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"hunners and hunners and that's just females and think there is way more guys doing it  "
You eventually find out though.
I had two socials at mines with two different females and during chat I found out one was married and one had a BF. Fecking murder when you find that out so your expecting a chap at the door  |
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over a year ago
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Echoing the Horsemaster, loads is the answer. What does grate is that everyone always thinks it’s the guys. For a lot of couples or guys, it would never cross their minds that their new female Fab acquaintance might be playing without permission.
I wonder if these same women were to fess up on this thread, would they get as much of a verbal beating as the guys?
For what it’s worth, I have to admire your courage in confessing to playing away. The way most Fab women and couples view that sort of thing, you’ll be lucky to escape an online crucifixion! |
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Often a few tell tale signs in a profile that would make you think someone was attached, although it often surprises me how many attached have clear face pics on their profile ..... as well as the bareback pics!
I choose not to lie about anything on my profile but still get asked if I'm attached.
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over a year ago
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"I plan to but it a bit hard not to look goofy in a selfie ????"
Don't show your face then.
I'm ugly as sin so don't do face pics 
Wee torso pic, nice one in a suit, tighty whities....your wedding photie.... |
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over a year ago
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The classic scenario is when you have contact with someone by text. So you log their number, sign into Facebook and sometimes they pop up as "someone you may know"
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The classic scenario is when you have contact with someone by text. So you log their number, sign into Facebook and sometimes they pop up as "someone you may know"
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Hadn't thought of that  |
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I would suggest your status update might put many off as well as no pics at all. No pics in 9 weeks is a bit lazy. Your profile is like a shop window. If it's bare it's not going to entice anyone in.
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over a year ago
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"Plenty people who don't mind playing with married / attached people. I'm sure you'll find them sooner or later x"
I was just wondering how many people where like me. It seems a lot so I need to up my game |
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"I plan to but it a bit hard not to look goofy in a selfie ????
Don't show your face then.
I'm ugly as sin so don't do face pics
Wee torso pic, nice one in a suit, tighty whities....your wedding photie.... "
Wedding photie.. lol |
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"Plenty people who don't mind playing with married / attached people. I'm sure you'll find them sooner or later x
I was just wondering how many people where like me. It seems a lot so I need to up my game "
Don't think any of them are on the forum |
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I wonder if OP will be getting any messages in his inbox tonight from slightly sheepish Fabbers who also subscribe to the “playing away” rules of engagement. |
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"hunners and hunners and that's just females and think there is way more guys doing it
You eventually find out though.
I had two socials at mines with two different females and during chat I found out one was married and one had a BF. Fecking murder when you find that out so your expecting a chap at the door "
? Did play with them? |
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More likely to get "why are you here, cheating is not swinging" type messages.
At least, I usually do when I reply to these threads and admit that I am married and playing away without her knowledge.
Almost always get those, can't recall such a post generating an expression of interest! |
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I don't meet attached guys (more so because I like my all night sessions, which they can never do), although I don't judge them and would never have a go at them for cheating. Everybody's got their own reasons to be on here and usually they're none of my business.
What gets me though is sometimes they won't tell me. So you meet up, if you get on well have some sexy fun, and as soon as they're done they're standing in the hallway with coat on and all and storm out the door, because they have the mrs waiting at home. Very selfish people as far as I'm concerned. These visits don't sit well with my self esteem and obviously I'm fit for one purpose only. Plenty people who don't mind attached, so why bother me! |
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"I don't meet attached guys (more so because I like my all night sessions, which they can never do), although I don't judge them and would never have a go at them for cheating. Everybody's got their own reasons to be on here and usually they're none of my business.
What gets me though is sometimes they won't tell me. So you meet up, if you get on well have some sexy fun, and as soon as they're done they're standing in the hallway with coat on and all and storm out the door, because they have the mrs waiting at home. Very selfish people as far as I'm concerned. These visits don't sit well with my self esteem and obviously I'm fit for one purpose only. Plenty people who don't mind attached, so why bother me! "
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"More likely to get "why are you here, cheating is not swinging" type messages.
At least, I usually do when I reply to these threads and admit that I am married and playing away without her knowledge.
Almost always get those, can't recall such a post generating an expression of interest! "
I have much more respect for those that are open about it rather than those that try to hide it. The longer you are on fab the easier it is to spot it anyway.
I'm not sure why people that are attached often feel the need to add "discretion is a must". It's rather insulting as discretion is just as important to single people too.
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"I don't meet attached guys (more so because I like my all night sessions, which they can never do), although I don't judge them and would never have a go at them for cheating. Everybody's got their own reasons to be on here and usually they're none of my business.
What gets me though is sometimes they won't tell me. So you meet up, if you get on well have some sexy fun, and as soon as they're done they're standing in the hallway with coat on and all and storm out the door, because they have the mrs waiting at home. Very selfish people as far as I'm concerned. These visits don't sit well with my self esteem and obviously I'm fit for one purpose only. Plenty people who don't mind attached, so why bother me!
Yeah that's why I gave been honest don't want to mess people about "
Just hope you won't get nasty messages for putting it on your profile. I think it's only fair to give people the heads up and they can then take it or leave it x |
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"I don't meet attached guys (more so because I like my all night sessions, which they can never do), although I don't judge them and would never have a go at them for cheating. Everybody's got their own reasons to be on here and usually they're none of my business.
What gets me though is sometimes they won't tell me. So you meet up, if you get on well have some sexy fun, and as soon as they're done they're standing in the hallway with coat on and all and storm out the door, because they have the mrs waiting at home. Very selfish people as far as I'm concerned. These visits don't sit well with my self esteem and obviously I'm fit for one purpose only. Plenty people who don't mind attached, so why bother me!
Yeah that's why I gave been honest don't want to mess people about "
I'd take out the "2 kids" part on your profile. Stating your married is enough I think. |
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"I don't meet attached guys (more so because I like my all night sessions, which they can never do), although I don't judge them and would never have a go at them for cheating. Everybody's got their own reasons to be on here and usually they're none of my business.
What gets me though is sometimes they won't tell me. So you meet up, if you get on well have some sexy fun, and as soon as they're done they're standing in the hallway with coat on and all and storm out the door, because they have the mrs waiting at home. Very selfish people as far as I'm concerned. These visits don't sit well with my self esteem and obviously I'm fit for one purpose only. Plenty people who don't mind attached, so why bother me!
Yeah that's why I gave been honest don't want to mess people about
I'd take out the "2 kids" part on your profile. Stating your married is enough I think."
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"I don't meet attached guys (more so because I like my all night sessions, which they can never do), although I don't judge them and would never have a go at them for cheating. Everybody's got their own reasons to be on here and usually they're none of my business.
What gets me though is sometimes they won't tell me. So you meet up, if you get on well have some sexy fun, and as soon as they're done they're standing in the hallway with coat on and all and storm out the door, because they have the mrs waiting at home. Very selfish people as far as I'm concerned. These visits don't sit well with my self esteem and obviously I'm fit for one purpose only. Plenty people who don't mind attached, so why bother me!
Yeah that's why I gave been honest don't want to mess people about
Just hope you won't get nasty messages for putting it on your profile. I think it's only fair to give people the heads up and they can then take it or leave it x"
It work both ways as well as I wouldn't message someone like our self as you have asked not to be. It called good manners x
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"I don't meet attached guys (more so because I like my all night sessions, which they can never do), although I don't judge them and would never have a go at them for cheating. Everybody's got their own reasons to be on here and usually they're none of my business.
What gets me though is sometimes they won't tell me. So you meet up, if you get on well have some sexy fun, and as soon as they're done they're standing in the hallway with coat on and all and storm out the door, because they have the mrs waiting at home. Very selfish people as far as I'm concerned. These visits don't sit well with my self esteem and obviously I'm fit for one purpose only. Plenty people who don't mind attached, so why bother me!
Yeah that's why I gave been honest don't want to mess people about
I'd take out the "2 kids" part on your profile. Stating your married is enough I think."
I agree. Thought I'd better stop earlier
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"hunners and hunners and that's just females and think there is way more guys doing it
You eventually find out though.
I had two socials at mines with two different females and during chat I found out one was married and one had a BF. Fecking murder when you find that out so your expecting a chap at the door
? Did play with them?"
Nope, definitely not. The reason, I know I asked the questions during message chat if they were attached so to find out at mine, I just finished the socials shortly after being informed. lol The married woman actually said "what, aint we going to fuck now". I just told her NO.
Would I say playing with a married woman or attached woman is a 'No No'. I can't say that as I have in the past but if I'm going to make the decision yes or no, I'd rather know and if I wanted to go ahead with that person then is she ay good at playing away ffs, She might intend to text her pal for safety reasons, (I'm away to horsey for fun, his address is .....) then opps instead of sending it to her pal by text for security, she fecking sends it to hubby. Aye Ok |
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I've spoken to lots of people who do and it's not my business, I'm attached once more hence the hidden profile and not meeting, im very much a monogamous individual and not actually a swinger ! He knows all about fab and that im actively going to cjs and socials I have no secrets and I can't lie to save myself lol |
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"I've spoken to lots of people who do and it's not my business, I'm attached once more hence the hidden profile and not meeting, im very much a monogamous individual and not actually a swinger ! He knows all about fab and that im actively going to cjs and socials I have no secrets and I can't lie to save myself lol "
awww happy you've got someone.  |
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"I've spoken to lots of people who do and it's not my business, I'm attached once more hence the hidden profile and not meeting, im very much a monogamous individual and not actually a swinger ! He knows all about fab and that im actively going to cjs and socials I have no secrets and I can't lie to save myself lol
awww happy you've got someone. "
Thank you xx so far so good it's all going a little too fantastic and having so much fun |
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Had a funny one a week or so ago, where a woman was viewing me repeatedly, so I sent her a message saying to let me know if she was interested. She replied simply asking if I was married and saying she was. I replied with the same information which is clearly written on my profile, and she responded saying bye and that I was fake - presumably because I had admitted to being in an open relationship, but did not lie and say I am married to fit with what she wanted.
Despite that odd exchange, and that I am sure it's putting people off contacting me, I prefer honesty about my relationship status on my profile - just saves awkward exchanges later on  |
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Ive been in both situations..partner knowing ..partner not knowing
To be honest I think it's no one's business. If I offer up any more detailed info about myself then fine ..if I don't then that's my choice too and the people i speak to /plan to meet also have a choice and no one should be in a judgemental position.
If a persons personal life isn't for u ..then don't continue to chat.
Live and let live that's what I think x |
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Ann1330 I agree, anyway we dont ask if anyone is married. How many people have lied and said their single to meet, there is no way of knowing who is telling the truth. |
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"Ann1330 I agree, anyway we dont ask if anyone is married. How many people have lied and said their single to meet, there is no way of knowing who is telling the truth. "
Yes very true and when i was in that position I would always make it clear that I wasn't single..but only if a meet seemed to be a definate ...I'd then say my position and let the other person decide ...but I don't think any married person who doesn't have "permission" has the obligation to make that clear Immediately...some people are here just for the social side anyway x |
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I'm not a fan of playing away, cheaters always get caught and I don't want to be part of the reason for a marriage break down or the kids (if there is any) getting hurt for 'just a little fun'. |
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"Exactly, the only person that this should matter to is the one cheating. It wont make any difference to anyone else."
Yeah in theory ..but as mentioned earlier no one wants someones angry husband or wife at their door so it really is the decision of the "single" person involved in the meet
But as a person who as been on here under both circumstances I hate people being so judgemental over married people without permission.. cos no one knows exactly what peoples lives are like and have no place to judge xx |
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over a year ago
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I’m single but I do meet married men and have a great time. They make their own decisions about how to live their lives. I lived in a sexless marriage for a while so I know what it’s like to live with someone that doesn’t care about you. Some partners are ill or just off sex but they still love them and wouldn’t leave their partners. Whatever their reasons for being on here we shouldn’t judge married men or women. |
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"I’m single but I do meet married men and have a great time. They make their own decisions about how to live their lives. I lived in a sexless marriage for a while so I know what it’s like to live with someone that doesn’t care about you. Some partners are ill or just off sex but they still love them and wouldn’t leave their partners. Whatever their reasons for being on here we shouldn’t judge married men or women. "
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"I don't meet attached guys (more so because I like my all night sessions, which they can never do), although I don't judge them and would never have a go at them for cheating. Everybody's got their own reasons to be on here and usually they're none of my business.
What gets me though is sometimes they won't tell me. So you meet up, if you get on well have some sexy fun, and as soon as they're done they're standing in the hallway with coat on and all and storm out the door, because they have the mrs waiting at home. Very selfish people as far as I'm concerned. These visits don't sit well with my self esteem and obviously I'm fit for one purpose only. Plenty people who don't mind attached, so why bother me! "
I get what you are saying - in the past I came across a few guys like that who were happy to leave the hotel room very quickly and made me feel like they were only looking for a free hooker. It's not nice and I agree, does little for your self esteem. My stance has changed radically since then and that won't ever happen again. |
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"Exactly, the only person that this should matter to is the one cheating. It wont make any difference to anyone else.
Yeah in theory ..but as mentioned earlier no one wants someones angry husband or wife at their door so it really is the decision of the "single" person involved in the meet
But as a person who as been on here under both circumstances I hate people being so judgemental over married people without permission.. cos no one knows exactly what peoples lives are like and have no place to judge xx"
Agreed 100%.
I too have been here under both circumstances and the only judgement that matters is the one you make looking in the mirror |
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"Exactly, the only person that this should matter to is the one cheating. It wont make any difference to anyone else.
Yeah in theory ..but as mentioned earlier no one wants someones angry husband or wife at their door so it really is the decision of the "single" person involved in the meet
But as a person who as been on here under both circumstances I hate people being so judgemental over married people without permission.. cos no one knows exactly what peoples lives are like and have no place to judge xx
Agreed 100%.
I too have been here under both circumstances and the only judgement that matters is the one you make looking in the mirror "
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But if you read some off the profiles on here they seek them out as they love the thought of fucking another man wife or in a females it's taken the guy from her...  |
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My first 3 1/2 years on fab was as part of a couple. He was married, although when we first met (off of fab) he said it was over. In 3 1/2 years he never fucked me, or anyone else as it was crossing the line apparently! Even if we spent the night together.
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"I plan to but it a bit hard not to look goofy in a selfie ????
Don't show your face then.
I'm ugly as sin so don't do face pics
Wee torso pic, nice one in a suit, tighty whities....your wedding photie....
Wedding photie.. lol"
Funnily enough I have my wedding pic on my profile lol.. |
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I’ve always been upfront about being married on my profile, and openly play with wife’s consent.
It is unfortunate that some people get lambasted for being upfront about it.
And while it’s not for everyone’s taste, at least accept it with out judging.
People’s kinks/fetish’s vary and that’s what adds to the fun  |
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"Exactly, the only person that this should matter to is the one cheating. It wont make any difference to anyone else.
Yeah in theory ..but as mentioned earlier no one wants someones angry husband or wife at their door so it really is the decision of the "single" person involved in the meet
But as a person who as been on here under both circumstances I hate people being so judgemental over married people without permission.. cos no one knows exactly what peoples lives are like and have no place to judge xx"
I think you know me well enough to think that I'm definetly not a judgemental person.
If playing with a married woman I think personally I'd want to know that she's not careless in covering her tracks. That I suppose is deduced via chat etc..
I'm not worried, I just can't be bothered with an angry BF or Hubby banging on ma door.
I do find it funny the single women who state they only play with a married guys because they're the ones who don't hassle, they don't want relationship they just want fun. That's a bit judgmental on all single guys as not all single guys are looking for a partner and don't want anything serious. |
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"Exactly, the only person that this should matter to is the one cheating. It wont make any difference to anyone else.
Yeah in theory ..but as mentioned earlier no one wants someones angry husband or wife at their door so it really is the decision of the "single" person involved in the meet
But as a person who as been on here under both circumstances I hate people being so judgemental over married people without permission.. cos no one knows exactly what peoples lives are like and have no place to judge xx
I think you know me well enough to think that I'm definetly not a judgemental person.
If playing with a married woman I think personally I'd want to know that she's not careless in covering her tracks. That I suppose is deduced via chat etc..
I'm not worried, I just can't be bothered with an angry BF or Hubby banging on ma door.
I do find it funny the single women who state they only play with a married guys because they're the ones who don't hassle, they don't want relationship they just want fun. That's a bit judgmental on all single guys as not all single guys are looking for a partner and don't want anything serious. "
Peter u know I don't think.u are ..and yes I know plenty of single guys who are happy to stay that way |
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All valid points but boils down to one thing, everyone has the choice to do what they want. It's the married/attached men/women choice to say if they are or not but equally it's the other persons choice if they want to know when in private conversation with that person. Then their choice if they do/do not want to carry on. Lol... |
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I say it’s sod all to do with anyone what anyone’s marital/ relationship status is. People have their reasons. Their business and theirs alone.
There’s certainly far more attached ladies in here than let on that’s for sure. |
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"I say it’s sod all to do with anyone what anyone’s marital/ relationship status is. People have their reasons. Their business and theirs alone.
There’s certainly far more attached ladies in here than let on that’s for sure. "
True. But folk would understandably be annoyed if they're lied to and a raging partner is on the end of the phone or worse still at their door. |
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"I say it’s sod all to do with anyone what anyone’s marital/ relationship status is. People have their reasons. Their business and theirs alone.
There’s certainly far more attached ladies in here than let on that’s for sure.
True. But folk would understandably be annoyed if they're lied to and a raging partner is on the end of the phone or worse still at their door."
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and anyone who doesn't agree with this would change their mind if they wur on the receiving end, that's for sure |
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"I say it’s sod all to do with anyone what anyone’s marital/ relationship status is. People have their reasons. Their business and theirs alone.
There’s certainly far more attached ladies in here than let on that’s for sure.
True. But folk would understandably be annoyed if they're lied to and a raging partner is on the end of the phone or worse still at their door.
yip
and anyone who doesn't agree with this would change their mind if they wur on the receiving end, that's for sure "
You’re both implying I said keep it hidden. I didn’t. |
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"I say it’s sod all to do with anyone what anyone’s marital/ relationship status is. People have their reasons. Their business and theirs alone.
There’s certainly far more attached ladies in here than let on that’s for sure.
True. But folk would understandably be annoyed if they're lied to and a raging partner is on the end of the phone or worse still at their door.
yip
and anyone who doesn't agree with this would change their mind if they wur on the receiving end, that's for sure
You’re both implying I said keep it hidden. I didn’t. "
nope I'm not implying that, sorry if it came across that way. You do what you think is best.
I have my views that as a single guys I want to know if someone is attached so I can then make my own decision to proceed or not. I've seen way too much drama and hassle later in these types of situations have came to light to which the other partner found out.
if I find out during the meet or after I would drop her like a dead donkey. I hate being lied too |
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"I say it’s sod all to do with anyone what anyone’s marital/ relationship status is. People have their reasons. Their business and theirs alone.
There’s certainly far more attached ladies in here than let on that’s for sure.
True. But folk would understandably be annoyed if they're lied to and a raging partner is on the end of the phone or worse still at their door.
yip
and anyone who doesn't agree with this would change their mind if they wur on the receiving end, that's for sure
You’re both implying I said keep it hidden. I didn’t. "
Nah, sorry, I was just being lazy and hadn't read the whole thread properly |
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I'm married but i also have a cpls profile on here with my husband so not a cheater
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I have met an a played with attached guys.
As long as I know upfront that's my decision to make. |
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