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Don't know how everyone else copes but we have had a crap 6 months and is still ongoing! The stress of having to deal with a parent that has dementia, phone calls at 3 in the morning, multiple calls on the same subject.
We are so run down, when the kids go to other parents we don't go out because we don't have a circle of friends so sitting talking to each other is hellish.
Moan over, cheer us both up please. ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its life mucker, we all have private life's and they are all different.
My brother who is in hospital and officially I am one of his carers, so am back and forth to hospital and I have two wonderful kids who stay with the ex, so I don't arrange meets often as I try and keep the time available for my kids in the hope they might wanna come over to see me, older teens ehhh
I coach in the evenings, 5 days a week so really my private life, time is limited but don't feel bad about it we all have to deal with it.
Just don't let things get you down and if you manage to have a meet just have a fantastic time and enjoy whose ever company your with, social or fun
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"Don't know how everyone else copes but we have had a crap 6 months and is still ongoing! The stress of having to deal with a parent that has dementia, phone calls at 3 in the morning, multiple calls on the same subject.
We are so run down, when the kids go to other parents we don't go out because we don't have a circle of friends so sitting talking to each other is hellish.
Moan over, cheer us both up please. ??"
loads of folk on here dont actually meet anyone
So as someone said get involved with the chatrooms/forums and have a giggle and let off some steamthat way.
Take naughty pics and exchange them to folk you like
You don't have to meet to get some kicks
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Don't know how everyone else copes but we have had a crap 6 months and is still ongoing! The stress of having to deal with a parent that has dementia, phone calls at 3 in the morning, multiple calls on the same subject.
We are so run down, when the kids go to other parents we don't go out because we don't have a circle of friends so sitting talking to each other is hellish.
Moan over, cheer us both up please. ??"
Make an effort to do stuff together. Wee drive and go for lunch or even pack a pic nic and save some £. Tue/Wed night at the cinema for 2 for 1 tickets....Or put the phone off, pull the curtains and cosy up in the sofa with a film...loads of stuff you can do. Sorry you're having a shite time, happens to us all but don't lose sight of one another along the way |
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"Don't know how everyone else copes but we have had a crap 6 months and is still ongoing! The stress of having to deal with a parent that has dementia, phone calls at 3 in the morning, multiple calls on the same subject.
We are so run down, when the kids go to other parents we don't go out because we don't have a circle of friends so sitting talking to each other is hellish.
Moan over, cheer us both up please. ??"
Sorry to hear about you both having to go through this.
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By (user no longer on site)
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Lost one to cancer at beginning of year and one has dementia.
In laws who I kept in touch with, lost one of them to dementia 1 week after the cancer one then 2 weeks later lost other in law to heart attack.
I run a meditation group one night a week, look after grandweans 2 days a week and try to cram an evening job in there as well.
Not to mention after bankruptcy I moved in with my son so cannot accommodate.
Keep getting involved with the banter in here it helps to cheer up the day
Who knows when you might get lucky and have a free day at the same time as someone else in here
Stick with it
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By (user no longer on site)
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The thing about life is that you must survive. Life is going to be difficult and dreadful things will happen what you do is move along and get on with it, and be tough. Not in the sense of being mean to others, but tough with yourself and making a deadly effort not to be defeated.  |
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"Don't know how everyone else copes but we have had a crap 6 months and is still ongoing! The stress of having to deal with a parent that has dementia, phone calls at 3 in the morning, multiple calls on the same subject.
We are so run down, when the kids go to other parents we don't go out because we don't have a circle of friends so sitting talking to each other is hellish.
Moan over, cheer us both up please. ??
Make an effort to do stuff together. Wee drive and go for lunch or even pack a pic nic and save some £. Tue/Wed night at the cinema for 2 for 1 tickets....Or put the phone off, pull the curtains and cosy up in the sofa with a film...loads of stuff you can do. Sorry you're having a shite time, happens to us all but don't lose sight of one another along the way "
Agree with this
Also maybe get in contact with your local Carer Centre they can be a great help. |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
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Try and get respite organised. I worked briefly in Adult Mental Health. Ask the GP or consultant for a referral for respite. You don’t have to do this alone. There are support groups for families/carers. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sometimes I forget how easy my life is. But you just got to make the most of the time you do get. I am trying to say something funny but for the first time in a long time I can’t think of anything to say. Must be the time. |
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By *ane DTV/TS
over a year ago
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I know where you are coming from.
I've spent more than 2 decades dealing with a partner who has an ongoing debilitating neurological condition.
If you want to vent, feel free to drop me a pm.
Stay strong, you are not alone.
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"Don't know how everyone else copes but we have had a crap 6 months and is still ongoing! The stress of having to deal with a parent that has dementia, phone calls at 3 in the morning, multiple calls on the same subject.
We are so run down, when the kids go to other parents we don't go out because we don't have a circle of friends so sitting talking to each other is hellish.
Moan over, cheer us both up please. ??"
your parents wont be around for ever so cherish whatever time you have left with them.
As some have said seek restbite if its all getting too much for you & maybe put this site on the back burner for a while just to consentrate on them and to give yourselves time for each other |
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"Don't know how everyone else copes but we have had a crap 6 months and is still ongoing! The stress of having to deal with a parent that has dementia, phone calls at 3 in the morning, multiple calls on the same subject.
We are so run down, when the kids go to other parents we don't go out because we don't have a circle of friends so sitting talking to each other is hellish.
Moan over, cheer us both up please. ??"
As been said lots of social care help available. Definitely use the respite care now and then a week here and there will do you good plus wont cost you anything. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Don't know how everyone else copes but we have had a crap 6 months and is still ongoing! The stress of having to deal with a parent that has dementia, phone calls at 3 in the morning, multiple calls on the same subject.
We are so run down, when the kids go to other parents we don't go out because we don't have a circle of friends so sitting talking to each other is hellish.
Moan over, cheer us both up please. ??"
All the best, OP. Hang in there, things don't stay bad/tough forever. It's all peaks and troughs.
Clichèd, but, conversations with trusted confidants can relieve some burden and lift a weight and that run down feeling, even if it's just temporarily.
But you asked to be cheered up, so I'll give this a bash;
My dog ate all the piece of my Scrabble set last week.
He kept leaving little messages all over the garden.
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"Don't know how everyone else copes but we have had a crap 6 months and is still ongoing! The stress of having to deal with a parent that has dementia, phone calls at 3 in the morning, multiple calls on the same subject.
We are so run down, when the kids go to other parents we don't go out because we don't have a circle of friends so sitting talking to each other is hellish.
Moan over, cheer us both up please. ??
All the best, OP. Hang in there, things don't stay bad/tough forever. It's all peaks and troughs.
Clichèd, but, conversations with trusted confidants can relieve some burden and lift a weight and that run down feeling, even if it's just temporarily.
But you asked to be cheered up, so I'll give this a bash;
My dog ate all the piece of my Scrabble set last week.
He kept leaving little messages all over the garden.
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Who the fuck are you and what have you done with The Butler?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Don't know how everyone else copes but we have had a crap 6 months and is still ongoing! The stress of having to deal with a parent that has dementia, phone calls at 3 in the morning, multiple calls on the same subject.
We are so run down, when the kids go to other parents we don't go out because we don't have a circle of friends so sitting talking to each other is hellish.
Moan over, cheer us both up please. ??
All the best, OP. Hang in there, things don't stay bad/tough forever. It's all peaks and troughs.
Clichèd, but, conversations with trusted confidants can relieve some burden and lift a weight and that run down feeling, even if it's just temporarily.
But you asked to be cheered up, so I'll give this a bash;
My dog ate all the piece of my Scrabble set last week.
He kept leaving little messages all over the garden.
Who the fuck are you and what have you done with The Butler? "
Account's been hacked.
Please bear with me. And I hope your day has been better, OP.
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"Don't know how everyone else copes but we have had a crap 6 months and is still ongoing! The stress of having to deal with a parent that has dementia, phone calls at 3 in the morning, multiple calls on the same subject.
We are so run down, when the kids go to other parents we don't go out because we don't have a circle of friends so sitting talking to each other is hellish.
Moan over, cheer us both up please. ??
All the best, OP. Hang in there, things don't stay bad/tough forever. It's all peaks and troughs.
Clichèd, but, conversations with trusted confidants can relieve some burden and lift a weight and that run down feeling, even if it's just temporarily.
But you asked to be cheered up, so I'll give this a bash;
My dog ate all the piece of my Scrabble set last week.
He kept leaving little messages all over the garden.
Who the fuck are you and what have you done with The Butler? "
No way absolutley no way was mary doll be nice & polite. Someone phone the polis mary dolls knicked a soft side |
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As others have said, contact your local Carers Centre. I used to work in a carers centre and was employed specifically to develop a support service for people caring for over 65s.
The wealth of information, support, encouragement and the opportunity to vent is invaluable. They will likely (funding dependent) offer some sort of short break service where they will provide trained volunteers to sit with your loved one for a few hours - sometimes longer, to give you some respite. They will also be able to give you info about longer respite breaks and either carry out a carers assessment, or refer you on for one, as well as refer you for a carers healthcheck. In our centre we provided training - based on the condition of your cared for person, as well as things like anxiety management and mindfulness for yourself as well. We also had funding to provide alternative therapies, ran peer support groups, had peer mentors, craft groups, walking groups and all sorts.
Feel free to PM if I can help in anyway.
And remember to care for yourself, and each other, in the midst of everything that’s going on x |
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