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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We all have them on here.
Well we all should or really any hole is a goal.
So why do folk get all stropey when they arnt what your looking for?
Iv a great hubby Great sex life so we are on here for an extra kink..something different that what we have with each other.
If I'm looking for a tall guy why bother getting stroppy with me because your not?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Exactly lol
I mean we all need to realise not everyone is gonna fancy us?
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I think most folk do
Some just maybe get frustrated when they feel they're not getting anywhere on here though
I can understand that |
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Ohh I second this! Both my partner and I are on here, we have an incredible sex life but it seems both men and women on here take offense at our individual preferences..my partner in particular. I don't know why people take such offense when actually, having specific preferences (outside the 'norm' or not) is a good, positive thing! It's always boggled my brain 
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By *G CoupleCouple
over a year ago
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"We all have them on here.
Well we all should or really any hole is a goal.
So why do folk get all stropey when they arnt what your looking for?
Iv a great hubby Great sex life so we are on here for an extra kink..something different that what we have with each other.
If I'm looking for a tall guy why bother getting stroppy with me because your not? "
How dare you! What the heck has preference got to do with swinging? Don't you know you're supposed to be on call to give shags on demand to any passing truck drivers at a loose end in his lorry cab, or indeed any bloke wanting it?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My preference is black men and so many white men cant handle it.
Also I prefer larger cocks but so many men with smaller cocks than what I want seem to think because they are good with their tongues I will fuck them.
I am finding I cant help but get ruder on the site to some of them as it is getting more than tiresome. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We all have them on here.
Well we all should or really any hole is a goal.
So why do folk get all stropey when they arnt what your looking for?
Iv a great hubby Great sex life so we are on here for an extra kink..something different that what we have with each other.
If I'm looking for a tall guy why bother getting stroppy with me because your not? "
Cause nobody likes rejection....just some handle it better than others. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Exactly lol
I mean we all need to realise not everyone is gonna fancy us?
I think most folk do
Some just maybe get frustrated when they feel they're not getting anywhere on here though
I can understand that "
I don't? But no clue why folk feel the need to get stroppy because someone not tall enough he can't change that fact suck it up and move on to someone that dosn't have a height preference?
If I see a profile looking for someone say athletic or into something I'm not i wouldnt then go message them then have a pop at them saying no sorry not my preference? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Exactly lol
I mean we all need to realise not everyone is gonna fancy us?
I think most folk do
Some just maybe get frustrated when they feel they're not getting anywhere on here though
I can understand that I don't? But no clue why folk feel the need to get stroppy because someone not tall enough he can't change that fact suck it up and move on to someone that dosn't have a height preference?
If I see a profile looking for someone say athletic or into something I'm not i wouldnt then go message them then have a pop at them saying no sorry not my preference?"
I think most guys will chance their arm on here.....and (I may be shot down in flames for this) I also think there is a belief among some that women of a certain age (cough...our age) should be happy with what we get offered. Unless you look like Linda Evangelista you're not allowed to be fussy. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Could be switched tho doggy i say the females on here hold all the cards and really can pick n choose and yes it's really hard for guys on here but if they would just read a profile to save their time and a no reply or a no thanks they wouldn't need to go ape shit all the time lol.
Ps..Not all guys just most lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Could be switched tho doggy i say the females on here hold all the cards and really can pick n choose and yes it's really hard for guys on here but if they would just read a profile to save their time and a no reply or a no thanks they wouldn't need to go ape shit all the time lol.
Ps..Not all guys just most lol "
I know....bit like applying for a job as a brain surgeon when you're a window cleaner.
"Whit dae ye mean I don't meet the criteria!!!? That's no fair!" |
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Yes i prefer tall men and that is stated in my profile but i met a guy at a party once who i had previously turned down due to his height. He turned out to be pretty amazing in many ways and remains a good friend of mine. If we had not bn at the same party we would never have met which would have been a big shame. |
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"Could be switched tho doggy i say the females on here hold all the cards and really can pick n choose and yes it's really hard for guys on here but if they would just read a profile to save their time and a no reply or a no thanks they wouldn't need to go ape shit all the time lol.
Ps..Not all guys just most lol "
I agree with your subject oldie and agree with some of this post too . I do get the fact that Fab is a womans world but without sounding like im single guy bashing, some guys dont take rejection well, some guys dont read profiles , some guys get stroppy after a polite no thx, some guys cant take hints, some guys just have shit chat, and some just blanket message every female within 100 miles just trying to get one glimmer of hope. That many rejections must take its toll. Been trying to think of ways to play devils advocate and give reasons for their behaviour like you state in your OP but cant really find any . Just block and move on Oldie. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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It's just why they don't read profiles before sending a message or even a wink and to be fair prob some women on here do the same as i said previously as they think any man on here will be grateful of a message. |
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By *bcums3Couple
over a year ago
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I (fem) still get asked by couples (and some single fems) if I’ll play with the partner or fb too?...even though it states in my profile not interested in men...it use to annoy me the responses back (some rude) but over time I just realise it’s prob not reading our profile or chancing it....and just block now if they are rude ?? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I (fem) still get asked by couples (and some single fems) if I’ll play with the partner or fb too?...even though it states in my profile not interested in men...it use to annoy me the responses back (some rude) but over time I just realise it’s prob not reading our profile or chancing it....and just block now if they are rude ?? "
oh of course it will never change lol But hey ho lol  |
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"Fems only hold all the cards over the desperate its seems like they do because theres a shit ton of desperate guys Is your in box full of women asking to meet you Kola. ?why would it be ?"
Well if its not, then it must mean it really is a womans world because i can guarantee most womens in boxes are full of guys looking for meets and its their choice whether or not to meet.
Im probably right in saying you have also messaged and asked someone for a meet. Now either your one of the desperate guys you spoke of , or your just an ordinary guy trying for a meet with a woman that has the ultimate choice of saying yes or no.  |
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I had a guy message recently asking for a spontaneous meet. I pointed out that my profile says I don’t do that. His response was ‘just looked at your profile, I wouldn’t read that’. So glad I went to all the effort of writing it then. The information is there for their benefit too, not just mine, so why waste each other’s time? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I had a guy message recently asking for a spontaneous meet. I pointed out that my profile says I don’t do that. His response was ‘just looked at your profile, I wouldn’t read that’. So glad I went to all the effort of writing it then. The information is there for their benefit too, not just mine, so why waste each other’s time?"
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"Fems only hold all the cards over the desperate its seems like they do because theres a shit ton of desperate guys Is your in box full of women asking to meet you Kola. ?why would it be ?
Well if its not, then it must mean it really is a womans world because i can guarantee most womens in boxes are full of guys looking for meets and its their choice whether or not to meet.
Im probably right in saying you have also messaged and asked someone for a meet. Now either your one of the desperate guys you spoke of , or your just an ordinary guy trying for a meet with a woman that has the ultimate choice of saying yes or no. "
just because inboxes are full of the deaperate pleading for a meet does not mean its a womans world.
Nope never msged anyone asking for a meet i converse with folk and there is or isnt a natural progression to a meet. As for ultimate choice of yes or no ehbhhh guys have the same choice |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Take the time to read the profile and if you don’t match what they’re looking for then move on and put them on your block list. That way you’re not wasting your time or theirs.
And if you send a message and get a “no thanks” just accept it, politely say no problem and wish them happy swinging and look elsewhere. Absolutely no excuse for rudeness. |
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By *bcums3Couple
over a year ago
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"I (fem) still get asked by couples (and some single fems) if I’ll play with the partner or fb too?...even though it states in my profile not interested in men...it use to annoy me the responses back (some rude) but over time I just realise it’s prob not reading our profile or chancing it....and just block now if they are rude ?? oh of course it will never change lol But hey ho lol "
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By (user no longer on site)
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" As for ultimate choice of yes or no ehbhhh guys have the same choice "
Sure they have same ability to say yes or no but women hold 99% of cards.
George Clooney would struggle to get his messages read. That's not a judgement -just a reflection of the volume of shite females face on here. But ultimately it doesn't matter what they look like: even if they have no pics:or even if they have a Willy - women get to pick and choose on here.
If a female here wants sex, I guarantee they would have a guy at their door in 30 mins. Or sooner!
Guys need to put the work in. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Like Doggy I'll maybe get shot down for this but here goes...
Yes most (note most) could have a meet the same day they join. Men struggle, that's not to say the "good guys" don't get meets though I guarantee they don't get as many as they want. THAT is because mother nature made men to shag as much as poss and women to be choosy cos they want a healthy baby... you can dress human erotic preference up but this is the underlying drive. Men want sex more than women (for the most part) and are less fussy where they put it (for the most part) - Disclaimer - previous statement made on the observations and experiences of fab over 10 years... feel free to disagree
NB Had a recent conversation with someone I met here but hadn't for a while... he contacted me on an inappropriate mail address and then despite me saying I didn't want to meet him but was happy to remain friends continued to ask and finally admitted he thought he could "charm me into meeting him"... I do appreciate it's not EVERY guy that's like that... but it's a lot... |
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" As for ultimate choice of yes or no ehbhhh guys have the same choice
Sure they have same ability to say yes or no but women hold 99% of cards.
George Clooney would struggle to get his messages read. That's not a judgement -just a reflection of the volume of shite females face on here. But ultimately it doesn't matter what they look like: even if they have no pics:or even if they have a Willy - women get to pick and choose on here.
If a female here wants sex, I guarantee they would have a guy at their door in 30 mins. Or sooner!
Guys need to put the work in."
nope i get to pick and chose same as anyone wlse you may chose to view it as woman have the advantage that does not mean they do
If a fem wants sex yup 30 mins easy........not with a perzon they want though thats the key and the bit folk miss |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Like Doggy I'll maybe get shot down for this but here goes...
Yes most (note most) could have a meet the same day they join. Men struggle, that's not to say the "good guys" don't get meets though I guarantee they don't get as many as they want. THAT is because mother nature made men to shag as much as poss and women to be choosy cos they want a healthy baby... you can dress human erotic preference up but this is the underlying drive. Men want sex more than women (for the most part) and are less fussy where they put it (for the most part) - Disclaimer - previous statement made on the observations and experiences of fab over 10 years... feel free to disagree
NB Had a recent conversation with someone I met here but hadn't for a while... he contacted me on an inappropriate mail address and then despite me saying I didn't want to meet him but was happy to remain friends continued to ask and finally admitted he thought he could "charm me into meeting him"... I do appreciate it's not EVERY guy that's like that... but it's a lot... "
agree with this
The amount of times iv replied no thanks and I get "but if you meet me in person or I look better In person
Nope still a no thanks |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If a fem wants sex yup 30 mins easy........not with a perzon they want though thats the key and the bit folk miss "
Again, I'd respectfully disagree.
Set up a fake female profile, add no pics or text other than a meet now flag and an update saying 'meet now for sex'. Guarantee there will be dozens of replies including some good looking guys.
If I put up a meet today flag for an hour all I'd get is tumble and an offer from a trans 'female' who's set their account as a woman in order to beat the filters.
Women hold the cards on Fab.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Like Doggy I'll maybe get shot down for this but here goes...
Yes most (note most) could have a meet the same day they join. Men struggle, that's not to say the "good guys" don't get meets though I guarantee they don't get as many as they want. THAT is because mother nature made men to shag as much as poss and women to be choosy cos they want a healthy baby... you can dress human erotic preference up but this is the underlying drive. Men want sex more than women (for the most part) and are less fussy where they put it (for the most part) - Disclaimer - previous statement made on the observations and experiences of fab over 10 years... feel free to disagree
NB Had a recent conversation with someone I met here but hadn't for a while... he contacted me on an inappropriate mail address and then despite me saying I didn't want to meet him but was happy to remain friends continued to ask and finally admitted he thought he could "charm me into meeting him"... I do appreciate it's not EVERY guy that's like that... but it's a lot... agree with this
The amount of times iv replied no thanks and I get "but if you meet me in person or I look better In person
Nope still a no thanks "
Yep - if you don't reply your rude (regardless of profile) if you reply it's taken as a desire to meet.
However there are also some who reply politely with a thanks (still I dinna know why they message cos they haven't read the profile which would save both of us time) Yes I could block single guys but other filters are on and sometimes someone wants to contact you for another reason... such as a forum post |
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"Fems only hold all the cards over the desperate its seems like they do because theres a shit ton of desperate guys Is your in box full of women asking to meet you Kola. ?why would it be ?
Well if its not, then it must mean it really is a womans world because i can guarantee most womens in boxes are full of guys looking for meets and its their choice whether or not to meet.
Im probably right in saying you have also messaged and asked someone for a meet. Now either your one of the desperate guys you spoke of , or your just an ordinary guy trying for a meet with a woman that has the ultimate choice of saying yes or no. just because inboxes are full of the deaperate pleading for a meet does not mean its a womans world.
Nope never msged anyone asking for a meet i converse with folk and there is or isnt a natural progression to a meet. As for ultimate choice of yes or no ehbhhh guys have the same choice "
This is almost laughable, almost !! For you its natural progression for other guys its desperation. ?
You made a sweeping statement say guys are desperate, but what you really mean is guys that dont go down the natural progression route are desperate.
I wonder , when your natural progression route took you to the point where you asked to meet , did the female not hold the power to say yes or no. Or was it a given she would ask you so you never sounded desperate. How many asked you to meet through natural progression i wonder. I wonder simply because i too use your natural progression route but its still ALWAYS been me that asked to meet.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I feel like paddy mcGuinness on take me out!! 
I just wish guys would see this and the penny drop to just read a profile to see if your compatible.that way you won't have to feel shit with knockback or no replies. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'm usually the one that asks to meet "
honestly I wish I had the confidence to well you would think in my age or being here since forever I would have lol But hey ho  |
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If a fem wants sex yup 30 mins easy........not with a perzon they want though thats the key and the bit folk miss
Again, I'd respectfully disagree.
Set up a fake female profile, add no pics or text other than a meet now flag and an update saying 'meet now for sex'. Guarantee there will be dozens of replies including some good looking guys.
If I put up a meet today flag for an hour all I'd get is tumble and an offer from a trans 'female' who's set their account as a woman in order to beat the filters.
Women hold the cards on Fab.
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and those msgs are from the deaperate lol |
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"Iv never asked anyone to meet and I don't block guys because I don't message them either lol
Yes people I am that lazy boot that expects all those adonises to run to me   "
I'm the same except my profile is hidden too so I am expecting miracles
Still get my fair share of meets though when I can |
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"Fems only hold all the cards over the desperate its seems like they do because theres a shit ton of desperate guys Is your in box full of women asking to meet you Kola. ?why would it be ?
Well if its not, then it must mean it really is a womans world because i can guarantee most womens in boxes are full of guys looking for meets and its their choice whether or not to meet.
Im probably right in saying you have also messaged and asked someone for a meet. Now either your one of the desperate guys you spoke of , or your just an ordinary guy trying for a meet with a woman that has the ultimate choice of saying yes or no. just because inboxes are full of the deaperate pleading for a meet does not mean its a womans world.
Nope never msged anyone asking for a meet i converse with folk and there is or isnt a natural progression to a meet. As for ultimate choice of yes or no ehbhhh guys have the same choice
This is almost laughable, almost !! For you its natural progression for other guys its desperation. ?
You made a sweeping statement say guys are desperate, but what you really mean is guys that dont go down the natural progression route are desperate.
I wonder , when your natural progression route took you to the point where you asked to meet , did the female not hold the power to say yes or no. Or was it a given she would ask you so you never sounded desperate. How many asked you to meet through natural progression i wonder. I wonder simply because i too use your natural progression route but its still ALWAYS been me that asked to meet.
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theres a massive diffrence bwtween begging first msg or few msgs and conversing for weeks and asking it someone wants to meet if a fem msged me asking to meet straigbt of the bat shes also a desperate.....as an aside nope i really dont think ive ever asked to meet anyone most are folk ive met after socials or they have asked me |
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"Like Doggy I'll maybe get shot down for this but here goes...
Yes most (note most) could have a meet the same day they join. Men struggle, that's not to say the "good guys" don't get meets though I guarantee they don't get as many as they want. THAT is because mother nature made men to shag as much as poss and women to be choosy cos they want a healthy baby... you can dress human erotic preference up but this is the underlying drive. Men want sex more than women (for the most part) and are less fussy where they put it (for the most part) - Disclaimer - previous statement made on the observations and experiences of fab over 10 years... feel free to disagree
NB Had a recent conversation with someone I met here but hadn't for a while... he contacted me on an inappropriate mail address and then despite me saying I didn't want to meet him but was happy to remain friends continued to ask and finally admitted he thought he could "charm me into meeting him"... I do appreciate it's not EVERY guy that's like that... but it's a lot... "
It’s understandable that any man would attempt to charm you into meeting them, after all you are very attractive, but the measure of a man would be in how they handle a polite no |
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"Like Doggy I'll maybe get shot down for this but here goes...
Yes most (note most) could have a meet the same day they join. Men struggle, that's not to say the "good guys" don't get meets though I guarantee they don't get as many as they want. THAT is because mother nature made men to shag as much as poss and women to be choosy cos they want a healthy baby... you can dress human erotic preference up but this is the underlying drive. Men want sex more than women (for the most part) and are less fussy where they put it (for the most part) - Disclaimer - previous statement made on the observations and experiences of fab over 10 years... feel free to disagree
NB Had a recent conversation with someone I met here but hadn't for a while... he contacted me on an inappropriate mail address and then despite me saying I didn't want to meet him but was happy to remain friends continued to ask and finally admitted he thought he could "charm me into meeting him"... I do appreciate it's not EVERY guy that's like that... but it's a lot...
It’s understandable that any man would attempt to charm you into meeting them, after all you are very attractive, but the measure of a man would be in how they handle a polite no"
Agreed and true for women too, the best connection is when both desire it to happen |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We all have them on here.
Well we all should or really any hole is a goal.
So why do folk get all stropey when they arnt what your looking for?
Iv a great hubby Great sex life so we are on here for an extra kink..something different that what we have with each other.
If I'm looking for a tall guy why bother getting stroppy with me because your not? "
Mostly over inflated self opinion of themselves that everyone should fancy them oh and it's a sex hook up site so why aren't people dieting to get the pants off the.lol |
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