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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago
Falkirk |
"Whats ghosting ?
People just stop talking to you as if they’ve disappeared of the face of the eart.....
I thought that was called ‘normal’ "
I thought you were calling ME normal then 
Phew. 
It is just part of life I’m afraid. People don’t know how to say no for fear of upsetting someone. Also, when people say no they’ve often been harassed afterwards for saying no.
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"Whats ghosting ?
People just stop talking to you as if they’ve disappeared of the face of the eart.....
I thought that was called ‘normal’
I thought you were calling ME normal then
Phew.
It is just part of life I’m afraid. People don’t know how to say no for fear of upsetting someone. Also, when people say no they’ve often been harassed afterwards for saying no.
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Never refer to you as normal Andy, we all know you’re special |
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By *eelouWoman
over a year ago
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"The most annoying thing on here!
A simple "after chatting I'm no longer interested" or even just block someone if you really want. "
Yip I find it really annoying and pretty childish. I've been ghosted by a fb from here. A simple "I'm no longer interested" would have been nice. Just need to get on with it I guess but it's too easy to act like an arse these days with so much technology. |
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"I'm gonna add that I think there's quite a difference between being ghosted by someone you actually know, as opposed to a chat on here just fizzling out"
Has that happened to you in the past with someone you know ? |
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over a year ago
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"I'm gonna add that I think there's quite a difference between being ghosted by someone you actually know, as opposed to a chat on here just fizzling out
Has that happened to you in the past with someone you know ?"
Which one? |
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"I'm gonna add that I think there's quite a difference between being ghosted by someone you actually know, as opposed to a chat on here just fizzling out
Has that happened to you in the past with someone you know ?
Which one?"
Ghosted by someone you knew. |
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over a year ago
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"I'm gonna add that I think there's quite a difference between being ghosted by someone you actually know, as opposed to a chat on here just fizzling out
Has that happened to you in the past with someone you know ?
Which one?
Ghosted by someone you knew."
Yes
It wasn't fab related |
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"I'm gonna add that I think there's quite a difference between being ghosted by someone you actually know, as opposed to a chat on here just fizzling out
Has that happened to you in the past with someone you know ?
Which one?
Ghosted by someone you knew.
Yes
It wasn't fab related"
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over a year ago
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"I'm gonna add that I think there's quite a difference between being ghosted by someone you actually know, as opposed to a chat on here just fizzling out
Has that happened to you in the past with someone you know ?
Which one?
Ghosted by someone you knew.
Yes
It wasn't fab related
Do you think that says something about the person that was ghosted, or just the person who dissapears is to blame. ?"
I gave my view in my first post |
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"I'm gonna add that I think there's quite a difference between being ghosted by someone you actually know, as opposed to a chat on here just fizzling out
Has that happened to you in the past with someone you know ?
Which one?
Ghosted by someone you knew.
Yes
It wasn't fab related
Do you think that says something about the person that was ghosted, or just the person who dissapears is to blame. ?
I gave my view in my first post"
So lets say someone found out that the person they had been chatting to was really a nasty person and not worth another second of there time so stopped messaging, that would surely in your eyes not constitute a rude person.
Thats probably the "depending on the context" part of your original opinion i suppose.  |
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"I'm gonna add that I think there's quite a difference between being ghosted by someone you actually know, as opposed to a chat on here just fizzling out
Has that happened to you in the past with someone you know ?
Which one?
Ghosted by someone you knew.
Yes
It wasn't fab related
Do you think that says something about the person that was ghosted, or just the person who dissapears is to blame. ?
I gave my view in my first post
So lets say someone found out that the person they had been chatting to was really a nasty person and not worth another second of there time so stopped messaging, that would surely in your eyes not constitute a rude person.
Thats probably the "depending on the context" part of your original opinion i suppose. "
Let me clear up your apparent confusion. I said I had been ghosted in real life.
I obviously won't be sharing the details.
I think it's something that those with poor communication skills do.
You seem to be talking about something quite different |
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"I'm gonna add that I think there's quite a difference between being ghosted by someone you actually know, as opposed to a chat on here just fizzling out
Has that happened to you in the past with someone you know ?
Which one?
Ghosted by someone you knew.
Yes
It wasn't fab related
Do you think that says something about the person that was ghosted, or just the person who dissapears is to blame. ?
I gave my view in my first post
So lets say someone found out that the person they had been chatting to was really a nasty person and not worth another second of there time so stopped messaging, that would surely in your eyes not constitute a rude person.
Thats probably the "depending on the context" part of your original opinion i suppose.
Let me clear up your apparent confusion. I said I had been ghosted in real life.
I obviously won't be sharing the details.
I think it's something that those with poor communication skills do.
You seem to be talking about something quite different "
Sry was just offering a hypothetical situation where ghosting may not be rude or due to a lack of communication skills.
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"I'm gonna add that I think there's quite a difference between being ghosted by someone you actually know, as opposed to a chat on here just fizzling out
Has that happened to you in the past with someone you know ?
Which one?
Ghosted by someone you knew.
Yes
It wasn't fab related
Do you think that says something about the person that was ghosted, or just the person who dissapears is to blame. ?
I gave my view in my first post
So lets say someone found out that the person they had been chatting to was really a nasty person and not worth another second of there time so stopped messaging, that would surely in your eyes not constitute a rude person.
Thats probably the "depending on the context" part of your original opinion i suppose.
Let me clear up your apparent confusion. I said I had been ghosted in real life.
I obviously won't be sharing the details.
I think it's something that those with poor communication skills do.
You seem to be talking about something quite different
Sry was just offering a hypothetical situation where ghosting may not be rude or due to a lack of communication skills.
Moving on "
Did you check for the definition of what ghosting is?
It might help you understand it a bit better, as you hadn't heard of it previously |
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"I'm gonna add that I think there's quite a difference between being ghosted by someone you actually know, as opposed to a chat on here just fizzling out
Has that happened to you in the past with someone you know ?
Which one?
Ghosted by someone you knew.
Yes
It wasn't fab related
Do you think that says something about the person that was ghosted, or just the person who dissapears is to blame. ?
I gave my view in my first post
So lets say someone found out that the person they had been chatting to was really a nasty person and not worth another second of there time so stopped messaging, that would surely in your eyes not constitute a rude person.
Thats probably the "depending on the context" part of your original opinion i suppose.
Let me clear up your apparent confusion. I said I had been ghosted in real life.
I obviously won't be sharing the details.
I think it's something that those with poor communication skills do.
You seem to be talking about something quite different
Sry was just offering a hypothetical situation where ghosting may not be rude or due to a lack of communication skills.
Moving on
Did you check for the definition of what ghosting is?
It might help you understand it a bit better, as you hadn't heard of it previously "
It was explaned immediately after i asked. Thx. Not my fault ive never experienced it or heard of it before. Every day a learning day for me. Like your term yesterday, never experienced it or heard of it and proud of that fact.  |
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It was explaned immediately after i asked. Thx. Not my fault ive never experienced it or heard of it before. Every day a learning day for me. Like your term yesterday, never experienced it or heard of it and proud of that fact. "
The problem with very basic definitions is they don't really enable a proper understanding of something. You should read a bit more around things...it can be quite enlightening |
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It was explaned immediately after i asked. Thx. Not my fault ive never experienced it or heard of it before. Every day a learning day for me. Like your term yesterday, never experienced it or heard of it and proud of that fact.
The problem with very basic definitions is they don't really enable a proper understanding of something. You should read a bit more around things...it can be quite enlightening "
Yet you chose to insult me yesterday with one of those very basic words with a very basic definition in the DICTIONARY. Maybe you should be more specific with any accusations or wind ups you attempt then.  |
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over a year ago
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It was explaned immediately after i asked. Thx. Not my fault ive never experienced it or heard of it before. Every day a learning day for me. Like your term yesterday, never experienced it or heard of it and proud of that fact.
The problem with very basic definitions is they don't really enable a proper understanding of something. You should read a bit more around things...it can be quite enlightening
Yet you chose to insult me yesterday with one of those very basic words with a very basic definition in the DICTIONARY. Maybe you should be more specific with any accusations or wind ups you attempt then. "
You seem very wound up.
I can't accept responsibility for the poor research of others. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"
It was explaned immediately after i asked. Thx. Not my fault ive never experienced it or heard of it before. Every day a learning day for me. Like your term yesterday, never experienced it or heard of it and proud of that fact.
The problem with very basic definitions is they don't really enable a proper understanding of something. You should read a bit more around things...it can be quite enlightening
Yet you chose to insult me yesterday with one of those very basic words with a very basic definition in the DICTIONARY. Maybe you should be more specific with any accusations or wind ups you attempt then. "
Correct me if I’m wrong, but didn’t you admit the other night that you had to google what misogynistic meant?
I think that admission speaks for itself really |
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It was explaned immediately after i asked. Thx. Not my fault ive never experienced it or heard of it before. Every day a learning day for me. Like your term yesterday, never experienced it or heard of it and proud of that fact.
The problem with very basic definitions is they don't really enable a proper understanding of something. You should read a bit more around things...it can be quite enlightening
Yet you chose to insult me yesterday with one of those very basic words with a very basic definition in the DICTIONARY. Maybe you should be more specific with any accusations or wind ups you attempt then.
Correct me if I’m wrong, but didn’t you admit the other night that you had to google what misogynistic meant?
I think that admission speaks for itself really"
Yes i did. Happily say i had never heard of it and glad too, if im honest. |
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over a year ago
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It was explaned immediately after i asked. Thx. Not my fault ive never experienced it or heard of it before. Every day a learning day for me. Like your term yesterday, never experienced it or heard of it and proud of that fact.
The problem with very basic definitions is they don't really enable a proper understanding of something. You should read a bit more around things...it can be quite enlightening
Yet you chose to insult me yesterday with one of those very basic words with a very basic definition in the DICTIONARY. Maybe you should be more specific with any accusations or wind ups you attempt then. "
Totally highjacking the OP's post to pick up on a previous argument, same old faces, can't you see this is totally destroying the Scottish forum? |
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It was explaned immediately after i asked. Thx. Not my fault ive never experienced it or heard of it before. Every day a learning day for me. Like your term yesterday, never experienced it or heard of it and proud of that fact.
The problem with very basic definitions is they don't really enable a proper understanding of something. You should read a bit more around things...it can be quite enlightening
Yet you chose to insult me yesterday with one of those very basic words with a very basic definition in the DICTIONARY. Maybe you should be more specific with any accusations or wind ups you attempt then.
Totally highjacking the OP's post to pick up on a previous argument, same old faces, can't you see this is totally destroying the Scottish forum? "
I'm surprised we still have the Scottish forum for this and other reasons x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The most annoying thing on here!
A simple "after chatting I'm no longer interested" or even just block someone if you really want. "
I don't know actually, think I'd rather someone just slipped off quietly than be blocked out of the blue or told I liked you until you talked ha! |
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over a year ago
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A wee bit of communication about why the sudden lack of interaction would be good
Others usually tell me its only a form of social media and shouldnt be taken seriously |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Actually think I may be guilty of this 
Rather than get the why nots? I just let it fizzle out
Unless someone asks me outright that is.
Sorry "
So that's what happened the other night. I thought you had been kid napped.   |
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Sometimes disappearing without comment is easy to figure out.
If you send 3 or 4 messages then a pic and you don't hear back after the pic then it means you've come across a shallow person who clearly doesn't like your face/body and theyve legged it.
The ones I don't get are the ones you chat to seemingly quite happily with then after an innocuous message like "hope you had a good day at work, do you fancy chatting some more" and the. It goes quiet. You then see them online later on and ask how they are getting on, you see your message is read but no reply.
You then start thinking, is it worth another message or are you just being a pest now?
If the other party would just say "sorry, not interested anymore" or "hey, busy right now but can chat at the weekend" then surely that would be a far more civil way to interact with a fellow human being?
Also. What's with all the hostility on the thread now? Can't we all just be friends (with or without benefits) |
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By *argaidMan
over a year ago
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"...think I'd rather someone just slipped off quietly than be blocked out of the blue or told I liked you until you talked ha!"
I can see the temptation in that, but to have folk just stop replying is, at best, confusing. Leaves you wondering if it was something you said that was somehow offensive. Especially with the sudden block.
There you are, happily chatting away then the next time you log on you're blocked. Total wtf moment. If someone you were friendly with in real life said something you didn't like you'd say something about it and any misunderstanding would be cleared up. On here it just seems to be overreaction city. |
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By *tew008Man
over a year ago
edinburgh |
"...think I'd rather someone just slipped off quietly than be blocked out of the blue or told I liked you until you talked ha!
I can see the temptation in that, but to have folk just stop replying is, at best, confusing. Leaves you wondering if it was something you said that was somehow offensive. Especially with the sudden block.
There you are, happily chatting away then the next time you log on you're blocked. Total wtf moment. If someone you were friendly with in real life said something you didn't like you'd say something about it and any misunderstanding would be cleared up. On here it just seems to be overreaction city."
Normally when I send a pic so I know why lol. |
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"Sometimes disappearing without comment is easy to figure out.
If you send 3 or 4 messages then a pic and you don't hear back after the pic then it means you've come across a shallow person who clearly doesn't like your face/body and theyve legged it.
The ones I don't get are the ones you chat to seemingly quite happily with then after an innocuous message like "hope you had a good day at work, do you fancy chatting some more" and the. It goes quiet. You then see them online later on and ask how they are getting on, you see your message is read but no reply.
You then start thinking, is it worth another message or are you just being a pest now?
If the other party would just say "sorry, not interested anymore" or "hey, busy right now but can chat at the weekend" then surely that would be a far more civil way to interact with a fellow human being?
Also. What's with all the hostility on the thread now? Can't we all just be friends (with or without benefits) "
sorry are you saying that someone that's not attracted to you is shallow? |
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By *tew008Man
over a year ago
edinburgh |
"Sometimes disappearing without comment is easy to figure out.
If you send 3 or 4 messages then a pic and you don't hear back after the pic then it means you've come across a shallow person who clearly doesn't like your face/body and theyve legged it.
The ones I don't get are the ones you chat to seemingly quite happily with then after an innocuous message like "hope you had a good day at work, do you fancy chatting some more" and the. It goes quiet. You then see them online later on and ask how they are getting on, you see your message is read but no reply.
You then start thinking, is it worth another message or are you just being a pest now?
If the other party would just say "sorry, not interested anymore" or "hey, busy right now but can chat at the weekend" then surely that would be a far more civil way to interact with a fellow human being?
Also. What's with all the hostility on the thread now? Can't we all just be friends (with or without benefits) sorry are you saying that someone that's not attracted to you is shallow?"
You’d appear more shallow ghosting, than if you just said. |
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Call me shallow all you like as if i dont fancy someone sure as hell I'm not going to have sex with them.
What I said was that sometimes it easier than to get the but why not reply to your no thank you reply or if you just meet for coffee you will like me
Or i look way younger or better looking in the flesh.
The list goes on.
Yeah maybe ghosting isn't the best way but sometimes it's simpler
I hate blocking for the sake of it
So if your ghosted...males and females ..just take it as a their not interested. |
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"Sometimes disappearing without comment is easy to figure out.
If you send 3 or 4 messages then a pic and you don't hear back after the pic then it means you've come across a shallow person who clearly doesn't like your face/body and theyve legged it.
The ones I don't get are the ones you chat to seemingly quite happily with then after an innocuous message like "hope you had a good day at work, do you fancy chatting some more" and the. It goes quiet. You then see them online later on and ask how they are getting on, you see your message is read but no reply.
You then start thinking, is it worth another message or are you just being a pest now?
If the other party would just say "sorry, not interested anymore" or "hey, busy right now but can chat at the weekend" then surely that would be a far more civil way to interact with a fellow human being?
Also. What's with all the hostility on the thread now? Can't we all just be friends (with or without benefits) sorry are you saying that someone that's not attracted to you is shallow?
You’d appear more shallow ghosting, than if you just said."
Personally I'd agree with you but it's quite common to hear from, especially females, who have said thanks but no thank politely and then got abuse. So it's understandable that quite a lot might just eventually stop chatting and leave the contacting.
No one should take it personal just means your not for them or someone more interesting caught their eye or personal shit got in the way. It's just the way of fab
We should all just deal with it and get on. |
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By *tew008Man
over a year ago
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"Call me shallow all you like as if i dont fancy someone sure as hell I'm not going to have sex with them.
What I said was that sometimes it easier than to get the but why not reply to your no thank you reply or if you just meet for coffee you will like me
Or i look way younger or better looking in the flesh.
The list goes on.
Yeah maybe ghosting isn't the best way but sometimes it's simpler
I hate blocking for the sake of it
So if your ghosted...males and females ..just take it as a their not interested."
Yup, I just hate not knowing. Even if you told me I’m the ugliest fuck, I’d be like ok fair do’s. |
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"Call me shallow all you like as if i dont fancy someone sure as hell I'm not going to have sex with them.
What I said was that sometimes it easier than to get the but why not reply to your no thank you reply or if you just meet for coffee you will like me
Or i look way younger or better looking in the flesh.
The list goes on.
Yeah maybe ghosting isn't the best way but sometimes it's simpler
I hate blocking for the sake of it
So if your ghosted...males and females ..just take it as a their not interested.
Yup, I just hate not knowing. Even if you told me I’m the ugliest fuck, I’d be like ok fair do’s. "
Lol I'm sure your not but as I said take a no reply as a not interested and don't give it another thought.
Way more things in life to be stressing over lol |
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over a year ago
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"Call me shallow all you like as if i dont fancy someone sure as hell I'm not going to have sex with them.
What I said was that sometimes it easier than to get the but why not reply to your no thank you reply or if you just meet for coffee you will like me
Or i look way younger or better looking in the flesh.
The list goes on.
Yeah maybe ghosting isn't the best way but sometimes it's simpler
I hate blocking for the sake of it
So if your ghosted...males and females ..just take it as a their not interested.
Yup, I just hate not knowing. Even if you told me I’m the ugliest fuck, I’d be like ok fair do’s. Lol I'm sure your not but as I said take a no reply as a not interested and don't give it another thought.
Way more things in life to be stressing over lol"
Haha yea but I’m off that nature. Have to know, have to learn. Not always like that if I’m preoccupied right enough but if I’ve time I’ll definitely ponder over it. |
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"Call me shallow all you like as if i dont fancy someone sure as hell I'm not going to have sex with them.
What I said was that sometimes it easier than to get the but why not reply to your no thank you reply or if you just meet for coffee you will like me
Or i look way younger or better looking in the flesh.
The list goes on.
Yeah maybe ghosting isn't the best way but sometimes it's simpler
I hate blocking for the sake of it
So if your ghosted...males and females ..just take it as a their not interested.
Yup, I just hate not knowing. Even if you told me I’m the ugliest fuck, I’d be like ok fair do’s. Lol I'm sure your not but as I said take a no reply as a not interested and don't give it another thought.
Way more things in life to be stressing over lol"
If the message is fancy a fuck or some other stupid message, ignoring is perfectly acceptable, but if i guy gas sent a respectful message and clearly read your profile and messaged accordingly then a simple 'sry your not my type' is only manners. Not replying to a thought out message is just rude imo. If however the guy replys with why am i not your type or any other plz explain type message THEN ignoring, blocking or ghosting or telling him to feck off is perfectly acceptable. Imo. Xx |
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I wouldn't say that ghosting devil
Thats just not replying to a message
Ghosting to me is engaging in a conversation back and forth then suddenly going AWOL or blocking them.
Suppose everyone's take on ghosting is different. |
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"Call me shallow all you like as if i dont fancy someone sure as hell I'm not going to have sex with them.
What I said was that sometimes it easier than to get the but why not reply to your no thank you reply or if you just meet for coffee you will like me
Or i look way younger or better looking in the flesh.
The list goes on.
Yeah maybe ghosting isn't the best way but sometimes it's simpler
I hate blocking for the sake of it
So if your ghosted...males and females ..just take it as a their not interested.
Yup, I just hate not knowing. Even if you told me I’m the ugliest fuck, I’d be like ok fair do’s. Lol I'm sure your not but as I said take a no reply as a not interested and don't give it another thought.
Way more things in life to be stressing over lol
If the message is fancy a fuck or some other stupid message, ignoring is perfectly acceptable, but if i guy gas sent a respectful message and clearly read your profile and messaged accordingly then a simple 'sry your not my type' is only manners. Not replying to a thought out message is just rude imo. If however the guy replys with why am i not your type or any other plz explain type message THEN ignoring, blocking or ghosting or telling him to feck off is perfectly acceptable. Imo. Xx"
I'm seeing ghosting is just starting messages with someone and say its going Ok, nothing bad just good general chat on here and then say after 5th message the other person just stops.
That's what I take is ghosting.
if its messaging, someone, getting on ad messaging the next day, I don't see that as ghosting but id like to think that if not for them they'd let me or you know.
Suppose ghosting can be viewed a few different ways on here
Sorry OP if I've got your terminology of ghosting wrong |
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Not everyone takes the sorry your not my type with the good grace they should. When I get them I ask if they want to keep chatting, after all you can still have a laugh and a joke, maybe even more so when you know sex is off the table. If they say no then that's the end of it |
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over a year ago
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Very interesting topic and it seems to be answered from two very different dynamics ,Frin the make point of view it seems no reply from first point of contact or teinthree messages then a halt , from what female friends tell me , most men , me included have absolutely no idea the volume of mail most of the ladies receive , and to be honest if I was getting dozens of ladies mailing me daily , ( don’t get that annually) a few things are likely to happen , 1 lose track completely and the male ego goes into afterburner or 2 be chatting nicely and someone mails you , floats your boat and yiu spend the forthcoming time messaging them or wanting them to message, while ghosting does exist , just dust yourself down and move along , I’ve doiken to many ladies in forum who blew me out , never replied to first message or said it’s thanks but no thanks , different strokes different folks , Remember if you never been knocked back ? You’ve never hit on anyone |
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"Very interesting topic and it seems to be answered from two very different dynamics ,From the male point of view it seems no reply from first point of contact or two or three messages then a halt , from what female friends tell me , most men , me included have absolutely no idea the volume of mail most of the ladies receive , and to be honest if I was getting dozens of ladies mailing me daily , ( don’t get that annually) a few things are likely to happen , 1 lose track completely and the male ego goes into afterburner or 2 be chatting nicely and someone mails you , floats your boat and you spend the forthcoming time messaging them or wanting them to message,
It’s human nature so while ghosting does exist , it’s not always down to bad manners, just dust yourself down and move along , I’ve spoken to many ladies in forum who blew me out , never replied to first message or said thanks but no thanks , been blown out before and will again, but keep punching upwards , it can and will pay off, it’s different strokes for different folks as that great American Philosopher Gary Coleman said
Remember if you never been knocked back ? You’ve never hit on anyone "
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"Sometimes disappearing without comment is easy to figure out.
If you send 3 or 4 messages then a pic and you don't hear back after the pic then it means you've come across a shallow person who clearly doesn't like your face/body and theyve legged it.
The ones I don't get are the ones you chat to seemingly quite happily with then after an innocuous message like "hope you had a good day at work, do you fancy chatting some more" and the. It goes quiet. You then see them online later on and ask how they are getting on, you see your message is read but no reply.
You then start thinking, is it worth another message or are you just being a pest now?
If the other party would just say "sorry, not interested anymore" or "hey, busy right now but can chat at the weekend" then surely that would be a far more civil way to interact with a fellow human being?
Also. What's with all the hostility on the thread now? Can't we all just be friends (with or without benefits) "
here here. Big thumbs from me. Just tell the truth. And that's that. |
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"Call me shallow all you like as if i dont fancy someone sure as hell I'm not going to have sex with them.
What I said was that sometimes it easier than to get the but why not reply to your no thank you reply or if you just meet for coffee you will like me
Or i look way younger or better looking in the flesh.
The list goes on.
Yeah maybe ghosting isn't the best way but sometimes it's simpler
I hate blocking for the sake of it
So if your ghosted...males and females ..just take it as a their not interested.
Yup, I just hate not knowing. Even if you told me I’m the ugliest fuck, I’d be like ok fair do’s. Lol I'm sure your not but as I said take a no reply as a not interested and don't give it another thought.
Way more things in life to be stressing over lol
If the message is fancy a fuck or some other stupid message, ignoring is perfectly acceptable, but if i guy gas sent a respectful message and clearly read your profile and messaged accordingly then a simple 'sry your not my type' is only manners. Not replying to a thought out message is just rude imo. If however the guy replys with why am i not your type or any other plz explain type message THEN ignoring, blocking or ghosting or telling him to feck off is perfectly acceptable. Imo. Xx"
think wee guys forget the amount of msgs woman get. Be hard to reply to then all. |
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"Very interesting topic and it seems to be answered from two very different dynamics ,Frin the make point of view it seems no reply from first point of contact or teinthree messages then a halt , from what female friends tell me , most men , me included have absolutely no idea the volume of mail most of the ladies receive , and to be honest if I was getting dozens of ladies mailing me daily , ( don’t get that annually) a few things are likely to happen , 1 lose track completely and the male ego goes into afterburner or 2 be chatting nicely and someone mails you , floats your boat and yiu spend the forthcoming time messaging them or wanting them to message, while ghosting does exist , just dust yourself down and move along , I’ve doiken to many ladies in forum who blew me out , never replied to first message or said it’s thanks but no thanks , different strokes different folks , Remember if you never been knocked back ? You’ve never hit on anyone "
But some guys moan about so many fems dont reply back... But when someone does take the time out to reply but clearly only to pass time time someone they prefer to hit on id say that was rude.. |
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"Very interesting topic and it seems to be answered from two very different dynamics ,Frin the make point of view it seems no reply from first point of contact or teinthree messages then a halt , from what female friends tell me , most men , me included have absolutely no idea the volume of mail most of the ladies receive , and to be honest if I was getting dozens of ladies mailing me daily , ( don’t get that annually) a few things are likely to happen , 1 lose track completely and the male ego goes into afterburner or 2 be chatting nicely and someone mails you , floats your boat and yiu spend the forthcoming time messaging them or wanting them to message, while ghosting does exist , just dust yourself down and move along , I’ve doiken to many ladies in forum who blew me out , never replied to first message or said it’s thanks but no thanks , different strokes different folks , Remember if you never been knocked back ? You’ve never hit on anyone
But some guys moan about so many fems dont reply back... But when someone does take the time out to reply but clearly only to pass time time someone they prefer to hit on id say that was rude.. "
which is equally wrong and that person did that did apologise , but to pass time ? May not be accurate but I see why that can be construed as such |
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On this subject i would love to know if Males, Females or couples do the most ghosting , personnally i think the poll would be like the distance between the Artic and the Antarctic |
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In all seriousness, don’t let it get to you. Block and move on. It happens. 