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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hey I've been trying to message a few women for some time now but I've never really had much of a response. Can't help but feel like I'm unattractive. Or am I doing something wrong or missing something important? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, can't comment on your chat, put a typical msg you would send to a girl on this post, then I'll be able to judge if its your chat that's putting them off, if it's hey babe fancy a fuck, then that'll explain everything  |
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"Try going to some of the social events always a great place to meet people "
I agree docials and clubs arr a great way to meet people; shows them you are genuine and its a no pressure to play situation.
Also the number of messages women and couples get on here can be in the 100s unless you are exactly what they are looking for or catch their eye then I wouldn't expect a reply even to say no thanks. You nay take it well and bw fine but often it opens up a dialog of abuse so most don't reply.
Keep at it mate site is worth while but you get back what tou put in. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hey I've been trying to message a few women for some time now but I've never really had much of a response. Can't help but feel like I'm unattractive. Or am I doing something wrong or missing something important? "
its all about eloquently saying hello and not diving in ,can I be constructive, change this .....it’s tacky
Single straight man, looking for casual hookup with beautiful girls.
Immediately stated your looking to discard what you don’t even have yet
No offence intended
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hey I've been trying to message a few women for some time now but I've never really had much of a response. Can't help but feel like I'm unattractive. Or am I doing something wrong or missing something important? its all about eloquently saying hello and not diving in ,can I be constructive, change this .....it’s tacky
Single straight man, looking for casual hookup with beautiful girls.
Immediately stated your looking to discard what you don’t even have yet
No offence intended
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I agree
Maybe describe things a bit more tactfully ...I wouldn't want to.be described as a casual hook up ..yes I know that's what it is ..but word it nicer
U can message me your usual opener and I'll give u an opinion back on my first impression |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hey I've been trying to message a few women for some time now but I've never really had much of a response. Can't help but feel like I'm unattractive. Or am I doing something wrong or missing something important? its all about eloquently saying hello and not diving in ,can I be constructive, change this .....it’s tacky
Single straight man, looking for casual hookup with beautiful girls.
Immediately stated your looking to discard what you don’t even have yet
No offence intended
I agree
Maybe describe things a bit more tactfully ...I wouldn't want to.be described as a casual hook up ..yes I know that's what it is ..but word it nicer
U can message me your usual opener and I'll give u an opinion back on my first impression "
I'm prob gonna get shot down here but if he's using the same type of message to girls then this just wont cut it as females on here are all different, with different tastes etc...
At the end of the say, start of the day or middle of the day, females and couples are inundated and its hard to get yourself noticed so if it continues then he should head down a different route. Be active on the forums, go to the chat rooms, go to socials and clubs and hopefully some house parties and I'm sure he will have a blast and find what he is looking for 
Good luck Op  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hey I've been trying to message a few women for some time now but I've never really had much of a response. Can't help but feel like I'm unattractive. Or am I doing something wrong or missing something important? its all about eloquently saying hello and not diving in ,can I be constructive, change this .....it’s tacky
Single straight man, looking for casual hookup with beautiful girls.
Immediately stated your looking to discard what you don’t even have yet
No offence intended
I agree
Maybe describe things a bit more tactfully ...I wouldn't want to.be described as a casual hook up ..yes I know that's what it is ..but word it nicer
U can message me your usual opener and I'll give u an opinion back on my first impression "
Och...you're far too nice Anne |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hey I've been trying to message a few women for some time now but I've never really had much of a response. Can't help but feel like I'm unattractive. Or am I doing something wrong or missing something important? its all about eloquently saying hello and not diving in ,can I be constructive, change this .....it’s tacky
Single straight man, looking for casual hookup with beautiful girls.
Immediately stated your looking to discard what you don’t even have yet
No offence intended
I agree
Maybe describe things a bit more tactfully ...I wouldn't want to.be described as a casual hook up ..yes I know that's what it is ..but word it nicer
U can message me your usual opener and I'll give u an opinion back on my first impression
Och...you're far too nice Anne "
All heart me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well, i also wouldnt like to be described as a casual hook up either look nobody on this site is looking for a relationship you can relax lol, maybe something like like minded women but name some of your interests? Also ud be damn lucky getting a "casual hookup" from messages lol try going to the clubs or being on Scottish chat more the more social your willing to be the better us girls enjoy getting to know you guys |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well, i also wouldnt like to be described as a casual hook up either look nobody on this site is looking for a relationship you can relax lol, maybe something like like minded women but name some of your interests? Also ud be damn lucky getting a "casual hookup" from messages lol try going to the clubs or being on Scottish chat more the more social your willing to be the better us girls enjoy getting to know you guys "
Some of us like the less prolific guys  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well, i also wouldnt like to be described as a casual hook up either look nobody on this site is looking for a relationship you can relax lol, maybe something like like minded women but name some of your interests? Also ud be damn lucky getting a "casual hookup" from messages lol try going to the clubs or being on Scottish chat more the more social your willing to be the better us girls enjoy getting to know you guys
Some of us like the less prolific guys "
Well go message him then, im sure it will make his day |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well, i also wouldnt like to be described as a casual hook up either look nobody on this site is looking for a relationship you can relax lol, maybe something like like minded women but name some of your interests? Also ud be damn lucky getting a "casual hookup" from messages lol try going to the clubs or being on Scottish chat more the more social your willing to be the better us girls enjoy getting to know you guys
Some of us like the less prolific guys
Well go message him then, im sure it will make his day "
That's not quite what I meant. It was more in reference to your advice. One size doesn't fit all, but I'm sure you know that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The truth is, you can read a profile, craft a message that you feel is good and tailored to the person. You might not get a reply for a myriad of reasons. As has been stated, females and couples get a copious amount of messages each day. Maybe they have read so many shit messages, abusive messages or seen so many coxk pics that they can't take anymore and the good ones get lost among the shit. Here is no magic formula for getting a reply, or getting a meet. A thick skin and positive attitude, (try not to take things personally) and perseverance. As the late Roy Castle used to sing. "dedication is what you need". |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I get told the same thing about getting to socials but even that’s impossible when you don’t have a verified meet. It’s certainly not for the lack of trying 
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"I get told the same thing about getting to socials but even that’s impossible when you don’t have a verified meet. It’s certainly not for the lack of trying
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Well why dont you arrange to meet a group of other unverified fabbers for a few beers then you can all verify each other. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get told the same thing about getting to socials but even that’s impossible when you don’t have a verified meet. It’s certainly not for the lack of trying
Well why dont you arrange to meet a group of other unverified fabbers for a few beers then you
can all verify each other."
You can't verify someone unless you are verified so that won't work. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There was a thread the other day...think it was for the Xmas social where some verified fabbers were offering to meet for drinks before hand to help unverified folk out... |
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"I get told the same thing about getting to socials but even that’s impossible when you don’t have a verified meet. It’s certainly not for the lack of trying
Well why dont you arrange to meet a group of other unverified fabbers for a few beers then you
can all verify each other.
You can't verify someone unless you are verified so that won't work. "
Wow. Never knew that. I do feel for you all. The easiest solution is to meet up and go to a club together and chat folk. Could well be the quickest way to get a verification. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get told the same thing about getting to socials but even that’s impossible when you don’t have a verified meet. It’s certainly not for the lack of trying
Well why dont you arrange to meet a group of other unverified fabbers for a few beers then you
can all verify each other.
You can't verify someone unless you are verified so that won't work.
Wow. Never knew that. I do feel for you all. The easiest solution is to meet up and go to a club together and chat folk. Could well be the quickest way to get a verification."
Also I don't men are able to be cam verified either. So the only way is by meeting. |
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By *andsCouple
over a year ago
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"I get told the same thing about getting to socials but even that’s impossible when you don’t have a verified meet. It’s certainly not for the lack of trying
Well why dont you arrange to meet a group of other unverified fabbers for a few beers then you
can all verify each other.
You can't verify someone unless you are verified so that won't work.
Wow. Never knew that. I do feel for you all. The easiest solution is to meet up and go to a club together and chat folk. Could well be the quickest way to get a verification.
Also I don't men are able to be cam verified either. So the only way is by meeting. "
I don’t think anyone should be cam verified x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You can be cam verified, but for me personally if youd been on a while and werent verified by a meet fr instance i spoke to someone who was last vetified 5 years ago, n obviously people change |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You can be cam verified, but for me personally if youd been on a while and werent verified by a meet fr instance i spoke to someone who was last vetified 5 years ago, n obviously people change "
Straight from the faq section.
How do I get verified by other members?
You need to find someone who is already verified and ask them to verify you. If you are a couple or a woman then you can get verified by webcam. An easy way to do this is to go into the chatroom while you are both there, switch your webcam on and ask someone to verify you. If you are a single guy then you need to meet someone.
I've met someone but neither of us are verified so how can we verify each other?
One of you needs to be verified in order to verify the other person. Your best bet is for the female to get verified by another member e.g. on cam or by phonecall
Although phone verifications aren't an option now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hey I've been trying to message a few women for some time now but I've never really had much of a response. Can't help but feel like I'm unattractive. Or am I doing something wrong or missing something important? "
Never doubt yourself OP. As other people have said on here, it all depends on what you're saying in your first message. Don't get disheartened,just be yourself and stick with it. It's truly worth it when you get that first meet x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You can be cam verified, but for me personally if youd been on a while and werent verified by a meet fr instance i spoke to someone who was last vetified 5 years ago, n obviously people change "
You said it was our secret , my 5 yr dry spell C |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thank you everyone for your kind words and advice. I greatly appreciate it. I apologise if I may have insulted anyone. I really should word my bio better than what it currently says. I really didn't mean any offence to anyone and you're all right with everything you've said. I have a lot of things that I need to work on, mostly my confidence and how I see myself. I am interested in meeting someone like minded. I'm a bit of a geek, love my rock music and I'm a bit of a movie buff. I also enjoy real ale and a bit of a coffee addict and enjoy new adventures and trying new things. I like meeting new people but I'm more on the quiet side until people get to know me. You all seem like a great bunch and I hope you're all well and enjoying your week. Thanks again for your advice everyone! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get told the same thing about getting to socials but even that’s impossible when you don’t have a verified meet. It’s certainly not for the lack of trying
Well why dont you arrange to meet a group of other unverified fabbers for a few beers then you can all verify each other."
Wouldn’t you need 1 verified person to start the verifications B , apologies for being an old Pedant  |
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By *eADevilCouple
over a year ago
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"Hey I've been trying to message a few women for some time now but I've never really had much of a response. Can't help but feel like I'm unattractive. Or am I doing something wrong or missing something important? "
Not all socials ask that attendees are verified. Other than that, 2 clubs in Scotland, very simple to get verified if you put in the effort. |
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