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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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What is it with people who ask to meet you for a social and to see what happens but won’t send you a face pic?
I mean, I don’t want to take the time and effort to get ready for a meet and find out that when I turn up that she looks like Shrek.
I just don’t get it.
For me, there needs to be an attraction. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What is it with people who ask to meet you for a social and to see what happens but won’t send you a face pic?
I mean, I don’t want to take the time and effort to get ready for a meet and find out that when I turn up that she looks like Shrek.
I just don’t get it.
For me, there needs to be an attraction. "
They are just after free coffee and cake. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Does our head in. As does "i can only send pics on kik" Why there and not here? its like a high school playground at times on here.
People need to get that for most people this site is purely about physical encounters. We would never meet without knowing theres a basic attraction there because without that its utterly pointless |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What is it with people who ask to meet you for a social and to see what happens but won’t send you a face pic?
I mean, I don’t want to take the time and effort to get ready for a meet and find out that when I turn up that she looks like Shrek.
I just don’t get it.
For me, there needs to be an attraction. "
Aside from that, how would you recognise them in Costa? |
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By *oast888Man
over a year ago
cambuslang |
There is probably an opinion on here that most single guys would literally shag a barbers floor and if they are willing to meet someone socially without seeing what they look like that just backs up that theory so the question to the ladies would be why on earth would you go and meet someone for a social who hadn't insisted on seeing what you look like? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It doesn't always work, though. My first meet, on my old profile, we swapped pics, and while it was her in the pic, it had clearly been taken about 10 years earlier. It didn't go beyond the social, and the only consolation was, we went dutch. It didn't put me off meeting, obviously, but it did make me more wary.
Does the direct pic thing make it better? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I don't get a face pic then I don't meet them. Simple. Begs the question, what are they hiding?  x
Probably a big nose"
Mine is visible without pictures.  |
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"It doesn't always work, though. My first meet, on my old profile, we swapped pics, and while it was her in the pic, it had clearly been taken about 10 years earlier. It didn't go beyond the social, and the only consolation was, we went dutch. It didn't put me off meeting, obviously, but it did make me more wary.
Does the direct pic thing make it better?"
It does make it better to see who you are chatting too, I always ask is that a recent pic or an old one as I would like to see what you look like now lol better to be upfront  |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
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I met someone years ago from another site. Didn’t have the knowledge then to ask for a face pic. He had obviously put on a few stones never mind pounds!
Still never updated his pic even after I’d told him! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I absolutely agree that if there's no pic then There will be no meet!
I just don’t get it why people nowadays would meet without seeing someone.
Do people still wear the red carnation?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What is it with people who ask to meet you for a social and to see what happens but won’t send you a face pic?
I mean, I don’t want to take the time and effort to get ready for a meet and find out that when I turn up that she looks like Shrek.
I just don’t get it.
I don’t share pics before a social meet
For me, there needs to be an attraction. "
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"It doesn't always work, though. My first meet, on my old profile, we swapped pics, and while it was her in the pic, it had clearly been taken about 10 years earlier. It didn't go beyond the social, and the only consolation was, we went dutch. It didn't put me off meeting, obviously, but it did make me more wary.
Does the direct pic thing make it better?"
No because you can still send an old picture from your gallery |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I always meet blind have t sent anyone pics before a meet
What if it's someone you know, has that ever happened?"
A few times it’s no big deal to me tbh met a former work colleague at a party last night and used to have guys I worked with sending me pics all time back in the day they were married I was single, I don’t hurt anyone and I’m respectful of others and I just expect same tbh there’s women and cpls on here look for me verifying guys as being nice because if I’ve got on with them then generally they’re pretty decent folk,I tend to find no pics filters out a lot more time wasters and assholes than any other means been on and off fab for dinner get ten years and have never had any problem meeting guys who tick all my boxes and I’m super fussy |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I always meet blind have t sent anyone pics before a meet
What if it's someone you know, has that ever happened?
A few times it’s no big deal to me tbh met a former work colleague at a party last night and used to have guys I worked with sending me pics all time back in the day they were married I was single, I don’t hurt anyone and I’m respectful of others and I just expect same tbh there’s women and cpls on here look for me verifying guys as being nice because if I’ve got on with them then generally they’re pretty decent folk,I tend to find no pics filters out a lot more time wasters and assholes than any other means been on and off fab for dinner get ten years and have never had any problem meeting guys who tick all my boxes and I’m super fussy "
Lol iPhone autocorrect dinner wtf |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Very strange but if it works for you then great "
Well let’s face it not a lot of pics on here actually reflect the person who’s sending it so I’d rather not go with any pre conceived notions and besides as I’ve gotten older I’m not quite so vain and finding I’m attracted to guys in te past I’d never have looked twice at, don’t get me wrong I do still like to pull the best looking guy in a room but I’m not after one night s_ands anymore so much rather someone I can have fun and a laugh and some regular fun with than a bit of eye candy who I defo wouldn’t want to meet again because they have zero personality |
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"I always meet blind have t sent anyone pics before a meet
What if it's someone you know, has that ever happened?
A few times it’s no big deal to me tbh met a former work colleague at a party last night and used to have guys I worked with sending me pics all time back in the day they were married I was single, I don’t hurt anyone and I’m respectful of others and I just expect same tbh there’s women and cpls on here look for me verifying guys as being nice because if I’ve got on with them then generally they’re pretty decent folk,I tend to find no pics filters out a lot more time wasters and assholes than any other means been on and off fab for dinner get ten years and have never had any problem meeting guys who tick all my boxes and I’m super fussy "
But what if you are not attracted to them at all has it not been a waste of your time going out to meet them, I've had some guys send me pictures of themselves and it's a massive no based on Their looks, I'm sure it has gone the other way as well when I've sent pictures of myself I just don't get why you would go to the bother of meeting people you are not attracted to |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I always meet blind have t sent anyone pics before a meet
What if it's someone you know, has that ever happened?
A few times it’s no big deal to me tbh met a former work colleague at a party last night and used to have guys I worked with sending me pics all time back in the day they were married I was single, I don’t hurt anyone and I’m respectful of others and I just expect same tbh there’s women and cpls on here look for me verifying guys as being nice because if I’ve got on with them then generally they’re pretty decent folk,I tend to find no pics filters out a lot more time wasters and assholes than any other means been on and off fab for dinner get ten years and have never had any problem meeting guys who tick all my boxes and I’m super fussy
But what if you are not attracted to them at all has it not been a waste of your time going out to meet them, I've had some guys send me pictures of themselves and it's a massive no based on Their looks, I'm sure it has gone the other way as well when I've sent pictures of myself I just don't get why you would go to the bother of meeting people you are not attracted to"
Oh I’m not just on fab for the sex tbh I could get that anywhere several times a week I just love meeting new people and socialising, I go to cjs sometimes every week and don’t ever play, I was at a house party last night and didn’t play, there’s lots of lovely people out there I’m happy to meet anyone for a social even guys who have pics on their profile and I’m like nope wouldn’t go near them not my type but still happy to meet and chat and if we get on I’ll give them verification as such, if you were to see the folk I’ve verified you’ll notice most of them are just social meets, some folk I’ve met I’ve just thought yep your a complete arsehole so I refuse to verify them and don’t chat again, I don’t see it as time wasted but then I’m always a bit different from most folk lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My time for meeting is limited so Id rather make sure I was meeting someone I was attracted to than someone I might not be so no pic no meet for me too "
This plus if they can't sent a photo it makes me think they've got something to hide. |
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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago
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"My time for meeting is limited so Id rather make sure I was meeting someone I was attracted to than someone I might not be so no pic no meet for me too
This plus if they can't sent a photo it makes me think they've got something to hide. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My time for meeting is limited so Id rather make sure I was meeting someone I was attracted to than someone I might not be so no pic no meet for me too "
Same for me. I hate even getting too far into a chat without swapping faces as it’s such a dealbreaker |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My time for meeting is limited so Id rather make sure I was meeting someone I was attracted to than someone I might not be so no pic no meet for me too
This plus if they can't sent a photo it makes me think they've got something to hide.
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Some people shouldn’t send pics though eh lol |
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By *oast888Man
over a year ago
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Here's one.
If say you wouldn't normally go with anyone that you would rate say less than 7 out of ten but you had engaged in enjoyable conversation with someone for sometime before seeing their face and they only come in at about a 5 would the intellectual connection make up for this or would you just advise them to get back in their cage? |
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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago
south east |
"My time for meeting is limited so Id rather make sure I was meeting someone I was attracted to than someone I might not be so no pic no meet for me too
This plus if they can't sent a photo it makes me think they've got something to hide.
Some people shouldn’t send pics though eh lol "
Sorry i'll stop  |
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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago
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"Here's one.
If say you wouldn't normally go with anyone that you would rate say less than 7 out of ten but you had engaged in enjoyable conversation with someone for sometime before seeing their face and they only come in at about a 5 would the intellectual connection make up for this or would you just advise them to get back in their cage?"
Sorry but never in my life have I given a lady a number rating ..I either fancy them or I dont  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I don't get a face pic then I don't meet them. Simple. Begs the question, what are they hiding? x
Probably a big nose
A big something! Lol x
And in lots of cases a small something "
There is that too x |
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By *oast888Man
over a year ago
cambuslang |
"Here's one.
If say you wouldn't normally go with anyone that you would rate say less than 7 out of ten but you had engaged in enjoyable conversation with someone for sometime before seeing their face and they only come in at about a 5 would the intellectual connection make up for this or would you just advise them to get back in their cage?
Sorry but never in my life have I given a lady a number rating ..I either fancy them or I dont "
Pretty black and white, fair enough |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Here's one.
If say you wouldn't normally go with anyone that you would rate say less than 7 out of ten but you had engaged in enjoyable conversation with someone for sometime before seeing their face and they only come in at about a 5 would the intellectual connection make up for this or would you just advise them to get back in their cage?"
I don’t think rating out of 10 works. It’s just either attracted or not attracted. Based on both chat and face |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Here's one.
If say you wouldn't normally go with anyone that you would rate say less than 7 out of ten but you had engaged in enjoyable conversation with someone for sometime before seeing their face and they only come in at about a 5 would the intellectual connection make up for this or would you just advise them to get back in their cage?
Sorry but never in my life have I given a lady a number rating ..I either fancy them or I dont "
Ha snap! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Here's one.
If say you wouldn't normally go with anyone that you would rate say less than 7 out of ten but you had engaged in enjoyable conversation with someone for sometime before seeing their face and they only come in at about a 5 would the intellectual connection make up for this or would you just advise them to get back in their cage?"
I would go with the flow and see where it takes me like I said before I’ve grew up massively and I was in a long term relationship with a guy that was so far away from my type when I met him but I fell head over heels and loved everything about him and he just did it for me but his own lack of confidence was what ultimately destroyed our relationship and broke my heart |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My time for meeting is limited so Id rather make sure I was meeting someone I was attracted to than someone I might not be so no pic no meet for me too
This plus if they can't sent a photo it makes me think they've got something to hide.
Some people shouldn’t send pics though eh lol
Sorry i'll stop "
Just kidding lol I’d have blocked you ages ago and you’re one of the few who has seen me |
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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago
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"My time for meeting is limited so Id rather make sure I was meeting someone I was attracted to than someone I might not be so no pic no meet for me too
This plus if they can't sent a photo it makes me think they've got something to hide.
Some people shouldn’t send pics though eh lol
Sorry i'll stop
Just kidding lol I’d have blocked you ages ago and you’re one of the few who has seen me "
Indeed  |
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By *oast888Man
over a year ago
cambuslang |
"I'll leave the numbers rating to the any holes a goal brigade that keep scores  "
I'm not sure the any holes a goal brigade would keep ratings on the basis that they are the any holes a goal brigade |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My time for meeting is limited so Id rather make sure I was meeting someone I was attracted to than someone I might not be so no pic no meet for me too
This plus if they can't sent a photo it makes me think they've got something to hide.
Some people shouldn’t send pics though eh lol "
True...many a phone screen broken that way... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Here's one.
If say you wouldn't normally go with anyone that you would rate say less than 7 out of ten but you had engaged in enjoyable conversation with someone for sometime before seeing their face and they only come in at about a 5 would the intellectual connection make up for this or would you just advise them to get back in their cage?"
Their personality would definitely "up" their rating for me and something could probably, mibbes, sorta happen... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do tend to have a ratings system in my head and 6 is usually the low end pass and an attractive but not necessarily stunning women would get a 7. Loads of 7s and 7.5s in my eyes.
But I’m genuinely more into personality and if a girl that was a 6.5 or something appeared and she was hilarious and a good match in terms of interests I’d probably like her better than a stunner with little personality or compatibility.
Besides, if you really like someone it adds points to their score. I’ve been really into women who would only score a 6 or 7 simply because they’re funny or really bright and intelligent and get you thinking.
And I don’t just think about sex on here. I kinda treat it as a colourful dating site. Yeah, if I meet a woman and she’s at least mildly attractive and keeps my attention then I’d be happy to see her again or sleep with her if she was really into doing that. I’m not a pushy guy though so I’d be patient about it.
I’ve knocked back offers that were just sex. If I don’t have any emotional tie to someone in any way it just seems awkward to me.
Even sharing a joke or having a meal and a good chat gives me that little connection but in all honesty, if you took some gorgeous porn star from the Czech Republic and shoved her on the sofa next to me naked and we couldn’t talk to each other at all and put a mildly pretty girl who was chatting away to me and having a laugh on the other side of the room, I’d probably move across to be honest.
Sure, sex can be fun and even can provide something to talk about and make a connection eventually but in all truth I like to have sex with a woman I know something about and can please rather than someone that is just a visual fantasy. |
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