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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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What is the deal with grown men not being able to accommodate? Aside from the ones that are cheating... The profiles that tend to state that they are “professionals” and whatnot, but they can’t afford their own living space?
I had a guy who invited me to “his” place, but turned out he lived with his married sister and her family. |
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"What is the deal with grown men not being able to accommodate? Aside from the ones that are cheating... The profiles that tend to state that they are “professionals” and whatnot, but they can’t afford their own living space?
I had a guy who invited me to “his” place, but turned out he lived with his married sister and her family. "
Bet that was a surprise to his sister  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What is the deal with grown men not being able to accommodate? Aside from the ones that are cheating... The profiles that tend to state that they are “professionals” and whatnot, but they can’t afford their own living space?
I had a guy who invited me to “his” place, but turned out he lived with his married sister and her family. "
Don't suppose he was from Ayr. That happened to me when on here single. Think his wife must have been at bingo lol. Made my excuses and left! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What is the deal with grown men not being able to accommodate? Aside from the ones that are cheating... The profiles that tend to state that they are “professionals” and whatnot, but they can’t afford their own living space?
I had a guy who invited me to “his” place, but turned out he lived with his married sister and her family. "
Well when I first joined fab I was living at my sisters with her hubby and first child so I couldn't accommodate and due to my job when I was in scots chat room when at the time was fantastic I wasn't on cam much so it did make it difficult.  . I have been able to accommodate for quite a few years now but I only do it occasionally now.
You will get some like myself who are genuine who cannot accommodate but most will have a reason of being married, or girlfriend, boyfriend etc....
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"When we see guys that cant accommodate it immediately flags up that they are married "
It is quite a common reaction on here!
However when a woman says it, the immediate reaction is... she must have kids!!
Why not ask and see what the response is?
Maybe they have teenagers that can pop in?! Or live with their kids part time etc... or like me have oil paintings drying all over the blooming place?!
If you are chatting anyway, why not ask instead of assuming??
My opinion anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"When we see guys that cant accommodate it immediately flags up that they are married
It is quite a common reaction on here!
However when a woman says it, the immediate reaction is... she must have kids!!
Why not ask and see what the response is?
Maybe they have teenagers that can pop in?! Or live with their kids part time etc... or like me have oil paintings drying all over the blooming place?!
If you are chatting anyway, why not ask instead of assuming??
My opinion anyway."
I probably wouldn’t allow anyone in my house if I had oil paintings drying lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"What is the deal with grown men not being able to accommodate? Aside from the ones that are cheating... The profiles that tend to state that they are “professionals” and whatnot, but they can’t afford their own living space?
I had a guy who invited me to “his” place, but turned out he lived with his married sister and her family.
Don't suppose he was from Ayr. That happened to me when on here single. Think his wife must have been at bingo lol. Made my excuses and left!"
Glasgow. I left within about 45 minutes of getting there |
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"When we see guys that cant accommodate it immediately flags up that they are married
It is quite a common reaction on here!
However when a woman says it, the immediate reaction is... she must have kids!!
Why not ask and see what the response is?
Maybe they have teenagers that can pop in?! Or live with their kids part time etc... or like me have oil paintings drying all over the blooming place?!
If you are chatting anyway, why not ask instead of assuming??
My opinion anyway.
I probably wouldn’t allow anyone in my house if I had oil paintings drying lol "
And that's why I don't
Avoids me killing anyone lol  |
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"When we see guys that cant accommodate it immediately flags up that they are married
It is quite a common reaction on here!
However when a woman says it, the immediate reaction is... she must have kids!!
Why not ask and see what the response is?
Maybe they have teenagers that can pop in?! Or live with their kids part time etc... or like me have oil paintings drying all over the blooming place?!
If you are chatting anyway, why not ask instead of assuming??
My opinion anyway."
We do ask but are always wary that they tell the truth. We have been caught iut before when a guy said he couldn't accommodate as he had a flatmate. He was followed to our place by his wife who suspected that he was cheating. She ended up creating a scene at our door, calling me a slut and whore which was witnessed by a couple of our neighbours. It was a nightmare. |
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We cannot accomodate as we have kids for half the time and at the moment our house looks like a bomb site as we are about to have work done on it so everything has to be packed up.
Maybe when we get it to a nice state we can change that. |
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Maybe they have teenagers that can pop in?! Or live with their kids part time etc... or like me have oil paintings drying all over the blooming place?!
Ah I love the smell of turps in the morning ! Actually it's turps substitute these days isn't it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When we see guys that cant accommodate it immediately flags up that they are married
It is quite a common reaction on here!
However when a woman says it, the immediate reaction is... she must have kids!!
Why not ask and see what the response is?
Maybe they have teenagers that can pop in?! Or live with their kids part time etc... or like me have oil paintings drying all over the blooming place?!
If you are chatting anyway, why not ask instead of assuming??
My opinion anyway.
We do ask but are always wary that they tell the truth. We have been caught iut before when a guy said he couldn't accommodate as he had a flatmate. He was followed to our place by his wife who suspected that he was cheating. She ended up creating a scene at our door, calling me a slut and whore which was witnessed by a couple of our neighbours. It was a nightmare. "
There's the issue in a nutshell. Plenty women and couples don't accommodate either and why would you give out personal info to some of the nut jobs on here. You need to be very sure of who you're talking to before doing that.
But a lot of the time it is married guys cheating! |
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I wouldn’t say it’s just a guy thing, just need to do your work before a meet does it really matter if they can or can’t accomdate it’s there issue,if there real enuff theyll be honest before meet and if not you just got sucked in, which happens too often |
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Before people start casting aspersions and before this turns into a single guy bashing exercise they should realise that women aswell as men on here are also married and playing behind hubbys back
As a poster said above, why would you give out personal details and invite a stranger into your home considering the amount of unhinged fruitloops there is on here? |
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By *eADevilCouple
over a year ago
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"What is the deal with grown men not being able to accommodate? Aside from the ones that are cheating... The profiles that tend to state that they are “professionals” and whatnot, but they can’t afford their own living space?
I had a guy who invited me to “his” place, but turned out he lived with his married sister and her family. "
OP clearly you were lied to by the guy that said he could accomodate and then you found out it was his sisters house. Hopefully you just left , to teach him a lesson or better still you should have ruffled up his sisters bed sheets and left a few tissues in her room and an opened condom packet on the floor just for a bit of payback for the guy lying to ya. As for the rest of your post im not sure i understand why you ask about guys that cannot accomodate. You clearly state on your profile you dont want to meet this type of guy so why bother if they are professional guys or not. Dont read profile past the cannot accomodate part of profile. Lastly you are 24 and a hottie so i have no doubt whatsoever you will have loads of offers from guys that can accomodate. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When we see guys that cant accommodate it immediately flags up that they are married
It is quite a common reaction on here!
However when a woman says it, the immediate reaction is... she must have kids!!
I had a similar experience with a couple i say i cant accom and will not on a first meet. If i feell comfortable i will but scarred
Why not ask and see what the response is?
Maybe they have teenagers that can pop in?! Or live with their kids part time etc... or like me have oil paintings drying all over the blooming place?!
If you are chatting anyway, why not ask instead of assuming??
My opinion anyway.
We do ask but are always wary that they tell the truth. We have been caught iut before when a guy said he couldn't accommodate as he had a flatmate. He was followed to our place by his wife who suspected that he was cheating. She ended up creating a scene at our door, calling me a slut and whore which was witnessed by a couple of our neighbours. It was a nightmare. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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I wouldn't accomodate anytime, not unless I knew the person exceptionally well. Yes, this comes from experience when I met someone from work and he picked me up there... he arrived at my work uninvited another time... so - hotel or no meet end of - safer all round  |
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"When we see guys that cant accommodate it immediately flags up that they are married
It is quite a common reaction on here!
However when a woman says it, the immediate reaction is... she must have kids!!
Why not ask and see what the response is?
Maybe they have teenagers that can pop in?! Or live with their kids part time etc... or like me have oil paintings drying all over the blooming place?!
If you are chatting anyway, why not ask instead of assuming??
My opinion anyway.
We do ask but are always wary that they tell the truth. We have been caught iut before when a guy said he couldn't accommodate as he had a flatmate. He was followed to our place by his wife who suspected that he was cheating. She ended up creating a scene at our door, calling me a slut and whore which was witnessed by a couple of our neighbours. It was a nightmare. "
It must have been a nightmare indeed!
You are never sure if someone is being genuine or not in what they say! |
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"I wouldn't accomodate anytime, not unless I knew the person exceptionally well. Yes, this comes from experience when I met someone from work and he picked me up there... he arrived at my work uninvited another time... so - hotel or no meet end of - safer all round "
Abso Rouge! Been there, done that and learnt from it |
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"I wouldn't accomodate anytime, not unless I knew the person exceptionally well. Yes, this comes from experience when I met someone from work and he picked me up there... he arrived at my work uninvited another time... so - hotel or no meet end of - safer all round
Abso Rouge! Been there, done that and learnt from it "
Deffo Max
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"I wouldn't accomodate anytime, not unless I knew the person exceptionally well. Yes, this comes from experience when I met someone from work and he picked me up there... he arrived at my work uninvited another time... so - hotel or no meet end of - safer all round
Abso Rouge! Been there, done that and learnt from it
Deffo Max
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Will my 2 man tent suffice on nairn beach ,be cheaper to fly to Glasgow 1st class than book a nairn hotel for the night and you know I'm a cheap arse yorkshireman |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wouldn't accomodate anytime, not unless I knew the person exceptionally well. Yes, this comes from experience when I met someone from work and he picked me up there... he arrived at my work uninvited another time... so - hotel or no meet end of - safer all round
Abso Rouge! Been there, done that and learnt from it
Deffo Max
Will my 2 man tent suffice on nairn beach ,be cheaper to fly to Glasgow 1st class than book a nairn hotel for the night and you know I'm a cheap arse yorkshireman "
Ahhh but the views from the tent - yer not wrong about hotels up north, you can get a week in spain for the same price just about |
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By *ornLordMan
over a year ago
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"Anyway I think sex should be restricted to hotels only. There is nothing better and more exciting than going into a hotel for lots of dirty sex
I absolutely adore hotel sex  "
Completely agree - being in a hotel room with somebody you shouldn't be with is a big turn-on! |
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There’s so many reasons as to why people say or choose can’t accommodate- Max the oil paintings reason is my favourite yet!!!
I say no because I have a flatmate who’s a dear friend and wouldn’t understand or appreciate my lifestyle.
Each to their own |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to accommodate until more and more women felt uncomfortable with idea of visiting a man on their own
Home was repossessed, made bankrupt and moved in with my son and his wife and have become a full time babysitter.
When meeting couples I tend to meet cuckolds in the comfort of their own home. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are many reasons why someone can't accommodate, but too many here jump to the "obvious" conclusion that they are married. They shoulf try giving the benefit of the doubt, and stop being so cynical. |
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"There are many reasons why someone can't accommodate, but too many here jump to the "obvious" conclusion that they are married. They shoulf try giving the benefit of the doubt, and stop being so cynical."
But that's the way of life at the minute not just fab but life in general |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What is the deal with grown men not being able to accommodate? Aside from the ones that are cheating... The profiles that tend to state that they are “professionals” and whatnot, but they can’t afford their own living space?
I had a guy who invited me to “his” place, but turned out he lived with his married sister and her family. "
I had a meet at mine and she ended up stealing my little girls piggy bank which had £150 in it as it had been her birthday not that long ago. Not going into too much detail i know refuse point blank to accom anyone new until at least meeting socially , club or whatever first. Not going through that again |
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"When we see guys that cant accommodate it immediately flags up that they are married
It is quite a common reaction on here!
However when a woman says it, the immediate reaction is... she must have kids!!
Why not ask and see what the response is?
Maybe they have teenagers that can pop in?! Or live with their kids part time etc... or like me have oil paintings drying all over the blooming place?!
If you are chatting anyway, why not ask instead of assuming??
My opinion anyway.
We do ask but are always wary that they tell the truth. We have been caught iut before when a guy said he couldn't accommodate as he had a flatmate. He was followed to our place by his wife who suspected that he was cheating. She ended up creating a scene at our door, calling me a slut and whore which was witnessed by a couple of our neighbours. It was a nightmare.
It must have been a nightmare indeed!
You are never sure if someone is being genuine or not in what they say!"
We do try as much as we can before meeting with anyone and always have a social meet first but still you are never sure. It was then that we decided not to try and hide our livestyle choice so now happily put face pics in our public pics |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When we see guys that cant accommodate it immediately flags up that they are married
It is quite a common reaction on here!
However when a woman says it, the immediate reaction is... she must have kids!!
Why not ask and see what the response is?
Maybe they have teenagers that can pop in?! Or live with their kids part time etc... or like me have oil paintings drying all over the blooming place?!
If you are chatting anyway, why not ask instead of assuming??
My opinion anyway."
Total double standard on fab are shocking
So what if the guy can't accom...prob same reason most folk don't want strangers knowing where they live.
Get a hotel room it's easy! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What is the deal with grown men not being able to accommodate? Aside from the ones that are cheating... The profiles that tend to state that they are “professionals” and whatnot, but they can’t afford their own living space?
I had a guy who invited me to “his” place, but turned out he lived with his married sister and her family. "
Are you a grown woman?
Can you accommodate? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well I am a single and can't accommodate as I care for my dad. He lives with me. I have help from local services and with planning I can get someone to look after him but accommodating is not an option for me at the moment. Should I put this on my profile as I feel I am being judged. I may be wrong. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"What is the deal with grown men not being able to accommodate? Aside from the ones that are cheating... The profiles that tend to state that they are “professionals” and whatnot, but they can’t afford their own living space?
I had a guy who invited me to “his” place, but turned out he lived with his married sister and her family.
Are you a grown woman?
Can you accommodate?"
Yes and yes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What is the deal with grown men not being able to accommodate? Aside from the ones that are cheating... The profiles that tend to state that they are “professionals” and whatnot, but they can’t afford their own living space?
I had a guy who invited me to “his” place, but turned out he lived with his married sister and her family.
Are you a grown woman?
Can you accommodate?
Yes and yes. "
Have them at yours then...problem solved |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"What is the deal with grown men not being able to accommodate? Aside from the ones that are cheating... The profiles that tend to state that they are “professionals” and whatnot, but they can’t afford their own living space?
I had a guy who invited me to “his” place, but turned out he lived with his married sister and her family.
Are you a grown woman?
Can you accommodate?
Yes and yes.
Have them at yours then...problem solved"
Oh wow. Didn’t occur to me. Amazing. Thanks |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What is the deal with grown men not being able to accommodate? Aside from the ones that are cheating... The profiles that tend to state that they are “professionals” and whatnot, but they can’t afford their own living space?
I had a guy who invited me to “his” place, but turned out he lived with his married sister and her family.
Are you a grown woman?
Can you accommodate?
Yes and yes.
Have them at yours then...problem solved
Oh wow. Didn’t occur to me. Amazing. Thanks "
You're welcome...it will save you some angst |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am a single dad so can't accommodate. I get people who automatically think I must be married!
Everyone has their reasons but those who are worth meeting find out more about me and everything is fine! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We can't accommodate. Young kids here. Don't care how friendly you seem or how well I get on with you on here. You'll not be invited into their home. If that makes me sound judgemental,hard work or puts some off, so be it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Im a grown woman, i own my own home and i am not cheating... but i choose not to accomodate because ive come across enough bizarre guys on dating sites let alone fab to know i dont want to have a ton of strangers knowing where i live. Also one of my friends live with me and I would find it pretty disrespectful if she was keeping me up at night with the noise of her shagging randoms through the wall ... so i tend to pay her the same courtesy i expect
Because i know i have a valid reason i tend not to write off a guys reason as lies unless they do something more that feels off ... it would mean with neither of us accomodating though that meets would be harder to arrange and few and far between
Of course this doesnt mean that nobody from fab has been in my house ... i just tend to not let people think that me accomodating is an option open to them when they first contact me
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Im a grown woman, i own my own home and i am not cheating... but i choose not to accomodate because ive come across enough bizarre guys on dating sites let alone fab to know i dont want to have a ton of strangers knowing where i live. Also one of my friends live with me and I would find it pretty disrespectful if she was keeping me up at night with the noise of her shagging randoms through the wall ... so i tend to pay her the same courtesy i expect
Because i know i have a valid reason i tend not to write off a guys reason as lies unless they do something more that feels off ... it would mean with neither of us accomodating though that meets would be harder to arrange and few and far between
Of course this doesnt mean that nobody from fab has been in my house ... i just tend to not let people think that me accomodating is an option open to them when they first contact me
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Yip agreed, except I'm a grown man .
I have had company at mine and some have lied and a couple of people just came across as batty so I'm very selective now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The post was about MY experience, as CLEARLY stated.  "
Think most people understood what you meant, just some didn't or didn't really care and still wanted to comment.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The post was about MY experience, as CLEARLY stated. "
The irony of this comment is strong when your status is about how easy people get pissy on the forums
Forums tend to be about people sharing their opinions, experiences and advice ... you open a thread with yours and people reply with theirs ... its how it works
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"The post was about MY experience, as CLEARLY stated.
The irony of this comment is strong when your status is about how easy people get pissy on the forums
Forums tend to be about people sharing their opinions, experiences and advice ... you open a thread with yours and people reply with theirs ... its how it works
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I don’t where in the comment would imply I’m pissy lol. I know how forums work. But my OP had been taken out of context. That is what my previous comment was regarding |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The post was about MY experience, as CLEARLY stated.
The irony of this comment is strong when your status is about how easy people get pissy on the forums
Forums tend to be about people sharing their opinions, experiences and advice ... you open a thread with yours and people reply with theirs ... its how it works
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So true;
But you need to remember that some people reply just to shit stir.
Its such a shame that there are just some not nice people on here that most usually get to know who are only interested in getting a reaction |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well I am a single and can't accommodate as I care for my dad. He lives with me. I have help from local services and with planning I can get someone to look after him but accommodating is not an option for me at the moment. Should I put this on my profile as I feel I am being judged. I may be wrong. "
Kl
My brother is an invalid and sometimes he stays at mines for a break so those weekends I wont be accommodating and sometimes my son want sot crash at mines after a night out and he has a key , (so told him he must let me know beforehand ffs).
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What is the deal with grown men not being able to accommodate? Aside from the ones that are cheating... The profiles that tend to state that they are “professionals” and whatnot, but they can’t afford their own living space?"
So you need to be in a job that pays well enough to provide your own living space to be a professional, aye?
You do realise that being "professional" doesn't just extend to high rollers and big earners, don't you?
I saw a very professional person clearing litter from a pavement today. I was also served coffee by a very professional living wage employee.
Your bins will be emptied by professionals. Your hospital care undertaken by "professionals". The people that might clean your elderly relatives up when they've soiled themselves will be "professional".
You get it yet? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can accommodate - but only once there’s trust built. But usually don’t - as it would mean changing the soaking sheets far too often!!"
Don't you have a toilet? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Can accommodate - but only once there’s trust built. But usually don’t - as it would mean changing the soaking sheets far too often!!
Don't you have a toilet? "
It might be weak bladder! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Like others on here there are valid reasons for not accommodating - those lucky enough to get a social meet with me will be made aware of those but the whole site don’t need to know.
I don’t cheat, or lie....but I also value discretion....
If things lead somewhere a wee hotel meet is always something to look forward to!!  |
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"Like others on here there are valid reasons for not accommodating - those lucky enough to get a social meet with me will be made aware of those but the whole site don’t need to know.
I don’t cheat, or lie....but I also value discretion....
If things lead somewhere a wee hotel meet is always something to look forward to!! "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What is the deal with grown men not being able to accommodate? Aside from the ones that are cheating... The profiles that tend to state that they are “professionals” and whatnot, but they can’t afford their own living space?
So you need to be in a job that pays well enough to provide your own living space to be a professional, aye?
You do realise that being "professional" doesn't just extend to high rollers and big earners, don't you?
I saw a very professional person clearing litter from a pavement today. I was also served coffee by a very professional living wage employee.
Your bins will be emptied by professionals. Your hospital care undertaken by "professionals". The people that might clean your elderly relatives up when they've soiled themselves will be "professional".
You get it yet? "
While i think the whole professional thing is irrelevant on fab anyway ... i disagree that baristas and bin men work in a profession... its not about the money earned but about the level of training and study required to become accredited in a profession |
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"What is the deal with grown men not being able to accommodate? Aside from the ones that are cheating... The profiles that tend to state that they are “professionals” and whatnot, but they can’t afford their own living space?
So you need to be in a job that pays well enough to provide your own living space to be a professional, aye?
You do realise that being "professional" doesn't just extend to high rollers and big earners, don't you?
I saw a very professional person clearing litter from a pavement today. I was also served coffee by a very professional living wage employee.
Your bins will be emptied by professionals. Your hospital care undertaken by "professionals". The people that might clean your elderly relatives up when they've soiled themselves will be "professional".
You get it yet?
While i think the whole professional thing is irrelevant on fab anyway ... i disagree that baristas and bin men work in a profession... its not about the money earned but about the level of training and study required to become accredited in a profession "
Well you're talking shit then. You can be professional in ANY job. Being professional is a standard, not an accreditation. |
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No ... you can act or behave in a professional way in any job because that is a standard... (adjective)
Being A professional (noun) is something different and requires membership of a professional body which usually requires accreditation
But like i said its kind of irrelevant for fab anyway |
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"No ... you can act or behave in a professional way in any job because that is a standard... (adjective)
Being A professional (noun) is something different and requires membership of a professional body which usually requires accreditation
But like i said its kind of irrelevant for fab
anyway "
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"No ... you can act or behave in a professional way in any job because that is a standard... (adjective)
Being A professional (noun) is something different and requires membership of a professional body which usually requires accreditation
But like i said its kind of irrelevant for fab anyway "
If you are being paid to undertake a job or occupation, then you are a professional. If you uphold the standards of the job/occupation, then you will be doing so to a professional standard.
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"Can accommodate - but only once there’s trust built. But usually don’t - as it would mean changing the soaking sheets far too often!!"
Haha I'm the same. Only accomodate for regular meets. But my excuse for not accommodating is a fear agressive 42kilo dog. Home is his safe place so don't want him feeling anxious.
I meet a guy regularly that has custody of his child so can't accomodate unless she is away at her mum's so never jump to conclusions whwn i see cannot accomodate x |
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Unfortunately I can't accommodate. As I sold house and work away often so stay with father and step mother. I don't stay over night as I am often away eary doors or have me son to get back to when I have him. Unfortunately a few clowns screwed things uo for the few genuine guys like me. So meeting can be difficult on hete. Though I am on am other "kinky" site. Where it's less of a problem |
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"I am a single dad so can't accommodate. I get people who automatically think I must be married!
Everyone has their reasons but those who are worth meeting find out more about me and everything is fine! "
yup, this. |
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Plenty women don't accom either. Does this mean they are cheating on a significant other? Maybe. I don't really care, that may sound callous but I don't. It's their relationship and their business. |
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If I may throw in my tuppence-worth...
The_Butler, I’m afraid you’re wrong, and you’re looking a bit silly trying to force your point. Please read Temporaryusername’s explanation again, and understand that there is a difference between the adjective (“I’m a professional brick-layer”) and the noun (“I am a professional”). The second one refers to something completely different. You are right that ‘professionalism’ is about your work ethic, being ‘a professional’ is a specific thing relating to a small number of jobs. It is that second meaning that blackpixie is referring to in the OP.
However, it’s a bit disappointing to read blackpixie’s total lack of empathy in the OP. We live in a time when it is increasingly hard for people - regardless of their income - to own property. You often need qualifications to get a well paid job. If you’ve got qualifications, there’s a fair chance you’ve also got crippling debts. At a time when house prices are still ridiculously high, and modern flats are not designed in a way to occupy more than two people (three at a stretch) then rents have to also be high for the landlord to cover the mortgage. Last time I checked, “I need my own place so that I can have sex with strangers,” was not a way to secure social housing.
It’s pretty callous to be disparaging of someone because they live with family. I hope the guy that blackpixie is referring to found someone a little more understanding and compassionate to spend his time with.
I’m one of the lucky ones: my time and my flat are my own. I’ve never been married, never had kids, I don’t have relatives who need me to care for them, and I got on the property ladder long enough ago that I can afford my mortgage without needing to rent out a room. Despite that, my profile says I can’t accommodate. My reasons are frankly none of anyone’s business, but if you assume ‘cheating’ then it says more about you and your standards than it does about the person you’re judging. |
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"No ... you can act or behave in a professional way in any job because that is a standard... (adjective)
Being A professional (noun) is something different and requires membership of a professional body which usually requires accreditation
But like i said its kind of irrelevant for fab anyway "
How come the oldest profession known does not require much training? Or is accredited and you don’t see these professionals hanging awards or diplomas on the walls above their beds then. |
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"How come the oldest profession known does not require much training? Or is accredited and you don’t see these professionals hanging awards or diplomas on the walls above their beds then. "
Because the noun ‘professional’ is different to the adjective ‘professional’. |
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I can accommodate but do live with a flat mate who knows about my lifestyle and she's cool with it.
However I understand that not everyone would want to come round when there is a chance my flatmate could come home.
Max best reason ever for not having people round.
But there is dozen of legitimate reasons why people can't accommodate and as Max said if you are planning to meet then surely you are already chatting so my not ask ? |
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"What is the deal with grown men not being able to accommodate? Aside from the ones that are cheating... The profiles that tend to state that they are “professionals” and whatnot, but they can’t afford their own living space?
I had a guy who invited me to “his” place, but turned out he lived with his married sister and her family. "
Perhaps they are "House Proud" like to keep the home clean |
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over a year ago
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"If I may throw in my tuppence-worth...
The_Butler, I’m afraid you’re wrong, and you’re looking a bit silly trying to force your point. Please read Temporaryusername’s explanation again, and understand that there is a difference between the adjective (“I’m a professional brick-layer”) and the noun (“I am a professional”). The second one refers to something completely different. You are right that ‘professionalism’ is about your work ethic, being ‘a professional’ is a specific thing relating to a small number of jobs. It is that second meaning that blackpixie is referring to in the OP.
However, it’s a bit disappointing to read blackpixie’s total lack of empathy in the OP. We live in a time when it is increasingly hard for people - regardless of their income - to own property. You often need qualifications to get a well paid job. If you’ve got qualifications, there’s a fair chance you’ve also got crippling debts. At a time when house prices are still ridiculously high, and modern flats are not designed in a way to occupy more than two people (three at a stretch) then rents have to also be high for the landlord to cover the mortgage. Last time I checked, “I need my own place so that I can have sex with strangers,” was not a way to secure social housing.
It’s pretty callous to be disparaging of someone because they live with family. I hope the guy that blackpixie is referring to found someone a little more understanding and compassionate to spend his time with.
I’m one of the lucky ones: my time and my flat are my own. I’ve never been married, never had kids, I don’t have relatives who need me to care for them, and I got on the property ladder long enough ago that I can afford my mortgage without needing to rent out a room. Despite that, my profile says I can’t accommodate. My reasons are frankly none of anyone’s business, but if you assume ‘cheating’ then it says more about you and your standards than it does about the person you’re judging."
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Some really insightful opinions point of views and waffle over accomadation and the wordplay regarding professional/ profession
At home there are one or two framed pictures showing me utilising a previous well earned professional trade funnily enough it required brains as well as brawn.
Everyone has circumstances that influence their perception by others
There’s a cookie in it for the person that gets the word for snow equaling can’t travel can’t accomadate |
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By *ay2571Man
over a year ago
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Im a professional in the true sence of the word, people pay me for my opion on things. Anyway its not overly relevant to this.
I have always been able to accom but often have my profile to cant. The reason being i dont like inviting total strangers into my house. Ill more than happily have sex with them but i like to know people a bit beforei invite them in. Strange I know. But its just the way i am. |
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"Im a professional in the true sence of the word, people pay me for my opion on things. Anyway its not overly relevant to this.
I have always been able to accom but often have my profile to cant. The reason being i dont like inviting total strangers into my house. Ill more than happily have sex with them but i like to know people a bit beforei invite them in. Strange I know. But its just the way i am. "
But you would meet strangers in their houses
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"Im a professional in the true sence of the word, people pay me for my opion on things. Anyway its not overly relevant to this.
I have always been able to accom but often have my profile to cant. The reason being i dont like inviting total strangers into my house. Ill more than happily have sex with them but i like to know people a bit beforei invite them in. Strange I know. But its just the way i am. "
Does your opion make sence when they pay you |
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By *illy7239Man
over a year ago
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I'm a single dad living alone with my son he very rarely sees his mum so I can't always accommodate
I'm quite sure I've been accused of being married or living with someone before but that is not the case.
Although I do agree that the biggest majority who can't accommodate are probably married or with someone |
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By *ay2571Man
over a year ago
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"Im a professional in the true sence of the word, people pay me for my opion on things. Anyway its not overly relevant to this.
I have always been able to accom but often have my profile to cant. The reason being i dont like inviting total strangers into my house. Ill more than happily have sex with them but i like to know people a bit beforei invite them in. Strange I know. But its just the way i am. But you would meet strangers in their houses
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Yep. Im fully awear that this does not make sense at all. But whats logic got to do with anything. |
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"Im a professional in the true sence of the word, people pay me for my opion on things. Anyway its not overly relevant to this.
I have always been able to accom but often have my profile to cant. The reason being i dont like inviting total strangers into my house. Ill more than happily have sex with them but i like to know people a bit beforei invite them in. Strange I know. But its just the way i am. "
Obviously you're not an English teacher. Or hopefully not. |
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"What is the deal with grown men not being able to accommodate? Aside from the ones that are cheating... The profiles that tend to state that they are “professionals” and whatnot, but they can’t afford their own living space?
I had a guy who invited me to “his” place, but turned out he lived with his married sister and her family. "
Some people can't afford there own living space and do share. It's not just grown men. |
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"What is the deal with grown men not being able to accommodate? Aside from the ones that are cheating... The profiles that tend to state that they are “professionals” and whatnot, but they can’t afford their own living space?
I had a guy who invited me to “his” place, but turned out he lived with his married sister and her family.
Some people can't afford there own living space and do share. It's not just grown men. "
Sharing baths n beds though is a bit |
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I don't accommodate because I don't really feel comfortable bringing people into mine and my daughter's home straight off, but I would if it became a regular thing. I also have VERY nosey neighbours who'd count new faces and probably listen at the walls ha!
I would also rather not go to their house first time until I know what I'm getting and am comfortable.
My preference is the neutral territory of a hotel where you can get dressed up,have a few drinks and make some noise away from drudgery of actual life!
But someone did say recently they just assumed I was cheating because of all this |
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"I don't accommodate because I don't really feel comfortable bringing people into mine and my daughter's home straight off, but I would if it became a regular thing. I also have VERY nosey neighbours who'd count new faces and probably listen at the walls ha!
I would also rather not go to their house first time until I know what I'm getting and am comfortable.
My preference is the neutral territory of a hotel where you can get dressed up,have a few drinks and make some noise away from drudgery of actual life!
But someone did say recently they just assumed I was cheating because of all this "
Just don't get talked into going to Mckyd's for a social, fecking murder to have a private chat  |
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"I don't accommodate because I don't really feel comfortable bringing people into mine and my daughter's home straight off, but I would if it became a regular thing. I also have VERY nosey neighbours who'd count new faces and probably listen at the walls ha!
I would also rather not go to their house first time until I know what I'm getting and am comfortable.
My preference is the neutral territory of a hotel where you can get dressed up,have a few drinks and make some noise away from drudgery of actual life!
But someone did say recently they just assumed I was cheating because of all this
Just don't get talked into going to Mckyd's for a social, fecking murder to have a private chat "
AND you can't even get a roll n sausage in there lol |
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"I don't accommodate because I don't really feel comfortable bringing people into mine and my daughter's home straight off, but I would if it became a regular thing. I also have VERY nosey neighbours who'd count new faces and probably listen at the walls ha!
I would also rather not go to their house first time until I know what I'm getting and am comfortable.
My preference is the neutral territory of a hotel where you can get dressed up,have a few drinks and make some noise away from drudgery of actual life!
But someone did say recently they just assumed I was cheating because of all this
Just don't get talked into going to Mckyd's for a social, fecking murder to have a private chat
AND you can't even get a roll n sausage in there lol "
pmsllllllll, you want brown sauce or tomato. Don't you worry, I've got the place picked out for us both to chill.
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"I don't accommodate because I don't really feel comfortable bringing people into mine and my daughter's home straight off, but I would if it became a regular thing. I also have VERY nosey neighbours who'd count new faces and probably listen at the walls ha!
I would also rather not go to their house first time until I know what I'm getting and am comfortable.
My preference is the neutral territory of a hotel where you can get dressed up,have a few drinks and make some noise away from drudgery of actual life!
But someone did say recently they just assumed I was cheating because of all this
Just don't get talked into going to Mckyd's for a social, fecking murder to have a private chat
AND you can't even get a roll n sausage in there lol
pmsllllllll, you want brown sauce or tomato. Don't you worry, I've got the place picked out for us both to chill.
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Up yours horsey you offered me burger king cheapskate |
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"I don't accommodate because I don't really feel comfortable bringing people into mine and my daughter's home straight off, but I would if it became a regular thing. I also have VERY nosey neighbours who'd count new faces and probably listen at the walls ha!
I would also rather not go to their house first time until I know what I'm getting and am comfortable.
My preference is the neutral territory of a hotel where you can get dressed up,have a few drinks and make some noise away from drudgery of actual life!
But someone did say recently they just assumed I was cheating because of all this
Just don't get talked into going to Mckyd's for a social, fecking murder to have a private chat
AND you can't even get a roll n sausage in there lol
pmsllllllll, you want brown sauce or tomato. Don't you worry, I've got the place picked out for us both to chill.
Up yours horsey you offered me burger king cheapskate "
Actually for you with me, I thought you'd be best with SUBway |
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"What is the deal with grown men not being able to accommodate? Aside from the ones that are cheating... The profiles that tend to state that they are “professionals” and whatnot, but they can’t afford their own living space?
I had a guy who invited me to “his” place, but turned out he lived with his married sister and her family.
Some people can't afford there own living space and do share. It's not just grown men.
Sharing baths n beds though is a bit "
That just stressed me out I can't even share my tv remote lol. |
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"What is the deal with grown men not being able to accommodate? Aside from the ones that are cheating... The profiles that tend to state that they are “professionals” and whatnot, but they can’t afford their own living space?
I had a guy who invited me to “his” place, but turned out he lived with his married sister and her family.
Some people can't afford there own living space and do share. It's not just grown men.
Sharing baths n beds though is a bit
That just stressed me out I can't even share my tv remote lol."
Who needs the zapper when it’s snowing |
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"What is the deal with grown men not being able to accommodate? Aside from the ones that are cheating... The profiles that tend to state that they are “professionals” and whatnot, but they can’t afford their own living space?
I had a guy who invited me to “his” place, but turned out he lived with his married sister and her family.
Some people can't afford there own living space and do share. It's not just grown men.
Sharing baths n beds though is a bit
That just stressed me out I can't even share my tv remote lol.
Who needs the zapper when it’s snowing"
Not me. The $ky box in the bedroom has lost the signal. Thank god for EE. |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
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Why do people always have a go at single guys who can’t accommodate? I’ve not read all the posts but guys are single dad’s, caring for parents, living with parents, flat sharing, etc
My kids live with me but I don’t see guys posting about all these single women as being cheats just because we don’t accommodate.
Stop with the double standards. |
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"Why do people always have a go at single guys who can’t accommodate? I’ve not read all the posts but guys are single dad’s, caring for parents, living with parents, flat sharing, etc
My kids live with me but I don’t see guys posting about all these single women as being cheats just because we don’t accommodate.
Stop with the double standards. "
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"Why do people always have a go at single guys who can’t accommodate? I’ve not read all the posts but guys are single dad’s, caring for parents, living with parents, flat sharing, etc
My kids live with me but I don’t see guys posting about all these single women as being cheats just because we don’t accommodate.
Stop with the double standards. "
I think it will be many many yrs before certain double standards are gone its part of whole western pysche.
the same reason guys think they are big strong alpha males and females believe the are princesses to be adored.
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"Why do people always have a go at single guys who can’t accommodate? I’ve not read all the posts but guys are single dad’s, caring for parents, living with parents, flat sharing, etc
My kids live with me but I don’t see guys posting about all these single women as being cheats just because we don’t accommodate.
Stop with the double standards. I think it will be many many yrs before certain double standards are gone its part of whole western pysche.
the same reason guys think they are big strong alpha males and females believe the are princesses to be adored.
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I feel as if I’m constantly defending the singles on here. I ain’t no damsel in distress or a princess looking to be adored!
It’s about time people realised Fab reflects society as a whole. Most of us didn’t choose to be single parents, carers or be in a position where we don’t have our own place but it was circumstances outwith our own control.
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"Why do people always have a go at single guys who can’t accommodate? I’ve not read all the posts but guys are single dad’s, caring for parents, living with parents, flat sharing, etc
My kids live with me but I don’t see guys posting about all these single women as being cheats just because we don’t accommodate.
Stop with the double standards. I think it will be many many yrs before certain double standards are gone its part of whole western pysche.
the same reason guys think they are big strong alpha males and females believe the are princesses to be adored.
I feel as if I’m constantly defending the singles on here. I ain’t no damsel in distress or a princess looking to be adored!
It’s about time people realised Fab reflects society as a whole. Most of us didn’t choose to be single parents, carers or be in a position where we don’t have our own place but it was circumstances outwith our own control.
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"What is the deal with grown men not being able to accommodate? Aside from the ones that are cheating... The profiles that tend to state that they are “professionals” and whatnot, but they can’t afford their own living space?
I had a guy who invited me to “his” place, but turned out he lived with his married sister and her family. "
Grown men might have kids too who live with them. |
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"What is the deal with grown men not being able to accommodate? Aside from the ones that are cheating... The profiles that tend to state that they are “professionals” and whatnot, but they can’t afford their own living space?
I had a guy who invited me to “his” place, but turned out he lived with his married sister and her family.
Grown men might have kids too who live with them."
Or simply do not wish to bring FAB site members to their private residencies as they could be bloody nosey and want to snoop... think important to remember this is a sagging site not friends reunited or place to find your perfect partner ...
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"Although I do agree that the biggest majority who can't accommodate are probably married or with someone
Based on... what, exactly?
Based on experience, and your point is ?"
If it was based on experience, you wouldn’t have said ‘probably’. I’m not sure how much experience a single straight guy has of finding out that men who claimed to be single are actually attached. A wealth of experience that led you to be able to comment on the majority. Okay...
My point is, you’re talking nonsense. |
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