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Perception Of Someone On Fab - Has It Changed
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hopefully this is a good one for debate 
We all use the site for different reasons and different way like the chat rooms, the forums, looking for meets, going to socials but last night I had a fantastic chat about our perception of someone on fab and has it changed.
Like reading someone's forum posts and you have a view of that person, good or bad or chatting or watching someone in a chat room and then eventually you see them at a social and has your view of them changed. Even changing your view of someone on the forum who you have just seen in the chat room etc...
So your Perception Of Someone On Fab - Has It Changed or stayed the same. No names now   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah, I used to think there were some interesting topics posted on the forums... Then I realised it was the same people posting different stuff every day and it made me yawn"
Oooh...controversial 
My opinions have changed. It's generally been for the better though. I've perhaps been too quick to judge then seen someone in a different light after speaking to them in the chatroom or via pm.
A few who I've thought were fuds and have acted accordingly.
And a couple who I don't particularly like but who regularly make me laugh with their forum posts! Which can be annoying.
Also a handful of sound folk who still seem sound. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yeah, I used to think there were some interesting topics posted on the forums... Then I realised it was the same people posting different stuff every day and it made me yawn"
Believe it or not there's not to many who post topics and if they do it's few and far between. Doesn't matter if it's the same people post, if it's a crap topic it won't last if it's a good topic then it will be busy enough. If the same people only start it cause others don't post then it doesn't mean they will continue to add to that particular post, up to others to debate on it if they want.
If someone starts a forum post about 'topics on forum used to be interesting but not now' don't blame me, your the one who game them ideas
Anyways that's a whole different ball game so what are your perceptions of people on fab, have they changed much ?  |
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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago
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Tbh not really ...having met a lot of chatters and forumites over the years...personality wise no one has really surprised me ...generally can tell from their posts or interaction in chat what they are like in person  |
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I have one example which to this day annoys me. A female on here who I considered a friend and now who I wouldn’t piss on if they were on fire. The other one is a male we met at a club and he wasn’t very nice and we remembered him for that reason but he mailed us randomly and ever since then we have chatted regularly as he is in fact a nice guy.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No as I dont really think about fab users. Some make me smile and some make me shake my head but I've never had any opinion on them to change. You're all just pixels on my screen |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As I read forum posts, threads started and interactions with myself and others on threads, private messages, status updates etc. I form my opinion based on consistency of message. This does not mean that I don't accept that people's views or minds change. But consistency and honesty or lack off will change my opinion. It has done, some for the better and some for the worse. Not that I am arrogant enough to think my opinions would make any real difference in the lives of those concerned. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I use the forum as a way of sussing out who to avoid and who are the shit stirrers. My blocked list has got a lot longer "
Yeah I do that as well to a certain extent but has your views changed of anyone whom you met socially obviously not in a one to one but in a bigger social that you have been to or whom you have watched or chatted to in the chat room, even if your view changed in a pleasantly surprised way.
Off topic, it was the same up until year n a half ago but if you block 200 people then they were automatically unblocked. Not sure if this coding flaw was sorted 
Anyways folks, back to topic. has your views/perception of people on fab changed ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd say my perceptions of many have pretty much remained consistent.
I don't believe most of what people claim/claim to be on here.
Chatting to them usually confirms I've been right in the first place |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I go with my gut instincts and mostly been right.there are som cracking people on here and yes my perceptions have changed on some people due to their shit stirring xx but will always have fab friends regatdless  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I use the forum as a way of sussing out who to avoid and who are the shit stirrers. My blocked list has got a lot longer
Yeah I do that as well to a certain extent but has your views changed of anyone whom you met socially obviously not in a one to one but in a bigger social that you have been to or whom you have watched or chatted to in the chat room, even if your view changed in a pleasantly surprised way.
Off topic, it was the same up until year n a half ago but if you block 200 people then they were automatically unblocked. Not sure if this coding flaw was sorted
Anyways folks, back to topic. has your views/perception of people on fab changed ?"
I don't chat in the chat rooms and have only been to one social. The people I met were lovely but it did confirm my suspicions that's its very cliquey on here(sorry Bunkie but it is ) |
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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago
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"I use the forum as a way of sussing out who to avoid and who are the shit stirrers. My blocked list has got a lot longer
Yeah I do that as well to a certain extent but has your views changed of anyone whom you met socially obviously not in a one to one but in a bigger social that you have been to or whom you have watched or chatted to in the chat room, even if your view changed in a pleasantly surprised way.
Off topic, it was the same up until year n a half ago but if you block 200 people then they were automatically unblocked. Not sure if this coding flaw was sorted
Anyways folks, back to topic. has your views/perception of people on fab changed ?
I don't chat in the chat rooms and have only been to one social. The people I met were lovely but it did confirm my suspicions that's its very cliquey on here(sorry Bunkie but it is ) "
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Don't think we've ever knowingingly met anyone that we've chatted to on the forums. Has been funny to send messages to people and not even had a reply but since met and played with them at parties and whatnot and chat now and again via messages. We're the same people who messaged before so what changed their views? |
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I have no preconceived perceptions although suffice to say many I think have of me I have not met many folks from the site but I think my major stutter my hump and my Tourettes could possibly change not only peoples perceptions but opinions of me and I just have no idea why! |
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By *40ffCouple
over a year ago
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I met someone/people and they are super nice in person but online they don't come across like online they come acorss as someone I would not like so yea this has happened to me kinda in a way lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah not from the forums, but people I've met in person. Only one really sticks out was completely not the person I thought they were. Other than that it's usually for the better. |
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"I use the forum as a way of sussing out who to avoid and who are the shit stirrers. My blocked list has got a lot longer "
Woooooohòooooo im not blocked
To your question Peter, i try not to make opinions of people through anonymous posts on an internet forum as people can come across very different from what they are really like face to face. Everyone can come across in the chatrooms differently, one persons funny as fck can be anothers cheaky cnut. One persons nice guy can be anothers arrogant bighead. I have a feeling what someone may be like but have been wrong in the past as to what they were like in person.
Take me and you peter, we have had our differences in the forums but i took them with a pinch of salt, i said in a past thread if we ever met at a social id buy you a beer, before even really knowing me you told me you would refuse my beer offer and would tell me why. Not everyone is the same in person as on a forum . Offer stands though lol.
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"I'd say my perceptions of many have pretty much remained consistent.
I don't believe most of what people claim/claim to be on here.
Chatting to them usually confirms I've been right in the first place "
Do you mean chatting to them in person or chatting to them through keyboards ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd say my perceptions of many have pretty much remained consistent.
I don't believe most of what people claim/claim to be on here.
Chatting to them usually confirms I've been right in the first place
Do you mean chatting to them in person or chatting to them through keyboards ?"
For me there isn't a huge difference sometimes. If they type shite, I'm gonna assume they talk shite so wouldn't be inclined to chat with them in person |
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By reading profile, status updates and forum posts/comments it's given me some insight into who people are or more so what sort of person they are.
With that in mind - After reading a number of profiles of people that might be of interest to me for the most part the majority of people come across as lovely and honest until i started reading their status updates and some of their forum posts/comments. I've noticed that some people are somewhat far removed from the person they profess to be on their profile. While mostly their mask stays in place it does at times slip and shows them to be far from the lovely friendly person they wish to be regarded as. I've started to use status updates and forum posts/ comments as a filter as to who to avoid having contact with.
But I have to say on the flip side I've also changed my opinion of a few people for the better from their status updates,forum posts/comments and the like. |
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"I'd say my perceptions of many have pretty much remained consistent.
I don't believe most of what people claim/claim to be on here.
Chatting to them usually confirms I've been right in the first place
Do you mean chatting to them in person or chatting to them through keyboards ?
For me there isn't a huge difference sometimes. If they type shite, I'm gonna assume they talk shite so wouldn't be inclined to chat with them in person "
So your point has no relevance to the OPS question. He is asking when you meet FACE TO FACE has your perception changed. We will assume your not in a position to answer from experience then merely a perception of your own judgement on people then . ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd say my perceptions of many have pretty much remained consistent.
I don't believe most of what people claim/claim to be on here.
Chatting to them usually confirms I've been right in the first place
Do you mean chatting to them in person or chatting to them through keyboards ?
For me there isn't a huge difference sometimes. If they type shite, I'm gonna assume they talk shite so wouldn't be inclined to chat with them in person
So your point has no relevance to the OPS question. He is asking when you meet FACE TO FACE has your perception changed. We will assume your not in a position to answer from experience then merely a perception of your own judgement on people then . ?"
You can assume whatever you like, angelface |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd say my perceptions of many have pretty much remained consistent.
I don't believe most of what people claim/claim to be on here.
Chatting to them usually confirms I've been right in the first place
Do you mean chatting to them in person or chatting to them through keyboards ?
For me there isn't a huge difference sometimes. If they type shite, I'm gonna assume they talk shite so wouldn't be inclined to chat with them in person
So your point has no relevance to the OPS question. He is asking when you meet FACE TO FACE has your perception changed. We will assume your not in a position to answer from experience then merely a perception of your own judgement on people then . ?"
.....actually....does the OP not also ask about opinions changing when you've read posts on the forum and then spoke in the chat room?  (ducks) |
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"I'd say my perceptions of many have pretty much remained consistent.
I don't believe most of what people claim/claim to be on here.
Chatting to them usually confirms I've been right in the first place
Do you mean chatting to them in person or chatting to them through keyboards ?
For me there isn't a huge difference sometimes. If they type shite, I'm gonna assume they talk shite so wouldn't be inclined to chat with them in person
So your point has no relevance to the OPS question. He is asking when you meet FACE TO FACE has your perception changed. We will assume your not in a position to answer from experience then merely a perception of your own judgement on people then . ?
.....actually....does the OP not also ask about opinions changing when you've read posts on the forum and then spoke in the chat room? (ducks)"
Ducks lol i like it.xx
I may be wrong but i think he means chatting by webcam which is as close as you can be face to face without actually standing in front of them , not typing i mean. Im sure horsey will clarify if i have misread his meaning. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'd say my perceptions of many have pretty much remained consistent.
I don't believe most of what people claim/claim to be on here.
Chatting to them usually confirms I've been right in the first place
Do you mean chatting to them in person or chatting to them through keyboards ?
For me there isn't a huge difference sometimes. If they type shite, I'm gonna assume they talk shite so wouldn't be inclined to chat with them in person
So your point has no relevance to the OPS question. He is asking when you meet FACE TO FACE has your perception changed. We will assume your not in a position to answer from experience then merely a perception of your own judgement on people then . ?
.....actually....does the OP not also ask about opinions changing when you've read posts on the forum and then spoke in the chat room? (ducks)"
To be honest its all aspects, that's why I posted it.
Seeing someone post on the forums and then bump into each other at a big social. Seeing someone in the chat room and you have a view then seeing their posts on a forum and change your mind. Even reading statuses and then changing your mind after meeting them at an event etc...
There are people who make assumptions/views of me, it happens, am I like that person they think I am. I cannot say as I only know myself and they way I am which hopefully if people meet me they actually just enjoy my company enough in any capacity to think that they would enjoy my company again.
There are people I enjoy reading their posts, people I don't like and due to these assumptions and perceptions are sometimes right. I'm happy with my views but I know I give everyone the benefit of the doubt and I like to think I'm usually right in my views but I have been proven wrong by quite a few who are not what I originally perceived them to be, good or bad.
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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago
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"I met someone/people and they are super nice in person but online they don't come across like online they come acorss as someone I would not like so yea this has happened to me kinda in a way lol"
See I told you I was nice  |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
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Quite a few of the forumite I’ve met over the last few months at socials or CJs. Most are lovely and I would happily sit and chat to in person as I think they are interesting people.
There are one or two who I’ve been surprised at with their attitudes in person as they act completely differently on the forums.
I hope to meet more of you at the next big social. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So Peter has your perception of anyone changed and if so for the better or worse?"
Well I've been on fab quite a while so yes. Actually had a few personal messages in regards to this post lol and I was saying that at the recent Ayrshire Social.
I had a view of the newbies and people I hadn't met and it was all good perceptions but my views of everyone including yourself after the event was even way better than I originally thought.
Some I even found out were amazing kissers and taught me a lot  |
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"I use the forum as a way of sussing out who to avoid and who are the shit stirrers. My blocked list has got a lot longer "
Forum posts & status updates certainly help, although I tend to put a note on their profile rather than block.
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"So Peter has your perception of anyone changed and if so for the better or worse?
Well I've been on fab quite a while so yes. Actually had a few personal messages in regards to this post lol and I was saying that at the recent Ayrshire Social.
I had a view of the newbies and people I hadn't met and it was all good perceptions but my views of everyone including yourself after the event was even way better than I originally thought.
Some I even found out were amazing kissers and taught me a lot "
Peter I'm so glad that the social gave people a chance to put names to faces the social events are for that purpose and each one creates an opportunity to meets others in a fun relaxed way we have so many great organised social nights in Scotland .. there was a lot of newbies at the Ayrshire social and the feedback I got was brilliant everyone had a great time no drama everyone felt welcome..
My way is to make your own mind up when you meet people not to listen to gossip or bitching ..because some people you get on with and some you don't ..I've certainly had my mind change when ive met people or saw how people are on the forums or how they behave towards others.. but its about having fun ,people use the site for many different reasons and each to their own.. it's about not following a crowd and deciding for your self who you meet and who you talk to most of all its about having fun. we only live once  |
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"I use the forum as a way of sussing out who to avoid and who are the shit stirrers. My blocked list has got a lot longer
Forum posts & status updates certainly help, although I tend to put a note on their profile rather than block.
R "
I keep forgetting about the wee note bit lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I use the forum as a way of sussing out who to avoid and who are the shit stirrers. My blocked list has got a lot longer
Forum posts & status updates certainly help, although I tend to put a note on their profile rather than block.
R "
Not sure what I said before but out of everything, status updates are the least that I take into account, mainly because my status updates are just usually a laugh or carry on etc... so not taken seriously and I'm the same with others.
I do admit, sometimes a status slips up with a single female's profile saying her BF are both looking for a meet, when sometimes that profile has started she is single.
I usually don't block, just add details to the private notes of that profile
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"I use the forum as a way of sussing out who to avoid and who are the shit stirrers. My blocked list has got a lot longer
Forum posts & status updates certainly help, although I tend to put a note on their profile rather than block.
R
I keep forgetting about the wee note bit lol "
I think it's great & very handy at times.
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"I use the forum as a way of sussing out who to avoid and who are the shit stirrers. My blocked list has got a lot longer
Forum posts & status updates certainly help, although I tend to put a note on their profile rather than block.
R
I keep forgetting about the wee note bit lol
I think it's great & very handy at times.
R "
I'm going to start using that lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I use the forum as a way of sussing out who to avoid and who are the shit stirrers. My blocked list has got a lot longer
Forum posts & status updates certainly help, although I tend to put a note on their profile rather than block.
R
I keep forgetting about the wee note bit lol
I think it's great & very handy at times.
R
I'm going to start using that lol "
Been using private notes for years, probably my most used tool on fab and find it invaluable |
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"I use the forum as a way of sussing out who to avoid and who are the shit stirrers. My blocked list has got a lot longer
Forum posts & status updates certainly help, although I tend to put a note on their profile rather than block.
R
I keep forgetting about the wee note bit lol
I think it's great & very handy at times.
R
I'm going to start using that lol
Been using private notes for years, probably my most used tool on fab and find it invaluable "
I'd completely forgot about the notes xx |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
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"So Peter has your perception of anyone changed and if so for the better or worse?
Well I've been on fab quite a while so yes. Actually had a few personal messages in regards to this post lol and I was saying that at the recent Ayrshire Social.
I had a view of the newbies and people I hadn't met and it was all good perceptions but my views of everyone including yourself after the event was even way better than I originally thought.
Some I even found out were amazing kissers and taught me a lot "
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
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"I use the forum as a way of sussing out who to avoid and who are the shit stirrers. My blocked list has got a lot longer
Forum posts & status updates certainly help, although I tend to put a note on their profile rather than block.
R
I keep forgetting about the wee note bit lol
I think it's great & very handy at times.
R
I'm going to start using that lol
Been using private notes for years, probably my most used tool on fab and find it invaluable
I'd completely forgot about the notes xx "
I usually use them for people’s name as I’ve a terrible memory. |
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"I use the forum as a way of sussing out who to avoid and who are the shit stirrers. My blocked list has got a lot longer
Forum posts & status updates certainly help, although I tend to put a note on their profile rather than block.
R
I keep forgetting about the wee note bit lol
I think it's great & very handy at times.
R
I'm going to start using that lol
Been using private notes for years, probably my most used tool on fab and find it invaluable "
Just watch those GDPR forumites dont come a knocking  |
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By *40ffCouple
over a year ago
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"I met someone/people and they are super nice in person but online they don't come across like online they come acorss as someone I would not like so yea this has happened to me kinda in a way lol
See I told you I was nice "
My veiw of you didnt change you are lovely online and in chat |
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By *40ffCouple
over a year ago
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"So Peter has your perception of anyone changed and if so for the better or worse?
Well I've been on fab quite a while so yes. Actually had a few personal messages in regards to this post lol and I was saying that at the recent Ayrshire Social.
I had a view of the newbies and people I hadn't met and it was all good perceptions but my views of everyone including yourself after the event was even way better than I originally thought.
Some I even found out were amazing kissers and taught me a lot
Peter I'm so glad that the social gave people a chance to put names to faces the social events are for that purpose and each one creates an opportunity to meets others in a fun relaxed way we have so many great organised social nights in Scotland .. there was a lot of newbies at the Ayrshire social and the feedback I got was brilliant everyone had a great time no drama everyone felt welcome..
My way is to make your own mind up when you meet people not to listen to gossip or bitching ..because some people you get on with and some you don't ..I've certainly had my mind change when ive met people or saw how people are on the forums or how they behave towards others.. but its about having fun ,people use the site for many different reasons and each to their own.. it's about not following a crowd and deciding for your self who you meet and who you talk to most of all its about having fun. we only live once "
We were so glad we picked the ayrshire social as our 1st it was an amazing night and while we cant make the next one we will definitely be at more that you do xxx |
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"So Peter has your perception of anyone changed and if so for the better or worse?
Well I've been on fab quite a while so yes. Actually had a few personal messages in regards to this post lol and I was saying that at the recent Ayrshire Social.
I had a view of the newbies and people I hadn't met and it was all good perceptions but my views of everyone including yourself after the event was even way better than I originally thought.
Some I even found out were amazing kissers and taught me a lot
Peter I'm so glad that the social gave people a chance to put names to faces the social events are for that purpose and each one creates an opportunity to meets others in a fun relaxed way we have so many great organised social nights in Scotland .. there was a lot of newbies at the Ayrshire social and the feedback I got was brilliant everyone had a great time no drama everyone felt welcome..
My way is to make your own mind up when you meet people not to listen to gossip or bitching ..because some people you get on with and some you don't ..I've certainly had my mind change when ive met people or saw how people are on the forums or how they behave towards others.. but its about having fun ,people use the site for many different reasons and each to their own.. it's about not following a crowd and deciding for your self who you meet and who you talk to most of all its about having fun. we only live once
We were so glad we picked the ayrshire social as our 1st it was an amazing night and while we cant make the next one we will definitely be at more that you do xxx"
Aww bless I'm so glad you came along and enjoyed we are lucky in Scotland we have a great social scene thanks to all the hosts who make these nights amazing .. I'l look forward to seeing you at more of my social nights cherub kisses  |
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