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over a year ago
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I don’t have a partner just now, in fact its 27 months since I did. I know I want my next partner to be open to swing in some ways. How the hell do I meet someone who is or bring it up on a date?
Although we all love a good time, spooning is a wonderful thing.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That's the problem for single people who have this lifestyle. How to find someone who wants a relationship and continue the lifestyle
Dating sites aren't exactly swinger friendly in terms of dating |
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Dont want to start an argument but is that not you wanting your cake and eating it. Going from profiles most people don't want relationships for various reasons and those who are couples have been here for a long time. So I wouldn't imagine this is the ideal place to find that kind of relationship. I may be wrong as I'm only new to this but that's how I see it. |
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"Dont want to start an argument but is that not you wanting your cake and eating it. Going from profiles most people don't want relationships for various reasons and those who are couples have been here for a long time. So I wouldn't imagine this is the ideal place to find that kind of relationship. I may be wrong as I'm only new to this but that's how I see it."
Your not starting an argument by putting forward your own opinion.
Anyways, there has been a few people on Fab that are now a couple so it can happen. Some will play and some wont after it happens. Lastly , there is no reason why anyone cannot hope to have a cake and get the icing too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If I was single and a guy I met while dating told me he swung I'd ditch him.
Sorry but swinging and dating should be kept separate smacks of i want you but loads of others also.
Myself n hubby have been together nearly 30yrs and got into this together.
A new relationship should still only be just the 2 of you surely?
Thank God I'm not single lol
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If I met someone outside of Fab and he wanted a relationship with me, I would ditch Fab in a heartbeat. I couldn't share the love of my life with anyone. This lifestyle I lead just now, is just for now  x |
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"If I met someone outside of Fab and he wanted a relationship with me, I would ditch Fab in a heartbeat. I couldn't share the love of my life with anyone. This lifestyle I lead just now, is just for now x"
Im the opposite Cate. I dont think i could give this up for anyone just now. This Fab life suits me and i can not see that changing anytime soon. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If I met someone outside of Fab and he wanted a relationship with me, I would ditch Fab in a heartbeat. I couldn't share the love of my life with anyone. This lifestyle I lead just now, is just for now x"
but alot of cpls that SWING have found the love of their lives making it easier to swing.its all about trust and a new relationship wouldn't have that? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I’m not meeting for sex on fab at the moment and only really socialising on the scene at clubs and socials cause I actually still like the swinging scene and have friends. I’m looking on other sites for a partner but not on fab as I’m not sure I could risk sharing someone new in my life with others short term but longer term if it could add a bit of spice then maybe with other couples. So your not alone in wanting your cake and eat it but we all have different variations of what we want. I think it’s difficult to find someone who wants the exact same thing x |
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To the single females i can fully understand and appreciate your stand point about not wanting or willing to share your man with others either early on or deeper into a relationship i get it completely.
To the females who think they would like the security of a relationship and the freedom of a single, from almost ( not all ) but most men you are the ideal catch in a woman. There are lots and lots of guys who would absolutely love to be in a relationship and also the freedom to play with others. I am extremely lucky to be in that situation and i KNOW lots of guys who would also like that position.
Male OR Female i hope you all find whatever it is that will be right for you, especially this time of year.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Dont want to start an argument but is that not you wanting your cake and eating it. Going from profiles most people don't want relationships for various reasons and those who are couples have been here for a long time. So I wouldn't imagine this is the ideal place to find that kind of relationship. I may be wrong as I'm only new to this but that's how I see it.
Your not starting an argument by putting forward your own opinion.
Anyways, there has been a few people on Fab that are now a couple so it can happen. Some will play and some wont after it happens. Lastly , there is no reason why anyone cannot hope to have a cake and get the icing too. "
Oh I believe it can happen and good luck to him, just think it's a long shot for what he's looking for that's all but good luck to him and hope he gets to be the bakery..... |
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"If I met someone outside of Fab and he wanted a relationship with me, I would ditch Fab in a heartbeat. I couldn't share the love of my life with anyone. This lifestyle I lead just now, is just for now x
Im the opposite Cate. I dont think i could give this up for anyone just now. This Fab life suits me and i can not see that changing anytime soon."
That's my point. People's lives are all different and what they are looking for is clearly set out in their profile. Most people are on here because it suits their lifestyle right now and if/When things change their lifestyle then adapts. |
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"If I met someone outside of Fab and he wanted a relationship with me, I would ditch Fab in a heartbeat. I couldn't share the love of my life with anyone. This lifestyle I lead just now, is just for now xbut alot of cpls that SWING have found the love of their lives making it easier to swing.its all about trust and a new relationship wouldn't have that?"
That's not what I mean though. My point is that if someone came into my life and I told him what I do and he asked me to give it up for him, then I would x |
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"If I met someone outside of Fab and he wanted a relationship with me, I would ditch Fab in a heartbeat. I couldn't share the love of my life with anyone. This lifestyle I lead just now, is just for now x
Im the opposite Cate. I dont think i could give this up for anyone just now. This Fab life suits me and i can not see that changing anytime soon."
I know what you're saying and for me this lifestyle suits me just fine too for now but I don't want to be on for ever either x |
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"If I met someone outside of Fab and he wanted a relationship with me, I would ditch Fab in a heartbeat. I couldn't share the love of my life with anyone. This lifestyle I lead just now, is just for now xbut alot of cpls that SWING have found the love of their lives making it easier to swing.its all about trust and a new relationship wouldn't have that?
That's not what I mean though. My point is that if someone came into my life and I told him what I do and he asked me to give it up for him, then I would x"
that's great! I'd expect someone I met to to the same tho.thats what I was trying to say lol in the beginning of a relationship Its all new and should be inclusive of just the 2 of you.diffrent yrs down the line when trust is built up.but in the beginning it should just be the 2 of you.x |
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"If I met someone outside of Fab and he wanted a relationship with me, I would ditch Fab in a heartbeat. I couldn't share the love of my life with anyone. This lifestyle I lead just now, is just for now xbut alot of cpls that SWING have found the love of their lives making it easier to swing.its all about trust and a new relationship wouldn't have that?
That's not what I mean though. My point is that if someone came into my life and I told him what I do and he asked me to give it up for him, then I would xthat's great! I'd expect someone I met to to the same tho.thats what I was trying to say lol in the beginning of a relationship Its all new and should be inclusive of just the 2 of you.diffrent yrs down the line when trust is built up.but in the beginning it should just be the 2 of you.x"
Absolutely and I know I couldn't focus on a relationship and be on Fab at the same time. Meeting some and settling down one day is much more important for me personally x |
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"If I met someone outside of Fab and he wanted a relationship with me, I would ditch Fab in a heartbeat. I couldn't share the love of my life with anyone. This lifestyle I lead just now, is just for now xbut alot of cpls that SWING have found the love of their lives making it easier to swing.its all about trust and a new relationship wouldn't have that?
That's not what I mean though. My point is that if someone came into my life and I told him what I do and he asked me to give it up for him, then I would x"
If someone asked me to give up something he knew i enjoyed i would resent him big time and run a mile in fear he was trying to control me. Giving it up through your own choice is different though. |
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"If I met someone outside of Fab and he wanted a relationship with me, I would ditch Fab in a heartbeat. I couldn't share the love of my life with anyone. This lifestyle I lead just now, is just for now xbut alot of cpls that SWING have found the love of their lives making it easier to swing.its all about trust and a new relationship wouldn't have that?
That's not what I mean though. My point is that if someone came into my life and I told him what I do and he asked me to give it up for him, then I would x
If someone asked me to give up something he knew i enjoyed i would resent him big time and run a mile in fear he was trying to control me. Giving it up through your own choice is different though."
That the difference between you and me though, I don't enjoy Fab as much as I used to for a lot of reasons x |
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"If I met someone outside of Fab and he wanted a relationship with me, I would ditch Fab in a heartbeat. I couldn't share the love of my life with anyone. This lifestyle I lead just now, is just for now xbut alot of cpls that SWING have found the love of their lives making it easier to swing.its all about trust and a new relationship wouldn't have that?
That's not what I mean though. My point is that if someone came into my life and I told him what I do and he asked me to give it up for him, then I would x
If someone asked me to give up something he knew i enjoyed i would resent him big time and run a mile in fear he was trying to control me. Giving it up through your own choice is different though."
That's the thing though. You enjoy your life now and are happy with what you are doing. If/When you meet someone you are truly interested in then your opinion on your lifestyle would probably change and you would be satisfied with the one person and have no need to be here. But until then you are happy to do what you enjoy. |
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"If I met someone outside of Fab and he wanted a relationship with me, I would ditch Fab in a heartbeat. I couldn't share the love of my life with anyone. This lifestyle I lead just now, is just for now xbut alot of cpls that SWING have found the love of their lives making it easier to swing.its all about trust and a new relationship wouldn't have that?
That's not what I mean though. My point is that if someone came into my life and I told him what I do and he asked me to give it up for him, then I would x
If someone asked me to give up something he knew i enjoyed i would resent him big time and run a mile in fear he was trying to control me. Giving it up through your own choice is different though.
That's the thing though. You enjoy your life now and are happy with what you are doing. If/When you meet someone you are truly interested in then your opinion on your lifestyle would probably change and you would be satisfied with the one person and have no need to be here. But until then you are happy to do what you enjoy. "
Just prefer floating about here after 25yrs in a controlling relationship. Dont think i will ever trust again and quite happy on my own. Cant see that ever changing. |
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"If I met someone outside of Fab and he wanted a relationship with me, I would ditch Fab in a heartbeat. I couldn't share the love of my life with anyone. This lifestyle I lead just now, is just for now xbut alot of cpls that SWING have found the love of their lives making it easier to swing.its all about trust and a new relationship wouldn't have that?
That's not what I mean though. My point is that if someone came into my life and I told him what I do and he asked me to give it up for him, then I would x
If someone asked me to give up something he knew i enjoyed i would resent him big time and run a mile in fear he was trying to control me. Giving it up through your own choice is different though.
That's the thing though. You enjoy your life now and are happy with what you are doing. If/When you meet someone you are truly interested in then your opinion on your lifestyle would probably change and you would be satisfied with the one person and have no need to be here. But until then you are happy to do what you enjoy.
Just prefer floating about here after 25yrs in a controlling relationship. Dont think i will ever trust again and quite happy on my own. Cant see that ever changing."
And I understand that, sorry to hear that you were in that type of relationship and good for you for getting out. I know that's exceptionally difficult. Hope you can trust again and your a stronger person for it so it will be on your terms. Got a lot of respect for people like yourself who have been through tough times and came out stronger.  |
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"If I met someone outside of Fab and he wanted a relationship with me, I would ditch Fab in a heartbeat. I couldn't share the love of my life with anyone. This lifestyle I lead just now, is just for now xbut alot of cpls that SWING have found the love of their lives making it easier to swing.its all about trust and a new relationship wouldn't have that?
That's not what I mean though. My point is that if someone came into my life and I told him what I do and he asked me to give it up for him, then I would x
If someone asked me to give up something he knew i enjoyed i would resent him big time and run a mile in fear he was trying to control me. Giving it up through your own choice is different though.
That's the thing though. You enjoy your life now and are happy with what you are doing. If/When you meet someone you are truly interested in then your opinion on your lifestyle would probably change and you would be satisfied with the one person and have no need to be here. But until then you are happy to do what you enjoy.
Just prefer floating about here after 25yrs in a controlling relationship. Dont think i will ever trust again and quite happy on my own. Cant see that ever changing.
And I understand that, sorry to hear that you were in that type of relationship and good for you for getting out. I know that's exceptionally difficult. Hope you can trust again and your a stronger person for it so it will be on your terms. Got a lot of respect for people like yourself who have been through tough times and came out stronger. "
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"If I met someone outside of Fab and he wanted a relationship with me, I would ditch Fab in a heartbeat. I couldn't share the love of my life with anyone. This lifestyle I lead just now, is just for now xbut alot of cpls that SWING have found the love of their lives making it easier to swing.its all about trust and a new relationship wouldn't have that?
That's not what I mean though. My point is that if someone came into my life and I told him what I do and he asked me to give it up for him, then I would x
If someone asked me to give up something he knew i enjoyed i would resent him big time and run a mile in fear he was trying to control me. Giving it up through your own choice is different though.
That's the thing though. You enjoy your life now and are happy with what you are doing. If/When you meet someone you are truly interested in then your opinion on your lifestyle would probably change and you would be satisfied with the one person and have no need to be here. But until then you are happy to do what you enjoy.
Just prefer floating about here after 25yrs in a controlling relationship. Dont think i will ever trust again and quite happy on my own. Cant see that ever changing.
And I understand that, sorry to hear that you were in that type of relationship and good for you for getting out. I know that's exceptionally difficult. Hope you can trust again and your a stronger person for it so it will be on your terms. Got a lot of respect for people like yourself who have been through tough times and came out stronger.
Thanks.x"
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"If I met someone outside of Fab and he wanted a relationship with me, I would ditch Fab in a heartbeat. I couldn't share the love of my life with anyone. This lifestyle I lead just now, is just for now xbut alot of cpls that SWING have found the love of their lives making it easier to swing.its all about trust and a new relationship wouldn't have that?
That's not what I mean though. My point is that if someone came into my life and I told him what I do and he asked me to give it up for him, then I would x"
But cate, what if the man of your dreams came into your life and you told him of Fab and he wanted you to stay on Fab and introduce him to the lifestyle too. ? |
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"If I met someone outside of Fab and he wanted a relationship with me, I would ditch Fab in a heartbeat. I couldn't share the love of my life with anyone. This lifestyle I lead just now, is just for now xbut alot of cpls that SWING have found the love of their lives making it easier to swing.its all about trust and a new relationship wouldn't have that?
That's not what I mean though. My point is that if someone came into my life and I told him what I do and he asked me to give it up for him, then I would xthat's great! I'd expect someone I met to to the same tho.thats what I was trying to say lol in the beginning of a relationship Its all new and should be inclusive of just the 2 of you.diffrent yrs down the line when trust is built up.but in the beginning it should just be the 2 of you.x"
I do believe this, you need a solid base to build a swinging lifestyle together on. But if you are interested in finding a partner that is open to swinging in future, why not be open and honest about it on here? I can't imagine a better place to find someone open to the idea than a swinging site. Yes a lot use it for a hook up. Yes a lot are not interested in a relationship. But I have seen enough couples meeting on here and finding love, marriage, kids the whole damn kaboosh to not think it is a possibility. If the OP is open about what he wants then good luck to him. |
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"If I met someone outside of Fab and he wanted a relationship with me, I would ditch Fab in a heartbeat. I couldn't share the love of my life with anyone. This lifestyle I lead just now, is just for now xbut alot of cpls that SWING have found the love of their lives making it easier to swing.its all about trust and a new relationship wouldn't have that?
That's not what I mean though. My point is that if someone came into my life and I told him what I do and he asked me to give it up for him, then I would x
If someone asked me to give up something he knew i enjoyed i would resent him big time and run a mile in fear he was trying to control me. Giving it up through your own choice is different though.
That's the thing though. You enjoy your life now and are happy with what you are doing. If/When you meet someone you are truly interested in then your opinion on your lifestyle would probably change and you would be satisfied with the one person and have no need to be here. But until then you are happy to do what you enjoy. "
Isn't that a bit condescending to all the truly happy swinger couples on here? Maybe condescending isn't the right word. But this is a swinger site. Lots use it for hookups and sexual adventures yes but at its core it was designed for couples happy to share each other. Should they all "be satisfied with the one person and have no need to be here"  |
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"If I met someone outside of Fab and he wanted a relationship with me, I would ditch Fab in a heartbeat. I couldn't share the love of my life with anyone. This lifestyle I lead just now, is just for now xbut alot of cpls that SWING have found the love of their lives making it easier to swing.its all about trust and a new relationship wouldn't have that?
That's not what I mean though. My point is that if someone came into my life and I told him what I do and he asked me to give it up for him, then I would x
But cate, what if the man of your dreams came into your life and you told him of Fab and he wanted you to stay on Fab and introduce him to the lifestyle too. ?"
I would leave him because I wouldn't want to share him. I could do this with a partner again. It's either myself or not at all x |
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"If I met someone outside of Fab and he wanted a relationship with me, I would ditch Fab in a heartbeat. I couldn't share the love of my life with anyone. This lifestyle I lead just now, is just for now xbut alot of cpls that SWING have found the love of their lives making it easier to swing.its all about trust and a new relationship wouldn't have that?
That's not what I mean though. My point is that if someone came into my life and I told him what I do and he asked me to give it up for him, then I would x
But cate, what if the man of your dreams came into your life and you told him of Fab and he wanted you to stay on Fab and introduce him to the lifestyle too. ?
I would leave him because I wouldn't want to share him. I could do this with a partner again. It's either myself or not at all x"
Couldn't x |
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"If I met someone outside of Fab and he wanted a relationship with me, I would ditch Fab in a heartbeat. I couldn't share the love of my life with anyone. This lifestyle I lead just now, is just for now xbut alot of cpls that SWING have found the love of their lives making it easier to swing.its all about trust and a new relationship wouldn't have that?
That's not what I mean though. My point is that if someone came into my life and I told him what I do and he asked me to give it up for him, then I would x
But cate, what if the man of your dreams came into your life and you told him of Fab and he wanted you to stay on Fab and introduce him to the lifestyle too. ?
I would leave him because I wouldn't want to share him. I could do this with a partner again. It's either myself or not at all x
Couldn't x"
That's a hard one cate ,I'm on pof looking for that but also on here looking for nsa it quite easy to keep the two separate same person but different wants out of sites ,I think the conundrum would arise if i met someone off here who wanted the same as I do off pof and I fell for them ,and before the bandwagon jumps on about hypocrisy I do tell pof dates I'm a member of this site and leave it up to them if they want to continue date |
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"If I met someone outside of Fab and he wanted a relationship with me, I would ditch Fab in a heartbeat. I couldn't share the love of my life with anyone. This lifestyle I lead just now, is just for now xbut alot of cpls that SWING have found the love of their lives making it easier to swing.its all about trust and a new relationship wouldn't have that?
That's not what I mean though. My point is that if someone came into my life and I told him what I do and he asked me to give it up for him, then I would x
If someone asked me to give up something he knew i enjoyed i would resent him big time and run a mile in fear he was trying to control me. Giving it up through your own choice is different though.
That's the thing though. You enjoy your life now and are happy with what you are doing. If/When you meet someone you are truly interested in then your opinion on your lifestyle would probably change and you would be satisfied with the one person and have no need to be here. But until then you are happy to do what you enjoy.
Isn't that a bit condescending to all the truly happy swinger couples on here? Maybe condescending isn't the right word. But this is a swinger site. Lots use it for hookups and sexual adventures yes but at its core it was designed for couples happy to share each other. Should they all "be satisfied with the one person and have no need to be here" "
Sorry, didn't mean anything by it and I appologise if I offended you. What I'm trying to say (vary baldly). Most people who are single and on here are probably looking to avoid the 'L' word as this suits there live now. Couples joining or already here are happy with each other and safe in their relationship knowing it's strong enough to share and I fully respect that. But trying to find a long term 'love' partner on a swingers site I think would be difficult, but not impossible. |
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"If I met someone outside of Fab and he wanted a relationship with me, I would ditch Fab in a heartbeat. I couldn't share the love of my life with anyone. This lifestyle I lead just now, is just for now xbut alot of cpls that SWING have found the love of their lives making it easier to swing.its all about trust and a new relationship wouldn't have that?
That's not what I mean though. My point is that if someone came into my life and I told him what I do and he asked me to give it up for him, then I would x
But cate, what if the man of your dreams came into your life and you told him of Fab and he wanted you to stay on Fab and introduce him to the lifestyle too. ?
I would leave him because I wouldn't want to share him. I could do this with a partner again. It's either myself or not at all x
Couldn't x"
I get this.
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"If I met someone outside of Fab and he wanted a relationship with me, I would ditch Fab in a heartbeat. I couldn't share the love of my life with anyone. This lifestyle I lead just now, is just for now xbut alot of cpls that SWING have found the love of their lives making it easier to swing.its all about trust and a new relationship wouldn't have that?
That's not what I mean though. My point is that if someone came into my life and I told him what I do and he asked me to give it up for him, then I would x
But cate, what if the man of your dreams came into your life and you told him of Fab and he wanted you to stay on Fab and introduce him to the lifestyle too. ?
I would leave him because I wouldn't want to share him. I could do this with a partner again. It's either myself or not at all x
Couldn't x
I get this.
I'm also a mad jealous coo which doesn't help "
Exactly (not the mad coo bit) people's lives adapt and evolve daily. It's your own business why you are here and why you would leave. Have fun and enjoy life. |
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I know folk have found love & even married through meeting on fab, which is truly amazing for them being like minded.
But if couples that have done this what would happen if one of them decided swinging wasn't for them anymore would the relationship still survive.?
For me personally I'm not looking for romance/ relationship.
If I started to feel any sort of emotional feelings for anyone Id met,I'd end it.I enjoy my lifestyle way to much now |
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"If I met someone outside of Fab and he wanted a relationship with me, I would ditch Fab in a heartbeat. I couldn't share the love of my life with anyone. This lifestyle I lead just now, is just for now xbut alot of cpls that SWING have found the love of their lives making it easier to swing.its all about trust and a new relationship wouldn't have that?
That's not what I mean though. My point is that if someone came into my life and I told him what I do and he asked me to give it up for him, then I would x
If someone asked me to give up something he knew i enjoyed i would resent him big time and run a mile in fear he was trying to control me. Giving it up through your own choice is different though.
That's the thing though. You enjoy your life now and are happy with what you are doing. If/When you meet someone you are truly interested in then your opinion on your lifestyle would probably change and you would be satisfied with the one person and have no need to be here. But until then you are happy to do what you enjoy.
Isn't that a bit condescending to all the truly happy swinger couples on here? Maybe condescending isn't the right word. But this is a swinger site. Lots use it for hookups and sexual adventures yes but at its core it was designed for couples happy to share each other. Should they all "be satisfied with the one person and have no need to be here"
Sorry, didn't mean anything by it and I appologise if I offended you. What I'm trying to say (vary baldly). Most people who are single and on here are probably looking to avoid the 'L' word as this suits there live now. Couples joining or already here are happy with each other and safe in their relationship knowing it's strong enough to share and I fully respect that. But trying to find a long term 'love' partner on a swingers site I think would be difficult, but not impossible."
Is this your first profile?
I feel you have a misconception of who some of the single people on here are.
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"If/When you meet someone you are truly interested in then your opinion on your lifestyle would probably change and you would be satisfied with the one person and have no need to be here."
That does not apply to me and to a few people I have met over the years on here.
I am not on here to pass the time until I find someone 'I am truly interested in'and have access to a pool of guys to shag!
Also, me being on here does not affect/would not affect in any way how I feel about another half.
Again, I think it all depends on one's understanding of the lifestyle.
I like it, I do it and not giving it up for anyone.
If the one 'I am truly interested in' does not get it... he's not for me... simple
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"If I met someone outside of Fab and he wanted a relationship with me, I would ditch Fab in a heartbeat. I couldn't share the love of my life with anyone. This lifestyle I lead just now, is just for now xbut alot of cpls that SWING have found the love of their lives making it easier to swing.its all about trust and a new relationship wouldn't have that?
That's not what I mean though. My point is that if someone came into my life and I told him what I do and he asked me to give it up for him, then I would x
If someone asked me to give up something he knew i enjoyed i would resent him big time and run a mile in fear he was trying to control me. Giving it up through your own choice is different though.
That's the thing though. You enjoy your life now and are happy with what you are doing. If/When you meet someone you are truly interested in then your opinion on your lifestyle would probably change and you would be satisfied with the one person and have no need to be here. But until then you are happy to do what you enjoy.
Isn't that a bit condescending to all the truly happy swinger couples on here? Maybe condescending isn't the right word. But this is a swinger site. Lots use it for hookups and sexual adventures yes but at its core it was designed for couples happy to share each other. Should they all "be satisfied with the one person and have no need to be here"
Sorry, didn't mean anything by it and I appologise if I offended you. What I'm trying to say (vary baldly). Most people who are single and on here are probably looking to avoid the 'L' word as this suits there live now. Couples joining or already here are happy with each other and safe in their relationship knowing it's strong enough to share and I fully respect that. But trying to find a long term 'love' partner on a swingers site I think would be difficult, but not impossible.
Is this your first profile?
I feel you have a misconception of who some of the single people on here are.
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Yeah first one and another people are on here is there business, all I'm trying to say it that I think it would be difficult to find some to fall in love with on a swingers site. I'm not trying to insult or offend anyone. People's lives are different and if people are here for that the good luck to them I can't speak for every single person on here. |
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"If/When you meet someone you are truly interested in then your opinion on your lifestyle would probably change and you would be satisfied with the one person and have no need to be here.
That does not apply to me and to a few people I have met over the years on here.
I am not on here to pass the time until I find someone 'I am truly interested in'and have access to a pool of guys to shag!
Also, me being on here does not affect/would not affect in any way how I feel about another half.
Again, I think it all depends on one's understanding of the lifestyle.
I like it, I do it and not giving it up for anyone.
If the one 'I am truly interested in' does not get it... he's not for me... simple
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"If I met someone outside of Fab and he wanted a relationship with me, I would ditch Fab in a heartbeat. I couldn't share the love of my life with anyone. This lifestyle I lead just now, is just for now xbut alot of cpls that SWING have found the love of their lives making it easier to swing.its all about trust and a new relationship wouldn't have that?
That's not what I mean though. My point is that if someone came into my life and I told him what I do and he asked me to give it up for him, then I would x
If someone asked me to give up something he knew i enjoyed i would resent him big time and run a mile in fear he was trying to control me. Giving it up through your own choice is different though.
That's the thing though. You enjoy your life now and are happy with what you are doing. If/When you meet someone you are truly interested in then your opinion on your lifestyle would probably change and you would be satisfied with the one person and have no need to be here. But until then you are happy to do what you enjoy.
Isn't that a bit condescending to all the truly happy swinger couples on here? Maybe condescending isn't the right word. But this is a swinger site. Lots use it for hookups and sexual adventures yes but at its core it was designed for couples happy to share each other. Should they all "be satisfied with the one person and have no need to be here"
Sorry, didn't mean anything by it and I appologise if I offended you. What I'm trying to say (vary baldly). Most people who are single and on here are probably looking to avoid the 'L' word as this suits there live now. Couples joining or already here are happy with each other and safe in their relationship knowing it's strong enough to share and I fully respect that. But trying to find a long term 'love' partner on a swingers site I think would be difficult, but not impossible.
Is this your first profile?
I feel you have a misconception of who some of the single people on here are.
Yeah first one and another people are on here is there business, all I'm trying to say it that I think it would be difficult to find some to fall in love with on a swingers site. I'm not trying to insult or offend anyone. People's lives are different and if people are here for that the good luck to them I can't speak for every single person on here."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t have a partner just now, in fact its 27 months since I did. I know I want my next partner to be open to swing in some ways. How the hell do I meet someone who is or bring it up on a date?
Although we all love a good time, spooning is a wonderful thing...."
Sounding depressing my post, But I'm sure it can be in here for a lot of men.
Partner can be good at time and so would a regular but finding a partner I don't think you've much chance on here unless you are very, very lucky. Yes quite a few have actually found a life partner and some have even married
I find that most females I meet already have a regular from here anyways. Females are inundated everyday and all it takes is for them to be in the mood to meet and pick who interest then and if they hit it off then they may want to see him again. The only inspiration I can give for you OP is that you might be that man she chooses  .
There are females who openly admit that they want a partner you just have to look for them and see if you connect
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If I met someone outside of Fab and he wanted a relationship with me, I would ditch Fab in a heartbeat. I couldn't share the love of my life with anyone. This lifestyle I lead just now, is just for now xbut alot of cpls that SWING have found the love of their lives making it easier to swing.its all about trust and a new relationship wouldn't have that?
That's not what I mean though. My point is that if someone came into my life and I told him what I do and he asked me to give it up for him, then I would x
If someone asked me to give up something he knew i enjoyed i would resent him big time and run a mile in fear he was trying to control me. Giving it up through your own choice is different though.
That's the thing though. You enjoy your life now and are happy with what you are doing. If/When you meet someone you are truly interested in then your opinion on your lifestyle would probably change and you would be satisfied with the one person and have no need to be here. But until then you are happy to do what you enjoy.
Isn't that a bit condescending to all the truly happy swinger couples on here? Maybe condescending isn't the right word. But this is a swinger site. Lots use it for hookups and sexual adventures yes but at its core it was designed for couples happy to share each other. Should they all "be satisfied with the one person and have no need to be here"
Sorry, didn't mean anything by it and I appologise if I offended you. What I'm trying to say (vary baldly). Most people who are single and on here are probably looking to avoid the 'L' word as this suits there live now. Couples joining or already here are happy with each other and safe in their relationship knowing it's strong enough to share and I fully respect that. But trying to find a long term 'love' partner on a swingers site I think would be difficult, but not impossible.
Is this your first profile?
I feel you have a misconception of who some of the single people on here are.
Yeah first one and another people are on here is there business, all I'm trying to say it that I think it would be difficult to find some to fall in love with on a swingers site. I'm not trying to insult or offend anyone. People's lives are different and if people are here for that the good luck to them I can't speak for every single person on here.
I know you're not trying to... I'm just debating "
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"If I met someone outside of Fab and he wanted a relationship with me, I would ditch Fab in a heartbeat. I couldn't share the love of my life with anyone. This lifestyle I lead just now, is just for now xbut alot of cpls that SWING have found the love of their lives making it easier to swing.its all about trust and a new relationship wouldn't have that?
That's not what I mean though. My point is that if someone came into my life and I told him what I do and he asked me to give it up for him, then I would x
If someone asked me to give up something he knew i enjoyed i would resent him big time and run a mile in fear he was trying to control me. Giving it up through your own choice is different though.
That's the thing though. You enjoy your life now and are happy with what you are doing. If/When you meet someone you are truly interested in then your opinion on your lifestyle would probably change and you would be satisfied with the one person and have no need to be here. But until then you are happy to do what you enjoy.
Isn't that a bit condescending to all the truly happy swinger couples on here? Maybe condescending isn't the right word. But this is a swinger site. Lots use it for hookups and sexual adventures yes but at its core it was designed for couples happy to share each other. Should they all "be satisfied with the one person and have no need to be here"
Sorry, didn't mean anything by it and I appologise if I offended you. What I'm trying to say (vary baldly). Most people who are single and on here are probably looking to avoid the 'L' word as this suits there live now. Couples joining or already here are happy with each other and safe in their relationship knowing it's strong enough to share and I fully respect that. But trying to find a long term 'love' partner on a swingers site I think would be difficult, but not impossible.
Is this your first profile?
I feel you have a misconception of who some of the single people on here are.
Yeah first one and another people are on here is there business, all I'm trying to say it that I think it would be difficult to find some to fall in love with on a swingers site. I'm not trying to insult or offend anyone. People's lives are different and if people are here for that the good luck to them I can't speak for every single person on here.
I know you're not trying to... I'm just debating
Thanks, would hate to have offended anyone "
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"If I met someone outside of Fab and he wanted a relationship with me, I would ditch Fab in a heartbeat. I couldn't share the love of my life with anyone. This lifestyle I lead just now, is just for now xbut alot of cpls that SWING have found the love of their lives making it easier to swing.its all about trust and a new relationship wouldn't have that?
That's not what I mean though. My point is that if someone came into my life and I told him what I do and he asked me to give it up for him, then I would x
If someone asked me to give up something he knew i enjoyed i would resent him big time and run a mile in fear he was trying to control me. Giving it up through your own choice is different though.
That's the thing though. You enjoy your life now and are happy with what you are doing. If/When you meet someone you are truly interested in then your opinion on your lifestyle would probably change and you would be satisfied with the one person and have no need to be here. But until then you are happy to do what you enjoy.
Isn't that a bit condescending to all the truly happy swinger couples on here? Maybe condescending isn't the right word. But this is a swinger site. Lots use it for hookups and sexual adventures yes but at its core it was designed for couples happy to share each other. Should they all "be satisfied with the one person and have no need to be here"
Sorry, didn't mean anything by it and I appologise if I offended you. What I'm trying to say (vary baldly). Most people who are single and on here are probably looking to avoid the 'L' word as this suits there live now. Couples joining or already here are happy with each other and safe in their relationship knowing it's strong enough to share and I fully respect that. But trying to find a long term 'love' partner on a swingers site I think would be difficult, but not impossible.
Is this your first profile?
I feel you have a misconception of who some of the single people on here are.
Yeah first one and another people are on here is there business, all I'm trying to say it that I think it would be difficult to find some to fall in love with on a swingers site. I'm not trying to insult or offend anyone. People's lives are different and if people are here for that the good luck to them I can't speak for every single person on here.
I know you're not trying to... I'm just debating
Thanks, would hate to have offended anyone
Dinnae worry! You will at some stage lol "
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"If I met someone outside of Fab and he wanted a relationship with me, I would ditch Fab in a heartbeat. I couldn't share the love of my life with anyone. This lifestyle I lead just now, is just for now xbut alot of cpls that SWING have found the love of their lives making it easier to swing.its all about trust and a new relationship wouldn't have that?
That's not what I mean though. My point is that if someone came into my life and I told him what I do and he asked me to give it up for him, then I would x
If someone asked me to give up something he knew i enjoyed i would resent him big time and run a mile in fear he was trying to control me. Giving it up through your own choice is different though.
That's the thing though. You enjoy your life now and are happy with what you are doing. If/When you meet someone you are truly interested in then your opinion on your lifestyle would probably change and you would be satisfied with the one person and have no need to be here. But until then you are happy to do what you enjoy.
Isn't that a bit condescending to all the truly happy swinger couples on here? Maybe condescending isn't the right word. But this is a swinger site. Lots use it for hookups and sexual adventures yes but at its core it was designed for couples happy to share each other. Should they all "be satisfied with the one person and have no need to be here"
Sorry, didn't mean anything by it and I appologise if I offended you. What I'm trying to say (vary baldly). Most people who are single and on here are probably looking to avoid the 'L' word as this suits there live now. Couples joining or already here are happy with each other and safe in their relationship knowing it's strong enough to share and I fully respect that. But trying to find a long term 'love' partner on a swingers site I think would be difficult, but not impossible.
Is this your first profile?
I feel you have a misconception of who some of the single people on here are.
Yeah first one and another people are on here is there business, all I'm trying to say it that I think it would be difficult to find some to fall in love with on a swingers site. I'm not trying to insult or offend anyone. People's lives are different and if people are here for that the good luck to them I can't speak for every single person on here.
I know you're not trying to... I'm just debating
Thanks, would hate to have offended anyone
Dinnae worry! You will at some stage lol
Yeah probably, but means I like you....promise"
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Dinnae worry! You will at some stage lol
Lmfao, thereth speaks the voice of reason Max , as always xxx
Hehe! Hopefully I didn't scare him... too "
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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago
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Dinnae worry! You will at some stage lol
Lmfao, thereth speaks the voice of reason Max , as always xxx
Hehe! Hopefully I didn't scare him... too
Wee bit.... .... "
That was Max being very gentle and welcoming too |
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Dinnae worry! You will at some stage lol
Lmfao, thereth speaks the voice of reason Max , as always xxx
Hehe! Hopefully I didn't scare him... too
Wee bit.... ....
That was Max being very gentle and welcoming too "
Felt the love.....
I'm a big boy and don't scare easily.....except if it's spiders......don't like them.too many legs and can run faster than me.... |
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Dinnae worry! You will at some stage lol
Lmfao, thereth speaks the voice of reason Max , as always xxx
Hehe! Hopefully I didn't scare him... too
Wee bit.... ....
That was Max being very gentle and welcoming too
Felt the love.....
I'm a big boy and don't scare easily.....except if it's spiders......don't like them.too many legs and can run faster than me.... "
Lol to return to the thread of 'partner' ... another criteria for me... not be scared of spiders... cos I need someone that can deal with them for me  |
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"I don’t have a partner just now, in fact its 27 months since I did. I know I want my next partner to be open to swing in some ways. How the hell do I meet someone who is or bring it up on a date?
Although we all love a good time, spooning is a wonderful thing...."
it's a nightmare...right when you think a guy will be cool with it they're not!! x we need a swinger dating site pronto lol x |
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Dinnae worry! You will at some stage lol
Lmfao, thereth speaks the voice of reason Max , as always xxx
Hehe! Hopefully I didn't scare him... too
Wee bit.... ....
That was Max being very gentle and welcoming too
Felt the love.....
I'm a big boy and don't scare easily.....except if it's spiders......don't like them.too many legs and can run faster than me....
Lol to return to the thread of 'partner' ... another criteria for me... not be scared of spiders... cos I need someone that can deal with them for me "
Ahh well that's me crashed and burned on that criteria, now if you needed rescuing from a shark then not a problem |
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"I don’t have a partner just now, in fact its 27 months since I did. I know I want my next partner to be open to swing in some ways. How the hell do I meet someone who is or bring it up on a date?
Although we all love a good time, spooning is a wonderful thing....
it's a nightmare...right when you think a guy will be cool with it they're not!! x we need a swinger dating site pronto lol x"
Sure there was a dating thread going about for a while. Maybe you should start a new one |
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"I don’t have a partner just now, in fact its 27 months since I did. I know I want my next partner to be open to swing in some ways. How the hell do I meet someone who is or bring it up on a date?
Although we all love a good time, spooning is a wonderful thing....
it's a nightmare...right when you think a guy will be cool with it they're not!! x we need a swinger dating site pronto lol x
Sure there was a dating thread going about for a while. Maybe you should start a new one "
That would be a good choice for a thread . Could go either way , plenty interested or die a death. They could do all the flirting in the public forum then seal the deal with a private message with location and time etc.
Bit like tvs first dates show only by forum thread. Plus they must come back to thread after thier date and say if they will see each other again . |
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"I don’t have a partner just now, in fact its 27 months since I did. I know I want my next partner to be open to swing in some ways. How the hell do I meet someone who is or bring it up on a date?
Although we all love a good time, spooning is a wonderful thing....
it's a nightmare...right when you think a guy will be cool with it they're not!! x we need a swinger dating site pronto lol x
Sure there was a dating thread going about for a while. Maybe you should start a new one
That would be a good choice for a thread . Could go either way , plenty interested or die a death. They could do all the flirting in the public forum then seal the deal with a private message with location and time etc.
Bit like tvs first dates show only by forum thread. Plus they must come back to thread after thier date and say if they will see each other again . "
You'll be needing a name change to Cilla 
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"I don’t have a partner just now, in fact its 27 months since I did. I know I want my next partner to be open to swing in some ways. How the hell do I meet someone who is or bring it up on a date?
Although we all love a good time, spooning is a wonderful thing....
it's a nightmare...right when you think a guy will be cool with it they're not!! x we need a swinger dating site pronto lol x
Sure there was a dating thread going about for a while. Maybe you should start a new one
That would be a good choice for a thread . Could go either way , plenty interested or die a death. They could do all the flirting in the public forum then seal the deal with a private message with location and time etc.
Bit like tvs first dates show only by forum thread. Plus they must come back to thread after thier date and say if they will see each other again . "
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I'm actually responsible for introducing a now couple on fab. The resulting relationship came as a total surprise to both, but both are very very happy with the way things have turned out & I'm really happy for them.
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over a year ago
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Some people are looking for the same thing. It will just happen, it’s not something you can go looking for. You meet someone and ‘click’ with them and both want the same thing. You may have to meet a few people to find the right person but it is possible.
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When u date u get feelings and that completely changes things
.jealousy start to rear .and would u trust each other not to cheat ...me personally wouldn't like to date somebody from here but .if it works then good |
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"Some people are looking for the same thing. It will just happen, it’s not something you can go looking for. You meet someone and ‘click’ with them and both want the same thing. You may have to meet a few people to find the right person but it is possible.
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"I don’t have a partner just now, in fact its 27 months since I did. I know I want my next partner to be open to swing in some ways. How the hell do I meet someone who is or bring it up on a date?
Although we all love a good time, spooning is a wonderful thing....
it's a nightmare...right when you think a guy will be cool with it they're not!! x we need a swinger dating site pronto lol x"
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