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is this site worthwhile for a single guy???
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been here on and off the best part of 18 months now
had afew meets here and there and not been to bad, but i do wonder, is it even worthwhile staying about??
so I ask the single woman on here who are genuine and looking for guys, what makes a profile etc stand out for you?x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There the new site fab flirts but (a) there's hardly anyone on it yet and (b) once it fills up with people, ie. 90% single guys it'll be the same story over again.
I sent face pics out to one today, took a risk. Didn't even get a reply.
They're all there demanding their face pics bla bla bla and they don't want to reciprocate the gesture. |
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its the ones who add you as a friend, thats females and couples, or they accept your request but cant reply to a simple message, does my nut in
im single, id say im attractive, iv got banter and some brains and most importantly iv got my own teeth....lol, iv saw some fair states on here who donthahah. so what are woman after on here?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Who knows what goes on inside their minds.
I had 5 friends at one time but one by one they've all dropped me, for various reasons.
2 deleted their profiles, one the day I was supposed to be meeting them, 2 didn't want to be friends because they hadn't met me and the other one, well that's another story.
So now it looks like I've got no friends. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sounds like we are in the same boat mate. Like a lot of other guys on here.
The worst thing we can do though is come on here whining about it though lol
It's very unattractive, apparently. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My guess is they after men that don't complain too much  "
Oh right would that be the ones who have profiles constantly complaining about guys for sending cock pics, not reading their profile, text speaking, one liners, requesting friends without asking first, etc etc etc... and so on bla bla bla
Kinda seems to be all the same things I read again and again, gets boring you know. 
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By *adcowWoman
over a year ago
kirkcaldy |
"its a nightmare isnt it??
its the classic, females hold all the cards
if a guy wants sex he has to work for it, a woman wants sex they need to turn up haha
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The latter part of this is not true - there have been a few times I have been able to accommodate and put up in meet today for possible meets over a whole weekend and I get endless offers- but for the following weekends!!! Or usual ones who say "yes I'll meet" but then don't show or say its too far to travel despite having my home town on my profile and even googling to find out how long it would take them to get here. we all know real life can get in the way of our fun on fab but times it gets down heartening even for us females. |
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I Have met a few lovely men from here as im sure many other women have too .
I dont know what it is you think you have done wrong but as has been said before men are ten a penny on here so what you need to do is stand out from the crowd sell yourself in a posivtive way and im sure the meets will come along take time to get to know people too many men got straight in for the kill but i hate to disapoint you guys women dont meet at the drop of a hat and like to get some chat going to see if there is a conection so if you dont like ping pong emails as some men like to call it lol then youd better get used to it because thats what most women around here want first and formost before even considering a meet .
good luck guys xxxxx |
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"My guess is they after men that don't complain too much
Oh right would that be the ones who have profiles constantly complaining about guys for sending cock pics, not reading their profile, text speaking, one liners, requesting friends without asking first, etc etc etc... and so on bla bla bla
Kinda seems to be all the same things I read again and again, gets boring you know.
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Ignore and block  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" if you dont like ping pong emails as some men like to call it lol then youd better get used to it because thats what most women around here want first and formost before even considering a meet .
good luck guys xxxxx "
I'm just finding it hard to get past ping in most instances, you know. I send pics and say something interesting, and they don't bother to reply most of the time.
And then when I get beyond the ping pong stage I get let down.
It's nowt that I am doing wrong. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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agree with miss dynamite there , right guys way i see it is yes women do have the power on the site , they can make demands and be very choosy and thats because of the numbers too many guys not enough women . Its like a party where there is 30 guys and 3 women would you walk up to them and say hi fancy a fuck oh and here is what my cock looks like ? would you go into it with any expectations ? I know it can be frustrating at times but its meant to fun , nothing is guaranteed here , try looking back at the forums and seeing what others have put , get into the chat rooms try a social , be patient and i would say grow a thick skin dont take it all so personally at the end of the day we can all draw a smiley face on our hands and help ourselves or is that just me , good luck to you .   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Clubs..
Socials..
House parties..
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Point me in the direction of that's full of horny females and looking for single guys.
I will go to one eventually.
Got invited to one a few weeks ago actually, but turned it down in favour of meeting someone who turned out not to be worth it. 
You live and learn eh. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Horny or not...They have to be attracted to you
Keep an eye on the forums and meets/events pages for something near you...."
I think I'm a good looking guy, people tell me this. I look in the mirror every day and I still got all my bits in the right place.
Would probably do better if I could get to meet them in person. Which I am working on. |
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cheers for the various posts, good wee debate on a hungover sunday didnt do anyone any harm.. lol
Ive told woman on here I want to meet socially anyway, its what id expect for a comfort thing and as i say in my profile, there needs to be a spark or connection and in my opinion that comes from chatting and getting to know someone xxs |
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This was a guild which was donr by a very well know guy on here called View have a wee read lots of good tips
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**my advice is......
chat in the room and get to know folks
say hi to all ..... and chat away and get to know folks....
dont hit on every couple or fem the sec they come in.....
dont expect sex within 20 mins.... yu might get some but unlikely...
be different..... stand out in someway
there are hundreds of single guys ..... so be different....
have pics ..... and not cock only ..... many dont like cock pics..... and a guy in pants is attractive lol .. trust me I look at em
be uber respectful to ladies..... treat them as such and not pieces of meat....
I watch everyday when lovely ladies on cam and the faceless wankers come in. and hassle them in whispers.. ask to whisper it is polite to do so....
if a lady is 'new' on the site...... dinna pounce like a pack of baying wolves.... welcome her to the site and let her settle in...... ffs, how scary can it be to have 20+ whispers for sex within a few mins of first entering. the room..
go to socials, lunches and meet folks socially....... they are ideal to get to be known ......
I personally dont write to couples/fems asking for meets .....
having been part of a couple on here, its a volume game with some guys.... they hit every new couple/fem wi same mail content, read every profile, digest information..... write message tailored around what couples/fems are looking for ( not what yu want) ....
and if they say no single guys.... ffs dont write to them .....
dont have a chip on yur shoulder as a single guy...... there are couples looking for single guys out there....
I watch one guy every day ....
he says 'hi , then yu have mail x'.....
then moves to next couple and says 'hi, then yu have mail x 'and guess what.... he moves to next couple and says 'hi..... lol .... yu have mail' x gives a desperate impression and disrectful in the extreme ....
.... expect to travel to meet folks.. many guys expect the fems/couples to travel to them... one guy asked mrs view and i to drive to largs from forfar, we had to book a hotel, and he would pop roond for an hour.... 350 miles and hotel cost for us.... and he didna even have a 14inch cock lol ...........
dinna strop if yu dont get a reply...... it goes with the territory..... some will reply others wont.... let it go....
be honest on yur profile.... if yu married, say it ...... folks meet married guys..... again honesty is best policy ....
but most of all........
be nice...
honest.......
respectful to all.......
if yu make a mistake...... apologise
have a laugh......
speak today for a possible meet next week ..... no the next 20 mins cause yu passing the end of the road lol and its yur lunchtime ......
I wish yu well.......... I am a player and I know it and am honest about it .... and this life is great ... when yu go into with your eyes open ...... |
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very helpful, thank you
and most of what you have said i would say i already fall into that category by generally doing so
the whole cock pics is a big issue i know, but i refuse to make my face pics public or even private for that matter, i send it when im happy to,
maybe thats when it goes all wrong, woman dont seem to find a guy with one eye, no teeth and a crooked nose hot..... lol xx |
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"very helpful, thank you
and most of what you have said i would say i already fall into that category by generally doing so
the whole cock pics is a big issue i know, but i refuse to make my face pics public or even private for that matter, i send it when im happy to,
maybe thats when it goes all wrong, woman dont seem to find a guy with one eye, no teeth and a crooked nose hot..... lol xx"
You could be right most women will not waste time chatting if they dont know who they are chatting to.... a face pic cuts out timewasting if there is no attraction there ..nothing worse than spending half the nite chatting then get the face pic and your not attracted to each other . |
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totally agree with you there, but so many woman on here seem to think they should see a pic then maybe they will show theres at a later time / date.
iv face pics to show, would you like to see and judge yourself? lol xx |
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"totally agree with you there, but so many woman on here seem to think they should see a pic then maybe they will show theres at a later time / date.
iv face pics to show, would you like to see and judge yourself? lol xx"
Auch seen the pix lets skip the chat when we meeting hahahahaha |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
Scotland - Aberdeen |
As a single female, yes I need the ping pong messages as I need to know someone well before I agree to meet them. And yes believe it or not there needs to be an attraction also, bizarre to some on here I know! As some think this is a sex site and us females should just say yes to any Tom, Dick or Harry.
We all do things differently and I will not deviate from the way I do mine, so if you are not happy either leave or shut it and understand things from a single female point of view, though I know that might be difficult for the guys who join and think this site is instashag.com |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Of course its worth the effort. I have plenty of great meets, if you're not, then change what you're doing, get a new line of conversation going. You will still get ignored by some and worse still, the timewasters of course, but you have to accept that you are not everyones cup of tea. PUT A BIT OF EFFORT INTO IT MAN |
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By *anictechCouple
over a year ago
Glasgow - ish ;-) |
Why not host a small party?
I've said this before in the forums. Plenty of couples cant accomodate, some single men can. Its a win win situation for both parties.
Also in the scottish forums earlier was a posting that single men arent invited to parties very much, so you could host a singles only party?
Either way, good luck XxX MT |
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I met some lovely gents when i was single on here also met some laszy and rude men on here. One of those lovely guy's i met is my now partner of 2years. Patience and you will be rewarded with lots of fun with lovely ladies/couples |
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My view is that this is a swingers site, which normally implies couples.
Yes there are single people on here, single women are the minority, single men are clearly the majority.
Just look at the meet today tab, Couples 218, Women 43, Men over 300!
To meet-up you need to get your self known and trusted, I'm fairly new here and only been to the odd social meet. Hopefully this will lead to some fun meets!
Clubs are great fun, and a good way to meet folk. Let people know your username and they can look you up?
Just relax, be yourself, and be, above all honest, the meets will soon follow! |
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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago
In a crisp poke on the A814 |
I personally can't be bothered with the "ping pong" messages...
If a guy messages me and all the preferences match I simply exchange face pics and if both ok.....arrange a meet!
Chatting over a coffee is just so much easier than trying to get to know someone by exchanging messages!
If we don't both hit it off...so what?
No harm done... |
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"I personally can't be bothered with the "ping pong" messages...
If a guy messages me and all the preferences match I simply exchange face pics and if both ok.....arrange a meet!
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This! Absolutely, after all this is supposed to be a full contact hobby, and besides I send enough emails at work |
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By *ewels74Woman
over a year ago
Dundee/Angus/Blackpool |
Great post the long one from Miss dynomite *smiles*
I am here for as my Profile says Friendships, Fun and Frolics, being that i wish to become friends with those that im getting to know via email at the same time and in case you wonder i may have been on this site a short time, but few yrs back i used to be on another site and i took a long break from everything, so yes im quite a good judge of character sometimes...to me if you are willing to talk to me for a length of time, you will get to know me....i am both shy and quiet in the beginning and if you dont like long email communication with me which will lead to phone texts as well if your lucky but no i dont dangle carrots in front of guys 24/7 to come to me i just rather hide in a corner in a way hehe.
But my thing is im very genuine, dont push me into meeting you, or i will seriously drag my heels as soon as you start asking me every day....no i dont block people ever, i see no point in that everyone is worth speaking to in my opinion, hell im not happy with my looks either so i have no confidence in that as well ie im fat and flumpy lol and i also have a major issue that embarrasses the hell out of me.
So yeah if your willing to be a friend to me and have fun with it as well then you know where i am...but beware i will bite |
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By *z ThongzWoman
over a year ago
Lanarkshire |
Lmao , i seem to see that guy saying its pish in loads of posts or am i getting him mixed up with someone else.
Being a single fem on here i get on average 25 offers of sex every day and if i was looking for sex with anyone i wouldnt have enough hours in the day , but i also wont meet just anyone , so to try and stop this happening i have on profile that i am just here to chat, if i chat with someone I like there is a possibility of meeting but until that time all guys get the same reply , no thanks. |
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