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Just another post from a disillusioned single M workin with high levels of naivety/unearned entitlement when it comes to the site/scene.
I find this site just makes me feel more of a munter.
It can often seem like getting blood from a stone in order to get banter going at all from a lot of folk.
Despite not using the loathed 'Hows you?' "lets fuck" "wit you mean no? You fat cow" usual bollocks that gets sent to folk.
Actually reading a profile and trying to gauge if its worth messaging without wasting one anothers time. That is, if they've bothered to write more than the usual
"Single girl looking to have some fun"
With hee haw pictures, interests or anything to describe their personality, what they are looking for/on here for in the first place .
I can appreciate that a single F / MF inbox is gonna be absolutely swamped with LOTS of messages.
It does get to a stage where you begin the tightrope of feeling like you're pestering someone or being absolutely dense in not taking the hint that they're not interested at all when your mail hasn't been read.
I sympathise with the idiots that become jaded and feel the need to lash out at folk but no one gets anything outta that at all.
I know that this will just get the odd smarmy replies from folk that have a superiority complex.
Despite that, this posts really just a therapeutic rant and to let others know that theres others going through the same experience.
I've managed to meet some fun and interesting people during my time but it's trials of perseverance. Which unfortunately isn't far off going the usual route of the usual dating sites. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If folk fancy you
They will meet you
If they don't..they won't.
It is that simple.
Your verified and have met folk already so that makes you ahead than most single guys.
No poi t having a rant about how hard it is or why folk don't read your messages.nothing is gonna change that |
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"Just another post from a disillusioned single M workin with high levels of naivety/unearned entitlement when it comes to the site/scene.
I find this site just makes me feel more of a munter.
It can often seem like getting blood from a stone in order to get banter going at all from a lot of folk.
Despite not using the loathed 'Hows you?' "lets fuck" "wit you mean no? You fat cow" usual bollocks that gets sent to folk.
Actually reading a profile and trying to gauge if its worth messaging without wasting one anothers time. That is, if they've bothered to write more than the usual
"Single girl looking to have some fun"
With hee haw pictures, interests or anything to describe their personality, what they are looking for/on here for in the first place .
I can appreciate that a single F / MF inbox is gonna be absolutely swamped with LOTS of messages.
It does get to a stage where you begin the tightrope of feeling like you're pestering someone or being absolutely dense in not taking the hint that they're not interested at all when your mail hasn't been read.
I sympathise with the idiots that become jaded and feel the need to lash out at folk but no one gets anything outta that at all.
I know that this will just get the odd smarmy replies from folk that have a superiority complex.
Despite that, this posts really just a therapeutic rant and to let others know that theres others going through the same experience.
I've managed to meet some fun and interesting people during my time but it's trials of perseverance. Which unfortunately isn't far off going the usual route of the usual dating sites."
Yep most of it is a rant.
But I will say, your last paragraph is true about the dating sites. Have had more meets and fun from other sites than on here. But I'm a realist, I know there are lots of other younger guys , studs shall we say, that I know I can't compete with on here. But I don't complain , it's a woman's world and a woman's choice. I think though some of the self proclaimed nice guys on here THINK they are young studs on here and my guess is , it's probably sympathy shags they get lol. Or if the female does meet or have fun he will eventually stop proclaiming how nice a guy he is in all his messages. Lol
Good attitude though OP just go with the flow. Use other sites too, it's all good.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If folk fancy you
They will meet you
If they don't..they won't.
It is that simple.
Your verified and have met folk already so that makes you ahead than most single guys.
No poi t having a rant about how hard it is or why folk don't read your messages.nothing is gonna change that"
This exactly. Had no problems chatting to most people I found funny/interesting. If they're not interested in me in return, hey ho, I couldn't care less!  |
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I know the feeling, I've managed to have a few meets with some really nice,funny, genuine people- also had a couple of absolute roasters just to balance it out, but at times I do feel a bit disillusioned on here- especially with the timewasters, but not lost all hope just yet. Woman have a huge choice on here so ultimately it's down to them who they decide to chat,meet with. |
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"From a females point
Yes we receive way more mail than most single guys but...Just because we get more does not mean the choice is better?
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Now that's a very good point. I'm lucky to be on here as a single guy but also 1 half of a Fab couple so while I'm not privvy to all the messages my OH gets, she would no doubt agree with this post too. She is ready and willing to meet single guys but majority on here are twats. Still a woman's world though  |
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"From a females point
Yes we receive way more mail than most single guys but...Just because we get more does not mean the choice is better?
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This....by the time you've received your 152nd offer of being "destroyed by my monster cock babe" and then called a "mong" (fucking hate that word!!!) for knocking back this once in a lifetime offer, ye kinda lose the will to live a toatie wee bit. |
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"From a females point
Yes we receive way more mail than most single guys but...Just because we get more does not mean the choice is better?
This....by the time you've received your 152nd offer of being "destroyed by my monster cock babe" and then called a "mong" (fucking hate that word!!!) for knocking back this once in a lifetime offer, ye kinda lose the will to live a toatie wee bit."
What if I offered you a heavy petting session only and promised you not to call you any names , would that put me up your list of possibilities a little bit.  |
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"From a females point
Yes we receive way more mail than most single guys but...Just because we get more does not mean the choice is better?
This....by the time you've received your 152nd offer of being "destroyed by my monster cock babe" and then called a "mong" (fucking hate that word!!!) for knocking back this once in a lifetime offer, ye kinda lose the will to live a toatie wee bit.
What if I offered you a heavy petting session only and promised you not to call you any names , would that put me up your list of possibilities a little bit. "
Let me think about it.....................................................................................................Nah |
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I think it's more about the volume of mail ..God I get so many messages from so many nice guys ..impossible to meet everyone ....or even reply to every mail x |
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"I think it's more about the volume of mail ..God I get so many messages from so many nice guys ..impossible to meet everyone ....or even reply to every mail x"
You know everyone hates a boast lol |
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"From a females point
Yes we receive way more mail than most single guys but...Just because we get more does not mean the choice is better?
This....by the time you've received your 152nd offer of being "destroyed by my monster cock babe" and then called a "mong" (fucking hate that word!!!) for knocking back this once in a lifetime offer, ye kinda lose the will to live a toatie wee bit.
What if I offered you a heavy petting session only and promised you not to call you any names , would that put me up your list of possibilities a little bit.
Let me think about it.....................................................................................................Nah "
That's a lot of dots there, can see it was a tough decision. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If any women on here can't get a shag, I will do sympathy shags to help out.
#selfless_sacrifice
Hahaha you're all heart"
Yes, and I give all my out of date food to foodbanks too. |
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"If folk fancy you
They will meet you
If they don't..they won't.
It is that simple.
Your verified and have met folk already so that makes you ahead than most single guys.
No poi t having a rant about how hard it is or why folk don't read your messages.nothing is gonna change that"
This.
My only frustration is that two meets in and neither would verify me. |
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I had a great start to Fab, quite a few meets in a relatively short time.
Then it transpired that those meets were pretty much all those who were in the area whose profile I matched!
Over time, they have all gone UNLOS or just not active anymore.
Leaving me in the normal situation for a lone male on Fab!  |
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Yeah we get overwhelmed at times with random messages. Some of them definitely not worth responding to. But I also know if the abuse guys get at times, even if they have put in effort writing a nice message. And to be told to f*ck off or get insulted is unnecessary and uncalled for, no matter what gender you are. Just keep using that block button and you'll eventually filter out the arseholes.
My guestimate is about 1 in 500 people I've come across on here are decent, fun and even attractive and they do actually make it worthwhile for me still. Met some brilliant people and lots of amazing times. And i have a block list about 2 miles long
Don't despair, there are some good people on here, just need patience finding them and be quite thick skinned as well x |
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"Yeah we get overwhelmed at times with random messages. Some of them definitely not worth responding to. But I also know if the abuse guys get at times, even if they have put in effort writing a nice message. And to be told to f*ck off or get insulted is unnecessary and uncalled for, no matter what gender you are. Just keep using that block button and you'll eventually filter out the arseholes.
My guestimate is about 1 in 500 people I've come across on here are decent, fun and even attractive and they do actually make it worthwhile for me still. Met some brilliant people and lots of amazing times. And i have a block list about 2 miles long
Don't despair, there are some good people on here, just need patience finding them and be quite thick skinned as well x"
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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago
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"I think it's more about the volume of mail ..God I get so many messages from so many nice guys ..impossible to meet everyone ....or even reply to every mail x"
And therein lies the problem for single guys. There are waaaaay to many messages for ladies to even start to read. They’d need a week to read a days worth of messages. (By the way I sent you one )
As an ‘average male’ on Fab I can say from experience that if it’s meant to be, you’ll find the good ones.
But, there’s always one or three that got away and you have to live with that.
Make the best of what you’ve got and be nice (well, nice-ish  ) |
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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago
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"Yeah we get overwhelmed at times with random messages. Some of them definitely not worth responding to. But I also know if the abuse guys get at times, even if they have put in effort writing a nice message. And to be told to f*ck off or get insulted is unnecessary and uncalled for, no matter what gender you are. Just keep using that block button and you'll eventually filter out the arseholes.
My guestimate is about 1 in 500 people I've come across on here are decent, fun and even attractive and they do actually make it worthwhile for me still. Met some brilliant people and lots of amazing times. And i have a block list about 2 miles long
Don't despair, there are some good people on here, just need patience finding them and be quite thick skinned as well x"
*wonders if he’s on the nice list or the naughty list |
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"Yeah we get overwhelmed at times with random messages. Some of them definitely not worth responding to. But I also know if the abuse guys get at times, even if they have put in effort writing a nice message. And to be told to f*ck off or get insulted is unnecessary and uncalled for, no matter what gender you are. Just keep using that block button and you'll eventually filter out the arseholes.
My guestimate is about 1 in 500 people I've come across on here are decent, fun and even attractive and they do actually make it worthwhile for me still. Met some brilliant people and lots of amazing times. And i have a block list about 2 miles long
Don't despair, there are some good people on here, just need patience finding them and be quite thick skinned as well x"
I would say 95% of men on here are decent. Maybe not for me but still lovely genuine folk. |
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Through this site I have met some extremely beautiful women. And for an ugly bugger like me it does a lot for your self esteem. I don’t actually know if this helps your post in anyway but it’s what springs to mind |
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"Yeah we get overwhelmed at times with random messages. Some of them definitely not worth responding to. But I also know if the abuse guys get at times, even if they have put in effort writing a nice message. And to be told to f*ck off or get insulted is unnecessary and uncalled for, no matter what gender you are. Just keep using that block button and you'll eventually filter out the arseholes.
My guestimate is about 1 in 500 people I've come across on here are decent, fun and even attractive and they do actually make it worthwhile for me still. Met some brilliant people and lots of amazing times. And i have a block list about 2 miles long
Don't despair, there are some good people on here, just need patience finding them and be quite thick skinned as well x
I would say 95% of men on here are decent. Maybe not for me but still lovely genuine folk."
Yeah plenty decent people, but I'm on the look out for decent, fun and attractive |
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"Yeah we get overwhelmed at times with random messages. Some of them definitely not worth responding to. But I also know if the abuse guys get at times, even if they have put in effort writing a nice message. And to be told to f*ck off or get insulted is unnecessary and uncalled for, no matter what gender you are. Just keep using that block button and you'll eventually filter out the arseholes.
My guestimate is about 1 in 500 people I've come across on here are decent, fun and even attractive and they do actually make it worthwhile for me still. Met some brilliant people and lots of amazing times. And i have a block list about 2 miles long
Don't despair, there are some good people on here, just need patience finding them and be quite thick skinned as well x
I would say 95% of men on here are decent. Maybe not for me but still lovely genuine folk.
Yeah plenty decent people, but I'm on the look out for decent, fun and attractive "
Attractive in my opinion mind, doesn't mean they're ugly. |
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"Single girl looking to have some fun"
With hee haw pictures, interests or anything to describe their personality, what they are looking for/on here for in the first place ..
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Let’s just also bring to the equation that not all female profiles are genuine... yeah that’s right...? ”straight guys” use all sorts of twisted methods to gain access to pics...
Also.. it’s difficult for a female on here not to form some sense of a superiority complex, they are inundated with messages from guys (guys so desperate to get their end away that they would dry hump any female that walked into a bar) constantly told how hot they are/sound (my personal favourite here... they sound sexy from their interests! Quality) when I was part of a couple On here I was dumbfounded by the messages my other half received... illiterate and desperate...
Based on my knowledge and understanding, if I like someone’s profile or forum posts.. I will send them a message.. laced with my own sense of humour... and if there isn’t a reply? Guess what? I put on my big boy pants and don’t post a thread about ‘how hard it is for guys’
Good luck in your future ventures though buddy
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