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over a year ago
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When I was married we delved into the scene as a couple and after time my Mrs would play on her own as that fed my horn knowing who when and what she was doing and coming home to share the experience and be “claimed back”
Our sex life improved dramatically and we were basically always horny thinking of what had happened and what the next scenario would entail.
My only advice would be to have some mutually acceptable “rules”  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Although my husband and I both meet alone.
At no point would I class us as having an open relationship.
We are swingers.
Are they the same thing really or is there a difference between the two?."
to is there are yes.
Swingers as a cpl know everything about the other persons meets who where when ect.
An open relationship is when you can just go with whoever you want and no need to tell the other what's happening? Can be a date or a relationship?
Whereas swinging stays in the swinging community..ie...only play with other swingers.
If that makes sense?
Well...that's my opinion. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I couldn't do this again. Been there and done that with my partner when we joined fab five years ago. He was very self conscious in front of other people and it stopped people wanting to meet us again. I much prefer doing this by myself  x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm way too jealous to ever be in an open relationship. Its not an attractive trait but I can't help it  "
Snap....although I don't know if I would actually call that jealousy in this instance. We're just wired differently with regards to our sexual relationships and get no gratification at the thought of our partner fucking someone else. Others do cause they're wired differently again. Different strokes and all that.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm way too jealous to ever be in an open relationship. Its not an attractive trait but I can't help it
Snap....although I don't know if I would actually call that jealousy in this instance. We're just wired differently with regards to our sexual relationships and get no gratification at the thought of our partner fucking someone else. Others do cause they're wired differently again. Different strokes and all that...."
With my ex husband it was a fantasy that turned the both of us on but I know if it had ever happened in real life I would hate it.
There is a guy on here I met a couple of times but I won't play with him because I know he is type of guy I will get feelings for and behave like a twat   |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When I was married we delved into the scene as a couple and after time my Mrs would play on her own as that fed my horn knowing who when and what she was doing and coming home to share the experience and be “claimed back”
Our sex life improved dramatically and we were basically always horny thinking of what had happened and what the next scenario would entail.
My only advice would be to have some mutually acceptable “rules” "
This is how it works for us. We have rules and we stick by them 100%. It involves a lot of trust and the “claiming back” is always absolutely mind blowing. Everyone is different but this is a huge turn on for us both 
Leo x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When I was married we delved into the scene as a couple and after time my Mrs would play on her own as that fed my horn knowing who when and what she was doing and coming home to share the experience and be “claimed back”
Our sex life improved dramatically and we were basically always horny thinking of what had happened and what the next scenario would entail.
My only advice would be to have some mutually acceptable “rules”
This is how it works for us. We have rules and we stick by them 100%. It involves a lot of trust and the “claiming back” is always absolutely mind blowing. Everyone is different but this is a huge turn on for us both
Leo x"
Spot on. The wank bank material from those days will always be firmly in my mind |
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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago
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"Although my husband and I both meet alone.
At no point would I class us as having an open relationship.
We are swingers.
Are they the same thing really or is there a difference between the two?.to is there are yes.
Swingers as a cpl know everything about the other persons meets who where when ect.
An open relationship is when you can just go with whoever you want and no need to tell the other what's happening? Can be a date or a relationship?
Whereas swinging stays in the swinging community..ie...only play with other swingers.
If that makes sense?
Well...that's my opinion."
exactly this  |
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I class an open relationship as sex with others without emotion, poly as relationships and emotion with others. Swinging as sex with other swingers. We have dabbled in all three of those and now we are somewhere between swinging and open.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I play as a Bull for cuckold couples and there has to be rules when playing like this
I’ve seen couples break up when they thought they were strong
Playing together and apart with each other’s knowledge seems to work with cuck couples but when the lady wants to organise and play on her own without checking back can be dangerous if there is that hint of jealousy or lack of trust
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I would say we were swingers in an open relationship. As said earlier being in an open relationship means you can meet a sexual partner from any situation. She Devil mainly sticks to Fab to find her pray wheres as i am free to use other sites to assist me in finding meets. The reasons behind this is simply what we read about every day on Fab , it is harder gor guys to find play meets on Fab but women if they wanted could play every night if they wanted, its simply a numbers game.
RULES are a must though, never any cheating !! . We would never meet anyone without the others knowledge AND approval. Also for me if i stsrted chatting with a female from say Tinder or POF rules apply there too, ie i tell the other female im a swinger and in an open relationship so she can make an informed decision before either playing or walking away. Surprisingly about half the women i start talking to still go through with meeting regardless. Even better if i can introduce them to Fab world. Guys you can thank me later. |
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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago
village life, closest main town inverness |
"Although my husband and I both meet alone.
At no point would I class us as having an open relationship.
We are swingers.
Are they the same thing really or is there a difference between the two?.to is there are yes.
Swingers as a cpl know everything about the other persons meets who where when ect.
An open relationship is when you can just go with whoever you want and no need to tell the other what's happening? Can be a date or a relationship?
Whereas swinging stays in the swinging community..ie...only play with other swingers.
If that makes sense?
Well...that's my opinion."
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Yes that makes sense, sounds about right too  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would say we were swingers in an open relationship. As said earlier being in an open relationship means you can meet a sexual partner from any situation. She Devil mainly sticks to Fab to find her pray wheres as i am free to use other sites to assist me in finding meets. The reasons behind this is simply what we read about every day on Fab , it is harder gor guys to find play meets on Fab but women if they wanted could play every night if they wanted, its simply a numbers game.
RULES are a must though, never any cheating !! . We would never meet anyone without the others knowledge AND approval. Also for me if i stsrted chatting with a female from say Tinder or POF rules apply there too, ie i tell the other female im a swinger and in an open relationship so she can make an informed decision before either playing or walking away. Surprisingly about half the women i start talking to still go through with meeting regardless. Even better if i can introduce them to Fab world. Guys you can thank me later. "
You must encounter some really open minded women on pof...I'd say that's fairly atypical.
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"I would say we were swingers in an open relationship. As said earlier being in an open relationship means you can meet a sexual partner from any situation. She Devil mainly sticks to Fab to find her pray wheres as i am free to use other sites to assist me in finding meets. The reasons behind this is simply what we read about every day on Fab , it is harder gor guys to find play meets on Fab but women if they wanted could play every night if they wanted, its simply a numbers game.
RULES are a must though, never any cheating !! . We would never meet anyone without the others knowledge AND approval. Also for me if i stsrted chatting with a female from say Tinder or POF rules apply there too, ie i tell the other female im a swinger and in an open relationship so she can make an informed decision before either playing or walking away. Surprisingly about half the women i start talking to still go through with meeting regardless. Even better if i can introduce them to Fab world. Guys you can thank me later.
You must encounter some really open minded women on pof...I'd say that's fairly atypical.
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I encounter ALL sorts of women on other sites.
Atypical- unusual, untypical, non-typical, uncommon, unconventional, unorthodox, off-centre, anomalous, irregular, abnormal, aberrant, deviant, divergent;
Whats your point about being Atypical. ???
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By (user no longer on site)
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I encounter ALL sorts of women on other sites.
Atypical- unusual, untypical, non-typical, uncommon, unconventional, unorthodox, off-centre, anomalous, irregular, abnormal, aberrant, deviant, divergent;
Whats your point about being Atypical. ???
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No real point...I was just chipping in |
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I encounter ALL sorts of women on other sites.
Atypical- unusual, untypical, non-typical, uncommon, unconventional, unorthodox, off-centre, anomalous, irregular, abnormal, aberrant, deviant, divergent;
Whats your point about being Atypical. ???
No real point...I was just chipping in "
Oh righty, just theres a few different meanings to atypical which was why i included the dictionary definition, it was quite a blanket assessment of how we do things. Like mysoginy, or passive aggressive or all the other sayings certain people use but never being specific. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I encounter ALL sorts of women on other sites.
Atypical- unusual, untypical, non-typical, uncommon, unconventional, unorthodox, off-centre, anomalous, irregular, abnormal, aberrant, deviant, divergent;
Whats your point about being Atypical. ???
No real point...I was just chipping in
Oh righty, just theres a few different meanings to atypical which was why i included the dictionary definition, it was quite a blanket assessment of how we do things. Like mysoginy, or passive aggressive or all the other sayings certain people use but never being specific. "
I was more referring to the fact that it's an untypical phenomenon to encounter on what are perceived to be more traditional dating sites (women happy to meet attached guys)...although granted tinder is probably more of a hook up site for younger folk.
I don't know what misogyny has to do with any of this though
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would say we were swingers in an open relationship. As said earlier being in an open relationship means you can meet a sexual partner from any situation. She Devil mainly sticks to Fab to find her pray wheres as i am free to use other sites to assist me in finding meets. The reasons behind this is simply what we read about every day on Fab , it is harder gor guys to find play meets on Fab but women if they wanted could play every night if they wanted, its simply a numbers game.
RULES are a must though, never any cheating !! . We would never meet anyone without the others knowledge AND approval. Also for me if i stsrted chatting with a female from say Tinder or POF rules apply there too, ie i tell the other female im a swinger and in an open relationship so she can make an informed decision before either playing or walking away. Surprisingly about half the women i start talking to still go through with meeting regardless. Even better if i can introduce them to Fab world. Guys you can thank me later.
You must encounter some really open minded women on pof...I'd say that's fairly atypical.
I encounter ALL sorts of women on other sites.
Atypical- unusual, untypical, non-typical, uncommon, unconventional, unorthodox, off-centre, anomalous, irregular, abnormal, aberrant, deviant, divergent;
Whats your point about being Atypical. ???
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No pure durties? You're not looking in the right places.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We just started this too! Nat has set up her own fab page to meet couples, guys and girls. After 15 years together, it’s definetly something new and exciting. We love new and exciting, trying things we have done before.
I’m doing tinder for similar reasons highlighted earlier.
We have our agreed rules too! We are considering setting some solo sexual challenges. Seen a few people do that, looks like it could be fun.
But agree, it’s swingers meeting alone, not open relationship lol. But, I guess, it doesn’t really matter what you label it. It’s how it works that’s important xx |
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By *lasfastCouple
over a year ago
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"I would say we were swingers in an open relationship. As said earlier being in an open relationship means you can meet a sexual partner from any situation. She Devil mainly sticks to Fab to find her pray wheres as i am free to use other sites to assist me in finding meets. The reasons behind this is simply what we read about every day on Fab , it is harder gor guys to find play meets on Fab but women if they wanted could play every night if they wanted, its simply a numbers game.
RULES are a must though, never any cheating !! . We would never meet anyone without the others knowledge AND approval. Also for me if i stsrted chatting with a female from say Tinder or POF rules apply there too, ie i tell the other female im a swinger and in an open relationship so she can make an informed decision before either playing or walking away. Surprisingly about half the women i start talking to still go through with meeting regardless. Even better if i can introduce them to Fab world. Guys you can thank me later. "
This is exactly the same situation with us... like exactly! |
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"I would say we were swingers in an open relationship. As said earlier being in an open relationship means you can meet a sexual partner from any situation. She Devil mainly sticks to Fab to find her pray wheres as i am free to use other sites to assist me in finding meets. The reasons behind this is simply what we read about every day on Fab , it is harder gor guys to find play meets on Fab but women if they wanted could play every night if they wanted, its simply a numbers game.
RULES are a must though, never any cheating !! . We would never meet anyone without the others knowledge AND approval. Also for me if i stsrted chatting with a female from say Tinder or POF rules apply there too, ie i tell the other female im a swinger and in an open relationship so she can make an informed decision before either playing or walking away. Surprisingly about half the women i start talking to still go through with meeting regardless. Even better if i can introduce them to Fab world. Guys you can thank me later.
This is exactly the same situation with us... like exactly!"
And by saying its exactly the same for you guys im guessing the male half still gets plenty of fun from other sites even after saying he is married. Lots of women on these other sites are just as horny as females on Fab, only difference is they have never heard of Fab.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Although my husband and I both meet alone.
At no point would I class us as having an open relationship.
We are swingers.
Are they the same thing really or is there a difference between the two?."
I was wondering the same.... |
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"Although my husband and I both meet alone.
At no point would I class us as having an open relationship.
We are swingers.
Are they the same thing really or is there a difference between the two?.
I was wondering the same...."
Personally i think if you swing separate your in an open relationship as where you first met your pottential playmate is irrelevant especially if you both have single profiles . If you only play as a couple thats swinging . My own views on it only. X |
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I've always considered open relationships to mean the possibility to date others and have the romantic involvement as well as sex. The separate meet/closed door swinging is just sex.
Everyone is different though. Main thing is what is agreed upon with the couple and that they stick to the rules they make. Same as with any of this with a couple
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Although my husband and I both meet alone.
At no point would I class us as having an open relationship.
We are swingers.
Are they the same thing really or is there a difference between the two?.to is there are yes.
Swingers as a cpl know everything about the other persons meets who where when ect.
An open relationship is when you can just go with whoever you want and no need to tell the other what's happening? Can be a date or a relationship?
Whereas swinging stays in the swinging community..ie...only play with other swingers.
If that makes sense?
Well...that's my opinion."
Aren't these both more or less the same thing but just different rules depending on the couple involved? Surely there are plenty of couples in open relationships who tell each other everything regarding their other partners.
Or am I completely off the mark. |
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"I've always considered open relationships to mean the possibility to date others and have the romantic involvement as well as sex. The separate meet/closed door swinging is just sex.
Everyone is different though. Main thing is what is agreed upon with the couple and that they stick to the rules they make. Same as with any of this with a couple
V"
Yes its a fine line of differences. I bet a lot of couples on Fab with separate profiles like to get to the person maybe have a drink or whatever before a play meet at a later time, that sounds a bit like a date to me . I can only go on our experience and would not dream of saying this is how it is for other Fab couples with single profiles and separate meets. |
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I wouldn’t cope in an open relationship with a partner cause I would get jealous but I used to love being the single fem joining a married couple or couple who have been together for years
I didn’t feel the same with FBs or meeting a husband separately from his wife who was allowed to play, Iv tried it all and realised quickly what felt right and what didn’t for me so I suppose everyone is very different x |
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"I wouldn’t cope in an open relationship with a partner cause I would get jealous but I used to love being the single fem joining a married couple or couple who have been together for years
I didn’t feel the same with FBs or meeting a husband separately from his wife who was allowed to play, Iv tried it all and realised quickly what felt right and what didn’t for me so I suppose everyone is very different x"
Is this a bit like a reverse cuckold situation ?, your profile says your straight so you must have just played with the hubby. And wifey also just playing with him, im curious , what was the turn on for you do you think ? Maybe having the power to make the mr fuck you in front of wifey or what. Genuinely just curious as to what you liked about the situation. |
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"I've always considered open relationships to mean the possibility to date others and have the romantic involvement as well as sex. The separate meet/closed door swinging is just sex.
Everyone is different though. Main thing is what is agreed upon with the couple and that they stick to the rules they make. Same as with any of this with a couple
V
Yes its a fine line of differences. I bet a lot of couples on Fab with separate profiles like to get to the person maybe have a drink or whatever before a play meet at a later time, that sounds a bit like a date to me . I can only go on our experience and would not dream of saying this is how it is for other Fab couples with single profiles and separate meets. "
nope for me it's purely sex.
Yes I do a social meet beforehand after alot of chatting on here to see if there's a spark.once the social drink establishes we fancy each other then it's time to arrange a play meet.
Dates are for my husband and me.have never went to lunch or dinner and never would with anyone from fab. |
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"nope for me it's purely sex.
Yes I do a social meet beforehand after alot of chatting on here to see if there's a spark.once the social drink establishes we fancy each other then it's time to arrange a play meet.
Dates are for my husband and me.have never went to lunch or dinner and never would with anyone from fab."
I have to disagree slightly goodie, if it was just about the sex you wouldnt need to do a lot of chatting then drinks and establish a spark is there before playing . In my opinion it would be , brief chat ,tick, meet, do i fancy him , tick . Have sex , tick .move on .
Your build up tells me its more than just sex for you. You enjoy the build up , chat, drinks meet then the sex. In my opinion. |
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"nope for me it's purely sex.
Yes I do a social meet beforehand after alot of chatting on here to see if there's a spark.once the social drink establishes we fancy each other then it's time to arrange a play meet.
Dates are for my husband and me.have never went to lunch or dinner and never would with anyone from fab.
I have to disagree slightly goodie, if it was just about the sex you wouldnt need to do a lot of chatting then drinks and establish a spark is there before playing . In my opinion it would be , brief chat ,tick, meet, do i fancy him , tick . Have sex , tick .move on .
Your build up tells me its more than just sex for you. You enjoy the build up , chat, drinks meet then the sex. In my opinion. "
I need the mental/intellectual spark too to be turned on. Looks alone don't do it. So a bit of chat/social first is always required. Doesn't make it a date though.
V x |
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By *pinCouple
over a year ago
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"nope for me it's purely sex.
Yes I do a social meet beforehand after alot of chatting on here to see if there's a spark.once the social drink establishes we fancy each other then it's time to arrange a play meet.
Dates are for my husband and me.have never went to lunch or dinner and never would with anyone from fab.
I have to disagree slightly goodie, if it was just about the sex you wouldnt need to do a lot of chatting then drinks and establish a spark is there before playing . In my opinion it would be , brief chat ,tick, meet, do i fancy him , tick . Have sex , tick .move on .
Your build up tells me its more than just sex for you. You enjoy the build up , chat, drinks meet then the sex. In my opinion.
I need the mental/intellectual spark too to be turned on. Looks alone don't do it. So a bit of chat/social first is always required. Doesn't make it a date though.
V x"
If you change your name to wade and Vanessa. I’d expect year round sex holiday photos.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"nope for me it's purely sex.
Yes I do a social meet beforehand after alot of chatting on here to see if there's a spark.once the social drink establishes we fancy each other then it's time to arrange a play meet.
Dates are for my husband and me.have never went to lunch or dinner and never would with anyone from fab.
I have to disagree slightly goodie, if it was just about the sex you wouldnt need to do a lot of chatting then drinks and establish a spark is there before playing . In my opinion it would be , brief chat ,tick, meet, do i fancy him , tick . Have sex , tick .move on .
Your build up tells me its more than just sex for you. You enjoy the build up , chat, drinks meet then the sex. In my opinion. "
disagree it is just sex the social is a safety thing my husband insists on.i need to get a impression of the guy ..I don't want my 1st time meeting someone to have sex with alone to be awkward and nervous.as you well know anyone can say anything behind a keyboard and what they come across online might not be what they are in real life?
When myself n hubby meet as a cpl it's chat on here then meet for sex but not a chance I'm doing that alone. |
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"nope for me it's purely sex.
Yes I do a social meet beforehand after alot of chatting on here to see if there's a spark.once the social drink establishes we fancy each other then it's time to arrange a play meet.
Dates are for my husband and me.have never went to lunch or dinner and never would with anyone from fab.
I have to disagree slightly goodie, if it was just about the sex you wouldnt need to do a lot of chatting then drinks and establish a spark is there before playing . In my opinion it would be , brief chat ,tick, meet, do i fancy him , tick . Have sex , tick .move on .
Your build up tells me its more than just sex for you. You enjoy the build up , chat, drinks meet then the sex. In my opinion. disagree it is just sex the social is a safety thing my husband insists on.i need to get a impression of the guy ..I don't want my 1st time meeting someone to have sex with alone to be awkward and nervous.as you well know anyone can say anything behind a keyboard and what they come across online might not be what they are in real life?
When myself n hubby meet as a cpl it's chat on here then meet for sex but not a chance I'm doing that alone."
Yeah ok when you explain it that way i actually can see it as maybe not being seen as a date as such .
I was looking from a vanilla view point , ie if i said to a mate i was meeting someone for a drink , that would be taken as a date. |
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