"If someone says no thanks or no reply take it there not interested and best not to message again.
If you do..That's being pushy."
Women are inundated with messages and some, if not most delete en masse without even reading. So I suppose another a few weeks later wouldn't be deemed as too pushy.
If still no reply, or it's been deleted again, then take the hint and maybe block them so that they don't show up on your search. |
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I had it with one person on the site, we were exchanging messages and she took the hump because I was online and not replying straight away even explaining I was in the chat rooms wasn't an excuse  |
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"I had it with one person on the site, we were exchanging messages and she took the hump because I was online and not replying straight away even explaining I was in the chat rooms wasn't an excuse "
If you read the message and went back to the chat room without replying, yeah you'd most likely be in the bad book  (not mine btw, I don't expect instant replies).
If someone is online and hasn't read the message yet I assume they're busy with other things / people, so no biggie x |
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"If someone says no thanks or no reply take it there not interested and best not to message again.
If you do..That's being pushy."
Thats been a bit yes and no for me over the years, had people read but not reply for a time but then got back to me later.
Think if you message with a fun idea or option/suggestion that matches up to their interests,sometimes a good response happens.Think folks get quite bored with standard "hi your profile/pics are great"messages and you just get binned for being the same as the last 100 messages they got. |
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"I had it with one person on the site, we were exchanging messages and she took the hump because I was online and not replying straight away even explaining I was in the chat rooms wasn't an excuse "
Think you dodged a bullet there be happy |
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"I had it with one person on the site, we were exchanging messages and she took the hump because I was online and not replying straight away even explaining I was in the chat rooms wasn't an excuse
Think you dodged a bullet there be happy "
Yeah I agree.
Being too pushy is showing desperation in my book, which is never attractive. Sometime you can’t always answer there and then and you really shouldn’t have to for it. |
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there is no fine line, pushy is pushy.
For example pushy is messaging someone every time “passing through” despite fact you’ve been told that A: the person doesn’t do last min meets and B: the person doesn’t meet people “just passing through”
What world do people live in that a female is going to drop everything at 11pm on a saturday night and meet someone who randomly messages, who has very little on profile, no pics and no veri’s???
Sorry but I value my life far to much and hope to not end up in a ditch  and then when pointing that out they still don’t get it and still message!!!
Sorry for rant but feel much better |
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"I had it with one person on the site, we were exchanging messages and she took the hump because I was online and not replying straight away even explaining I was in the chat rooms wasn't an excuse
Think you dodged a bullet there be happy
Yeah I agree.
Being too pushy is showing desperation in my book, which is never attractive. Sometime you can’t always answer there and then and you really shouldn’t have to for it. "
Oops missed out ‘apologise’  |
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"I had it with one person on the site, we were exchanging messages and she took the hump because I was online and not replying straight away even explaining I was in the chat rooms wasn't an excuse
Think you dodged a bullet there be happy "
Oh the irony!  |
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"I had it with one person on the site, we were exchanging messages and she took the hump because I was online and not replying straight away even explaining I was in the chat rooms wasn't an excuse
Think you dodged a bullet there be happy
Oh the irony! "
Is that directed at me or little missknowitall ? |
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Sometimes I might read a message but get interrupted before replying it doesn’t mean I am ignoring it but usually go back and reply when I have time.
I think if someone has ignored your message, deleted without reading or said no thanks then you shouldn’t message again. Apart from it looking like you are hounding someone it is about having self respect |
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"I had it with one person on the site, we were exchanging messages and she took the hump because I was online and not replying straight away even explaining I was in the chat rooms wasn't an excuse
Think you dodged a bullet there be happy
Oh the irony!
Is that directed at me or little missknowitall ?"
Not you!  |
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