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Maybe it's just me and what I've come across on profiles and on the forums, but it seems like there's a fair number of judgemental jobbies about 
I say this in comparison to the bdsm/fetish lifestyle where people are generally far more accepting of others and their particular interests even if they're at polar opposites with their own. They would just move on rather than post in a profile or forum about not being interested in people who would do xyz or outright being c*nts in a public forum even if they would have potential for other fun together.
Probably less jusgement here than in mainstream vanilla circles but more than I expected to find.
Just me in a bad mood or anyone else found this too?
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Ohhh yes there are a few judgemental people on here , whereas what there preferences are or whatever. People who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones, springs to mind.
In other ways we are all judging each other at all times, forums looks , body, sexual history etc. |
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"Ohhh yes there are a few judgemental people on here , whereas what there preferences are or whatever. People who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones, springs to mind.
In other ways we are all judging each other at all times, forums looks , body, sexual history etc. "
Yeah, we all do it to a greater or lesser degree. Just not everyone posts about it in the forum. I try to give myself a shake and tell myself not to be a fanny when I catch myself doing it. My Maw would drown me in Holy Water if she knew half the stuff I'd got up to so who am I to judge? |
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"Maybe it's just me and what I've come across on profiles and on the forums, but it seems like there's a fair number of judgemental jobbies about
I say this in comparison to the bdsm/fetish lifestyle where people are generally far more accepting of others and their particular interests even if they're at polar opposites with their own. They would just move on rather than post in a profile or forum about not being interested in people who would do xyz or outright being c*nts in a public forum even if they would have potential for other fun together.
Probably less jusgement here than in mainstream vanilla circles but more than I expected to find.
Just me in a bad mood or anyone else found this too?
V x"
Jobbies, such a kl word,always makes me giggle when a here a chick use it  |
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"Ohhh yes there are a few judgemental people on here , whereas what there preferences are or whatever. People who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones, springs to mind.
In other ways we are all judging each other at all times, forums looks , body, sexual history etc.
Yeah, we all do it to a greater or lesser degree. Just not everyone posts about it in the forum. I try to give myself a shake and tell myself not to be a fanny when I catch myself doing it. My Maw would drown me in Holy Water if she knew half the stuff I'd got up to so who am I to judge?"
Straight to lourdes with St Margarets yearly pilgrimage to be drowned at the feet of Mary herself lol |
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I was an altar server as a youngun  my place in hell awaits!
I agree most have a moment of passing judgement - myself included - but it's the ones who think they're totally in the right to have a crack in their profile or in a thread that make me want to scream in a bad way.
I'd say 'if you've nothing nice to say then say nothing at all' but that may leave some conspicuously quiet! 
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"Maybe it's just me and what I've come across on profiles and on the forums, but it seems like there's a fair number of judgemental jobbies about
I say this in comparison to the bdsm/fetish lifestyle where people are generally far more accepting of others and their particular interests even if they're at polar opposites with their own. They would just move on rather than post in a profile or forum about not being interested in people who would do xyz or outright being c*nts in a public forum even if they would have potential for other fun together.
Probably less jusgement here than in mainstream vanilla circles but more than I expected to find.
Just me in a bad mood or anyone else found this too?
V x
Jobbies, such a kl word,always makes me giggle when a here a chick use it "
One of my favourites - especially with a bit of alliteration
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"Ohhh yes there are a few judgemental people on here , whereas what there preferences are or whatever. People who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones, springs to mind.
In other ways we are all judging each other at all times, forums looks , body, sexual history etc.
Yeah, we all do it to a greater or lesser degree. Just not everyone posts about it in the forum. I try to give myself a shake and tell myself not to be a fanny when I catch myself doing it. My Maw would drown me in Holy Water if she knew half the stuff I'd got up to so who am I to judge?"
I do think that's the response most of us have and I've just been particularly perturbed by a select few in the past few days. I've found myself deleted a few typed out messages  my inner militant feminist has been riled and she's hard to shut up haha
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"Ohhh yes there are a few judgemental people on here , whereas what there preferences are or whatever. People who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones, springs to mind.
In other ways we are all judging each other at all times, forums looks , body, sexual history etc.
Yeah, we all do it to a greater or lesser degree. Just not everyone posts about it in the forum. I try to give myself a shake and tell myself not to be a fanny when I catch myself doing it. My Maw would drown me in Holy Water if she knew half the stuff I'd got up to so who am I to judge?"
Was it yer maw calling someone a blasphemer the other day?
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Im one of those pesky jusgemental folk do I feel guilty nope not in the slightest.
the bit that cracks me up is. asking questions in a forum then going in a huff because some dont agree with you.
this nonsense of nothing nice to say then say nothing is absolute garbage
there should be a white knight and pretty princess part to the forums then those just after fluff would be happy  |
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"Im one of those pesky jusgemental folk do I feel guilty nope not in the slightest.
the bit that cracks me up is. asking questions in a forum then going in a huff because some dont agree with you.
this nonsense of nothing nice to say then say nothing is absolute garbage
there should be a white knight and pretty princess part to the forums then those just after fluff would be happy "
Not in a huff or just looking for fluff by any means.
Everyone is entitled to an opinion. I just think there's ways of phrasing things without coming off as a dick.
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"Im one of those pesky jusgemental folk do I feel guilty nope not in the slightest.
the bit that cracks me up is. asking questions in a forum then going in a huff because some dont agree with you.
this nonsense of nothing nice to say then say nothing is absolute garbage
there should be a white knight and pretty princess part to the forums then those just after fluff would be happy "
There should be a part for those who think being nice, pleasant, supportive and helpful is so wrong to post. You wouldn't be as miserable there amongst your own kind. |
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"Im one of those pesky jusgemental folk do I feel guilty nope not in the slightest.
the bit that cracks me up is. asking questions in a forum then going in a huff because some dont agree with you.
this nonsense of nothing nice to say then say nothing is absolute garbage
there should be a white knight and pretty princess part to the forums then those just after fluff would be happy "
That does piss me off a bit too if I'm honest. Stick your hand in the fire and it's going to get fucking burnt. Ask for opinions and you'll get them. But there's a difference between that and being an utter cunt for the sake of it. |
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"Im one of those pesky jusgemental folk do I feel guilty nope not in the slightest.
the bit that cracks me up is. asking questions in a forum then going in a huff because some dont agree with you.
this nonsense of nothing nice to say then say nothing is absolute garbage
there should be a white knight and pretty princess part to the forums then those just after fluff would be happy
That does piss me off a bit too if I'm honest. Stick your hand in the fire and it's going to get fucking burnt. Ask for opinions and you'll get them. But there's a difference between that and being an utter cunt for the sake of it."
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"Im one of those pesky jusgemental folk do I feel guilty nope not in the slightest.
the bit that cracks me up is. asking questions in a forum then going in a huff because some dont agree with you.
this nonsense of nothing nice to say then say nothing is absolute garbage
there should be a white knight and pretty princess part to the forums then those just after fluff would be happy
That does piss me off a bit too if I'm honest. Stick your hand in the fire and it's going to get fucking burnt. Ask for opinions and you'll get them. But there's a difference between that and being an utter cunt for the sake of it.agreed "
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There are people that just jump at you when you post something Imo it shouldn't happen but does just ignore it and as for the judgmental folks well it's up to them we all do it to a degree I just wish people would need their shit opinions of others to themselves |
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"Im one of those pesky jusgemental folk do I feel guilty nope not in the slightest.
the bit that cracks me up is. asking questions in a forum then going in a huff because some dont agree with you.
this nonsense of nothing nice to say then say nothing is absolute garbage
there should be a white knight and pretty princess part to the forums then those just after fluff would be happy
That does piss me off a bit too if I'm honest. Stick your hand in the fire and it's going to get fucking burnt. Ask for opinions and you'll get them. But there's a difference between that and being an utter cunt for the sake of it.agreed "
....being an utter cunt can be fun sometimes too though. But I keep that kind of behaviour for one of my many other profiles.....Oops .. |
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"Im one of those pesky jusgemental folk do I feel guilty nope not in the slightest.
the bit that cracks me up is. asking questions in a forum then going in a huff because some dont agree with you.
this nonsense of nothing nice to say then say nothing is absolute garbage
there should be a white knight and pretty princess part to the forums then those just after fluff would be happy
That does piss me off a bit too if I'm honest. Stick your hand in the fire and it's going to get fucking burnt. Ask for opinions and you'll get them. But there's a difference between that and being an utter cunt for the sake of it.agreed
Doubly agreed "
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"Im one of those pesky jusgemental folk do I feel guilty nope not in the slightest.
the bit that cracks me up is. asking questions in a forum then going in a huff because some dont agree with you.
this nonsense of nothing nice to say then say nothing is absolute garbage
there should be a white knight and pretty princess part to the forums then those just after fluff would be happy
Not in a huff or just looking for fluff by any means.
Everyone is entitled to an opinion. I just think there's ways of phrasing things without coming off as a dick.
V x"
my post wasnt aimed at yourselves in particular more the trend of the norm in scotland forums |
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"Im one of those pesky jusgemental folk do I feel guilty nope not in the slightest.
the bit that cracks me up is. asking questions in a forum then going in a huff because some dont agree with you.
this nonsense of nothing nice to say then say nothing is absolute garbage
there should be a white knight and pretty princess part to the forums then those just after fluff would be happy
That does piss me off a bit too if I'm honest. Stick your hand in the fire and it's going to get fucking burnt. Ask for opinions and you'll get them. But there's a difference between that and being an utter cunt for the sake of it.agreed
....being an utter cunt can be fun sometimes too though. But I keep that kind of behaviour for one of my many other profiles.....Oops .. "
lol its ok theres quite a few even have convos with themselves through multiple profiles |
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"Im one of those pesky jusgemental folk do I feel guilty nope not in the slightest.
the bit that cracks me up is. asking questions in a forum then going in a huff because some dont agree with you.
this nonsense of nothing nice to say then say nothing is absolute garbage
there should be a white knight and pretty princess part to the forums then those just after fluff would be happy
Not in a huff or just looking for fluff by any means.
Everyone is entitled to an opinion. I just think there's ways of phrasing things without coming off as a dick.
V xmy post wasnt aimed at yourselves in particular more the trend of the norm in scotland forums"
The trend in the Scotland forums is more the argumentative/confrontational theme that you are part of.
Give me white knights and fluffy princesses any day, over torn faced moaners. |
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"Im one of those pesky jusgemental folk do I feel guilty nope not in the slightest.
the bit that cracks me up is. asking questions in a forum then going in a huff because some dont agree with you.
this nonsense of nothing nice to say then say nothing is absolute garbage
there should be a white knight and pretty princess part to the forums then those just after fluff would be happy
That does piss me off a bit too if I'm honest. Stick your hand in the fire and it's going to get fucking burnt. Ask for opinions and you'll get them. But there's a difference between that and being an utter cunt for the sake of it.agreed
....being an utter cunt can be fun sometimes too though. But I keep that kind of behaviour for one of my many other profiles.....Oops .. lol its ok theres quite a few even have convos with themselves through multiple profiles "
agreed which i find hilarious!! Talk about split personalities! Then message folk asking what you think about 1 of them ? Lol
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"Im one of those pesky jusgemental folk do I feel guilty nope not in the slightest.
the bit that cracks me up is. asking questions in a forum then going in a huff because some dont agree with you.
this nonsense of nothing nice to say then say nothing is absolute garbage
there should be a white knight and pretty princess part to the forums then those just after fluff would be happy
Not in a huff or just looking for fluff by any means.
Everyone is entitled to an opinion. I just think there's ways of phrasing things without coming off as a dick.
V xmy post wasnt aimed at yourselves in particular more the trend of the norm in scotland forums
The trend in the Scotland forums is more the argumentative/confrontational theme that you are part of.
Give me white knights and fluffy princesses any day, over torn faced moaners."
brings a song to mind ......cry me a river |
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"Im one of those pesky jusgemental folk do I feel guilty nope not in the slightest.
the bit that cracks me up is. asking questions in a forum then going in a huff because some dont agree with you.
this nonsense of nothing nice to say then say nothing is absolute garbage
there should be a white knight and pretty princess part to the forums then those just after fluff would be happy
That does piss me off a bit too if I'm honest. Stick your hand in the fire and it's going to get fucking burnt. Ask for opinions and you'll get them. But there's a difference between that and being an utter cunt for the sake of it.agreed
....being an utter cunt can be fun sometimes too though. But I keep that kind of behaviour for one of my many other profiles.....Oops .. lol its ok theres quite a few even have convos with themselves through multiple profiles agreed which i find hilarious!! Talk about split personalities! Then message folk asking what you think about 1 of them ? Lol
Loopy loops "
Mmm.. I wonder who that could be...? |
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"Maybe it's just me and what I've come across on profiles and on the forums, but it seems like there's a fair number of judgemental jobbies about
I say this in comparison to the bdsm/fetish lifestyle where people are generally far more accepting of others and their particular interests even if they're at polar opposites with their own. They would just move on rather than post in a profile or forum about not being interested in people who would do xyz or outright being c*nts in a public forum even if they would have potential for other fun together.
Probably less jusgement here than in mainstream vanilla circles but more than I expected to find.
Just me in a bad mood or anyone else found this too?
V x"
Disagree with the part about folk posting on their profiles they won't meet people who do xyz. That's a preference and saves everyone wasting their time. I'd imagine most people on here don't want to meet people who do bareback and I don't see an issue with them putting that on their profile (even if it is difficult for them to police it) |
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"Im one of those pesky jusgemental folk do I feel guilty nope not in the slightest.
the bit that cracks me up is. asking questions in a forum then going in a huff because some dont agree with you.
this nonsense of nothing nice to say then say nothing is absolute garbage
there should be a white knight and pretty princess part to the forums then those just after fluff would be happy
Not in a huff or just looking for fluff by any means.
Everyone is entitled to an opinion. I just think there's ways of phrasing things without coming off as a dick.
V xmy post wasnt aimed at yourselves in particular more the trend of the norm in scotland forums
The trend in the Scotland forums is more the argumentative/confrontational theme that you are part of.
Give me white knights and fluffy princesses any day, over torn faced moaners."
Can't do the fluffy princess but I make a great torn faced princess |
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"Im one of those pesky jusgemental folk do I feel guilty nope not in the slightest.
the bit that cracks me up is. asking questions in a forum then going in a huff because some dont agree with you.
this nonsense of nothing nice to say then say nothing is absolute garbage
there should be a white knight and pretty princess part to the forums then those just after fluff would be happy
That does piss me off a bit too if I'm honest. Stick your hand in the fire and it's going to get fucking burnt. Ask for opinions and you'll get them. But there's a difference between that and being an utter cunt for the sake of it.agreed
....being an utter cunt can be fun sometimes too though. But I keep that kind of behaviour for one of my many other profiles.....Oops .. lol its ok theres quite a few even have convos with themselves through multiple profiles agreed which i find hilarious!! Talk about split personalities! Then message folk asking what you think about 1 of them ? Lol
Loopy loops "
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"Im one of those pesky jusgemental folk do I feel guilty nope not in the slightest.
the bit that cracks me up is. asking questions in a forum then going in a huff because some dont agree with you.
this nonsense of nothing nice to say then say nothing is absolute garbage
there should be a white knight and pretty princess part to the forums then those just after fluff would be happy
Not in a huff or just looking for fluff by any means.
Everyone is entitled to an opinion. I just think there's ways of phrasing things without coming off as a dick.
V xmy post wasnt aimed at yourselves in particular more the trend of the norm in scotland forums
The trend in the Scotland forums is more the argumentative/confrontational theme that you are part of.
Give me white knights and fluffy princesses any day, over torn faced moaners.
Can't do the fluffy princess but I make a great torn faced princess "
That's close enough! |
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"Im one of those pesky jusgemental folk do I feel guilty nope not in the slightest.
the bit that cracks me up is. asking questions in a forum then going in a huff because some dont agree with you.
this nonsense of nothing nice to say then say nothing is absolute garbage
there should be a white knight and pretty princess part to the forums then those just after fluff would be happy
That does piss me off a bit too if I'm honest. Stick your hand in the fire and it's going to get fucking burnt. Ask for opinions and you'll get them. But there's a difference between that and being an utter cunt for the sake of it.agreed
....being an utter cunt can be fun sometimes too though. But I keep that kind of behaviour for one of my many other profiles.....Oops .. lol its ok theres quite a few even have convos with themselves through multiple profiles agreed which i find hilarious!! Talk about split personalities! Then message folk asking what you think about 1 of them ? Lol
Loopy loops
Nuttier than squirrel shite."
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"Im one of those pesky jusgemental folk do I feel guilty nope not in the slightest.
the bit that cracks me up is. asking questions in a forum then going in a huff because some dont agree with you.
this nonsense of nothing nice to say then say nothing is absolute garbage
there should be a white knight and pretty princess part to the forums then those just after fluff would be happy
That does piss me off a bit too if I'm honest. Stick your hand in the fire and it's going to get fucking burnt. Ask for opinions and you'll get them. But there's a difference between that and being an utter cunt for the sake of it.agreed
....being an utter cunt can be fun sometimes too though. But I keep that kind of behaviour for one of my many other profiles.....Oops .. lol its ok theres quite a few even have convos with themselves through multiple profiles agreed which i find hilarious!! Talk about split personalities! Then message folk asking what you think about 1 of them ? Lol
Loopy loops
Nuttier than squirrel shite."
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"Jeebus you lot are early on the drink! where's mine???
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Assuming d*unkeness from the madness this has descended in to "
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"I'm going to add Glayva and anything whisky related to the "Disgusting Things" thread...Mega boak!
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That's you blown it, Doggy style! "
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"I'm going to add Glayva and anything whisky related to the "Disgusting Things" thread...Mega boak!
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That's you blown it, Doggy style!
I blew that one a long long time ago. "
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"I'm going to add Glayva and anything whisky related to the "Disgusting Things" thread...Mega boak!
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That's you blown it, Doggy style!
I blew that one a long long time ago.
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"Im one of those pesky jusgemental folk do I feel guilty nope not in the slightest.
the bit that cracks me up is. asking questions in a forum then going in a huff because some dont agree with you.
this nonsense of nothing nice to say then say nothing is absolute garbage
there should be a white knight and pretty princess part to the forums then those just after fluff would be happy
Not in a huff or just looking for fluff by any means.
Everyone is entitled to an opinion. I just think there's ways of phrasing things without coming off as a dick.
V x"
Well said. Keyboard warriors needing a hobby!! |
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"I'm going to add Glayva and anything whisky related to the "Disgusting Things" thread...Mega boak!
Glenfiddich... Talisker... Single malt. Mmmmm
That's you blown it, Doggy style!
I blew that one a long long time ago.
She played the fiddle in an Irish band... And was on the fiddle tgen her arse got canned. "
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"Ohhh yes there are a few judgemental people on here , whereas what there preferences are or whatever. People who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones, springs to mind.
In other ways we are all judging each other at all times, forums looks , body, sexual history etc. "
Wasn't that long ago you said because we only go to clubs for sex people like us give clubs a bad name. You really should proof read before you talk shite x |
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I like to think I'm not judgemental, yeha shocker but I am to a certain extent.
There are a few on the forums whom I don't like, why because they have just been down right nasty to me on the forums originally in first post directed to me so those, yeah, I judge and don't judge, as I don't want anything to do with them.
In general I usually give second and sometimes third chances and mistakes can happen and they do, even when I read others posts on here, so benefit of the doubt most certainly helps.
Judging can be done in many ways, people chat to you on fab and then when you meet in whatever capacity they are surprised what you look like, even if you sent them a picture. I've had people say, I didn't realise you were so tall even though it has it on my profile.
Whatever way we judge people I'm sure our view of that person would change if we met in any capacity, whether, "fuck he's a worse twat in person than he is in real life." "actually she's more shy in person than on fab". I had a meet a few months ago and the female was in the kitchen making another drink while I stood at the kitchen doorway chatting and she turned round to me and said "I'm a bit surprised, I thought you were the type to have your hands all over me and making moves all the time" Supposed she judged me wrong
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"Ohhh yes there are a few judgemental people on here , whereas what there preferences are or whatever. People who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones, springs to mind.
In other ways we are all judging each other at all times, forums looks , body, sexual history etc.
Wasn't that long ago you said because we only go to clubs for sex people like us give clubs a bad name. You really should proof read before you talk shite x"
I dont THINK i KNOW you are talking shite there my friend , i use clubs ALL the time and couldnt care less how people use clubs , i will now ask you to back up that statement by quoting the thread i supposedly said this and PROVE the shite you just posted. |
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"Ohhh yes there are a few judgemental people on here , whereas what there preferences are or whatever. People who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones, springs to mind.
In other ways we are all judging each other at all times, forums looks , body, sexual history etc.
Wasn't that long ago you said because we only go to clubs for sex people like us give clubs a bad name. You really should proof read before you talk shite x
I dont THINK i KNOW you are talking shite there my friend , i use clubs ALL the time and couldnt care less how people use clubs , i will now ask you to back up that statement by quoting the thread i supposedly said this and PROVE the shite you just posted. "
I'll see if I can find it. We had a full argument about it so it's definitely there somewhere x |
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"I like to think I'm not judgemental, yeha shocker but I am to a certain extent.
There are a few on the forums whom I don't like, why because they have just been down right nasty to me on the forums originally in first post directed to me so those, yeah, I judge and don't judge, as I don't want anything to do with them.
In general I usually give second and sometimes third chances and mistakes can happen and they do, even when I read others posts on here, so benefit of the doubt most certainly helps.
Judging can be done in many ways, people chat to you on fab and then when you meet in whatever capacity they are surprised what you look like, even if you sent them a picture. I've had people say, I didn't realise you were so tall even though it has it on my profile.
Whatever way we judge people I'm sure our view of that person would change if we met in any capacity, whether, "fuck he's a worse twat in person than he is in real life." "actually she's more shy in person than on fab". I had a meet a few months ago and the female was in the kitchen making another drink while I stood at the kitchen doorway chatting and she turned round to me and said "I'm a bit surprised, I thought you were the type to have your hands all over me and making moves all the time" Supposed she judged me wrong
I think we all do it, some less than others "
Semantics but I think there's a huge difference in have a perception of someone, having your preferences and judging others. Judging has a level of looking down on someone as if you're better for some reason.
I think on here we all have perceptions of the people we talk to. That's only normal
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"Ohhh yes there are a few judgemental people on here , whereas what there preferences are or whatever. People who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones, springs to mind.
In other ways we are all judging each other at all times, forums looks , body, sexual history etc.
Wasn't that long ago you said because we only go to clubs for sex people like us give clubs a bad name. You really should proof read before you talk shite x
I dont THINK i KNOW you are talking shite there my friend , i use clubs ALL the time and couldnt care less how people use clubs , i will now ask you to back up that statement by quoting the thread i supposedly said this and PROVE the shite you just posted.
I'll see if I can find it. We had a full argument about it so it's definitely there somewhere x"
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I judge people on here and I see nothing wrong with that.
When I get an offensive message calling me a bitch for turning someone down then you bet I judge them!
When I get endless cock pics in my inbox despite me asking for none, then I judge those people too.
While I would never judge someone on their kinks, sexual interests or anything else that’s outwith their control, you can bet your ass I’ll judge them on their behaviour. |
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"I like to think I'm not judgemental, yeha shocker but I am to a certain extent.
There are a few on the forums whom I don't like, why because they have just been down right nasty to me on the forums originally in first post directed to me so those, yeah, I judge and don't judge, as I don't want anything to do with them.
In general I usually give second and sometimes third chances and mistakes can happen and they do, even when I read others posts on here, so benefit of the doubt most certainly helps.
Judging can be done in many ways, people chat to you on fab and then when you meet in whatever capacity they are surprised what you look like, even if you sent them a picture. I've had people say, I didn't realise you were so tall even though it has it on my profile.
Whatever way we judge people I'm sure our view of that person would change if we met in any capacity, whether, "fuck he's a worse twat in person than he is in real life." "actually she's more shy in person than on fab". I had a meet a few months ago and the female was in the kitchen making another drink while I stood at the kitchen doorway chatting and she turned round to me and said "I'm a bit surprised, I thought you were the type to have your hands all over me and making moves all the time" Supposed she judged me wrong
I think we all do it, some less than others
Semantics but I think there's a huge difference in have a perception of someone, having your preferences and judging others. Judging has a level of looking down on someone as if you're better for some reason.
I think on here we all have perceptions of the people we talk to. That's only normal
V x"
FFS always best to proof read before posting 
Agree to a certain extent but I also judge other at a higher level than myself, the way the conduct themselves, hold themselves and the way they act if they follow that through then I suppose I was correct in thinking that way but and I mean a big but does it mean I act any differently towards them in person, hell no, m respectful and honest and if I get the same back then great, if not then I just leave
I genuinely don't judge myself better than anyone. The way I see it we are all the same as in the next 126 hours we all will be going to the toilet, sitting o the toilet pan and letting a big shite squeeze out of us
Soz, couldn't resist, it was getting all too serious for a moment there.
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"I judge people on here and I see nothing wrong with that.
When I get an offensive message calling me a bitch for turning someone down then you bet I judge them!
When I get endless cock pics in my inbox despite me asking for none, then I judge those people too.
While I would never judge someone on their kinks, sexual interests or anything else that’s outwith their control, you can bet your ass I’ll judge them on their behaviour. "
I personally think nothing wrong with you judging people on those points and even better as they gave you the heads up to avoid them
So they deserve a thanks lolllllll |
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"Ohhh yes there are a few judgemental people on here , whereas what there preferences are or whatever. People who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones, springs to mind.
In other ways we are all judging each other at all times, forums looks , body, sexual history etc.
Wasn't that long ago you said because we only go to clubs for sex people like us give clubs a bad name. You really should proof read before you talk shite x
I dont THINK i KNOW you are talking shite there my friend , i use clubs ALL the time and couldnt care less how people use clubs , i will now ask you to back up that statement by quoting the thread i supposedly said this and PROVE the shite you just posted.
I'll see if I can find it. We had a full argument about it so it's definitely there somewhere x
I wont hold my breath "
The thread is called Club Night best way
It was from your joint profile so it could possibly have been your Mrs that said it x |
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"I judge people on here and I see nothing wrong with that.
When I get an offensive message calling me a bitch for turning someone down then you bet I judge them!
When I get endless cock pics in my inbox despite me asking for none, then I judge those people too.
While I would never judge someone on their kinks, sexual interests or anything else that’s outwith their control, you can bet your ass I’ll judge them on their behaviour. "
That's different. Totally judge them for being a total arsehole!
I meant more in terms of kinks/interests etc that, to me, isn't right.
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"I like to think I'm not judgemental, yeha shocker but I am to a certain extent.
There are a few on the forums whom I don't like, why because they have just been down right nasty to me on the forums originally in first post directed to me so those, yeah, I judge and don't judge, as I don't want anything to do with them.
In general I usually give second and sometimes third chances and mistakes can happen and they do, even when I read others posts on here, so benefit of the doubt most certainly helps.
Judging can be done in many ways, people chat to you on fab and then when you meet in whatever capacity they are surprised what you look like, even if you sent them a picture. I've had people say, I didn't realise you were so tall even though it has it on my profile.
Whatever way we judge people I'm sure our view of that person would change if we met in any capacity, whether, "fuck he's a worse twat in person than he is in real life." "actually she's more shy in person than on fab". I had a meet a few months ago and the female was in the kitchen making another drink while I stood at the kitchen doorway chatting and she turned round to me and said "I'm a bit surprised, I thought you were the type to have your hands all over me and making moves all the time" Supposed she judged me wrong
I think we all do it, some less than others
Semantics but I think there's a huge difference in have a perception of someone, having your preferences and judging others. Judging has a level of looking down on someone as if you're better for some reason.
I think on here we all have perceptions of the people we talk to. That's only normal
V x
FFS always best to proof read before posting
Agree to a certain extent but I also judge other at a higher level than myself, the way the conduct themselves, hold themselves and the way they act if they follow that through then I suppose I was correct in thinking that way but and I mean a big but does it mean I act any differently towards them in person, hell no, m respectful and honest and if I get the same back then great, if not then I just leave
I genuinely don't judge myself better than anyone. The way I see it we are all the same as in the next 126 hours we all will be going to the toilet, sitting o the toilet pan and letting a big shite squeeze out of us
Soz, couldn't resist, it was getting all too serious for a moment there.
Needed some stability back "
Well some people get off on that kind of thing...
Wouldn't put people on too high a pedastal - it only hurts more when they inevitably fall I do expect a lot from others though. Being civil and respectful, having manners and taking others in to consideration seems like a lot to ask sometimes we all have bad days though.
Now I'm waffling while I ignore my kids so putting the phone down and activating mum mode again for a while
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"Ohhh yes there are a few judgemental people on here , whereas what there preferences are or whatever. People who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones, springs to mind.
In other ways we are all judging each other at all times, forums looks , body, sexual history etc.
Wasn't that long ago you said because we only go to clubs for sex people like us give clubs a bad name. You really should proof read before you talk shite x
I dont THINK i KNOW you are talking shite there my friend , i use clubs ALL the time and couldnt care less how people use clubs , i will now ask you to back up that statement by quoting the thread i supposedly said this and PROVE the shite you just posted.
I'll see if I can find it. We had a full argument about it so it's definitely there somewhere x
I wont hold my breath
The thread is called Club Night best way
It was from your joint profile so it could possibly have been your Mrs that said it x"
No that was certainly me that made those comments. Read the full thread and dont cherry pick the parts that suit. You changed your definition of how you use the club half way through the thread but only quoted me here on my comments on your opening comments on that thread. |
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"Ohhh yes there are a few judgemental people on here , whereas what there preferences are or whatever. People who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones, springs to mind.
In other ways we are all judging each other at all times, forums looks , body, sexual history etc.
Wasn't that long ago you said because we only go to clubs for sex people like us give clubs a bad name. You really should proof read before you talk shite x
I dont THINK i KNOW you are talking shite there my friend , i use clubs ALL the time and couldnt care less how people use clubs , i will now ask you to back up that statement by quoting the thread i supposedly said this and PROVE the shite you just posted.
I'll see if I can find it. We had a full argument about it so it's definitely there somewhere x
I wont hold my breath
The thread is called Club Night best way
It was from your joint profile so it could possibly have been your Mrs that said it x
No that was certainly me that made those comments. Read the full thread and dont cherry pick the parts that suit. You changed your definition of how you use the club half way through the thread but only quoted me here on my comments on your opening comments on that thread. "
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If someone's an out and out bellend on here I take the judgment there an absolout bellend all the time.
We all judge in all walks of life everyday.
Most days in here probably tho.
If someone's a tosser there a tosser.
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Its imprinted in our brainas a safety mechanism, to know if were in danger
However theres no need to project those self judgements onto other people for the sole purpose of making them feel bad, belittling, hurtful
We all should know how to be kind, respectful to others choices and opinions and for me being the bigger person is by not letting offensive comments ect get you down |
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over a year ago
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"Maybe it's just me and what I've come across on profiles and on the forums, but it seems like there's a fair number of judgemental jobbies about
I say this in comparison to the bdsm/fetish lifestyle where people are generally far more accepting of others and their particular interests even if they're at polar opposites with their own. They would just move on rather than post in a profile or forum about not being interested in people who would do xyz or outright being c*nts in a public forum even if they would have potential for other fun together.
Probably less jusgement here than in mainstream vanilla circles but more than I expected to find.
Just me in a bad mood or anyone else found this too?
V x"
The fet/BDSM crowd are very judgemental towards swingers. They don’t crossover well. It’s acceptable to tie someone up, flog them, whip them, blindfold them, etc but it’s not ok to have sex with someone else!
I’ve been in both worlds so I know what it’s like. People are judgemental in all walks of life regardless of kink/fetish/lifestyle choice.
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"Maybe it's just me and what I've come across on profiles and on the forums, but it seems like there's a fair number of judgemental jobbies about
I say this in comparison to the bdsm/fetish lifestyle where people are generally far more accepting of others and their particular interests even if they're at polar opposites with their own. They would just move on rather than post in a profile or forum about not being interested in people who would do xyz or outright being c*nts in a public forum even if they would have potential for other fun together.
Probably less jusgement here than in mainstream vanilla circles but more than I expected to find.
Just me in a bad mood or anyone else found this too?
V x
The fet/BDSM crowd are very judgemental towards swingers. They don’t crossover well. It’s acceptable to tie someone up, flog them, whip them, blindfold them, etc but it’s not ok to have sex with someone else!
I’ve been in both worlds so I know what it’s like. People are judgemental in all walks of life regardless of kink/fetish/lifestyle choice.
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I don't really get what bothers you about the judgemental jobbies? Let them get on with it. It would be boring if we were all the same. Plus moaning about people being judgemental, arent you judging them in comparison of your other friends. I would just think they have there opinion and you have yours. And that's fine in my book. And if any one is the the C*nt in the forums it's just a good way of knowing who to avoid. |
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"I don't really get what bothers you about the judgemental jobbies? Let them get on with it. It would be boring if we were all the same. Plus moaning about people being judgemental, arent you judging them in comparison of your other friends. I would just think they have there opinion and you have yours. And that's fine in my book. And if any one is the the C*nt in the forums it's just a good way of knowing who to avoid."
This is very true. That block button is very handy
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