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over a year ago
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Do you think use of social media and sites such as Fab (and even POF or others) has led to folk being less inclined to approach strangers in pubs and clubs if they fancy them?
Talking to younger work colleagues who are on loads of different sites, this appears to be the case. Also spoke to single friends my age and some of them think the same. Is chatting and flirting in person a dying art form?
Or am I just a dried up, haggard auld boot?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you think use of social media and sites such as Fab (and even POF or others) has led to folk being less inclined to approach strangers in pubs and clubs if they fancy them?
Talking to younger work colleagues who are on loads of different sites, this appears to be the case. Also spoke to single friends my age and some of them think the same. Is chatting and flirting in person a dying art form?
Or am I just a dried up, haggard auld boot? "
Nope I agree. Getting a taxi to the airport one Friday evening was chatting to the taxi man. His shift was just starting and I suggested he'd have a busy one being Friday and everyone heading out on the pull etc.
He said social media and dating apps have had a massive effect on their weekend business as shags and meets are now pre arranged online so less people head out in hope and are likely to have a few drinks along the way at the weekend.
Dating apps would have made it easy as a teenager or 20 something. But some of the best memories and stories I have are with my mates on our nights out on the pull. Banter had to be on point to make an impression with a total stranger. It was also better as you got to assess the girl and her banter face to face, no time wasting if she was a total bore who could hide behind a keyboard!
Those were the days!  |
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Yep i go on a night out n get approached by literally no one! But i feel i cant go up to guys either as i dont know if they are single or if they say they are but lying...im too paranoid that way lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Do you think use of social media and sites such as Fab (and even POF or others) has led to folk being less inclined to approach strangers in pubs and clubs if they fancy them?
Talking to younger work colleagues who are on loads of different sites, this appears to be the case. Also spoke to single friends my age and some of them think the same. Is chatting and flirting in person a dying art form?
Or am I just a dried up, haggard auld boot?
Nope I agree. Getting a taxi to the airport one Friday evening was chatting to the taxi man. His shift was just starting and I suggested he'd have a busy one being Friday and everyone heading out on the pull etc.
He said social media and dating apps have had a massive effect on their weekend business as shags and meets are now pre arranged online so less people head out in hope and are likely to have a few drinks along the way at the weekend.
Dating apps would have made it easy as a teenager or 20 something. But some of the best memories and stories I have are with my mates on our nights out on the pull. Banter had to be on point to make an impression with a total stranger. It was also better as you got to assess the girl and her banter face to face, no time wasting if she was a total bore who could hide behind a keyboard!
Those were the days! "
I actually really miss this on a night out. Even if you're not looking for a pump you can still have a laugh.
Pretty pish now! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Yep i go on a night out n get approached by literally no one! But i feel i cant go up to guys either as i dont know if they are single or if they say they are but lying...im too paranoid that way lol"
Thank fuck it's not just me then!!!! If you're not getting approached I could save myself a fucking fortune and just go out in my Bridget knickers and a vest |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you think use of social media and sites such as Fab (and even POF or others) has led to folk being less inclined to approach strangers in pubs and clubs if they fancy them?
Talking to younger work colleagues who are on loads of different sites, this appears to be the case. Also spoke to single friends my age and some of them think the same. Is chatting and flirting in person a dying art form?
Or am I just a dried up, haggard auld boot?
Nope I agree. Getting a taxi to the airport one Friday evening was chatting to the taxi man. His shift was just starting and I suggested he'd have a busy one being Friday and everyone heading out on the pull etc.
He said social media and dating apps have had a massive effect on their weekend business as shags and meets are now pre arranged online so less people head out in hope and are likely to have a few drinks along the way at the weekend.
Dating apps would have made it easy as a teenager or 20 something. But some of the best memories and stories I have are with my mates on our nights out on the pull. Banter had to be on point to make an impression with a total stranger. It was also better as you got to assess the girl and her banter face to face, no time wasting if she was a total bore who could hide behind a keyboard!
Those were the days!
I actually really miss this on a night out. Even if you're not looking for a pump you can still have a laugh.
Pretty pish now!"
Back home it's still like that. I think over here people are paranoid and the threat of violence has a lot to do with it. Who wants to be stabbed for innocently having some banter with some girl who you didn't know was attached and had a pea brain emontionally retarded paranoid boyfriend. I think it's why the scots all enjoy a night out in Belfast. Because that still goes on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yep i go on a night out n get approached by literally no one! But i feel i cant go up to guys either as i dont know if they are single or if they say they are but lying...im too paranoid that way lol"
But sure that was always the chance you would have taken. I think it's a shame. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yep i go on a night out n get approached by literally no one! But i feel i cant go up to guys either as i dont know if they are single or if they say they are but lying...im too paranoid that way lol
Thank fuck it's not just me then!!!! If you're not getting approached I could save myself a fucking fortune and just go out in my Bridget knickers and a vest "
As you've said, even if you're attached and not looking to pull, let's face it, who doesn't like some flirty banter on a night out!
But the art is in the banter and not crossing the line! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yep i go on a night out n get approached by literally no one! But i feel i cant go up to guys either as i dont know if they are single or if they say they are but lying...im too paranoid that way lol
Thank fuck it's not just me then!!!! If you're not getting approached I could save myself a fucking fortune and just go out in my Bridget knickers and a vest "
I only own bridget jones knickers....if she can pull hugh n colin im in wi a chance lol |
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Cant get what your lookin for in the shop?
Go online, find it get it.
Bored with the tv,fire up yer media bundle, get what you want to see.
Cant get a meet on fabs? Click on POF, or kik, or watsupp etc.
No likes on fbook, find something new, post it up, gotta get a like.
All very easy, but actually goin out?
Im sure some are battling withdrawl symptoms as soon as they step out the door. |
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By *uietbloke67Man
over a year ago
outside your bedroom window ;-) |
"Yep i go on a night out n get approached by literally no one! But i feel i cant go up to guys either as i dont know if they are single or if they say they are but lying...im too paranoid that way lol
Thank fuck it's not just me then!!!! If you're not getting approached I could save myself a fucking fortune and just go out in my Bridget knickers and a vest
As you've said, even if you're attached and not looking to pull, let's face it, who doesn't like some flirty banter on a night out!
But the art is in the banter and not crossing the line! "
I agree nothing better than a wee flirt when out. Keeps everyone's ego nice and polished |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Do you think use of social media and sites such as Fab (and even POF or others) has led to folk being less inclined to approach strangers in pubs and clubs if they fancy them?
Talking to younger work colleagues who are on loads of different sites, this appears to be the case. Also spoke to single friends my age and some of them think the same. Is chatting and flirting in person a dying art form?
Or am I just a dried up, haggard auld boot?
Nope I agree. Getting a taxi to the airport one Friday evening was chatting to the taxi man. His shift was just starting and I suggested he'd have a busy one being Friday and everyone heading out on the pull etc.
He said social media and dating apps have had a massive effect on their weekend business as shags and meets are now pre arranged online so less people head out in hope and are likely to have a few drinks along the way at the weekend.
Dating apps would have made it easy as a teenager or 20 something. But some of the best memories and stories I have are with my mates on our nights out on the pull. Banter had to be on point to make an impression with a total stranger. It was also better as you got to assess the girl and her banter face to face, no time wasting if she was a total bore who could hide behind a keyboard!
Those were the days!
I actually really miss this on a night out. Even if you're not looking for a pump you can still have a laugh.
Pretty pish now!
Back home it's still like that. I think over here people are paranoid and the threat of violence has a lot to do with it. Who wants to be stabbed for innocently having some banter with some girl who you didn't know was attached and had a pea brain emontionally retarded paranoid boyfriend. I think it's why the scots all enjoy a night out in Belfast. Because that still goes on. "
Right, I'm organising a night out in Belfast |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you think use of social media and sites such as Fab (and even POF or others) has led to folk being less inclined to approach strangers in pubs and clubs if they fancy them?
Talking to younger work colleagues who are on loads of different sites, this appears to be the case. Also spoke to single friends my age and some of them think the same. Is chatting and flirting in person a dying art form?
Or am I just a dried up, haggard auld boot?
Nope I agree. Getting a taxi to the airport one Friday evening was chatting to the taxi man. His shift was just starting and I suggested he'd have a busy one being Friday and everyone heading out on the pull etc.
He said social media and dating apps have had a massive effect on their weekend business as shags and meets are now pre arranged online so less people head out in hope and are likely to have a few drinks along the way at the weekend.
Dating apps would have made it easy as a teenager or 20 something. But some of the best memories and stories I have are with my mates on our nights out on the pull. Banter had to be on point to make an impression with a total stranger. It was also better as you got to assess the girl and her banter face to face, no time wasting if she was a total bore who could hide behind a keyboard!
Those were the days!
I actually really miss this on a night out. Even if you're not looking for a pump you can still have a laugh.
Pretty pish now!
Back home it's still like that. I think over here people are paranoid and the threat of violence has a lot to do with it. Who wants to be stabbed for innocently having some banter with some girl who you didn't know was attached and had a pea brain emontionally retarded paranoid boyfriend. I think it's why the scots all enjoy a night out in Belfast. Because that still goes on.
Right, I'm organising a night out in Belfast "
Let me know when, I'm staying in Glasgow that weekend! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yep i go on a night out n get approached by literally no one! But i feel i cant go up to guys either as i dont know if they are single or if they say they are but lying...im too paranoid that way lol
Thank fuck it's not just me then!!!! If you're not getting approached I could save myself a fucking fortune and just go out in my Bridget knickers and a vest
I only own bridget jones knickers....if she can pull hugh n colin im in wi a chance lol "
Room for a wee one to squeeze in? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Do you think use of social media and sites such as Fab (and even POF or others) has led to folk being less inclined to approach strangers in pubs and clubs if they fancy them?
Talking to younger work colleagues who are on loads of different sites, this appears to be the case. Also spoke to single friends my age and some of them think the same. Is chatting and flirting in person a dying art form?
Or am I just a dried up, haggard auld boot?
Nope I agree. Getting a taxi to the airport one Friday evening was chatting to the taxi man. His shift was just starting and I suggested he'd have a busy one being Friday and everyone heading out on the pull etc.
He said social media and dating apps have had a massive effect on their weekend business as shags and meets are now pre arranged online so less people head out in hope and are likely to have a few drinks along the way at the weekend.
Dating apps would have made it easy as a teenager or 20 something. But some of the best memories and stories I have are with my mates on our nights out on the pull. Banter had to be on point to make an impression with a total stranger. It was also better as you got to assess the girl and her banter face to face, no time wasting if she was a total bore who could hide behind a keyboard!
Those were the days!
I actually really miss this on a night out. Even if you're not looking for a pump you can still have a laugh.
Pretty pish now!
Back home it's still like that. I think over here people are paranoid and the threat of violence has a lot to do with it. Who wants to be stabbed for innocently having some banter with some girl who you didn't know was attached and had a pea brain emontionally retarded paranoid boyfriend. I think it's why the scots all enjoy a night out in Belfast. Because that still goes on.
Right, I'm organising a night out in Belfast
Let me know when, I'm staying in Glasgow that weekend! "
Who the fuck said you were invited anyway? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you think use of social media and sites such as Fab (and even POF or others) has led to folk being less inclined to approach strangers in pubs and clubs if they fancy them?
Talking to younger work colleagues who are on loads of different sites, this appears to be the case. Also spoke to single friends my age and some of them think the same. Is chatting and flirting in person a dying art form?
Or am I just a dried up, haggard auld boot?
Nope I agree. Getting a taxi to the airport one Friday evening was chatting to the taxi man. His shift was just starting and I suggested he'd have a busy one being Friday and everyone heading out on the pull etc.
He said social media and dating apps have had a massive effect on their weekend business as shags and meets are now pre arranged online so less people head out in hope and are likely to have a few drinks along the way at the weekend.
Dating apps would have made it easy as a teenager or 20 something. But some of the best memories and stories I have are with my mates on our nights out on the pull. Banter had to be on point to make an impression with a total stranger. It was also better as you got to assess the girl and her banter face to face, no time wasting if she was a total bore who could hide behind a keyboard!
Those were the days!
I actually really miss this on a night out. Even if you're not looking for a pump you can still have a laugh.
Pretty pish now!
Back home it's still like that. I think over here people are paranoid and the threat of violence has a lot to do with it. Who wants to be stabbed for innocently having some banter with some girl who you didn't know was attached and had a pea brain emontionally retarded paranoid boyfriend. I think it's why the scots all enjoy a night out in Belfast. Because that still goes on.
Right, I'm organising a night out in Belfast
Let me know when, I'm staying in Glasgow that weekend!
Who the fuck said you were invited anyway? "
I don't want to take any chances! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yep i go on a night out n get approached by literally no one! But i feel i cant go up to guys either as i dont know if they are single or if they say they are but lying...im too paranoid that way lol
Thank fuck it's not just me then!!!! If you're not getting approached I could save myself a fucking fortune and just go out in my Bridget knickers and a vest
As you've said, even if you're attached and not looking to pull, let's face it, who doesn't like some flirty banter on a night out!
But the art is in the banter and not crossing the line!
I agree nothing better than a wee flirt when out. Keeps everyone's ego nice and polished "
oi you..you never ever stroke my ego !! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yep i go on a night out n get approached by literally no one! But i feel i cant go up to guys either as i dont know if they are single or if they say they are but lying...im too paranoid that way lol
Thank fuck it's not just me then!!!! If you're not getting approached I could save myself a fucking fortune and just go out in my Bridget knickers and a vest
As you've said, even if you're attached and not looking to pull, let's face it, who doesn't like some flirty banter on a night out!
But the art is in the banter and not crossing the line!
I agree nothing better than a wee flirt when out. Keeps everyone's ego nice and polished oi you..you never ever stroke my ego !! "
He's wanting you to polish something of his I think |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yep i go on a night out n get approached by literally no one! But i feel i cant go up to guys either as i dont know if they are single or if they say they are but lying...im too paranoid that way lol
Thank fuck it's not just me then!!!! If you're not getting approached I could save myself a fucking fortune and just go out in my Bridget knickers and a vest
As you've said, even if you're attached and not looking to pull, let's face it, who doesn't like some flirty banter on a night out!
But the art is in the banter and not crossing the line!
I agree nothing better than a wee flirt when out. Keeps everyone's ego nice and polished oi you..you never ever stroke my ego !!
He's wanting you to polish something of his I think "
wax on...wax off |
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By *andsCouple
over a year ago
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I used to love the banter on a night out but it’s very few and far between now, I think folk are too scared to approach you Incase they are done for sexual harassment! Bring back the good old days |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I used to love the banter on a night out but it’s very few and far between now, I think folk are too scared to approach you Incase they are done for sexual harassment! Bring back the good old days "
Sexual harassment? Wtf sort of flirting and banter are we talking here?  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I used to love the banter on a night out but it’s very few and far between now, I think folk are too scared to approach you Incase they are done for sexual harassment! Bring back the good old days "
Yaaas! So I may not just be an unattractive auld boot now after all . It's social media's fault. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Being a more mature person I totally agree that the good old art of flirting and chat up is slowly dying out, there is nothing better that having a good old conversation with someone with some flirting thrown in for good measure on both sides |
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"I used to love the banter on a night out but it’s very few and far between now, I think folk are too scared to approach you Incase they are done for sexual harassment! Bring back the good old days
Yaaas! So I may not just be an unattractive auld boot now after all . It's social media's fault."
social media is changing so many things,,,we used to do,just swipe right they say,  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I used to love the banter on a night out but it’s very few and far between now, I think folk are too scared to approach you Incase they are done for sexual harassment! Bring back the good old days
Sexual harassment? Wtf sort of flirting and banter are we talking here? "
You'd spill your pint at the bar cause she'd be humping your leg like a demented dug with 2 dicks.....and that's just "hello!" |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I used to love the banter on a night out but it’s very few and far between now, I think folk are too scared to approach you Incase they are done for sexual harassment! Bring back the good old days
Sexual harassment? Wtf sort of flirting and banter are we talking here?
You'd spill your pint at the bar cause she'd be humping your leg like a demented dug with 2 dicks.....and that's just "hello!""
Yeah that's not on at all! I don't like spilling drink. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Why waste your time chatting to someone in a bar and finding out you have nothing in common. When you could use apps and sites, find someone with similar interests and more of a chance of it developing into something as opposed to playing find the needle in a haystack on a night out |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
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"Yep i go on a night out n get approached by literally no one! But i feel i cant go up to guys either as i dont know if they are single or if they say they are but lying...im too paranoid that way lol"
I’ve never been chatted up in a bar  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why waste your time chatting to someone in a bar and finding out you have nothing in common. When you could use apps and sites, find someone with similar interests and more of a chance of it developing into something as opposed to playing find the needle in a haystack on a night out"
I get that, and that all makes sense in theory if you are looking for a relationship. I certainly didn't go out as a teenager and 20 something on a night out set on meeting my life partner!
Maybe I'm actually getting soft in my old age or I'm looking back through rose tinted glasses, but have you never caught the eye of a complete stranger in a bar and thought fucking hell I want that? That's when spontaneous real flirting and banter comes into play, not some rehearsed online message with time to think up a reply! First impressions and all that. |
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"Why waste your time chatting to someone in a bar and finding out you have nothing in common. When you could use apps and sites, find someone with similar interests and more of a chance of it developing into something as opposed to playing find the needle in a haystack on a night out
I get that, and that all makes sense in theory if you are looking for a relationship. I certainly didn't go out as a teenager and 20 something on a night out set on meeting my life partner!
Maybe I'm actually getting soft in my old age or I'm looking back through rose tinted glasses, but have you never caught the eye of a complete stranger in a bar and thought fucking hell I want that? That's when spontaneous real flirting and banter comes into play, not some rehearsed online message with time to think up a reply! First impressions and all that. "
Yeah done that across a bar and ended up in a relationship for 6 years that was pish.
Haven't you swiped through tinder or searched fab and went fuck I want some of that. Then mailed find out you get along, meet for drinks and well the rest is history after that.
Dating and sex has changed and the good old days some on here are reminiscing about are over.
Also the cost of going out on the pull each weekend is bloody extortionate haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Then id need to know if I'd need to wear my good undies just incase 
Matching at the very least 
None, let the fanjo air "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why waste your time chatting to someone in a bar and finding out you have nothing in common. When you could use apps and sites, find someone with similar interests and more of a chance of it developing into something as opposed to playing find the needle in a haystack on a night out
I get that, and that all makes sense in theory if you are looking for a relationship. I certainly didn't go out as a teenager and 20 something on a night out set on meeting my life partner!
Maybe I'm actually getting soft in my old age or I'm looking back through rose tinted glasses, but have you never caught the eye of a complete stranger in a bar and thought fucking hell I want that? That's when spontaneous real flirting and banter comes into play, not some rehearsed online message with time to think up a reply! First impressions and all that.
Yeah done that across a bar and ended up in a relationship for 6 years that was pish.
Haven't you swiped through tinder or searched fab and went fuck I want some of that. Then mailed find out you get along, meet for drinks and well the rest is history after that.
Dating and sex has changed and the good old days some on here are reminiscing about are over.
Also the cost of going out on the pull each weekend is bloody extortionate haha"
Well the 6 year thing was your fault, don't blame the looking across the bar bit that it took you so long to catch on! 
It has changed, I agree, and it's cheaper if you need Dutch courage to flirt. I find I'm attracted to spontaneously cheeky flirty (spell check tried to change that to filthy) types and you can't replicate that on an app, it's on the spot first impressions for me.
Nope never been on tinder and never thought that on fab. It's def not the same in my book.
But I think the point here was being made that people have perhaps lost the bottle or art of flirting and having harmless banter on a night out as a consequence of how the dating scene has changed. Basically doggy got all dressed up and no one flirted and she wanted to check it wasn't just because she went only only wearing a belt. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Why waste your time chatting to someone in a bar and finding out you have nothing in common. When you could use apps and sites, find someone with similar interests and more of a chance of it developing into something as opposed to playing find the needle in a haystack on a night out
I get that, and that all makes sense in theory if you are looking for a relationship. I certainly didn't go out as a teenager and 20 something on a night out set on meeting my life partner!
Maybe I'm actually getting soft in my old age or I'm looking back through rose tinted glasses, but have you never caught the eye of a complete stranger in a bar and thought fucking hell I want that? That's when spontaneous real flirting and banter comes into play, not some rehearsed online message with time to think up a reply! First impressions and all that.
Yeah done that across a bar and ended up in a relationship for 6 years that was pish.
Haven't you swiped through tinder or searched fab and went fuck I want some of that. Then mailed find out you get along, meet for drinks and well the rest is history after that.
Dating and sex has changed and the good old days some on here are reminiscing about are over.
Also the cost of going out on the pull each weekend is bloody extortionate haha"
Aye but in a bar you're seeing a real live person interacting with others. No fucking filters or big fucking floppy ears to see past either. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Then id need to know if I'd need to wear my good undies just incase
Matching at the very least
None, let the fanjo air oi you...stop dragging me down to your level!!! I'm a classy bird "
.....just follow the snail trail and the men will find you... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Why waste your time chatting to someone in a bar and finding out you have nothing in common. When you could use apps and sites, find someone with similar interests and more of a chance of it developing into something as opposed to playing find the needle in a haystack on a night out
I get that, and that all makes sense in theory if you are looking for a relationship. I certainly didn't go out as a teenager and 20 something on a night out set on meeting my life partner!
Maybe I'm actually getting soft in my old age or I'm looking back through rose tinted glasses, but have you never caught the eye of a complete stranger in a bar and thought fucking hell I want that? That's when spontaneous real flirting and banter comes into play, not some rehearsed online message with time to think up a reply! First impressions and all that.
Yeah done that across a bar and ended up in a relationship for 6 years that was pish.
Haven't you swiped through tinder or searched fab and went fuck I want some of that. Then mailed find out you get along, meet for drinks and well the rest is history after that.
Dating and sex has changed and the good old days some on here are reminiscing about are over.
Also the cost of going out on the pull each weekend is bloody extortionate haha
Well the 6 year thing was your fault, don't blame the looking across the bar bit that it took you so long to catch on!
It has changed, I agree, and it's cheaper if you need Dutch courage to flirt. I find I'm attracted to spontaneously cheeky flirty (spell check tried to change that to filthy) types and you can't replicate that on an app, it's on the spot first impressions for me.
Nope never been on tinder and never thought that on fab. It's def not the same in my book.
But I think the point here was being made that people have perhaps lost the bottle or art of flirting and having harmless banter on a night out as a consequence of how the dating scene has changed. Basically doggy got all dressed up and no one flirted and she wanted to check it wasn't just because she went only only wearing a belt. "
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By *andsCouple
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"Why waste your time chatting to someone in a bar and finding out you have nothing in common. When you could use apps and sites, find someone with similar interests and more of a chance of it developing into something as opposed to playing find the needle in a haystack on a night out
I get that, and that all makes sense in theory if you are looking for a relationship. I certainly didn't go out as a teenager and 20 something on a night out set on meeting my life partner!
Maybe I'm actually getting soft in my old age or I'm looking back through rose tinted glasses, but have you never caught the eye of a complete stranger in a bar and thought fucking hell I want that? That's when spontaneous real flirting and banter comes into play, not some rehearsed online message with time to think up a reply! First impressions and all that.
Yeah done that across a bar and ended up in a relationship for 6 years that was pish.
Haven't you swiped through tinder or searched fab and went fuck I want some of that. Then mailed find out you get along, meet for drinks and well the rest is history after that.
Dating and sex has changed and the good old days some on here are reminiscing about are over.
Also the cost of going out on the pull each weekend is bloody extortionate haha
Well the 6 year thing was your fault, don't blame the looking across the bar bit that it took you so long to catch on!
It has changed, I agree, and it's cheaper if you need Dutch courage to flirt. I find I'm attracted to spontaneously cheeky flirty (spell check tried to change that to filthy) types and you can't replicate that on an app, it's on the spot first impressions for me.
Nope never been on tinder and never thought that on fab. It's def not the same in my book.
But I think the point here was being made that people have perhaps lost the bottle or art of flirting and having harmless banter on a night out as a consequence of how the dating scene has changed. Basically doggy got all dressed up and no one flirted and she wanted to check it wasn't just because she went only only wearing a belt. "
Oh ffs doggy tell me where your going next and I will come along with my best chat up lines and we will see how the night pans out |
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"Why waste your time chatting to someone in a bar and finding out you have nothing in common. When you could use apps and sites, find someone with similar interests and more of a chance of it developing into something as opposed to playing find the needle in a haystack on a night out
I get that, and that all makes sense in theory if you are looking for a relationship. I certainly didn't go out as a teenager and 20 something on a night out set on meeting my life partner!
Maybe I'm actually getting soft in my old age or I'm looking back through rose tinted glasses, but have you never caught the eye of a complete stranger in a bar and thought fucking hell I want that? That's when spontaneous real flirting and banter comes into play, not some rehearsed online message with time to think up a reply! First impressions and all that.
Yeah done that across a bar and ended up in a relationship for 6 years that was pish.
Haven't you swiped through tinder or searched fab and went fuck I want some of that. Then mailed find out you get along, meet for drinks and well the rest is history after that.
Dating and sex has changed and the good old days some on here are reminiscing about are over.
Also the cost of going out on the pull each weekend is bloody extortionate haha
Well the 6 year thing was your fault, don't blame the looking across the bar bit that it took you so long to catch on!
It has changed, I agree, and it's cheaper if you need Dutch courage to flirt. I find I'm attracted to spontaneously cheeky flirty (spell check tried to change that to filthy) types and you can't replicate that on an app, it's on the spot first impressions for me.
Nope never been on tinder and never thought that on fab. It's def not the same in my book.
But I think the point here was being made that people have perhaps lost the bottle or art of flirting and having harmless banter on a night out as a consequence of how the dating scene has changed. Basically doggy got all dressed up and no one flirted and she wanted to check it wasn't just because she went only only wearing a belt. "
Well when you meet someone from an app site ect. You still have to flirt and attack them when you meet them. Looking at someone across a bar or on a profile photo is still the same thing, your physically attracted to them. The personality and flirting bit comes after that. If that be a prearranged date made online or you walking up and chatting to them. The art of flirting g hasn't died it's just progressed and changed |
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Online flirting goes wrong you block and move on
In a pub you meet the gaze across a room your afraid to make a move now because of that fuck up and his video about chatting up and shagging.
I’ve seen many guys get it wrong and have had to intervene when bf or hubby returns to fend him off.
The sexual harassment case is another when, lady approaches door staff and claims some guy is annoying her.
Becoming too scary to even speak to a stranger in a pub nowadays |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Online flirting goes wrong you block and move on
In a pub you meet the gaze across a room your afraid to make a move now because of that fuck up and his video about chatting up and shagging.
I’ve seen many guys get it wrong and have had to intervene when bf or hubby returns to fend him off.
The sexual harassment case is another when, lady approaches door staff and claims some guy is annoying her.
Becoming too scary to even speak to a stranger in a pub nowadays "
Everybody needs to chill the fuck out, don't they! |
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The online world has changed things. I started to feel it was only sleazeballs that chatted up strangers in public.
Having said that I had some amazing instant chemistry with a friend of a friend at a gallery opening last year. Glad to say I hadn't forgot what to do. Of course once we started exchanging messages it was apparent we were sadly sexually incompatible.
Usually I'd have thought it a waste of time but it was good fun. Online apps are perfect for the busy and those on the move. |
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im actually quite shy in reality with new people off the bat which has led to missed opportunities, then again on sites like this and dating sites im having no luck either lol |
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"Yep i go on a night out n get approached by literally no one! But i feel i cant go up to guys either as i dont know if they are single or if they say they are but lying...im too paranoid that way lol
Thank fuck it's not just me then!!!! If you're not getting approached I could save myself a fucking fortune and just go out in my Bridget knickers and a vest "
I thought all women wore them in a night out lol |
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I cant flirt wish i could.. i work in a shop and sometimes have to serve a hot guy, i can chat no problem but get tongue tied and talk rubbish.. no wonder im single lol |
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"I cant flirt wish i could.. i work in a shop and sometimes have to serve a hot guy, i can chat no problem but get tongue tied and talk rubbish.. no wonder im single lol"
I think the secret is literally just to chat normally in the first instance but have a cheeky wee glint in your eye. Be yourself. Have a laugh at your own expense where possible, it relaxes people. Don't lay it on, it seems forced. But if it's going well an opportunity will present itself and you need to get something cheeky in there. At that point it either goes 2 ways. They give it back and more! Result!! . Or they're simply not interested.
Ofcourse none of this works if you're an uptight arsehole, people can sense this from your body language. |
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"I used to love going out and having a flirt and a kiss! Met Wade when I was 19 though so it's been a long time! Now I need to be told when people are flirting with me  I really just don't pick up on it. Maybe it's my general assumption that no one would be need to work on that... Then again, pretty sure no one was flirting with me at CJs either there's a common denominator here  I'm away to drown my sorrows in coffee
V x"
Sounds like you're past it! 
Fuck the coffee you need to reach for the brandy! |
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"I cant flirt wish i could.. i work in a shop and sometimes have to serve a hot guy, i can chat no problem but get tongue tied and talk rubbish.. no wonder im single lol
I think the secret is literally just to chat normally in the first instance but have a cheeky wee glint in your eye. Be yourself. Have a laugh at your own expense where possible, it relaxes people. Don't lay it on, it seems forced. But if it's going well an opportunity will present itself and you need to get something cheeky in there. At that point it either goes 2 ways. They give it back and more! Result!! . Or they're simply not interested.
Ofcourse none of this works if you're an uptight arsehole, people can sense this from your body language. "
I do all that i must just be rubbish at flirting lol |
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"I cant flirt wish i could.. i work in a shop and sometimes have to serve a hot guy, i can chat no problem but get tongue tied and talk rubbish.. no wonder im single lol
I think the secret is literally just to chat normally in the first instance but have a cheeky wee glint in your eye. Be yourself. Have a laugh at your own expense where possible, it relaxes people. Don't lay it on, it seems forced. But if it's going well an opportunity will present itself and you need to get something cheeky in there. At that point it either goes 2 ways. They give it back and more! Result!! . Or they're simply not interested.
Ofcourse none of this works if you're an uptight arsehole, people can sense this from your body language.
I do all that i must just be rubbish at flirting lol"
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"I used to love going out and having a flirt and a kiss! Met Wade when I was 19 though so it's been a long time! Now I need to be told when people are flirting with me I really just don't pick up on it. Maybe it's my general assumption that no one would be need to work on that... Then again, pretty sure no one was flirting with me at CJs either there's a common denominator here I'm away to drown my sorrows in coffee
V x
Sounds like you're past it!
Fuck the coffee you need to reach for the brandy! "
Think that might be the case
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"I used to love going out and having a flirt and a kiss! Met Wade when I was 19 though so it's been a long time! Now I need to be told when people are flirting with me I really just don't pick up on it. Maybe it's my general assumption that no one would be need to work on that... Then again, pretty sure no one was flirting with me at CJs either there's a common denominator here I'm away to drown my sorrows in coffee
V x
Sounds like you're past it!
Fuck the coffee you need to reach for the brandy!
Think that might be the case
V x"
Ahh ffs lighten up!!
I was only kidding! Those naked pics you keep sending me, you def still got it! |
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"I used to love going out and having a flirt and a kiss! Met Wade when I was 19 though so it's been a long time! Now I need to be told when people are flirting with me I really just don't pick up on it. Maybe it's my general assumption that no one would be need to work on that... Then again, pretty sure no one was flirting with me at CJs either there's a common denominator here I'm away to drown my sorrows in coffee
V x
Sounds like you're past it!
Fuck the coffee you need to reach for the brandy!
Think that might be the case
V x
Ahh ffs lighten up!!
I was only kidding! Those naked pics you keep sending me, you def still got it! "
You wish!
Nah, turns out I'm just more shy than I thought I was.
Plenty of pics on our profile to be fair... Don't do full nudes though
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"I used to love going out and having a flirt and a kiss! Met Wade when I was 19 though so it's been a long time! Now I need to be told when people are flirting with me I really just don't pick up on it. Maybe it's my general assumption that no one would be need to work on that... Then again, pretty sure no one was flirting with me at CJs either there's a common denominator here I'm away to drown my sorrows in coffee
V x
Sounds like you're past it!
Fuck the coffee you need to reach for the brandy!
Think that might be the case
V x
Ahh ffs lighten up!!
I was only kidding! Those naked pics you keep sending me, you def still got it!
You wish!
Nah, turns out I'm just more shy than I thought I was.
Plenty of pics on our profile to be fair... Don't do full nudes though
V x"
I'm not past it... I'm just not worth flirting with.  |
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"I cant flirt wish i could.. i work in a shop and sometimes have to serve a hot guy, i can chat no problem but get tongue tied and talk rubbish.. no wonder im single lol
I think the secret is literally just to chat normally in the first instance but have a cheeky wee glint in your eye. Be yourself. Have a laugh at your own expense where possible, it relaxes people. Don't lay it on, it seems forced. But if it's going well an opportunity will present itself and you need to get something cheeky in there. At that point it either goes 2 ways. They give it back and more! Result!! . Or they're simply not interested.
Ofcourse none of this works if you're an uptight arsehole, people can sense this from your body language.
I do all that i must just be rubbish at flirting lol
Or you're an uptight arsehole? "
Gee thanks |
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I am and always have been terrible at chatting woman up. If the conversation starts naturally then I'm fine but if I start by aiming to 'chat up' it gos sooo badly! |
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