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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So for us novices whats the best way to approach a club night at places like CJs? Spaces for single guys are limited and tbh I’d find it quite nerve wracking just rocking up on my own!! Ha
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Keep your money and go to a pub instead. A lot more fun and you won't feel so ripped off  "
From experience?
Bet there are a few who argue for the other side |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What's the going rate for a couple? It's ages since I last went(id be going as a couple as opposed to a spare part)
If I'm allowed to ask. If not P.M appreciated |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not sure how £40 for a night out is ripped off? If we went out to a bar in Glasgow we would spend a hell of a lot more than that as a couple  xxx"
How many drinks does it buy you in cjs though? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not sure how £40 for a night out is ripped off? If we went out to a bar in Glasgow we would spend a hell of a lot more than that as a couple xxx"
I suppose you are paying for an experience - much rather spend £40 at CJs than £20 at cinema ha x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not sure how £40 for a night out is ripped off? If we went out to a bar in Glasgow we would spend a hell of a lot more than that as a couple xxx
How many drinks does it buy you in cjs though?"
Well, for anyone who knows you take your own drink to CJs 
I am referring to the general cost of a night out in Glasgow. Even for me to go out myself it would cost more than £40. I went to CJs myself the first couple of times I went. Something I would certainly not have done in a pub in Glasgow! I have never felt so safe in an establishment or so looked after We know when we go there that we can chat to like minded people and catch up with old friends. If something else happens, it happens. If it doesn't, it doesn't. We go because it works for us xxx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Not sure how £40 for a night out is ripped off? If we went out to a bar in Glasgow we would spend a hell of a lot more than that as a couple xxx
How many drinks does it buy you in cjs though?
Well, for anyone who knows you take your own drink to CJs
I am referring to the general cost of a night out in Glasgow. Even for me to go out myself it would cost more than £40. I went to CJs myself the first couple of times I went. Something I would certainly not have done in a pub in Glasgow! I have never felt so safe in an establishment or so looked after We know when we go there that we can chat to like minded people and catch up with old friends. If something else happens, it happens. If it doesn't, it doesn't. We go because it works for us xxx"
Amen to that x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not sure how £40 for a night out is ripped off? If we went out to a bar in Glasgow we would spend a hell of a lot more than that as a couple xxx
How many drinks does it buy you in cjs though?
Well, for anyone who knows you take your own drink to CJs
I am referring to the general cost of a night out in Glasgow. Even for me to go out myself it would cost more than £40. I went to CJs myself the first couple of times I went. Something I would certainly not have done in a pub in Glasgow! I have never felt so safe in an establishment or so looked after We know when we go there that we can chat to like minded people and catch up with old friends. If something else happens, it happens. If it doesn't, it doesn't. We go because it works for us xxx"
Fair dos
I'll stick to spending my money on gin |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not sure how £40 for a night out is ripped off? If we went out to a bar in Glasgow we would spend a hell of a lot more than that as a couple xxx
How many drinks does it buy you in cjs though?
Well, for anyone who knows you take your own drink to CJs
I am referring to the general cost of a night out in Glasgow. Even for me to go out myself it would cost more than £40. I went to CJs myself the first couple of times I went. Something I would certainly not have done in a pub in Glasgow! I have never felt so safe in an establishment or so looked after We know when we go there that we can chat to like minded people and catch up with old friends. If something else happens, it happens. If it doesn't, it doesn't. We go because it works for us xxx
Fair dos
I'll stick to spending my money on gin"
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By *ottieBBWWoman
over a year ago
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I’ve always had fun. Have ended up meeting single guys after i’ve chatted/ played at club. Think it best not to go expecting to play but to hopefully meet/ chat with nice folk… and it’s a byob so all good if you need a drink to clam the nerves x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’ve always had fun. Have ended up meeting single guys after i’ve chatted/ played at club. Think it best not to go expecting to play but to hopefully meet/ chat with nice folk… and it’s a byob so all good if you need a drink to clam the nerves x "
thanks - v helpful x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think your always best trying things yourself , from your own opinions ....esp as there seems to Be many tainted views at times which are not always substantiated ."
I’m looking to garner opinions prior to taking the plunge...due diligence ha
Thanks |
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"I think your always best trying things yourself , from your own opinions ....esp as there seems to Be many tainted views at times which are not always substantiated .
I’m looking to garner opinions prior to taking the plunge...due diligence ha
Thanks "
Good luck with opinions in here |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I think your always best trying things yourself , from your own opinions ....esp as there seems to Be many tainted views at times which are not always substantiated .
I’m looking to garner opinions prior to taking the plunge...due diligence ha
Thanks
Good luck with opinions in here "
Like @r$eholes - everyone’s got one?? Ha |
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"I think your always best trying things yourself , from your own opinions ....esp as there seems to Be many tainted views at times which are not always substantiated .
I’m looking to garner opinions prior to taking the plunge...due diligence ha
Thanks
Good luck with opinions in here
Like @r$eholes - everyone’s got one?? Ha"
Truest things said tonight |
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By *eADevilCouple
over a year ago
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A night in a club is what YOU make it. Sit bored in a corner and you will leave thinking its boring and rubbish. Chat to lots of people and possibly end up having fun and you will leave thinking what a great night. Go without any expectations and see what happens. Go expecting a shag and leave dissapointed. |
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"I’ve always had fun. Have ended up meeting single guys after i’ve chatted/ played at club. Think it best not to go expecting to play but to hopefully meet/ chat with nice folk… and it’s a byob so all good if you need a drink to clam the nerves x "
"A night in a club is what YOU make it. Sit bored in a corner and you will leave thinking its boring and rubbish. Chat to lots of people and possibly end up having fun and you will leave thinking what a great night. Go without any expectations and see what happens. Go expecting a shag and leave dissapointed. "
Both these statements are the best way to view any club.
Just think if it as a social event. If you have fun, then it's a bonus.
I know some people have had bad experiences at various places, but most bad comments I hear on here are from guys that went along and didn't get any "fun".
Mandy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Paying 40 quid to have sex is a rip off. We didn't go to clubs to socialise but to play. Realised we can do all the things we enjoy at home without having to put up with d*unken women or horny men |
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"Paying 40 quid to have sex is a rip off. We didn't go to clubs to socialise but to play. Realised we can do all the things we enjoy at home without having to put up with d*unken women or horny men"
Everyone is different. What works for you may not work for others. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Paying 40 quid to have sex is a rip off. We didn't go to clubs to socialise but to play. Realised we can do all the things we enjoy at home without having to put up with d*unken women or horny men
Everyone is different. What works for you may not work for others."
I'm aware of that |
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"Paying 40 quid to have sex is a rip off. We didn't go to clubs to socialise but to play. Realised we can do all the things we enjoy at home without having to put up with d*unken women or horny men
Everyone is different. What works for you may not work for others.
I'm aware of that "
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I LOVE going to the clubs. Even if just for the social element. I think the atmosphere is friendlier. Walk into any bar in the centre of Leeds and there’s some little pretentious gits look you up and down. Walk into the swingers club and everyone had a ‘hello’ for you.
Well that’s what it’s like at my one anyway xx |
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"So for us novices whats the best way to approach a club night at places like CJs? Spaces for single guys are limited and tbh I’d find it quite nerve wracking just rocking up on my own!! Ha
Advice most welcome!! "
We love clubs, so social - start with the bar area (move round but obv don't follow) be polite & friendly, smile make eye contact and chat to people. Have no expectations and enjoy yourself - Fi xx |
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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago
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"I LOVE going to the clubs. Even if just for the social element. I think the atmosphere is friendlier. Walk into any bar in the centre of Leeds and there’s some little pretentious gits look you up and down. Walk into the swingers club and everyone had a ‘hello’ for you.
Well that’s what it’s like at my one anyway xx "
I agree with you goodnite. I find the swinging socials much more acceptable and friendly. They just don’t care who you are or what you look like. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Paying 40 quid to have sex is a rip off. We didn't go to clubs to socialise but to play. Realised we can do all the things we enjoy at home without having to put up with d*unken women or horny men"
And therein lies the difference We don't look at it as 'paying £40 to have sex'. If we wanted that we would hire a prostitute! We are paying for a night out socialising with like minded people in a nice relaxed atmosphere xxx |
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By *eADevilCouple
over a year ago
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"Paying 40 quid to have sex is a rip off. We didn't go to clubs to socialise but to play. Realised we can do all the things we enjoy at home without having to put up with d*unken women or horny men"
Looking at your profile you neither want socials or friends just sex so by paying into a club you ripped yourself off. This is where the misconception of a club occurs, yourself and some other people think your payment at the door is your right to a shag. WRONG!!! .Its simply a safe managed enviroment where like minded people can meet, chat freely, and possibly retire to a clean, maintained room if they get on well enough to have fun that night. Im honestly glad you would never go back to a club because YOU are the type of clientele that can give clubs a bad name and spoil the social aspect of it for everyone else. |
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"Paying 40 quid to have sex is a rip off. We didn't go to clubs to socialise but to play. Realised we can do all the things we enjoy at home without having to put up with d*unken women or horny men
Looking at your profile you neither want socials or friends just sex so by paying into a club you ripped yourself off. This is where the misconception of a club occurs, yourself and some other people think your payment at the door is your right to a shag. WRONG!!! .Its simply a safe managed enviroment where like minded people can meet, chat freely, and possibly retire to a clean, maintained room if they get on well enough to have fun that night. Im honestly glad you would never go back to a club because YOU are the type of clientele that can give clubs a bad name and spoil the social aspect of it for everyone else."
Going to a club is whatever you want it to be. You pay at the door and if you want to socialise fine...if you want to just play fine. I go to a club and want to fuck Mr and and enjoy the voyeuer aspect of it and play with males. It's couples like you who turn their nose up at that is the reason we haven't went back x |
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By *eADevilCouple
over a year ago
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"Paying 40 quid to have sex is a rip off. We didn't go to clubs to socialise but to play. Realised we can do all the things we enjoy at home without having to put up with d*unken women or horny men
Looking at your profile you neither want socials or friends just sex so by paying into a club you ripped yourself off. This is where the misconception of a club occurs, yourself and some other people think your payment at the door is your right to a shag. WRONG!!! .Its simply a safe managed enviroment where like minded people can meet, chat freely, and possibly retire to a clean, maintained room if they get on well enough to have fun that night. Im honestly glad you would never go back to a club because YOU are the type of clientele that can give clubs a bad name and spoil the social aspect of it for everyone else.
Going to a club is whatever you want it to be. You pay at the door and if you want to socialise fine...if you want to just play fine. I go to a club and want to fuck Mr and and enjoy the voyeuer aspect of it and play with males. It's couples like you who turn their nose up at that is the reason we haven't went back x"
Bit of a change there i think . You said paying £40 to have sex is a rip off ? So you paid to use a room and be watched and maybe find some males. Ahh so that for getting what YOU want , that £40 isnt so bad now is it . What part was the rip off ?? . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Anyone fancy a pint??
Calm down folks. We are on a tight budget but Forty sheets isn't outrageous and as we quite like the voyeur as well as play aspect I'm sure we will enjoy.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Keep your money and go to a pub instead. A lot more fun and you won't feel so ripped off "
I'm sure the OP goes to pubs on an ordinary night out. It looks to me like he's looking for something different and being on a swingers site I'm guessing he's looking at going to a swinging club or he wouldn't be asking on here so you're answer seems a tad silly. The forty pound which seems to be your issue is known in advance it's not slipped out your pocket when you're not looking so I don't understand why you are suggesting it's a ripoff.... go or don't go it's up to you.
To the OP your forty pounds will not guarantee you a sexual adventure. What it will do is let you socialise with likeminded people in an environment which is open inclusive and respectful. The club in question CJs is very well run with great staff they put on a full finger buffet and supply soft drinks. Running costs staffing upkeep etc all cost money so 40 pounds is very reasonable imo.
Take the plunge and go you will have a great night we go regularly and love it sometimes we play and sometimes we don't but we always have a brilliant night with great company
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Paying 40 quid to have sex is a rip off. We didn't go to clubs to socialise but to play. Realised we can do all the things we enjoy at home without having to put up with d*unken women or horny men
Looking at your profile you neither want socials or friends just sex so by paying into a club you ripped yourself off. This is where the misconception of a club occurs, yourself and some other people think your payment at the door is your right to a shag. WRONG!!! .Its simply a safe managed enviroment where like minded people can meet, chat freely, and possibly retire to a clean, maintained room if they get on well enough to have fun that night. Im honestly glad you would never go back to a club because YOU are the type of clientele that can give clubs a bad name and spoil the social aspect of it for everyone else.
Going to a club is whatever you want it to be. You pay at the door and if you want to socialise fine...if you want to just play fine. I go to a club and want to fuck Mr and and enjoy the voyeuer aspect of it and play with males. It's couples like you who turn their nose up at that is the reason we haven't went back x
Bit of a change there i think . You said paying £40 to have sex is a rip off ? So you paid to use a room and be watched and maybe find some males. Ahh so that for getting what YOU want , that £40 isnt so bad now is it . What part was the rip off ?? ."
I do think £40 to enter a club is a rip off. You started talking about the reason why people were there and their right to get a shag so I gave my point of view on that. You go for your reasons I go for mine. I don't think it's worth the money. It's not more complicated than that x |
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"Paying 40 quid to have sex is a rip off. We didn't go to clubs to socialise but to play. Realised we can do all the things we enjoy at home without having to put up with d*unken women or horny men
Looking at your profile you neither want socials or friends just sex so by paying into a club you ripped yourself off. This is where the misconception of a club occurs, yourself and some other people think your payment at the door is your right to a shag. WRONG!!! .Its simply a safe managed enviroment where like minded people can meet, chat freely, and possibly retire to a clean, maintained room if they get on well enough to have fun that night. Im honestly glad you would never go back to a club because YOU are the type of clientele that can give clubs a bad name and spoil the social aspect of it for everyone else.
Going to a club is whatever you want it to be. You pay at the door and if you want to socialise fine...if you want to just play fine. I go to a club and want to fuck Mr and and enjoy the voyeuer aspect of it and play with males. It's couples like you who turn their nose up at that is the reason we haven't went back x
Bit of a change there i think . You said paying £40 to have sex is a rip off ? So you paid to use a room and be watched and maybe find some males. Ahh so that for getting what YOU want , that £40 isnt so bad now is it . What part was the rip off ?? .
I do think £40 to enter a club is a rip off. You started talking about the reason why people were there and their right to get a shag so I gave my point of view on that. You go for your reasons I go for mine. I don't think it's worth the money. It's not more complicated than that x"
I think you are mixing me up with someone else I did not say anything about anyone's right for a shag etc etc. This is my first post on this thread so you didn't give me your point of view on anything I said. I was merely pointing out what the 40 pounds goes towards and in that respect it is certainly not a ripoff it may be too expensive for what you are looking for but for people who like clubs it's worth every penny
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"Paying 40 quid to have sex is a rip off. We didn't go to clubs to socialise but to play. Realised we can do all the things we enjoy at home without having to put up with d*unken women or horny men
Looking at your profile you neither want socials or friends just sex so by paying into a club you ripped yourself off. This is where the misconception of a club occurs, yourself and some other people think your payment at the door is your right to a shag. WRONG!!! .Its simply a safe managed enviroment where like minded people can meet, chat freely, and possibly retire to a clean, maintained room if they get on well enough to have fun that night. Im honestly glad you would never go back to a club because YOU are the type of clientele that can give clubs a bad name and spoil the social aspect of it for everyone else.
Going to a club is whatever you want it to be. You pay at the door and if you want to socialise fine...if you want to just play fine. I go to a club and want to fuck Mr and and enjoy the voyeuer aspect of it and play with males. It's couples like you who turn their nose up at that is the reason we haven't went back x
Bit of a change there i think . You said paying £40 to have sex is a rip off ? So you paid to use a room and be watched and maybe find some males. Ahh so that for getting what YOU want , that £40 isnt so bad now is it . What part was the rip off ?? .
I do think £40 to enter a club is a rip off. You started talking about the reason why people were there and their right to get a shag so I gave my point of view on that. You go for your reasons I go for mine. I don't think it's worth the money. It's not more complicated than that x
I think you are mixing me up with someone else I did not say anything about anyone's right for a shag etc etc. This is my first post on this thread so you didn't give me your point of view on anything I said. I was merely pointing out what the 40 pounds goes towards and in that respect it is certainly not a ripoff it may be too expensive for what you are looking for but for people who like clubs it's worth every penny
Thanks"
Yeah I got you mixed up as you commented as if you were the above poster. I thought you were them. My view still stands x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Paying 40 quid to have sex is a rip off. We didn't go to clubs to socialise but to play. Realised we can do all the things we enjoy at home without having to put up with d*unken women or horny men
Looking at your profile you neither want socials or friends just sex so by paying into a club you ripped yourself off. This is where the misconception of a club occurs, yourself and some other people think your payment at the door is your right to a shag. WRONG!!! .Its simply a safe managed enviroment where like minded people can meet, chat freely, and possibly retire to a clean, maintained room if they get on well enough to have fun that night. Im honestly glad you would never go back to a club because YOU are the type of clientele that can give clubs a bad name and spoil the social aspect of it for everyone else.
Going to a club is whatever you want it to be. You pay at the door and if you want to socialise fine...if you want to just play fine. I go to a club and want to fuck Mr and and enjoy the voyeuer aspect of it and play with males. It's couples like you who turn their nose up at that is the reason we haven't went back x
Bit of a change there i think . You said paying £40 to have sex is a rip off ? So you paid to use a room and be watched and maybe find some males. Ahh so that for getting what YOU want , that £40 isnt so bad now is it . What part was the rip off ?? .
I do think £40 to enter a club is a rip off. You started talking about the reason why people were there and their right to get a shag so I gave my point of view on that. You go for your reasons I go for mine. I don't think it's worth the money. It's not more complicated than that x
I think you are mixing me up with someone else I did not say anything about anyone's right for a shag etc etc. This is my first post on this thread so you didn't give me your point of view on anything I said. I was merely pointing out what the 40 pounds goes towards and in that respect it is certainly not a ripoff it may be too expensive for what you are looking for but for people who like clubs it's worth every penny
Thanks
Yeah I got you mixed up as you commented as if you were the above poster. I thought you were them. My view still stands x"
Nope actually my mistake I thought you were answering my post mines is further up
Oops but pretty much the same thoughts as be a devil who you were actually answering |
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Research research then a bit more.
for me its simple. not a hope are folk emptying my pockets for very little. (Especially when the price changes dependant on gender).
Some are ok with this others aint |
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"Going to a club is whatever you want it to be. You pay at the door and if you want to socialise fine...if you want to just play fine. I go to a club and want to fuck Mr and and enjoy the voyeuer aspect of it and play with males. It's couples like you who turn their nose up at that is the reason we haven't went back x"
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"I do think £40 to enter a club is a rip off. You started talking about the reason why people were there and their right to get a shag so I gave my point of view on that. You go for your reasons I go for mine. I don't think it's worth the money. It's not more complicated than that x"
That is your opinion and you are entitled to it
Every thread on here which merely is critical of CJ's always induces the same reaction from other posters |
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By *eADevilCouple
over a year ago
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"I do think £40 to enter a club is a rip off. You started talking about the reason why people were there and their right to get a shag so I gave my point of view on that. You go for your reasons I go for mine. I don't think it's worth the money. It's not more complicated than that x
That is your opinion and you are entitled to it
Every thread on here which merely is critical of CJ's always induces the same reaction from other posters"
Just for the record , having only been to cjs once in our lives , our views are not a 'lets support cjs ' view. We only defend clubs in general from some comments that differ from our viewpoint. Ie comments like £40 is a rip off. Everyone is entitled to an opinion and has there own views on clubs . OP go along and make up your own mind. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm a single guy and have been a few nights at clubs and social meets.
It is daunting, just need to be open and try chatting to others, don't expect anything specific to happen.
Just see how it goes and you may even get to meet some really nice folk.
Everybody has been a newbie at some point! |
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"So for us novices whats the best way to approach a club night at places like CJs? Spaces for single guys are limited and tbh I’d find it quite nerve wracking just rocking up on my own!! Ha
Advice most welcome!! "
OP. check the prices for single guys. Choose your Club. Grab your balls tight and go make your own mind up!
We are all different and looking for different things when we enter a club.
Be sociable and go with the flow.
Be respectful and enjoy!
Nothing happens to guys going alone by the way!
Chat, get to know people, like minded people and just enjoy a chilled evening!
If you really don't like it! The doors are not locked lol and you can say I still tried it and this club is not for me.
Hope this makes sense
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By *eADevilCouple
over a year ago
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"So for us novices whats the best way to approach a club night at places like CJs? Spaces for single guys are limited and tbh I’d find it quite nerve wracking just rocking up on my own!! Ha
Advice most welcome!!
OP. check the prices for single guys. Choose your Club. Grab your balls tight and go make your own mind up!
We are all different and looking for different things when we enter a club.
Be sociable and go with the flow.
Be respectful and enjoy!
Nothing happens to guys going alone by the way!
Chat, get to know people, like minded people and just enjoy a chilled evening!
If you really don't like it! The doors are not locked lol and you can say I still tried it and this club is not for me.
Hope this makes sense
Good luck OP "
Nothing happens to guys going alone Max lol yeah right , lambs to the slaughter if your there .
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"I do think £40 to enter a club is a rip off. You started talking about the reason why people were there and their right to get a shag so I gave my point of view on that. You go for your reasons I go for mine. I don't think it's worth the money. It's not more complicated than that x
That is your opinion and you are entitled to it
Every thread on here which merely is critical of CJ's always induces the same reaction from other posters
Just for the record , having only been to cjs once in our lives , our views are not a 'lets support cjs ' view. We only defend clubs in general from some comments that differ from our viewpoint. Ie comments like £40 is a rip off. Everyone is entitled to an opinion and has there own views on clubs . OP go along and make up your own mind. "
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"So for us novices whats the best way to approach a club night at places like CJs? Spaces for single guys are limited and tbh I’d find it quite nerve wracking just rocking up on my own!! Ha
Advice most welcome!!
OP. check the prices for single guys. Choose your Club. Grab your balls tight and go make your own mind up!
We are all different and looking for different things when we enter a club.
Be sociable and go with the flow.
Be respectful and enjoy!
Nothing happens to guys going alone by the way!
Chat, get to know people, like minded people and just enjoy a chilled evening!
If you really don't like it! The doors are not locked lol and you can say I still tried it and this club is not for me.
Hope this makes sense
Good luck OP
Nothing happens to guys going alone Max lol yeah right , lambs to the slaughter if your there .
Only joking , honest "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks for all the advice folks. I think, going by responses, the majority are saying clubs are a great place to go and meet like minded people. A good way of sampling the lifestyle and seeing if it’s forbyou or not. Obviously not for everyone but at least you try eh?
The advice still won’t take away the ‘butterflies’ but I suppose that’s all part of the fun.
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Go with no expectations
Try to relax and chat to folk
Don’t treat it like a normal night in the town
Don’t be put off by price - it’s the experience that counts
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I’ve also been thinking of going Han ‘Solo’.
I guess it could be nerve jangling but isn’t that what life’s all about push those boundaries, test limits, explore!!!
Make sure you guys say ‘Hi’ when I go please....
I’ll be slightly better dressed than my profile picture, sitting in the corner testing my own limits  |
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The second time I went to cj's I went on my own (I have only been a couple of times), although I was sure I would bump into a few I knew.
The good thing about cj's is that it's non playing downstairs so treat like any social/pub & don't drink too much! Anything more than that will be a bonus.
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By *eADevilCouple
over a year ago
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"Thanks for all the advice folks. I think, going by responses, the majority are saying clubs are a great place to go and meet like minded people. A good way of sampling the lifestyle and seeing if it’s forbyou or not. Obviously not for everyone but at least you try eh?
The advice still won’t take away the ‘butterflies’ but I suppose that’s all part of the fun.
Top tips
Go with no expectations
Try to relax and chat to folk
Don’t treat it like a normal night in the town
Don’t be put off by price - it’s the experience that counts
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I would say DO treat it like an ordinary night on the town if your out on the pull. You wouldnt go up to a female in town and say fancy a shag so dont do that in a club either. But if you do PULL in a club no need for a taxi anywhere for fun just find a room there and then . You can still use your best 'in town' chat up lines in a club lol. |
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The only way to really settle the nerves is just to do it.
I've crapped my pants going up to sing Karaoke but at CJs I've been first with my Keck's down
I won't tell you which one I got booed off at.... |
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"Paying 40 quid to have sex is a rip off. We didn't go to clubs to socialise but to play. Realised we can do all the things we enjoy at home without having to put up with d*unken women or horny men
Looking at your profile you neither want socials or friends just sex so by paying into a club you ripped yourself off. This is where the misconception of a club occurs, yourself and some other people think your payment at the door is your right to a shag. WRONG!!! .Its simply a safe managed enviroment where like minded people can meet, chat freely, and possibly retire to a clean, maintained room if they get on well enough to have fun that night. Im honestly glad you would never go back to a club because YOU are the type of clientele that can give clubs a bad name and spoil the social aspect of it for everyone else.
Going to a club is whatever you want it to be. You pay at the door and if you want to socialise fine...if you want to just play fine. I go to a club and want to fuck Mr and and enjoy the voyeuer aspect of it and play with males. It's couples like you who turn their nose up at that is the reason we haven't went back x
Bit of a change there i think . You said paying £40 to have sex is a rip off ? So you paid to use a room and be watched and maybe find some males. Ahh so that for getting what YOU want , that £40 isnt so bad now is it . What part was the rip off ?? ."
I think you guys forgot to quote me here. My statement was on your post saying £40 to have sex is a rip off. And i stand by that. Well done finding this lol.
You clearly changed your definition of using a club on this thread and obviously i would change my opinion to say that how you use clubs is up to you , obviously. BUT you are not paying £40 to have sex although some guys have that mental attitude to, i will judge those types too and say, if thats their attitude towards a club , i certainly dont want them in there. |
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"Paying 40 quid to have sex is a rip off. We didn't go to clubs to socialise but to play. Realised we can do all the things we enjoy at home without having to put up with d*unken women or horny men
Looking at your profile you neither want socials or friends just sex so by paying into a club you ripped yourself off. This is where the misconception of a club occurs, yourself and some other people think your payment at the door is your right to a shag. WRONG!!! .Its simply a safe managed enviroment where like minded people can meet, chat freely, and possibly retire to a clean, maintained room if they get on well enough to have fun that night. Im honestly glad you would never go back to a club because YOU are the type of clientele that can give clubs a bad name and spoil the social aspect of it for everyone else.
Going to a club is whatever you want it to be. You pay at the door and if you want to socialise fine...if you want to just play fine. I go to a club and want to fuck Mr and and enjoy the voyeuer aspect of it and play with males. It's couples like you who turn their nose up at that is the reason we haven't went back x
Bit of a change there i think . You said paying £40 to have sex is a rip off ? So you paid to use a room and be watched and maybe find some males. Ahh so that for getting what YOU want , that £40 isnt so bad now is it . What part was the rip off ?? .
I think you guys forgot to quote me here. My statement was on your post saying £40 to have sex is a rip off. And i stand by that. Well done finding this lol.
You clearly changed your definition of using a club on this thread and obviously i would change my opinion to say that how you use clubs is up to you , obviously. BUT you are not paying £40 to have sex although some guys have that mental attitude to, i will judge those types too and say, if thats their attitude towards a club , i certainly dont want them in there."
I think 40 quid to enter a club is a rip off. I don't go to socialise. That was my opinion then and it's my opinion now. It's never changed x |
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I’m pretty regular at after 8 now my first time there was nerve wracking as fuck I didn’t really know what to expect and I’m glad because it was it was nothing compared to what I had ever imagined, my first time at cjs I reached out to a couple of people to ask if they saw me to not be a stranger and have a chat, only one person actually read my message and replied but we did speak she introduced me to a couple of people, other people I spoke to were from getting drinks at the bar and in the smoke room, biggest rule I always have for myself and have had from my first experience at a club just chat to people and don’t expect anything, if you expect something I guarantee you’ll be disappointed, chill out and mingle, what’s the worst that can happen?  |
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We pay to get our foot in the door of that club. Whether it's £40 for a couple, £40 for a single male or £15 for a single female. It is just an entrance fee, if you like. It does not guarantee you having fun with anyone. That money goes towards the upkeep of the club. If you have fun in that club, then that is a just a bonus x |
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Why is it anytime there is negative opinions on clubs folk feel the need to point out how wonderful they are.
my opinion its a sexist scam I wouldnt touch im not asking anyone to agree or disagree its my thoughts on the question posed.
By the token you expect me to accept the positves some place on this clubs and other it should also be accepted that others have very diffrent opinions on this buisness and practices |
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By *MCFUN5Couple
over a year ago
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"So for us novices whats the best way to approach a club night at places like CJs? Spaces for single guys are limited and tbh I’d find it quite nerve wracking just rocking up on my own!! Ha
Advice most welcome!!
We love clubs, so social - start with the bar area (move round but obv don't follow) be polite & friendly, smile make eye contact and chat to people. Have no expectations and enjoy yourself - Fi xx"
Couldn’t agree more - relax and experience it yourself then decide if it’s for you or not x |
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By *MCFUN5Couple
over a year ago
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"Keep your money and go to a pub instead. A lot more fun and you won't feel so ripped off
I'm sure the OP goes to pubs on an ordinary night out. It looks to me like he's looking for something different and being on a swingers site I'm guessing he's looking at going to a swinging club or he wouldn't be asking on here so you're answer seems a tad silly. The forty pound which seems to be your issue is known in advance it's not slipped out your pocket when you're not looking so I don't understand why you are suggesting it's a ripoff.... go or don't go it's up to you.
To the OP your forty pounds will not guarantee you a sexual adventure. What it will do is let you socialise with likeminded people in an environment which is open inclusive and respectful. The club in question CJs is very well run with great staff they put on a full finger buffet and supply soft drinks. Running costs staffing upkeep etc all cost money so 40 pounds is very reasonable imo.
Take the plunge and go you will have a great night we go regularly and love it sometimes we play and sometimes we don't but we always have a brilliant night with great company
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"Why is it anytime there is negative opinions on clubs folk feel the need to point out how wonderful they are.
my opinion its a sexist scam I wouldnt touch im not asking anyone to agree or disagree its my thoughts on the question posed.
By the token you expect me to accept the positves some place on this clubs and other it should also be accepted that others have very diffrent opinions on this buisness and practices "
Your membership of Fab contradicts you in a way . Your paying a fee to enter Fab whats the difference . ? |
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"We pay to get our foot in the door of that club. Whether it's £40 for a couple, £40 for a single male or £15 for a single female. It is just an entrance fee, if you like. It does not guarantee you having fun with anyone. That money goes towards the upkeep of the club. If you have fun in that club, then that is a just a bonus x"
This is also very true |
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"Why is it anytime there is negative opinions on clubs folk feel the need to point out how wonderful they are.
my opinion its a sexist scam I wouldnt touch im not asking anyone to agree or disagree its my thoughts on the question posed.
By the token you expect me to accept the positves some place on this clubs and other it should also be accepted that others have very diffrent opinions on this buisness and practices
Your membership of Fab contradicts you in a way . Your paying a fee to enter Fab whats the difference . ?"
so females get it free now or pay less didnt know that so wont pay again or your completly wrong |
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"Why is it anytime there is negative opinions on clubs folk feel the need to point out how wonderful they are.
my opinion its a sexist scam I wouldnt touch im not asking anyone to agree or disagree its my thoughts on the question posed.
By the token you expect me to accept the positves some place on this clubs and other it should also be accepted that others have very diffrent opinions on this buisness and practices
Your membership of Fab contradicts you in a way . Your paying a fee to enter Fab whats the difference . ?so females get it free now or pay less didnt know that so wont pay again or your completly wrong"
Women dont get in clubs free as far as im aware. There is a different pricing structure though, just like Fab. I understand your viewpoint and agree it is unfair on single guys but clubs are also a business. Without scottish clubs it would cost guys and everone else more to travel south to visit a club. Its not abiut changing your mind on clubs we defend them because they offer us what we want. Im sure if you had a preference for something whether it be a sport or person or whatever, and people posted negative views on it you would post positive views on it. |
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"Why is it anytime there is negative opinions on clubs folk feel the need to point out how wonderful they are.
my opinion its a sexist scam I wouldnt touch im not asking anyone to agree or disagree its my thoughts on the question posed.
By the token you expect me to accept the positves some place on this clubs and other it should also be accepted that others have very diffrent opinions on this buisness and practices
Your membership of Fab contradicts you in a way . Your paying a fee to enter Fab whats the difference . ?so females get it free now or pay less didnt know that so wont pay again or your completly wrong
Women dont get in clubs free as far as im aware. There is a different pricing structure though, just like Fab. I understand your viewpoint and agree it is unfair on single guys but clubs are also a business. Without scottish clubs it would cost guys and everone else more to travel south to visit a club. Its not abiut changing your mind on clubs we defend them because they offer us what we want. Im sure if you had a preference for something whether it be a sport or person or whatever, and people posted negative views on it you would post positive views on it. "
you are saying the same as fab but thats not the case is it?
fab has a price there is no tiering system that clubs in scotland use and you defend them which is your opinion that your using to advise the person who asked. but folk need to stop telling others not to advise to steer clear for my reason or any other reason because they see it as great.
now if fab had a tiering system and you said tgis you would have had a point but it simply dosnt its a price per head for a time period no sexism involved |
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"Why is it anytime there is negative opinions on clubs folk feel the need to point out how wonderful they are.
my opinion its a sexist scam I wouldnt touch im not asking anyone to agree or disagree its my thoughts on the question posed.
By the token you expect me to accept the positves some place on this clubs and other it should also be accepted that others have very diffrent opinions on this buisness and practices
Your membership of Fab contradicts you in a way . Your paying a fee to enter Fab whats the difference . ?so females get it free now or pay less didnt know that so wont pay again or your completly wrong
Women dont get in clubs free as far as im aware. There is a different pricing structure though, just like Fab. I understand your viewpoint and agree it is unfair on single guys but clubs are also a business. Without scottish clubs it would cost guys and everone else more to travel south to visit a club. Its not abiut changing your mind on clubs we defend them because they offer us what we want. Im sure if you had a preference for something whether it be a sport or person or whatever, and people posted negative views on it you would post positive views on it. you are saying the same as fab but thats not the case is it?
fab has a price there is no tiering system that clubs in scotland use and you defend them which is your opinion that your using to advise the person who asked. but folk need to stop telling others not to advise to steer clear for my reason or any other reason because they see it as great.
now if fab had a tiering system and you said tgis you would have had a point but it simply dosnt its a price per head for a time period no sexism involved"
Fab could be worse !, The longer you sign up the cheaper it is. If you cant afford to pay for 300 + days your singled out for a higher price , ie £5 per mnth. Thats a form of discrimination too. But thats a wealth thing someone on low income has no choice but to pay the monthly fee or not get the added benefits. That decision by Fab is not meant as discrimination just a business ploy same as clubs. |
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