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What do you do....?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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This is going to sound like I'm making it up but I'm not. So here goes.
What do you do when someone you regard as completely out of your league wants to meet up and you just feel out of your depth? And, to clarify, there's no doubt it's all about hot sex and nothing else. I just feel it's going to end in disappointment for them.
Yep, I know I should just go for it but it's easier said than done. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is going to sound like I'm making it up but I'm not. So here goes.
What do you do when someone you regard as completely out of your league wants to meet up and you just feel out of your depth? And, to clarify, there's no doubt it's all about hot sex and nothing else. I just feel it's going to end in disappointment for them.
Yep, I know I should just go for it but it's easier said than done."
I think the first thing is to pinch yourself. I know I would. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You're right...it does sound as if you're making it up.
Don't worry though...there's a few of us like stories 
Well, the fact is, I'm not."
I believe you...scouts honour |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is going to sound like I'm making it up but I'm not. So here goes.
What do you do when someone you regard as completely out of your league wants to meet up and you just feel out of your depth? And, to clarify, there's no doubt it's all about hot sex and nothing else. I just feel it's going to end in disappointment for them.
Yep, I know I should just go for it but it's easier said than done."
Heard it all now someone out of your league wants to meet for hot sex and your not sure  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Heard it all now someone out of your league wants to meet for hot sex and your not sure "
Yep. I'm fairly sure there are people here that will get where I'm coming from. Hence me sounding things out. |
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Just don't get pissed before had mate. Just go with flow and enjoy.
Best advice from a social introvert. Meet her somewhere your comfortable first. Once your getting the crack with her the rest will be a breeze. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Just don't get pissed before had mate. Just go with flow and enjoy.
Best advice from a social introvert. Meet her somewhere your comfortable first. Once your getting the crack with her the rest will be a breeze. "
Thanks. It's not a she. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is going to sound like I'm making it up but I'm not. So here goes.
What do you do when someone you regard as completely out of your league wants to meet up and you just feel out of your depth? And, to clarify, there's no doubt it's all about hot sex and nothing else. I just feel it's going to end in disappointment for them.
Yep, I know I should just go for it but it's easier said than done."
I get you |
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"Just don't get pissed before had mate. Just go with flow and enjoy.
Best advice from a social introvert. Meet her somewhere your comfortable first. Once your getting the crack with her the rest will be a breeze.
Thanks. It's not a she."
Sorry mate * removes foot from gob  *
Same rules apply. You'll be all good if you find a way to relax prior  |
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"This is going to sound like I'm making it up but I'm not. So here goes.
What do you do when someone you regard as completely out of your league wants to meet up and you just feel out of your depth? And, to clarify, there's no doubt it's all about hot sex and nothing else. I just feel it's going to end in disappointment for them.
Yep, I know I should just go for it but it's easier said than done."
I can’t answer your question as I believe that there are no leagues, there are only people setting/giving themselves limits.
Sorry am going to be honest here but...
Do I get this right. You feel out of your depth and you are already setting a negative tone to the meet!
Why would you go ahead?!
Is meeting not supposed to be hot chilled sex with both parties having fun and buzzing together?!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Sorry mate * removes foot from gob *
Same rules apply. You'll be all good if you find a way to relax prior "
Believe it or not, I tried that approach but got a "when are you f****** me?" response. It's far more direct than I'm used to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you don't feel your up to the task
Don't
You will only disappoint both of you 
Thanks. Disappointed if I do. Disappointed if I don't."
You assume that someone is going to be disappointed. Doing nothing is guaranteed to disappoint both of you. You have to make a leap of faith, and believe in yourself. |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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"Just don't get pissed before had mate. Just go with flow and enjoy.
Best advice from a social introvert. Meet her somewhere your comfortable first. Once your getting the crack with her the rest will be a breeze.
Thanks. It's not a she.
Sorry mate * removes foot from gob *
Same rules apply. You'll be all good if you find a way to relax prior "
This is good advice. If you're worried he'll be disappointed in your physical appearance just arrange to meet socially first, give him a chance to see you in the flesh with no pressure for anything else. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"You assume that someone is going to be disappointed. Doing nothing is guaranteed to disappoint both of you. You have to make a leap of faith, and believe in yourself."
That's what I'm trying to tell myself actually. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"This is good advice. If you're worried he'll be disappointed in your physical appearance just arrange to meet socially first, give him a chance to see you in the flesh with no pressure for anything else. "
This is sounding like the way forward. |
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"Just don't get pissed before had mate. Just go with flow and enjoy.
Best advice from a social introvert. Meet her somewhere your comfortable first. Once your getting the crack with her the rest will be a breeze.
Thanks. It's not a she.
Sorry mate * removes foot from gob *
Same rules apply. You'll be all good if you find a way to relax prior
This is good advice. If you're worried he'll be disappointed in your physical appearance just arrange to meet socially first, give him a chance to see you in the flesh with no pressure for anything else. "
Exactly the point. If things are still looking good. One thing will naturally lead to the other. If not, jump in a taxi and when all's said and done at least you ended up out for a few beers. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Exactly the point. If things are still looking good. One thing will naturally lead to the other. If not, jump in a taxi and when all's said and done at least you ended up out for a few beers. "
Or, in my case, vodkas. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Go for it, arrange the social meet and put the ball back in his court. We should only regret the things we haven't done...you can learn from mistakes at least. You don't learn anything from "what if's" or "if only I had..."
And don't be so hard on yourself  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Go for it, arrange the social meet and put the ball back in his court. We should only regret the things we haven't done...you can learn from mistakes at least. You don't learn anything from "what if's" or "if only I had..."
And don't be so hard on yourself "
Thank you. Good advice. |
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"Go for it, arrange the social meet and put the ball back in his court. We should only regret the things we haven't done...you can learn from mistakes at least. You don't learn anything from "what if's" or "if only I had..."
And don't be so hard on yourself "
Tee hee ... hard on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When I see threads like this it makes me wonder if the Op or any who post receive messages of assurance in their inbox "
Any ladies reading this, feel free to flood my inbox with messages of assurance, or any other content. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Go for it, arrange the social meet and put the ball back in his court. We should only regret the things we haven't done...you can learn from mistakes at least. You don't learn anything from "what if's" or "if only I had..."
And don't be so hard on yourself "
Good advice ,you will prob regret if you dont meet even for a social |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is going to sound like I'm making it up but I'm not. So here goes.
What do you do when someone you regard as completely out of your league wants to meet up and you just feel out of your depth? And, to clarify, there's no doubt it's all about hot sex and nothing else. I just feel it's going to end in disappointment for them.
no one is out of any one's league only if you want them to be.
Yep, I know I should just go for it but it's easier said than done."
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"no one is out of any one's league only if you want them to be."
I don't think I want them to be but somehow they are. I must have had a confidence bashing childhood without realising lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Go for it, arrange the social meet and put the ball back in his court. We should only regret the things we haven't done...you can learn from mistakes at least. You don't learn anything from "what if's" or "if only I had..."
And don't be so hard on yourself
Tee hee ... hard on "
There's always one!  |
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I think we are all here with similar interests
Its a level playing field to start so dont ever think you out of your league if you are within the profile requirements of the person(s) you are touching base with !! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Obviously she's not out of your league, since she wants to meet you. No need for the lack of confidence (I know it's easier said than done though) x"
It's a he. You've obviously not paid attention to the thread. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is going to sound like I'm making it up but I'm not. So here goes.
What do you do when someone you regard as completely out of your league wants to meet up and you just feel out of your depth? And, to clarify, there's no doubt it's all about hot sex and nothing else. I just feel it's going to end in disappointment for them.
Yep, I know I should just go for it but it's easier said than done."
First thing is do not put yourself down. Obviously they want to meet because they are attracted to you so putting yourself down won't help any. |
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"Obviously she's not out of your league, since she wants to meet you. No need for the lack of confidence (I know it's easier said than done though) x
It's a he. You've obviously not paid attention to the thread. "
She / he, same difference.
Give yourself a pat on the back anyway and think in your sad little mind you've proven someone wrong again and that we actually care about what you say on here x |
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"If you don't feel your up to the task
Don't
You will only disappoint both of you
Thanks. Disappointed if I do. Disappointed if I don't."
Think you might have just answered your own question there. What have you got to lose. Disappointed if you don't is pretty much a guarantee. Disappointed if you do might actually not end up in disappointment at all x |
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"Heard it all now someone out of your league wants to meet for hot sex and your not sure
Yep. I'm fairly sure there are people here that will get where I'm coming from. Hence me sounding things out."
Absolutely get where you are coming from, I had this issue when I was 21 at uni 1st year met this amazing women I was her first we were dating all going great but at the time I was recovering from major surgery and felt I wasn't good enough for her, we got really serious quickly. I broke up with her cause I felt I wasn't good enough, one of my biggest regrets. We are still close friends but my mistake was thinking I knew better than her what she wanted.
Have confidence in yourself mate and have fun |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You're a lucky guy, end of, revel in it.
You joined this site and gained the attention of an attractive lady. Isnt that why you joined (or do you prefer women you find unattractive  ).
No go and spoil her. My advice is dont go in too soon or it will all be over too quick! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Obviously she's not out of your league, since she wants to meet you. No need for the lack of confidence (I know it's easier said than done though) x
It's a he. You've obviously not paid attention to the thread.
She / he, same difference. "
Just keeping things right. No need to thank me.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just admit I don't think I have ever felt that way, if I like someone and they also like me enough to want to meet then go for it!
I thought it was only women that had these thoughts of doubt and not wanting to meet |
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Finally !!
Joking aside I don’t doubt it happens to folk 
