, to spare your feelings. But hey you have made your mind up about the Fab community so i for one wont say any more on your thread. |
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"Still attacking me when your missing the point.
This topic has shown how the community treats people. It was posted to clearly highlight how nasty many are also.
It's all about visual and lacks what swinging used to be about and maybe the growth on the site loses the community it's purpose when it's just a hook up site now.
The many I've met at the swing clubs over the past 4 years comment on how fab is full of nasty folks who are not proper swingers.
All I would like to see is people being much friendlier to each other. Build trust and relationships - we used to be suspicious of incomers and it was special to share your partner or even have the chance to talk to others but fab just isn't that nice swinging community any more.
I left fab 2 years ago because of this and I guess I forgot how nasty it gets, but rejoining it looked a bit better but over the past month some people honestly don't deserve the trust I know friends give.
So are you saying that people are wrong to seek a physical attraction in their play partner's?
Ffs sinders it's a sex site any hole or poles a goal no glass slippers needed here
Whoops that's why no prince has returned my shoe!"
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"Still attacking me when your missing the point.
This topic has shown how the community treats people. It was posted to clearly highlight how nasty many are also.
It's all about visual and lacks what swinging used to be about and maybe the growth on the site loses the community it's purpose when it's just a hook up site now.
The many I've met at the swing clubs over the past 4 years comment on how fab is full of nasty folks who are not proper swingers.
All I would like to see is people being much friendlier to each other. Build trust and relationships - we used to be suspicious of incomers and it was special to share your partner or even have the chance to talk to others but fab just isn't that nice swinging community any more.
I left fab 2 years ago because of this and I guess I forgot how nasty it gets, but rejoining it looked a bit better but over the past month some people honestly don't deserve the trust I know friends give.
So are you saying that people are wrong to seek a physical attraction in their play partner's?
Ffs sinders it's a sex site any hole or poles a goal no glass slippers needed here
Whoops that's why no prince has returned my shoe!
Exactly now get on all fours and pull your knickers to the side so I can ram it in "
That's a bit inappropriate |
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"Still attacking me when your missing the point.
This topic has shown how the community treats people. It was posted to clearly highlight how nasty many are also.
It's all about visual and lacks what swinging used to be about and maybe the growth on the site loses the community it's purpose when it's just a hook up site now.
The many I've met at the swing clubs over the past 4 years comment on how fab is full of nasty folks who are not proper swingers.
All I would like to see is people being much friendlier to each other. Build trust and relationships - we used to be suspicious of incomers and it was special to share your partner or even have the chance to talk to others but fab just isn't that nice swinging community any more.
I left fab 2 years ago because of this and I guess I forgot how nasty it gets, but rejoining it looked a bit better but over the past month some people honestly don't deserve the trust I know friends give.
So are you saying that people are wrong to seek a physical attraction in their play partner's?
Ffs sinders it's a sex site any hole or poles a goal no glass slippers needed here
Whoops that's why no prince has returned my shoe!
Exactly now get on all fours and pull your knickers to the side so I can ram it in
That's a bit inappropriate "
If the person its aimed at is not offended by the comment, why would you worry about it or even find it inappropriate. ? You know and i know that he is just having a laugh ? |
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"Still attacking me when your missing the point.
This topic has shown how the community treats people. It was posted to clearly highlight how nasty many are also.
It's all about visual and lacks what swinging used to be about and maybe the growth on the site loses the community it's purpose when it's just a hook up site now.
The many I've met at the swing clubs over the past 4 years comment on how fab is full of nasty folks who are not proper swingers.
All I would like to see is people being much friendlier to each other. Build trust and relationships - we used to be suspicious of incomers and it was special to share your partner or even have the chance to talk to others but fab just isn't that nice swinging community any more.
I left fab 2 years ago because of this and I guess I forgot how nasty it gets, but rejoining it looked a bit better but over the past month some people honestly don't deserve the trust I know friends give.
So are you saying that people are wrong to seek a physical attraction in their play partner's?
Ffs sinders it's a sex site any hole or poles a goal no glass slippers needed here
Whoops that's why no prince has returned my shoe!
Exactly now get on all fours and pull your knickers to the side so I can ram it in
That's a bit inappropriate "
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"Still attacking me when your missing the point.
This topic has shown how the community treats people. It was posted to clearly highlight how nasty many are also.
It's all about visual and lacks what swinging used to be about and maybe the growth on the site loses the community it's purpose when it's just a hook up site now.
The many I've met at the swing clubs over the past 4 years comment on how fab is full of nasty folks who are not proper swingers.
All I would like to see is people being much friendlier to each other. Build trust and relationships - we used to be suspicious of incomers and it was special to share your partner or even have the chance to talk to others but fab just isn't that nice swinging community any more.
I left fab 2 years ago because of this and I guess I forgot how nasty it gets, but rejoining it looked a bit better but over the past month some people honestly don't deserve the trust I know friends give.
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The only person missing the point is you as you’re still seeing it as an attack and playing the victim. People disagreeing with you is not an attack, stop taking everything so personally. You sound like you have a massive chip on your shoulder, that will be a factor in why no one replies to your messages if you come across that way.
You’re bemoaning the fact that there are many people here who are not ‘proper swingers’, in your words. By that definition you are not a swinger, you’re a single guy on a swingers site looking for sex. You state that it’s all about the visual - of course there has to be an initial attraction, otherwise why would you waste each other’s time? I’ve had people message me that I’ve not found attractive, but I’ve enjoyed the banter so we continue friendly conversation, both parties fully aware that’s all it is. I’ve met people that I’ve initially not been sure I’m attracted to, I have never met someone I’m not attracted to on a one to one basis as it’s unfair to give them unrealistic expectations.
Yes there are people here who may not be the friendliest, whether in message or in person. That happens in all walks of life, not just on Fab. However, i suspect part of your issue about being friendly is that you send messages which go unread, ignored or deleted. In which case, I refer you to the site FAQs which clearly state that no response should be taken as a not interested, and that it is not rude not to respond. So many people don’t seem to actually read the FAQs, however. If they did I would see less moaning about not getting a reply in the updates! I’ve also been to clubs regularly over the years and have yet to hear anyone say Fab people in particular are unfriendly.
If someone has proved themselves unfriendly to you or a friend, simply block and move on. Really no need to let it affect you at all.
If you still feel so hard done by, perhaps leaving and looking for what you seek elsewhere rather than being a grump, as you put it, on the forums (read by around 0.1% of site users) would be your best option. |
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It's not about my profile but thanks for the input _e devil - it is difficult getting the profile balance right. I do laugh at Geordies profile. No pics and about 8 words and he slates my prof.
I just don't like the way people treat each other, swinging has always been more about respect and trust not just shagging and hook ups.
Sinders I wasn't looking for advice and I'm not upset at not getting a meet. But I take some of your points and I think you get the real points being raised.
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OP 1 year from now you will have changed your profile 2 or 3 times and still got nowhere. You have a view of swinging no one else has. You seem to think that fat ugly old men should be in demand. They are not. I only wish they were!! |
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"Still attacking me when your missing the point.
This topic has shown how the community treats people. It was posted to clearly highlight how nasty many are also.
It's all about visual and lacks what swinging used to be about and maybe the growth on the site loses the community it's purpose when it's just a hook up site now.
The many I've met at the swing clubs over the past 4 years comment on how fab is full of nasty folks who are not proper swingers.
All I would like to see is people being much friendlier to each other. Build trust and relationships - we used to be suspicious of incomers and it was special to share your partner or even have the chance to talk to others but fab just isn't that nice swinging community any more.
I left fab 2 years ago because of this and I guess I forgot how nasty it gets, but rejoining it looked a bit better but over the past month some people honestly don't deserve the trust I know friends give.
So are you saying that people are wrong to seek a physical attraction in their play partner's?
Ffs sinders it's a sex site any hole or poles a goal no glass slippers needed here
Whoops that's why no prince has returned my shoe!
Exactly now get on all fours and pull your knickers to the side so I can ram it in "
I think you're forgetting I like to be in charge... Buckle up Mr Todd. |
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"Still attacking me when your missing the point.
This topic has shown how the community treats people. It was posted to clearly highlight how nasty many are also.
It's all about visual and lacks what swinging used to be about and maybe the growth on the site loses the community it's purpose when it's just a hook up site now.
The many I've met at the swing clubs over the past 4 years comment on how fab is full of nasty folks who are not proper swingers.
All I would like to see is people being much friendlier to each other. Build trust and relationships - we used to be suspicious of incomers and it was special to share your partner or even have the chance to talk to others but fab just isn't that nice swinging community any more.
I left fab 2 years ago because of this and I guess I forgot how nasty it gets, but rejoining it looked a bit better but over the past month some people honestly don't deserve the trust I know friends give.
So are you saying that people are wrong to seek a physical attraction in their play partner's?
Ffs sinders it's a sex site any hole or poles a goal no glass slippers needed here
Whoops that's why no prince has returned my shoe!
Exactly now get on all fours and pull your knickers to the side so I can ram it in
That's a bit inappropriate
If the person its aimed at is not offended by the comment, why would you worry about it or even find it inappropriate. ? You know and i know that he is just having a laugh ?"
Well I don't find it funny
And since I find it inappropriate I chose to tell him |
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"Still attacking me when your missing the point.
This topic has shown how the community treats people. It was posted to clearly highlight how nasty many are also.
It's all about visual and lacks what swinging used to be about and maybe the growth on the site loses the community it's purpose when it's just a hook up site now.
The many I've met at the swing clubs over the past 4 years comment on how fab is full of nasty folks who are not proper swingers.
All I would like to see is people being much friendlier to each other. Build trust and relationships - we used to be suspicious of incomers and it was special to share your partner or even have the chance to talk to others but fab just isn't that nice swinging community any more.
I left fab 2 years ago because of this and I guess I forgot how nasty it gets, but rejoining it looked a bit better but over the past month some people honestly don't deserve the trust I know friends give.
So are you saying that people are wrong to seek a physical attraction in their play partner's?
Ffs sinders it's a sex site any hole or poles a goal no glass slippers needed here
Whoops that's why no prince has returned my shoe!
Exactly now get on all fours and pull your knickers to the side so I can ram it in
I think you're forgetting I like to be in charge... Buckle up Mr Todd. "
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"Still attacking me when your missing the point.
This topic has shown how the community treats people. It was posted to clearly highlight how nasty many are also.
It's all about visual and lacks what swinging used to be about and maybe the growth on the site loses the community it's purpose when it's just a hook up site now.
The many I've met at the swing clubs over the past 4 years comment on how fab is full of nasty folks who are not proper swingers.
All I would like to see is people being much friendlier to each other. Build trust and relationships - we used to be suspicious of incomers and it was special to share your partner or even have the chance to talk to others but fab just isn't that nice swinging community any more.
I left fab 2 years ago because of this and I guess I forgot how nasty it gets, but rejoining it looked a bit better but over the past month some people honestly don't deserve the trust I know friends give.
So are you saying that people are wrong to seek a physical attraction in their play partner's?
Ffs sinders it's a sex site any hole or poles a goal no glass slippers needed here
Whoops that's why no prince has returned my shoe!
Exactly now get on all fours and pull your knickers to the side so I can ram it in
That's a bit inappropriate
If the person its aimed at is not offended by the comment, why would you worry about it or even find it inappropriate. ? You know and i know that he is just having a laugh ?
Well I don't find it funny
And since I find it inappropriate I chose to tell him"
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"That's a good boy
Do I get a biscuit and a wee pat on the head
The pat on the head is in return for the one you gave me, my dear
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Don't take it to heart |
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"That's a good boy
Do I get a biscuit and a wee pat on the head
The pat on the head is in return for the one you gave me, my dear
Don't take it to heart "
I clearly don't have one of those |
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"That's a good boy
Do I get a biscuit and a wee pat on the head
The pat on the head is in return for the one you gave me, my dear
Don't take it to heart
I clearly don't have one of those "
So I have been told |
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"My personal advice...
Never send unsolicited dick picks or have them as your profile picture...
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Try attending a social or 2... even if to get yourself a few verifications... most people wont go near anyone that doesnt have verifications....
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Try going along to a club like cjs or after8... or the new one in dundee....
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Dont have a pity party on the forums...
If someone isnt interested...or doesnt reply to your messages...
Move on.. try again
Dont have any expectations and if anything happens it's a pleasant surprise...
Spitting dummies wont get you anywherevery very sound advice put in a very nice way
Says the one with the dick pick. For a profile.... lmfao "
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Lol funny and controversial to by the looks of things .Stop stressing OP and your day will come when meeting.Not that easy to jump into action first time and majority time ends In disaster anyway .Take your time when chatting with couples/lady and you will have fun but respect a big must hence the chatting bit first and social as you have quite rightly said .And you never know what’s round the corner . |
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