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By *stonDBS2 OP Man
over a year ago
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The little “social meet first” kind.
What are the priorities during one?
How they look first?
If they are as claimed, fun,easy to chat to?
What will have you opting for, “anyway nice meeting you”? Too quiet, next to no chat?
Have you ever had a blast socially but just did not fancy in any way? |
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over a year ago
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I always insist on having a social 1st.
Needs to be an attraction and a personality.
No pressure unless they ask you right there if you want you want to meet again lol. |
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"I always insist on having a social 1st.
Needs to be an attraction and a personality.
No pressure unless they ask you right there if you want you want to meet again lol."
Ask right there? And face the potential disappointment of a NO, never, retreat to the car and then ask lol  |
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Always like a social first let’s you see if there is conversation to be had and that little something you can’t get from messaging.
Been on socials and had a laugh but wouldn’t take it further but if your all adult about it that shouldn’t be a problem.
Also been in situ where I’ve had a laugh with someone online and in real life they’ve been as dull as dishwater 
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"I always insist on having a social 1st.
Needs to be an attraction and a personality.
No pressure unless they ask you right there if you want you want to meet again lol.
Ask right there? And face the potential disappointment of a NO, never, retreat to the car and then ask lol "
Lol I always say yes anyway to avoid that situation then later on say Sorry no thanks.
I'm a woos that way  |
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"I always insist on having a social 1st.
Needs to be an attraction and a personality.
No pressure unless they ask you right there if you want you want to meet again lol.
Ask right there? And face the potential disappointment of a NO, never, retreat to the car and then ask lol Lol I always say yes anyway to avoid that situation then later on say Sorry no thanks.
I'm a woos that way "
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"Always like a social first let’s you see if there is conversation to be had and that little something you can’t get from messaging.
Been on socials and had a laugh but wouldn’t take it further but if your all adult about it that shouldn’t be a problem.
Also been in situ where I’ve had a laugh with someone online and in real life they’ve been as dull as dishwater
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Yeah I agree I’ve had socials where one or other days not for me thanks and ones where you think that your not meeting the person you’ve been messaging lol .. I prefer honesty it works for me |
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"I always insist on having a social 1st.
Needs to be an attraction and a personality.
No pressure unless they ask you right there if you want you want to meet again lol.
Ask right there? And face the potential disappointment of a NO, never, retreat to the car and then ask lol Lol I always say yes anyway to avoid that situation then later on say Sorry no thanks.
I'm a woos that way "
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Socials allow for an appraisal of both to see if it will progress further.
Can also just be exactly that, a social meet and a chat over tea and a scone. Did have one fabber I met several times, circumstances around accommodation meant it couldn't go further but still very nice just to meet. |
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"The little “social meet first” kind.
What are the priorities during one?
How they look first?
If they are as claimed, fun,easy to chat to?
What will have you opting for, “anyway nice meeting you”? Too quiet, next to no chat?
Have you ever had a blast socially but just did not fancy in any way?"
Always a social first for me .
Yes ive met some and had a blast but didnt fancy them in the slightest  |
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over a year ago
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Huge fan of socials as it let's you see if there is a click and a connection
There is only so much you can gleen from messages and texts but a face to face chat, A cuppa can't be beat
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A social is a must to see if there is any sexual chemistry it also adds to the antcipation. Honesty straight away even if you dont fancy each other you can still be friends or help each other network |
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So seeing all this, how do you turn a person down gently that you don't fancy, after a social?
Via message? Face to face?
I personally prefer doing it face to face. With an apology up front.
Or is there an etiquette to it? |
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"So seeing all this, how do you turn a person down gently that you don't fancy, after a social?
Via message? Face to face?
I personally prefer doing it face to face. With an apology up front.
Or is there an etiquette to it? "
Never happened so can't say! |
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I've always like the idea of arranging little coffee meets. Think it's the smarter and safer way to go about things for all involved and is a nice thing in itself. |
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"So seeing all this, how do you turn a person down gently that you don't fancy, after a social?
Via message? Face to face?
I personally prefer doing it face to face. With an apology up front.
Or is there an etiquette to it? "
No idea of the etiquette but if I'm not interested then I'll send a message saying so but thanking them for meeting me. Having been on the receiving end of being ghosted and hating it, I think it's only polite that you let people know where they stand. |
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By *stonDBS2 OP Man
over a year ago
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"I use them to see if I can get on with the person and feel comfortable around them "
Yes, i get that, had both scenarios where i have been incredibly surprised by how chilled people you kind of thought might not be chilled out were actually very good company, but i think we guys are often guilty of over thinking and hyping who you hope will be great to meet, whether it be socially or instant fun wise, i think the forums kind of help in that respect. |
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