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over a year ago
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"can you be both dom and sub as id like to try both any thought s "
That would make you a switch - most people who play kink are to some degree switches but its not quite as simple as "just trying both" ...... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to be a total Dom
Until one day I lost it big time ( it wasn't pretty)
Since then I have reverted to a sub
But am slowly learning control so kinda class myself as a switch now xx  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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if you can make me putty in yer hands then i can be sub but most def dom ,
yet to make a man who can make me melt in to his way altogether lol 
so i can switch sometimes x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"if you can make me putty in yer hands then i can be sub but most def dom ,
yet to make a man who can make me melt in to his way altogether lol
so i can switch sometimes x "
looks like am playin with putty in the new year  lmfao |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"if you can make me putty in yer hands then i can be sub but most def dom ,
yet to make a man who can make me melt in to his way altogether lol
so i can switch sometimes x
looks like am playin with putty in the new year lmfao"
shape me bend me any way ye wanna lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What if your a couple and your both Sub "
In that situation you'll find that one of you will naturally top/bottom the other.
It's very unusual to find 2 ppl who are equally as sub as each other. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am what it says in the name have tried to switch once but just ended up giggling and very uncomfortable my Sir is the same he can't switch we both know what we are and it's the only way"
yeah - its very difficult to try to be or assume something you arent and you feel kinda silly and end up laughing at the same time.. we just cant be dom or sub really !! i think .. lol |
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By *p0000Man
over a year ago
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I'm dominant / top and prefer to play with women who want to submit to me. That said, I've had some fun with Dominant women, you just need to tone down some aspects of the interaction.
I know both sub/sub and dom/domme couples how are very happy together. Some play with others, others just enjoy each others company.
Regards
Sp
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i may be gobby.... but i am sub lol
I'am surprised by that Jo, i thought you'd definately be dom not sure why?! lol  "
Noooo I am really quite sub lol shock I know haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i am very switchy but jamie is very dom so i always sub to him but stretch my dom wings with some of the fems and single guys we play with but happpy to sub to othr men too as long as jamie is ultimately in charge. i never sub to another fem though will happily sub with another sub fem, if that makes sense...its a finely balanced thing my switchiness lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm variable..but not really sub, I'd be sub in a fun sense...a for dom...well it all depends, I can be crude n filthy,disrespectful(name calling manner),give some hard spanks,pull hair,forcefeed cock(I mean giving)
other times I can be sweet n romantic-ish |
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I'm definately Dom.
Not closed to the idea of being Sub, but only in exceptional circumstances.
It's all very situational and important to start slowly and see where your Sub's limits lie -after all what's really hard core for one person is just mild tickling to the next.
At the end of the day though, anyone that's into it realises it's actually always the Sub that's in full control, being the one with the safe word. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm definately Dom.
Not closed to the idea of being Sub, but only in exceptional circumstances.
It's all very situational and important to start slowly and see where your Sub's limits lie -after all what's really hard core for one person is just mild tickling to the next.
At the end of the day though, anyone that's into it realises it's actually always the Sub that's in full control, being the one with the safe word."
my slave doesn't have a safe word.he doesn't need 1
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"i may be gobby.... but i am sub lol
I'am surprised by that Jo, i thought you'd definately be dom not sure why?! lol
Noooo I am really quite sub lol shock I know haha "
It is a shock i totally had you as dom |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"do you havd to be 1 or the other? Whatever happend to just going with the flow?lol. Auds.x
That's called being switch dear.
Do keep up  lol xxdear?   "
Yes, Dear.
Now fetch my slippers and pipe, there's a good girl xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The way i see it....everything in my life i am in control...kids...family life...and at work i am in control of people.... so in bed its nice to give that control away.... |
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"The way i see it....everything in my life i am in control...kids...family life...and at work i am in control of people.... so in bed its nice to give that control away.... "
I agree there. I'm in charge at home with everything apart from in the bedroom lol! Although I knew I was sub long before I met mr k and was still living at home with my folks. |
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"The way i see it....everything in my life i am in control...kids...family life...and at work i am in control of people.... so in bed its nice to give that control away.... "
Yeah, that's a really good point actually.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"can you be both dom and sub as id like to try both any thought s"
Probably be fantastic at one and lost at the other, lots of theories on the thinking behind it,bossy person wants. to "play" at being sub and vice versa.
Your "Sub" yet you actually call all the shots swingingly on how the sub situation is played out.
Your maybe dom, and in no way dom otherwise, the fresh and new is added spice certainly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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ooh its a can of worms once you start thinking about it - I switch and love to domme to men, had a couple of slaves last year and loved it.
However, as sioux said when you are a strong woman it sometimes takes a stronger man for you to submit - very difficult to find in my case but when it does - wow!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"ooh its a can of worms once you start thinking about it - I switch and love to domme to men, had a couple of slaves last year and loved it.
However, as sioux said when you are a strong woman it sometimes takes a stronger man for you to submit - very difficult to find in my case but when it does - wow!! "
totsally agree on trying to find a stronger man who doesnt treat my switchyness as a challenge. takes finesse and plenty of mental gameplay to dom me, not just a case of being told what to do. luckily j has a real apptitude |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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thought i would jump in here, as with any play.....communication is important in play and knowing your partners needs and wants (limits too).... its about fun.
Nessarosa and I switch with each other....she likes being dominant and cruel sometimes and other times...forced and used....depends on her mood (or my mood).... some times we also snuggle...LOL and some times, just plane kinky....eeeeeuuuuwwww
I think that if you label it, you some how keep your self boxed in....
I know plenty of subs that have subs and plenty of Doms that only sub to certain people... they also try not to box them selves in to a label.
just thought would drop into conversation.
Hugs,
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Being Dom or sub is instinctive and natural.
Individual traits will indicate which persuasion you are.
As for the switches they have yet to make their mind up, but most do eventually. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm very fem dressed so totally sub. I've no desire to 'top' a guy but being bi I can be dom with a fem if dom means shagging her lol. Funnily enough I dont really do that though when dressed. |
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