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So, what does a wink mean to you?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Apologies if this has been done to death, but it's a question Nina and I ask ourselves quite often.
We get very little mail (sob sob!), but we do get winks from people, and we're often left wondering "And?...."
SO - winks - are they a "tap on the shoulder" saying "hows about it?" ? Is it the case that the "winker" just wants to see if we're interested, or are they just too lazy to send a message? And if someone can't be bothered writing a message, why should we? Or is that being a little too harsh?
Sooo many questions - answer them, damnit, answer them!!! lol
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We take them as being just a little note of interest from the other party & a way of saying "hey guys, we like your profile- check us out". If we don't respond then they'll hopefully take that as being a polite "no thanks" without us actually having to say so.
.... can't believe you two sexy people don't get much mail tho!
rushes off to wink
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By *adgeeMan
over a year ago
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I'd have to agree with you's there Mr Classy, i don't see the problem with winks. They serve a purpose on here, however i understand they can be abused.
Surely it's an opportunity to say, i have looked at your profile AND i HAVE read it. How about having a look at our/my profile. If, like you say, there's no reponse, then that can be taken as a polite "Thanks but no thanks" without having to chance offending anyone else directly.
If on the other hand both parties are happy take things a step further then i feel there would have to be some effort put into the correspondence between both parties (especially the initial sender of the wink) to prove they can hold a decent conversation and weren't being lazy by sending a wink in the first instance. Just my humble opinion |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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lol ....
I think complete waste of time.. and a lazy way of saying hi..
if a profile is attractive why not say by message, ' looked at your profile, really liked it, happy for you to have a look at ours and if you like, please get in touch, if you we aren't what you are looking for, that also cool and wishing you well' ..
again only my opinion, same as gadge's.
never proactively winked, never will lol
life's too short for all this winking and winking... just spit it oot I say ..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't mind winks, take it that whoever winks at us has hopefully looked at our profile and liked what they've seen and send this as an invite to look at theirs. If we like we'll get in touch, if not we just delete. Must say though we hardly ever wink at anyone, much prefer to chat or send a message. L |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not big on sending winks either, if i'm honest, but surely its nice to recieve a wink from a nice member (pardon the pun) every now and then.  "
 cause you a good lad gadge.... will let you off with that one... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ha - cool - was just seeing what everyone elses opinion on it was.
So, the message is that it's a kinda sorta shy, wee bitty lazy way of saying "ooooooooooooo - hellllooooooo"?
;-)
ya buncha winkers 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Never winked at anyone & rarely check whos winked at me! Pretty much a waste of time if you ask me, if someone has read my profile & likes it why don't they say hi? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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we are the same nina & d. very very little mail but tons of winks. i think its due to some people not really knowing what to say. we get lots from guys which i think are sent to suss us out a little as we dont have looking for guys on the page.
its like a wee flirt that we normally send back x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yep, I think winks are okay too. Just a way of saying Hi and is there any interest. I suppose if you get a wink back it is then up to you to reply with a message. Being a single male I do not get a lot of messages, so winks are a nice way of breaking the ice sometimes. To summarise no harm in them, Ian. |
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By *anictechCouple
over a year ago
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We agree, A wink or a mail is a hello. We have had so many winks & mails, sometimes we reply with phone number to take things further, zero resonse, it's par for the course.
Swing is a good meal best tasted and ejoyed, never rushed.
Good luck MT
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So far i have had 2 winks,much prefer 40 to tell you the truth..both winks were from bi guys and my profile says i am a straight male so i take it there winks was there way of sounding me out to see if i fancy sword fencing some time..pork sword fencing...stripped to the waist...covered in baby oil  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So far i have had 2 winks,much prefer 40 to tell you the truth..both winks were from bi guys and my profile says i am a straight male so i take it there winks was there way of sounding me out to see if i fancy sword fencing some time..pork sword fencing...stripped to the waist...covered in baby oil "
Ooooooeeerr you know you want too lol
Am gonna wink you for the fun of it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Had bout 5 in all the time i been a member, 2 have lead to sumthin real positive, the rest were either mincing around or, the best one was sent seconds before the couple departed the whole friggin site, lovely,lol
T xx |
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By *ojomanMan
over a year ago
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A wink is a wink on here or down the pub, i don't see anything wrong with them, infact they are a compliment to say mmmm yes please, just as i would wink at a woman in a bar or on the street its mearly a sign of i like what i'm seeing
Its a pitty alot of people don't see them as just that but then thats probably down to this being the kind of site it is with the kind of people on it, would there opinion of winks be different if it was in a bar or club on a Friday night? Rather than this site?
Wank away oops wink away |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Agree with most of the above...... a wink is a way of letting someone I am interested in knowing that I am here.
I know that people get fed up with messages from single guys, so when I wink its a wee, hello.
This lets the other person/couple decide if they are interested (hopefully) without being pushy or intrusive.
Here's winking at you all!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd have to agree with you's there Mr Classy, i don't see the problem with winks. They serve a purpose on here, however i understand they can be abused.
Surely it's an opportunity to say, i have looked at your profile AND i HAVE read it. How about having a look at our/my profile. If, like you say, there's no reponse, then that can be taken as a polite "Thanks but no thanks" without having to chance offending anyone else directly.
If on the other hand both parties are happy take things a step further then i feel there would have to be some effort put into the correspondence between both parties (especially the initial sender of the wink) to prove they can hold a decent conversation and weren't being lazy by sending a wink in the first instance. Just my humble opinion"
WINK WINKL WINK gadge Nice profile lol
Debbs xxxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm sorry to say I use winks to say
'Hi, I'm interested but too shy to contact you'
I don't use winks, I think they're pointless.
I think people hope that you will add them as a friend. Having said that it is always nice to recieve a wink.
God I'm confused! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just wanted to say that winks can be useful - the scenario
You spot a nice cpl has looked at your profile at least twice
You send them a wink
They reply
We then mail them saying Hi
They respond saying hi back
and from that you can either arrange a drink, a phone call or whatever you do before the fun starts.
OK you could skip to parts but it does work so why not use it
Just ma 2 bobs worth as I'm waiting for the chat room door to be left open so I can slip in xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just wanted to say that winks can be useful - the scenario
You spot a nice cpl has looked at your profile at least twice
You send them a wink
They reply
We then mail them saying Hi
They respond saying hi back
and from that you can either arrange a drink, a phone call or whatever you do before the fun starts.
OK you could skip to parts but it does work so why not use it
Just ma 2 bobs worth as I'm waiting for the chat room door to be left open so I can slip in xx"
jst checked back how many times u have looked at our profile....134...can we wink u now or skip straight to the meet lol xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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dont really send winks and havent really recieved any . but if a girl winked at me and i liked her id send a message back . kinda a good way for a girl to get a guys attention tho as yet its all just theory lol |
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