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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Mostly for a ladies point of view this 1 but...as it being an OPEN forum it's open for anyone to comment..
Having a single female profile i sometimes receive the odd message from guys.fair enough some good some bad but for me it could all be going great until the start with the sex talk 
I like doing this that and the other or what do you like to do.
Now I'm no prude..well am a bit but this is a huge turn off..leave it for the bedroom!
Anyone else? Or do folk enjoy talking it out before actually meeting?
Ps..gives not a jot if it goes off topic. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I much prefer that kind of talk for the bedroom. I like to have a conversation at first on here and see if there's an attraction. I don't see the point in a guy sending a dirty first message to me. It's a big turn off  x |
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"Mostly for a ladies point of view this 1 but...as it being an OPEN forum it's open for anyone to comment..
Having a single female profile i sometimes receive the odd message from guys.fair enough some good some bad but for me it could all be going great until the start with the sex talk
I like doing this that and the other or what do you like to do.
Now I'm no prude..well am a bit but this is a huge turn off..leave it for the bedroom!
Anyone else? Or do folk enjoy talking it out before actually meeting?
Ps..gives not a jot if it goes off topic."
Im with you on this one I just cant talk sexual with a complete stranger .
However I dont mind sex talk if Ive met the person before
Also hate the braggers who are going to do this & that to you  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Agreed total turn off!
For me the guy could be sounding looking great...but the minute he starts saying stuff like that shutters are down and it's a no thanks. |
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There is talking it out before and talking it out before  
I like to get a sense of the possible dynamics but... I hate when a guy doesn't get to know me and just assume that he is going to do that and then, he is going to do this...  just nope!
If that's your thing get an inflatable doll and call her Max! |
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"There is talking it out before and talking it out before
I like to get a sense of the possible dynamics but... I hate when a guy doesn't get to know me and just assume that he is going to do that and then, he is going to do this... just nope!
If that's your thing get an inflatable doll and call her Max! "
Your missing a trick there patent your own sex doll named Max you’ll make a fortune .  |
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"There is talking it out before and talking it out before
I like to get a sense of the possible dynamics but... I hate when a guy doesn't get to know me and just assume that he is going to do that and then, he is going to do this... just nope!
If that's your thing get an inflatable doll and call her Max!
Your missing a trick there patent your own sex doll named Max you’ll make a fortune . "
Ooh! You're right there Steph and put a wee recorded message with my French accent
Am on it! You coming with me to Dragons' Den |
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"There is talking it out before and talking it out before
I like to get a sense of the possible dynamics but... I hate when a guy doesn't get to know me and just assume that he is going to do that and then, he is going to do this... just nope!
If that's your thing get an inflatable doll and call her Max!
Your missing a trick there patent your own sex doll named Max you’ll make a fortune .
Ooh! You're right there Steph and put a wee recorded message with my French accent
Am on it! You coming with me to Dragons' Den "
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Depends on the dynamic between me and the other person.
if I know them well id get far more enjoyment of anticipation through a sexy conversation that the sending diddy pics or cockshots thing folk do |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was always raised to actually converse with people first! I have heard stories from female friends and I have to think about some men - "would you talk to your pals the same way?" |
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Can only speak for myself so me personally would never sex talk in messages or phone chat . What i have done in the past is after the usual get to know you messages , maybe a coffee meet or 2 then on a night where you both know fun is 99% going to happen , and the mood is right i will ask if there is anything the female does not like. And i have a couple of things i dont like too so will say at this point too. Very minor things haha.
This sounds very clinical when put into words and typed but when the passion is building up your better knowing these querks before it could possibly spoil a mood later on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just random chat will do and save the kinky stuff for when we meet. And the promise of getting an oral wizard who loves to lick for hours is a definite no for me x"
LOL at Oral Wizard....wonder if he has a pointy hat haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can I ask. Do guys think females aren't interested when they don't do sex chat "
I don't expect it to be honest. If it happens it happens but I don't need it. Should be organic. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can I ask. Do guys think females aren't interested when they don't do sex chat "
Not at all. I think females aren't interested when they don't message back... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Lol @oral wizard
I think I'm more of a lets see what happens go with the flow sorta chick
The written word as devil said sounds too clinical and forsed to me. |
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"Lol @oral wizard
I think I'm more of a lets see what happens go with the flow sorta chick
The written word as devil said sounds too clinical and forsed to me."
Does this include the mention of small sausages? Or is that too off topic  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There is only one person I have done this with, but only because the conversation naturally gravitates that way and it's very hard not to with us both. But that's why it's right with this person because it's spontaneous not scripted ,assumed or forced. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Lol @oral wizard
I think I'm more of a lets see what happens go with the flow sorta chick
The written word as devil said sounds too clinical and forsed to me.
Does this include the mention of small sausages? Or is that too off topic "
only on certain posts...can you mention the C word lol
I'm more than happy to admit I'm partial to the odd chipolata..oopps there I said it again  |
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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago
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"I stopped the whole chat on the phone to verify myself as the guy was clearly having a wank as I was speaking!
Ergh..never again!"
^^^ is pretty creepy.
As to sex talk - never been good at it so tend to avoid it.
What about flirting though? Isn't that a form of sex talk? Or paying compliments about looks/body etc? Where is the line drawn? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Flirting is not sex talk tho.
There is a difference.
I really wanna meet you
Is different from
God I wanna eat you out.
Get the drift?
A way with words again.
Burst out laughing at this . "
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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago
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"Flirting is not sex talk tho.
There is a difference.
I really wanna meet you
Is different from
God I wanna eat you out.
Get the drift?"
Oh I know there is a difference. Wondering where the line is. I'm thinking agressive or crude or explicit becomes sex talk for you? Personally I think any form of flirty talk is also sex talk just more suggestive or playful.
Need a scale system |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Can only go with me personally but any kind of sexual chat is a trigger for me.
Yes it's a sex site and I'm on here for just that.but on 1st contact its about general chat about each other...surely well for me anyway the whole build up to a sex meet is the antisipation of what the sex is gonna be like? I don't want a step by step guide of what's gonna happen. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Flirting is not sex talk tho.
There is a difference.
I really wanna meet you
Is different from
God I wanna eat you out.
Get the drift?
Oh I know there is a difference. Wondering where the line is. I'm thinking agressive or crude or explicit becomes sex talk for you? Personally I think any form of flirty talk is also sex talk just more suggestive or playful.
Need a scale system "
the guy I speak to is quite subtle with it ..it's not endless "I'm going to to A B or C ..it's more innuendo lol ...and just winding each other up ...he wouldn't ever give me a run down on his exact planned movements lol |
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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago
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"Mostly for a ladies point of view this 1 but...as it being an OPEN forum it's open for anyone to comment..
Having a single female profile i sometimes receive the odd message from guys.fair enough some good some bad but for me it could all be going great until the start with the sex talk
I like doing this that and the other or what do you like to do.
Now I'm no prude..well am a bit but this is a huge turn off..leave it for the bedroom!
Anyone else? Or do folk enjoy talking it out before actually meeting?
Ps..gives not a jot if it goes off topic.Im with you on this one I just cant talk sexual with a complete stranger .
However I dont mind sex talk if Ive met the person before
Also hate the braggers who are going to do this & that to you "
i agree no sex talk but it's nice to know what the lady in question likes and can be spoken about in a adult way , as lots of people on fab always say no small talk , so where do you start if you can't say (hi sexy ???! |
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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago
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"Agreed total turn off!
For me the guy could be sounding looking great...but the minute he starts saying stuff like that shutters are down and it's a no thanks."
alway hear that dolls can let you down lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Mostly for a ladies point of view this 1 but...as it being an OPEN forum it's open for anyone to comment..
Having a single female profile i sometimes receive the odd message from guys.fair enough some good some bad but for me it could all be going great until the start with the sex talk
I like doing this that and the other or what do you like to do.
Now I'm no prude..well am a bit but this is a huge turn off..leave it for the bedroom!
Anyone else? Or do folk enjoy talking it out before actually meeting?
Ps..gives not a jot if it goes off topic.Im with you on this one I just cant talk sexual with a complete stranger .
However I dont mind sex talk if Ive met the person before
Also hate the braggers who are going to do this & that to you i agree no sex talk but it's nice to know what the lady in question likes and can be spoken about in a adult way , as lots of people on fab always say no small talk , so where do you start if you can't say (hi sexy ???! "
why? Why do you need to know? If you met a chick in a club and spent the night..you wouldn't know likes or dislikes? The fun is in the finding out surely? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"See innuendos are great!! But coming right out with it..well that's not so much."
Yes agree and I think that's the best kind of "sex talk " u can have ...when it's very vague and imagination takes over |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Bit like pics
Better to have a sexy underwear pic than a right old cucumber up your chuff pic!"
Is a fresh one straight out the wrapper acceptable? Asking for a "friend" |
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As someone mentioned earlier there should be scales and also stages of when you can talk sexy or smutty.
1. Read Profile - most will fail at this point
2. Find common interests make conversation on these points
3. Explore these in a little depth, teasing innuendo style
4. Arrange meet for coffee social type or if in the mood and satisfies both needs/interests have a panda meet (eats shoots and leaves)
5. If wanting to see or hear more discuss and plan other things to do which might get graphic 
Done correctly a little innuendo on the phone can bring enjoyment to one or both parties. But saying how your going to rip someone a new one or am going to destroy you might not get you very far  |
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If we've been chatting for a while or have met in person and the conversation is naturally going that way then I enjoy a bit of sexting. Can't be forced and needs to be with the right person/people and situation. Never a first message kind of thing. Never a 'I want to destroy your pussy' kind of thing.
V x |
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Never really had any sex talk, mainly because we have single guys blocked. Have had a few "couples" looking for it but didn't take them on and they ended the conversation pretty quickly after that. Always seemed to be the guy from the couple that was on right enough |
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"If we've been chatting for a while or have met in person and the conversation is naturally going that way then I enjoy a bit of sexting. Can't be forced and needs to be with the right person/people and situation. Never a first message kind of thing. Never a 'I want to destroy your pussy' kind of thing.
V x"
Just checked your profile out, I can’t comment on wanting to destroy your pussy but can I motorboat your boobies.
Damn I obviously don’t type boobies into my phone enough took me 4 attempts to stop it autocorrecting |
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"If we've been chatting for a while or have met in person and the conversation is naturally going that way then I enjoy a bit of sexting. Can't be forced and needs to be with the right person/people and situation. Never a first message kind of thing. Never a 'I want to destroy your pussy' kind of thing.
V x
Just checked your profile out, I can’t comment on wanting to destroy your pussy but can I motorboat your boobies.
Damn I obviously don’t type boobies into my phone enough took me 4 attempts to stop it autocorrecting "
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