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over a year ago
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"Culprit? 
You mean the father of your future grandchild?  "
Congratulations grandad
Btw - Just = Accept it !!!
if your daughter really loves this guy then you might just have to accept it and be happy for them and your new grandkid..  |
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"Has anyone got advice for someone who cannot stand his pregnant daughter's boyfriend and culprit?"
yes grin and bear it whats happend has happend there is a child to think of now so concentrate on that .... it was your daughters choice her life so let them deal wih it and good luck future grandad lol xxxx |
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over a year ago
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i think you should try and accept the guy ( as hard as it may be) if you try and fight her on this you will lose , its not worth losing your daughter and grandchild over and at the end of the day do any of us think our kid`s partners are good enough for our "babies"
good luck
Donna xx |
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Thnk u have to accept it at the mo I have a similar situation with ma daughter thnk god she's not pregrs but a cant stand her boyfriend but have to grin n bare it as am a firm believer n wat will b |
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From personal experirence, you gotta let them get on with it and support your daughter and the grandchild. ok so "he" might be a neandertal ned and a waste of space etc., but if yer daughter wants to make a go of it, support her.
you can only offer advice/guidance when asked; don't preach to them.
And if the relationship falls apart - again be there for you daughter and her kid.
having lost ours for 10 years over such teenage indescretions, its not worth the heartache of looking through Victorian rose tinted specs. |
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being a granpa is just fabby....ya don't have to like the guy, but as long as he makes your daughter happy then grin, bear it and enjoy all the time you have with them  |
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I am in exactly that situation. Grin and bear it in front of them. She will learn in her own time if he is a waste of space no good lout, or you will learn that he isnt actaully too bad and she could have done alot worse. Either way, never give her any ammunition - as it can and will be used against you. |
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my yorkshire miner father struggled to accept that i had a scottish boyfriend and we were only 15..
He said "we would never last"..
He has now missed out on 20 years of my life and two grandchildren..
He now wants to be a part of my life due to facebook..
he now knows that xmas cards and the odd photo - was all his fooking doing...
kids eh |
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over a year ago
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One viral image thats circulating seems to show that hitmen advertise on the message boards of local tescos?
Only joking.
Accept it. Don't want to risk alienating your daughter just because you don't like her guy, could risk not seeing your grandchild much instead of being a big part of his/her life. |
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Befriend him
Seriously cause if ya try and get in the way its you who will loose big time
If you actually accept him and welcome him and he is as bigger waste of space as you seem to think he is then your daughter will eventually see it herself
If you fight against it you will push them all the more together and you will be the loser
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Think most of the advice here is sound stuff . been on the "culprit" side and its not fun. One of my exes who i have two kids with her parents hated me with a passion and even though her brother was older i was a lot more built back then , so they left me be but made there hatred known in other weird ways .They never once took the time to get to know me, ok i wasn't home much at the time but i loved their daughter and sent every penny i could back home and now have two of my own . Time flies and when they start seeing folk i wont be judgemental of anyone . If it makes them happy then fair enough , i'll be there for them when and if things go wrong ( Which i hope i never have to be but have a feeling i will ). Apart from that there isn't much you can do . Believe me friend fighting will only cause heartache on all sides .I know its very personal , but have you tried to get to know the lad ? Find out as much as you can dont judge him purely on the circumstances . just my 2 pence worth , whatever happens best of luck with everything . |
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Can empathise totally with you, son's girlfriend/partner is a complete screwball, her whole family are headcases and I'm being serious, never done a day's work in their lives etc etc! The only good thing to come out of it is we have a cracking wee grandson!
But the bottom line is you can't live their life for them, you've just got to let them get on with it, and be there to pick up the pieces if and when necessary! |
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Well don't do what someone I know did, however tempting, and that was to round up a posse of 'pals' and persuade him it's in his best interests to disappear off the scene.
Result- one young girl unable to take care of herself within a mental family, on depression medication like her mental mother, with a 1 year old and pregnant again at newly 18 when 'dad' had a sneaky return, and 'dad' now nowhere to be seen. His return will mean some serious breakage of bones. How did that help?
Feel for you but as everyone says, there's a bigger picture here. Focus on the positive and the negatives will recede.xxx
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