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Gangbang - women's recommendations?
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By *Carver- OP Man
over a year ago
Glasgow |
So, one of my partners (not currently on fab) has asked me to arrange a birthday gangbang for her!
I'm delighted, but as you know a good man is hard to find. If there's a respectful, trustworthy man you can vouch for, I'd love to hear about it in this thread.
Please note I do not want men volunteering themselves! These are nominations from f, mf and ff accounts only. Thank you! |
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By *Carver- OP Man
over a year ago
Glasgow |
"I don't like the concept of others recommending sexual partners, although I guess this is quite particular circumstances.
Sorry, can't help"
Fair enough! I tend to find it feels a little safer than trying your luck with a complete unknown quantity. And this particular kink is a big responsibility. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Same opinion as wellinever not really comfortable being a so called pimp lol
Plus not interested in guys that do gangbangs either lol
Maybe ask chicks to pm you rather that put names on an open forum?
Good luck tho. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Check on your friends list, see if any of your fab friends met somebody your friend might be interested in. Write to that person and/or your friend.
It's anyway hard to give recommendations if we have no idea what your friend prefers. I would not and not on the public forum anyway. |
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"So, one of my partners (not currently on fab) has asked me to arrange a birthday gangbang for her!
I'm delighted, but as you know a good man is hard to find. "
Apparently a "hard" man is good to find too.  |
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By *Carver- OP Man
over a year ago
Glasgow |
"Im horrified by the thought of people 'nominating' in this way - I thought discretion was important to most?  "
I'm not looking to start an argument, but I'm not sure how this is substantively any different from public verifications? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Im horrified by the thought of people 'nominating' in this way - I thought discretion was important to most?
I'm not looking to start an argument, but I'm not sure how this is substantively any different from public verifications?"
Was kinda thinking that myself (ducks shit storm  ) |
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By *andACouple
over a year ago
glasgow |
Gotta admit, I don't see the issue with the OP. Would obviously be best if people PM him but I don't see how recommending someone who has an ad on the site looking for meets would somehow be indiscreet or a breach of privacy in any way. |
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"Why not see if there is any gangbang nights happening in any off the clubs and take her along as you usually hear the clubs are a very safe environment  "
I'm pretty sure the after 8 club posted a similar event recently.
R  |
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By *andsCouple
over a year ago
Edin |
"Gotta admit, I don't see the issue with the OP. Would obviously be best if people PM him but I don't see how recommending someone who has an ad on the site looking for meets would somehow be indiscreet or a breach of privacy in any way."
What if the “recommended” bloke does not want it publicly displayed that he has met certain people ? What if they don’t want others to know they take part in gangbangs? Nobody’s name should be given in an open forum. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So just say I reccomend a guy...That guy turns out to be a complete knob...who's fault?
Yours of course Oldie! It effectively the swinging version of giving out a bad horse tip! "
exactly!! Lol
What I think might be a great guy others may think a complete knobhead! |
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By *andACouple
over a year ago
glasgow |
"Gotta admit, I don't see the issue with the OP. Would obviously be best if people PM him but I don't see how recommending someone who has an ad on the site looking for meets would somehow be indiscreet or a breach of privacy in any way.
What if the “recommended” bloke does not want it publicly displayed that he has met certain people ? What if they don’t want others to know they take part in gangbangs? Nobody’s name should be given in an open forum."
That's why I said it would be best if they send a PM. |
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By *Carver- OP Man
over a year ago
Glasgow |
"Gotta admit, I don't see the issue with the OP. Would obviously be best if people PM him but I don't see how recommending someone who has an ad on the site looking for meets would somehow be indiscreet or a breach of privacy in any way.
What if the “recommended” bloke does not want it publicly displayed that he has met certain people ? What if they don’t want others to know they take part in gangbangs? Nobody’s name should be given in an open forum.
That's why I said it would be best if they send a PM."
Yeah, that's a fair point. PMs very welcome  |
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By *andsCouple
over a year ago
Edin |
"Gotta admit, I don't see the issue with the OP. Would obviously be best if people PM him but I don't see how recommending someone who has an ad on the site looking for meets would somehow be indiscreet or a breach of privacy in any way.
What if the “recommended” bloke does not want it publicly displayed that he has met certain people ? What if they don’t want others to know they take part in gangbangs? Nobody’s name should be given in an open forum.
That's why I said it would be best if they send a PM.
Yeah, that's a fair point. PMs very welcome "
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By *pheliaWoman
over a year ago
Glasgow |
"I agree with you kola
Hell I wouldn't even trust my husband of 20yrs to pick my victims "
Lol, your husband obviously knows what you like!
I think each to their own, if that's what she wants then fair enough . Don't see the problem in PM recommendations |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
Paisley |
Why not take her to a greedy girl event at CJs?
Plenty of willing guys to choose from and it’s still her choice or yours of who to play with.
Organising a gb isn’t as easy as it seems and many guys drop out. At least at CJs you’d be guaranteed guys and no worrying about where to have it. |
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Dont see the problem, luv the honesty in fact in terms of stating what they want and the idea they have in going about it.
Discretion?? Hows that in question? Its no worse than the weekly, "who's all goin to cjs, who else is goin to blah de blah".
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why not take her to a greedy girl event at CJs?
Plenty of willing guys to choose from and it’s still her choice or yours of who to play with.
Organising a gb isn’t as easy as it seems and many guys drop out. At least at CJs you’d be guaranteed guys and no worrying about where to have it. "
Maybe they don't want Hobson's choice though....  |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
Paisley |
"Why not take her to a greedy girl event at CJs?
Plenty of willing guys to choose from and it’s still her choice or yours of who to play with.
Organising a gb isn’t as easy as it seems and many guys drop out. At least at CJs you’d be guaranteed guys and no worrying about where to have it.
Maybe they don't want Hobson's choice though.... "
There’s no obligation to play with anyone at CJs. I’m sure there are plenty of guys to choose from. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Dont see the problem, luv the honesty in fact in terms of stating what they want and the idea they have in going about it.
Discretion?? Hows that in question? Its no worse than the weekly, "who's all goin to cjs, who else is goin to blah de blah".
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Because the people going are offering you their own names, I’d be raging if anyone approached me and said such and such said you’re reliable and a great fuxk so would you be interested in a meet etc  |
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"Dont see the problem, luv the honesty in fact in terms of stating what they want and the idea they have in going about it.
Discretion?? Hows that in question? Its no worse than the weekly, "who's all goin to cjs, who else is goin to blah de blah".
Because the people going are offering you their own names, I’d be raging if anyone approached me and said such and such said you’re reliable and a great fuxk so would you be interested in a meet etc "
Totally different, this is a guy trying to find the best way to create a specific group meet, without the chaos of each and any guy claiming they can make it happen, which they would do,claim to, then probably realise they don’t actually know enough fellow solo males to put together anything. That’s just a familiar pattern I’m conveying, not everyone is the same, but generally is what happens.
As for the “leave it to her to do it”, that’ll be the surprise element gone then.
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By *liballyWoman
over a year ago
west dunbartonshire |
If people think their friends would be upset by that dont put them forward, or tell them the situation and that you're happy to vouch for them if they want to be put forward.
From personal experience i tried to organise one without any recommendations-nobody showed and i felt rejected and depressed.
I ended up in an unplanned group thing at cjs and ended up torn so bleeding and with a guy who needed a shower sticking his dick in my mouth.
There's not a perfect way that works for everyone every time. If someone's approach isn't for you keep scrolling |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If people think their friends would be upset by that dont put them forward, or tell them the situation and that you're happy to vouch for them if they want to be put forward.
From personal experience i tried to organise one without any recommendations-nobody showed and i felt rejected and depressed.
I ended up in an unplanned group thing at cjs and ended up torn so bleeding and with a guy who needed a shower sticking his dick in my mouth.
There's not a perfect way that works for everyone every time. If someone's approach isn't for you keep scrolling "
That sounds horrific!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If people think their friends would be upset by that dont put them forward, or tell them the situation and that you're happy to vouch for them if they want to be put forward.
From personal experience i tried to organise one without any recommendations-nobody showed and i felt rejected and depressed.
I ended up in an unplanned group thing at cjs and ended up torn so bleeding and with a guy who needed a shower sticking his dick in my mouth.
There's not a perfect way that works for everyone every time. If someone's approach isn't for you keep scrolling
That sounds horrific! "
should put that on the cj is fantastic thread |
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Because the people going are offering you their own names, I’d be raging if anyone approached me and said such and such said you’re reliable and a great fuxk so would you be interested in a meet etc "
To be honest I'd imagine most guys on here would be delighted at someone advising people they're reliable and a great fuck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I see your point in not having complete randoms, i wouldn't, but is it also a difference between the queer world and the relatively straight world? We go by word of mouth, it's not offensive.
This whole scene is highly judgemental and lacking in full depth of exploration. Each to their own.
Yup, that's a judgement.
Good luck finding the right participants. I'll happily give you my recommendation. He's an amazing, pretty much perfect, guy who funnily enough is funding it hard on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A proper & safe gangbang takes a lot of organising. Porn doesn't reveal that. I feel a lot of 'dogging' videos are like that too. Pisses me off as it feeds into the unsafe expectations and practices.
Most of my queer friends, who are deeply involved in kink & more so, are actually horrified at the whole hetero-ish swinging scene/FS. The fact that you don't really know who you're fucking, how safe they are in terms of sexual health or in terms of actual violence etc, inviting relative strangers back/meeting them etc etc
I've said it repeatedly; there is a vast difference between queer sex and the hetero-world. Sucking bare cock isn't safe sex for instance....(yes, most do - but how many get tested for oral chlamydia for instance?) The reluctance to be honest about your test results or when you were last tested is frankly insane too. Also the lack of communication in general. Straight men don't really talk about sex much in a practical, explorative and intelligent way. A lot of that has to do with socialisation and education. |
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